Yuna

And I go, well, grandpa had a stroke. And she says, dad, what's a stroke?

Thank you.

But Harriet, all like the videos on TikTok about like how to meet people at the gym and stuff or whatever is like the person makes eye contact with you and then you smile to let them know that like you're available to come. Harriet's waving her hands. Harriet.

No, but I mean.

That's crazy. Like, I have literally been lost for hours because I refuse to ask for help. And look, I'm going to wander around until I find where to go to avoid asking for help. So...

I feel like my world has total integrity too, but I feel like, I don't know.

Whatever you're sensing from me, do you think that that plays a role into why it might be hard for me to date people?

What do you think that I should do differently? But you can't say you have to deeply accept yourself because I just don't even know what that means.

I just don't think people do that anymore, Harriet. So what?

I don't want to be the one to do it. Why can't they do it?

Period.

No, I think you're right. Like, the guy I have a crush on, for example, me and my friends call him my husband. Your husband's not in class today. I'm like, how am I supposed to go talk to my husband? I'm too scared. Like, I'm scared. No, no, no, no.

Reset. Guys, so last week, Harriet, I was in class and my jujitsu husband usually will ask me to spar once in class. And this time we only had one spar. Long story short, we didn't get to spar. And I'd only come to class to see my jujitsu husband. And so... I saw him on the mat, right? And I was like, I'll go ask him. But I was scared. But I was like, I'll go ask him because he always asks me.

I'll go ask him. And I went to go ask him. And he's like a very shy, like introverted person. And I asked him. He's like, oh, yeah, like actually I was stretching because I was going to leave. But yeah, I guess we can spar. Yeah. And I was like, oh no, it's okay. We can do it next time. Yeah, okay. I like ran back to the lockers and he came to me. He's like, no, no, let's do it.

I was like, no, no, it's okay. We can do it another time. He's like, no, let's part. Anyways, it took him like three different times to be like, no, let's do it. Let's do it. Let's do it. And then we did. And I was like, I'm never talking to him again. Like he can talk to me if he wants, but I am never speaking to him again in class because I was so embarrassed.

Okay.

Oh my God. I feel like I'm on like one of those dating shows. Anyways. So I went the first time after talking to Harriet and I was like, you know what? Let me treat this person the same way I treat everybody else in this class and just like be normal and be his friend. And so I started talking to him and it was like the worst conversation I've ever had in my entire life.

Like not because of me, like he, it was like talking to a brick wall, you guys. It was like, So terrible. And I went to the dog park the next day and I was like, you guys, I think he has literally no personality. And they were like, then why do you like him? And I said, I literally think it's just because of his arms. And I've been so stupid.