Zerk

I like to romanticize myself as much as I like to romanticize other people.

I think of myself as this ideal version of who I can be and what I can do when it's not true.

I like to think that this person would be able to match the best version of myself, but if she was who I thought she was in my mind, she would leave me.

I mean, if I was in her shoes, I would leave me.

What does that say about me?

What does it say about you?

The way that you think about yourself and how you put it on other people and almost make it an expectation that they need to hustle to the standard of being your girlfriend, boyfriend, whatever.

when in reality both of you are just doing the best you can and if you're not a match you're not a match we over complicate this so many times we try to save relationships that were doomed from the start we start we try to make excuses create these kind of like safeguards for like no no she is doing good it's just that she doesn't excite me i can't support her in the way that she needs support but we're doing just fine

Romantization has made, I think, dating very difficult and it's made living a fulfilling life very difficult because the standards that are created are so unrealistic.

And we are now in a day and age where we're able to find any kind of

examples tailored examples that are usually not even real they're made to be content for you to base an entire relationship on to base an entire person on and so we create these standards that are just not not something anyone is going to be able to live up to

And I'm sure you've experienced this where you like see somebody and in your mind you create a whole life with that person.

Which is so insane that you could do that.

That's kind of crazy.

That's kind of awesome that our brain has this capability of just seeing someone and being like, I can envision an entire existence of us living somewhere on the coast of California, you know, sipping a matcha because it's smoother, it's nicer, you know.

And eating a little cheesecake, whatever.

And you tell me how much you love me.

Even though I haven't even spoken a word to you.

Or maybe that's like psycho behavior, and if it is, call me out, okay?

But I'm sure you've done that too, where you're like, oh my gosh, this is the perfect person.