Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche
Appearances
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche on Find Your Innate Basic Goodness | EP 601
The awakened nature is with us all the time. And the calling us, what we call, we all have homesickness. What is homesick? Wanting to be happy, don't want to suffer, that with us all the time. And that is calling from our true nature, the awakened nature within us calling us come home. Or the feeling of hollowness, empty, sometimes we feel that empty.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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Even the loneliness, even the feeling of dissatisfaction, incompleteness is also a kind of message, a kind of wisdom that is calling us to come home. Why? Our true nature is what we call free from suffering. It is not incomplete. It is complete. So the awakened nature, what we call, is with us all the time. We need to connect with that. We need to discover that. We need to recognize that.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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There are two matters. So what I call the innate purpose, innate matters, and the temporary with the cause and condition. So the innate matter is that we have this our true nature always there calling us that is our true nature. But then of course, look for job, good job, we think is good. Good relationship is good. Fame, power, money also we think good.
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Or whatever we want to do, if we achieve that, we think that's the matters for me. That is the outer circumstances, temporary things. But at a certain level, if we go away from our true nature, even though there's fame, power, money, whatever we achieve, we still feel the hollowness, incompleteness, something missing.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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But then what we call, if you connect more with our innate quality, for example, if you do social work, or if you have good time with your family, or if you help somebody, you feel really happy. That hollowness go away, feeling like you're coming home. Why? Because we are really connecting with the real matter within ourselves.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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And also with the awareness, like scientists saying that everybody has some kind of baseline, that happy or not happy, some kind of baseline. And they said that this baseline is very difficult to change. Like even you win the lottery, 80 million dollars you got it, it's good for a few months only. Then it's come back to the baseline. And the relationship, very good marriage, also a few years.
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And fame, power, money, all this helps a little bit. But then you come back to the baseline. So the only two things help a little bit longer. One is if you get the salary in your community, you are the number one. The amount doesn't matter. But if you get the best salary, you feel a little bit happy for a longer time. Another thing is plastic surgery. It helps better.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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But then there's this study about if somebody watch the breathing, to be aware of the breath, maybe every day, five minutes or 30 days. After 30 days, then there's an enduring benefit. So by this awareness, Looks like for me, when I first time learn this awareness meditation, watching my breath, I feel like stupid and boring. So when we do that, actually our baseline can change.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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So even though when we are not meditating, we feel happier. Why? Because awareness is our true nature when we connect with more to our heart. feel more happy and of course learning if we really learn we feel very happy the wisdom comes education is very important so therefore the real matter is when we connect with our true nature
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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exactly i think you are such embody this journey that you go through all this and now the problem sometime many people they stuck there and some people not even realize that Like in our tradition, what we call dukkha, dukkha meaning like we cannot find exact translation.
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So some people they translate suffering, sometimes dissatisfaction, but the real meaning dukkha meaning the sense of hollow, incomplete, something missing, a little bit sad or insecurity. So that sometimes what we call background noise, that dukkha.
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and because of that feeling then we look we are very busy entire life to fulfill that hollow or dissatisfaction or empty like when we go with the many people we feel also noise they talk a lot i want to be alone when we come home After two, three minutes later, oh, I'm lonely. I need somebody. I need my smartphone.
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But then when you look at the smartphone after a certain level or something, never satisfying. So what we call, if we recognize that feeling, and then if we see what we call, sometimes what we call the wisdom, That's three things, right? Awareness, love and compassion, wisdom. So what we call wisdom is the biggest paradox.
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That very thing, that feeling of hollow, incomplete, dissatisfaction is also wisdom. If you know how to work with that, if you know how to learn from that, if you know how to follow and then actually we will discover actually there's a awareness, love and compassion, wisdom, sometimes what I call inner sky, that we can discover within ourselves.
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So for me, when I have panic attacks, life feels terrible. And of course, I feel empty, meaningless. So then I learned meditation. But of course, I was young, I'm lazy boy. I love the idea of meditation, but I don't like the practice of meditation. I just mentioned to you when I practice breathing meditation, I feel stupid and I feel boring. And I hear my friends are playing.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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I really want to go there. So it's on and off. So then at a certain level, I discovered that I have the panic or panic, what I call that aversion to panic. resist, feeling of resistance to the panic attacks. I'm fighting with my panic, actually. And my father said, don't fight, welcome the panic.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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Then I begin to welcome that a bit, it helps a little bit.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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And I thought, oh, now I know the new strategy. So if I say welcome, then panic will not come back. It's become a little bit like dog chasing tail. but even that fake welcome helps for me. So then in the end,
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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took me five years so in the end then panic become my friend in the end so for me it's like after certain level that panic of panic a version of panic is gone a symptom still there tight here my heart speed up sweating all are there but i feel exciting because we have this practice that i can use my panic as support for awareness and also love and compassion and the wisdom
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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So on a deeper level, there's excitement. Okay, now panic comes. Okay, heartbeat. At the beginning, I thought panic attacks are like heart attacks. So I checked with many doctors. I asked my mom to bring the best doctor. And doctors said, your heart is very good. I thought, oh, fake doctor. Don't understand me. But then later, I know it's not really a heart problem. So that also helps.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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Then after certain level, all this feeling the symptoms not become painful for me. In fact, it's exciting. So this why what I'm saying the panic become my friend and my teacher. Then after a few months of panic, it's gone, totally gone. So I don't have the real panic attacks since then, but of course I feel panic if the tiger comes.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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Yes, that's exactly we discuss in my tradition that when we feel aha, inside all these things that when we are more close to our true nature. So love and compassion is our innate quality. So when we connect with that, then it doesn't matter what kind of the manifestation through culture, through behavior, through cultivating meditation, practice, it doesn't matter.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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Then I begin to welcome a little bit.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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So, what we call the deeper level, if something is not really connected with our true nature, it will be rejected from the inside. Therefore, these moral ethics have become really important because When they connect with our true nature, then we feel like more happy. We feel like coming home. We're like here with ourself. So therefore, yes, what you said and what the doctor mentioned.
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Yes, of course, that's the very important point.
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Yes. So now we discuss about the first quality of our mind, the awareness. Sometimes what we call clarity, sometimes what we call luminosity, lucidity, knowingness, conscious. So we have so many names for that.
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So basically it's very simple one way. Can you see my hand? I can. That's all. Awareness meaning that ability to see, to hear, to experience, to think, to feel. So that ability is what we call like lamb, the candle lamb. The flame is the light, sometimes what we call self luminosity. So if we want to see the flame, the candle flame, we don't need to use flashlight because it illuminates itself.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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At a certain level, I discovered that I have the panic of panic, what I call that aversion to panic, resist, feeling of resistance to the panic attacks. I'm fighting with my panic, actually. And my father said, don't fight, welcome the panic.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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But this pen, if you want to see this pen, then we need to use external light. So this luminous quality, the knowingness actually, the mind is self illuminating The problem is, it's beyond concept. So we cannot really find when we look, we cannot really find through cognitive level, intellectual level, conceptual level. But the good news is what we call we can experience it.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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We are experiencing this all the time. So then the lamb has true clarity or true luminosity, self-luminosity, illuminating others. Because self-luminosity is very difficult to experience at the beginning, but we can connect with other luminosity, meaning breath, could be anything. Being with the breath is connecting with the luminous aspect of the mind.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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It helps a little bit. And I thought, oh, now I know the new strategy. So if I say welcome, then panic will not come back. It's become a little bit like dog chasing tail, but even that fake welcome helps for me.
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Could be sound, could be smell, could be taste, could be thought and emotion. So what we call in the end, everything becomes support for meditation, everything becomes support for awareness, luminosity. So then what we call after certain level, obstacle become opportunity, suffering may become base for happiness when we look at that luminous aspect.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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yes of course why not so what we call all this is what we call independent yes so all of us connect each other so sometimes what we call the other is half part of you you is part of other so the connection is who we are so actually what we call when we really identified me or others or reality, actually we cannot really find the one.
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So it's always, it's changing a little bit and then they are depending each other. So what we call is the connection. You is full of connection and you and other is also full of connection into the world, to the society. And these connection, how this connection become the positive is based on the matter, purpose, love, compassion. So when we follow that direction, then what we call win situation.
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You win, others win, everybody win.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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When we witness compassion from others or ourselves, Then that, the hollowness, incompleteness, dissatisfaction, or sometimes sad, lonely, it heals normally. So if we feel, so we feel more complete. We feel more secure. We feel more not hollow. That's what we call confidence. competence not based on pride, but contentment.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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So when we experience this contentment, completeness, then there's purpose, then there's a matter, of course, as you mentioned, that comes, and then we get energy, actually, then we feel happy. That happiness is what we call what I call the real happiness. So if you drink coffee, we can feel happy, But that happy can coexist with the hollow. If you win the lottery, it looks like happy.
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But that happiness also exists with the hollow, the empty. But then now this happiness is the real happiness, the contentment, the joy, like coming back to home, being with who we are.
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So normally in my tradition, we talk about healing. three sense of self so the surface level what we call unhealthy sense of then more deeper level we have the healthy sense of self then the core the essence what we call luminous self or self beyond self so if we give the example the lamb maybe lamb candle lamb
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and we can cover that lamp with a glass ball with a very beautiful image like flowers or rainbows, whatever. Then what we see is our room will be full of beautiful image. So that is what we call healthy sense of self. then we can put another layer with a scary image, maybe spider, poison snake, in the Himalayas, tigers, leopards.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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If we cover that, then what we will see is our room will be full of scary image. But all these both layer comes from the center, the luminous self, a self beyond self. So what we call The unhealthy sense of self is actually 10% only. But we perceive 90% because we exaggerate it.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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And I discuss this with sometimes some scientists and they talk about if we have 10 qualities within us, one negative, nine positive. Normally what we see is one negative one. And then we exaggerate that one 90%. Ignore the nine good qualities within us. So as you said, anti-matter, could be the unhealthy sense of self. It's only 10%.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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And then when we look at the more deeper level, there's healthy sense of self. So healthy self has a lot of related with love, compassion, awareness, wisdom. So the self related to that, that is 90%. Then when we look at the really deeper level, the luminous self is 100% what we call. Because even that unhealthy sense of self is from the light.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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So the purpose of our practice is to really connect with that luminous self in the end.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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In our tradition, same thing. Go back to the basic innate goodness. So as I mentioned, the lamb has three unity qualities the light the warm or heat and yellow color they are different aspect but they are one so our true nature has awareness love and compassion and the wisdom so now The second practice, what we call how to connect with that innate love and compassion.
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So first time when I hear this from my father, that he said, actually, you have love and compassion 24 hours. And I said, what? I never believed that at the beginning. I thought, oh, my father is doing my father's job. What we call sweet talk. I thought it's sweet talk, but then he. Kiss me so normally we have first what we call view, which is introduction of this in love and compassion.
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Thank you. I'm very happy to be here.
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Then we have practice the meditation and number three is what we call application. Then we apply in everyday life. So the he introduced me this feeling that. He said. Do you want to be happy? I said yes, of course. I have this text. I want to be happy. He said that is the love. And at the same time we don't want to suffer. Actually that is compassion.
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So he said, every movement of your body is looking for happiness, don't want to suffer. So sometimes I listen to his talk like this. Sometimes I bought and become like this, like this. And he said, when you do that, if you keep too long, you feel uncomfortable. Oh, I need to change. Oh, a little bit happy, relax. But then again, the suffering comes, maybe like this.
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So each movement, each eye's blink is looking for happiness. If we don't blink our eyes, then feel pain, right? Happiness. And even unconscious level, each breath is looking for happiness to avoid suffering. And he said, not only the movement in your body, in your mind, it's a thought process. Each emotion, in the end, they're all looking for happiness, don't want to suffer.
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So he said, first, we need to recognize this within us. And then we practice self-love and compassion that, may I have happiness and the causes of happiness.
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Then we understand others.
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actually everybody looking for happiness 24 hours 24 7 each movement each breath each thought process so we might skin look different culture look different tall or short but the deeper level everybody looking for happiness and everybody has this wonderful nature so when we see this with others just like you then you feel can then not just
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your friends or family, everybody in the world wanting to be happy, don't want to suffer. So then in the end, we have this practice of immeasurable love and compassion that we wish that may all beings have happiness and the causes of happiness. May all being free from suffering and the causes of suffering. So this way, then we connect with you, others, society, the world.
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What we call unique and the union. Everybody is unique. So we really need to understand everybody cannot become same. It's impossible. And if you try to make it the same,
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then we are making another problem the uniqueness everybody has different skills capacity knowledge experience wisdom different ways so respecting the uniqueness but because of uniqueness we are together we want to learn each other grow each other a new idea
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new experience, new life for the purpose of awareness, love and compassion, wisdom, the matter, we get together, work together for the compassion, for the wisdom, for the awareness. So that is the real meaning of how to connect with everybody.
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I think for me it's the appreciation and gratitude. So maybe you can even write down the journaling. Three things to appreciate maybe. One day about you, one day about others, the other community members. One day about the world. or maybe with the environment. And by doing that, it really helps for the community to become harmony. Not only that, they will see each other's, these qualities.
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I will share you one story. So one time I was on the teaching tour and somebody, couple came to me. and they asked me special blessing because they are not happy and they were arguing from morning to evening so the husband said he loved controlling and the wife is always worried so then they cannot get along and their marriage has become very
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unhappy and suffering, and they asked me bless, pray for them. So they're expecting maybe I have some magical power and pray and all the problem go away. I told them, I don't have that power or capacity. So I cannot help you and they both are a little bit sad. And I told them, though I don't have this capacity of special blessing, but I can teach you something.
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So in my tradition, we believe that everybody has wonderful nature. So what we call basic innate goodness. So this basic innate goodness is the fundamental quality of our own mind. Normally what we call the unity of awareness, love and compassion and the wisdom. For example, when I was young, I had panic attacks. So when we experience panic attacks, not happy at all.
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And that both of themselves, whatever from you, Then I told them that every day you have to make half an hour time to do positive talk. Try to discuss some positive good qualities within each other and appreciate that. They said, okay, thank you, and they're gone. After a few weeks later, they both came and they both said, oh, this 30 minutes appreciation is too long.
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And for them, when they begin to discuss like, when I met you first time, you are very kind, but not now. They cannot say now, but they look at the time, time is too long. And then they said, what should we do? And I told them, okay, I can give you a discount. So now, not 30 minutes,
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five minutes only and they both said oh that's easy they can do it and they're gone and i haven't met them for one year after one year later they both came they said thank you so much for your advice our life changed i was not expecting like that at the beginning they both are quite negative and i asked them how that helped you and they said when they begin to do this appreciation practice and actually they begin to just
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realize that actually they have kind to each other there's a lot of love there and they have a lot of good qualities within each other which is they never see before and they discuss and actually they really like each other eventually though they both has personality the husband still have this tendency of control wife still worries a lot but then they make humor So they give each other nickname.
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The husband's name is control freak and the wife's name is worry freak. So sometime the husband go out and come home, he knocked the door and he said, the most powerful person in the world is coming. And the wife said, most worrious person in the world welcome you. So sometime we all have problem, mistakes, all these things.
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Sometimes we cannot change the right way, but bring awareness and be kind with ourselves, be kind with our friends or family for others. I think these are really important.
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we have this practice, how to practice loving-kindness, compassion with a difficult person. So maybe I will tell one story. So one time, me and my father in Nepal, Kathmandu, on the mountain, there's a nunnery. So he was in a nunnery, and a group of people came to learn meditation from my father. My father was a great meditation teacher. And there's two men within that group fighting all the time.
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especially in the evenings, sometimes they fight a lot and hitting each other also sometimes. So one day in the evening, me and my father were having soup, like a Tibetan dish, what we call . And suddenly one man appear in the room and I asked my father, please teach me how to control my anger and hatred.
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my father while having the soup asked him why you hate the other person he said oh he beat me say bad things so i hate him my father said oh then you should hate the words from him the stick that he used and that person said i'm not stupid this stupid logic doesn't help me And my father said, oh, why? He said, the stick is controlled by him. The word is controlled by him.
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I hate him, not the stupid, not the stick. And my father said, oh, then maybe you should hate the emotion, the clashes within that person. Because that person, when the hatred comes, he cannot control, just like you. you come here, want to control your hatred and anger, but when it comes, you cannot control it.
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He said, yeah, that's right.
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So we have this practice that we separate the person and the kleshas and whatever they behave. We are not saying the behavior is good. We are not saying the hatred is good. We never follow that. Even sometimes challenge, we should do that. But at the same time, we see the person is different than their clashes.
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And we wish that person free from that hatred, that clashes, that ignorant, aversion, craving, all this, and they connect with awareness, love and compassion, wisdom, and change, transform.
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So we think world is a danger, not safe. And I have special anxiety for strangers and the weather. And I begin to learn meditation with my father when I was nine years old. And my father said, yes, I understand you have this panic attacks, but at the same time, you have wonderful nature. And I never believed that at the beginning. And he tried to give me a lot of examples.
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I think for me, the most important is the awareness that we all have innate quality, that experience of that though there's a thought, though there's emotion, But that awareness never disturb, like inner sky is free. And that awareness has also love and compassion. It has a wisdom. So maybe awareness or maybe your basic innate goodness. Trust your basic innate goodness.
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For me, it's the entire my life. I try my best to practice these teachings. Since childhood, I do a lot of retreats. I, all this practice I use in my life, in my leadership, in my way to communicate with others. And also, I really want to teach. And my own practice and the teaching is two things that help many other people.
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Thank you very much, and I really appreciate that, what you're doing also.
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So one example is in my hometown, I was born in the middle of Himalaya mountain in Nepal. So we have very nice environment, but not always like that. There's storms, thunderstorm, snowstorm in the winter, sometimes crazy. And he said, though there's a lot of storm here, you can watch. will these storms can change the nature of cloud or not? And I look at storm comes, they pass, sky never change.
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So of course we have this lot of clashes, what we call suffering clashes, and in our mind, in our life, in the world, but at the same time, we have this wonderful quality within ourselves. And eventually, I learned a lot from my panic attacks. So now I consider my panic attacks as my teacher and best friend. I rode many bulls. I'm here now talking about this topic because of panic attacks.
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Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche on Find Your Innate Basic Goodness | EP 601
So what we call obstacle may become opportunity. Problem may become solution if we take it as learning process to grow, to transform. So although we said, accept it, let it go, but letting go is not giving up. Don't give up, transform, learn.
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Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche on Find Your Innate Basic Goodness | EP 601
I think the root is now the world is really become very fast. And one of thing is comparative. So we are comparing all the time compared with our neighbors, our brothers and sisters, colleagues, and the company at our work, then we feel like
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Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche on Find Your Innate Basic Goodness | EP 601
Maybe I'm not enough and then we feel like maybe even though we are in the middle of full of people, but we feel like there's not really connecting and one way. Maybe the social the gadgets might interfere and also. That. When we have a lot of competition, we look at the negative aspect. And when we look at a negative aspect, then we feel like, oh, I have this problem, I'm alone.
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Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche on Find Your Innate Basic Goodness | EP 601
We never appreciate.
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Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche on Find Your Innate Basic Goodness | EP 601
So for me, one of the very effective practice for me is the appreciation. So sometimes we feel like I'm alone, there's no friends, no family, nobody understand me, nobody support me. But what normally what we call when we look at the glass half empty, half full. So which aspect we look at? So one of the important I write like almost like doing journal, gratitude journal, appreciation journal.
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Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche on Find Your Innate Basic Goodness | EP 601
Maybe write down just three things. even though I lost everything, but I still have my life. I still have senses. I have eyes, ears, whatever we have. There's a roof above me. Now I have this chair below me. And even we drink the water, there's so many cause and condition. This water on my table Is kind care so many people involved? So when we begin to appreciate that after certain level.
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Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche on Find Your Innate Basic Goodness | EP 601
Then we feel like. Some kind of warm and connection that really helps me.
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Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche on Find Your Innate Basic Goodness | EP 601
normally i talk about sometimes i keep teaching for a long time and then i drink a lot of water then after two hours almost this end i really want to go to the restroom so sometime i said oh now almost finished if we have any questions no question okay then we stop and suddenly people ask questions what is the meaning of life So then I try to answer very simple and quickly.
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Sometimes simple answer may lead to more questions, but I really want to go to the restroom. So I feel like life is miserable. Oh, I really, I cannot stand even one minute. Then I finished my talk and I said, right, we'll go to the use restroom.
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Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche on Find Your Innate Basic Goodness | EP 601
After using restroom, I feel like life is wonderful and like rebirth and everything is whatever, even the restroom become very nice air when I come out from the restroom. So normally, We all have, we don't have emergency like that once in a while, but we have that wonderful life always there with us, but we don't see. We are taking for granted.
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And then we look at the only things that we, which we don't have.
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Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche on Find Your Innate Basic Goodness | EP 601
For me, one is this wonderful teaching that I learned from When I was nine years old, the teaching of discovering the basic goodness within myself, not only me, I always see this with everybody. And that is really helped my life. Like I'm now leader. I have more than 30 different projects And I will not have so much problem with people normally.
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99% of the time, even the difficult people come, at a certain level, I like them and they like me and I see the good things within them. So for me, this wonderful teaching of discovering awareness, love and compassion within myself is like my journey. I never feel bored. So it's like everyday something new, aha, or learning more. Sometimes what we call discovering unlimited treasure within myself.
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So this is really matter for me. And second important thing is I love teaching. I share this practice. Now my schedule is very crazy, but I really feel happy when I teach, I feel relaxed. And And many people get benefit by this. So I'm very happy to see that many people get benefit. So sometime I have problem that how much should I teach and how much should I do my own personal retreat? Yes.
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Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche on Find Your Innate Basic Goodness | EP 601
But that's sometimes struggle. Still, I have to find the balance.
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Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche on Find Your Innate Basic Goodness | EP 601
It's with us all the time. We need to recognize it. We need to discover it. What we call, we all have this awareness, love and compassion and the wisdom 24 hours with us. So actually it's there. Sometimes I give example like, what is that? Can you see this one? Yes, watch. If you have the best watch in the world, if you're not recognize your own watch, can watch tell us time? Normally not, right?
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Watch cannot tell us time, even though it's the best watch in the world. So we still may lose time, then may not be on time, then we may lose our job. If we lose our job, we may lose our home. All this because we don't know our own watch. But if you recognize our own watch, you're on time. Maybe we got promotion, good job, good home, good life. So watch is same, but what makes it different?
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The recognition. that when we recognize our own watch, the quality of watch manifest for us. When we not recognize our own watch, the quality not manifest for us, although this quality is there.
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Why Serendipity Is the Quiet Proof That You Matter | EP 600
At a certain level, I discovered that I have the panic of panic, what I call that aversion to panic, feeling of resistance to the panic attacks. I'm fighting with my panic, actually. And my father said, don't fight. Welcome the panic. Then I begin to welcome a little bit. It helps a little bit. And I thought, oh, now I know the new strategy. So if I say welcome, then panic will not come back.
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Why Serendipity Is the Quiet Proof That You Matter | EP 600
It's become a little bit like dog chasing tail. But even that fake welcome helps for me.