Yvonne

I'm 22.

And why do I trust myself to leave unhealthy relationships, but struggle to protect myself when I'm single and dating?

Why do I trust myself to leave unhealthy relationships?

but struggle to protect myself when I'm single and dating.

Okay, so I feel like I've slowly given my power away with men.

And it just kind of is freaking me out because that's not who I used to be.

I used to be very independent and very protective of my peace and not someone who easily gave access to men who didn't deserve it.

And I've just noticed a pattern in my life.

I'll continuously go back to guys that have already done me wrong, even now.

So I already know the outcome.

All right.

So for more background, I had gotten out of a long-term relationship in college.

I recently graduated in May, but I was in a relationship pretty much all of college until my senior year.

And I realized it was over when he was very controlling and toxic and

all that good stuff.

But I was very envious of my single friends.

So when I got out of that relationship, I really leaned hard into the college culture and situationships and getting into connections with guys that I knew weren't good for me or guys that had already shown me that they're not good for me or that they don't want the same thing that I want.

But I still kept choosing that.

Instead of checking in with myself and being like, okay, we don't want the same thing.

Well, I think that's what I'm struggling with is knowing, I guess I'm losing my self-respect and I know I can get that back, but it's become a pattern and just almost like a cycle of, okay, this guy did me wrong and then I gave him another chance.