40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.
Episodes
264: Joli Hamilton – Uncomplicating the fire of open relationships
16 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How do you do an open relationship? Should you do an open relationship? Why do gay men consider open relationships? These and many other questions are...
263: Legrand Wolf – Why Normalizing Gay Porn and Gay Fantasies Is Good For The World
09 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
From Mormon Missionary to Med Student to Porn Start Empire Owner, Legrand Wolf believes that the more we normalize the world of porn and adult enterta...
262: Craig Cullinane – Why every gay man needs erotic and pleasure education!
02 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Instead of shaming sex and erotic pleasure, what if we as gay men embraced it as a conscious way of being present in our lives. Of, celebrating the tr...
261: Tommy Whitehead – Living Out And Proud In Your Industry
26 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Being out and proud is one of the most freeing and liberating experiences a gay man can experience. But, what if you work in a heteronormative, uber m...
260: MJ Harris – How to Get THe F*CK Out Of Your Own Way
19 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As gay men, we get in our own way. Yes, all the time. Yes! And, then we wonder why it is so messy, messy, messy. In his new, social media personalty M...
259: Sean Fitzgerald – Alternatives For Staying On Top Of Your Health
12 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Maintaining our health as gay men is a matrix. From erectile dysfunction, to weight loss, cardio health, and everything in between, it can be a comple...
258: River Faire – Stepping Into Radical Integrity As A Gay Man
05 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It's the new year. And in this new year what would happen if you made integrity, and not just integrity, but you committed to living a life of radical...
257: Rick Clemons – What are you willing to…in 2024
29 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This is not a New Year's Resolution podcast. It is a come to Jesus podcast with you and yourself. But first, Happy New Year. Now that we have that out...
256: Kevin Jones – Living Out & Proud In The Corporate Closet
22 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Being out and proud is one of the most freeing and liberating experiences an LGBTQ person can experience. It can also create anxiety on how out you ca...
255: Adam Fitzgerald – Recovering from Recovery. Another way to sobriety.
15 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine sobriety coming from having more sex? Sounds crazy, right? But there are multiple pathways to becoming sober and staying sober. In his new boo...
254: Dr. Elliot Justin – How to have thriving erections at any age!
08 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Just because you are gay and over 40 doesn't mean your sex life or your erections are dead. However, understanding your nocturnal erections, can lead ...
253: Tammy Shaklee – Making A Match With Your Dream Man
01 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
You're a guy over 40 and Mr. Man still is elusive. You've tried online dating, hooking-up, going to the bars, and putting yourself out there and you s...
252: Rick Clemons – Avoiding The Hurry Scurry Holiday Syndrome
24 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Here it is guys...the holiday season. No better time to lose our minds and think we have to do everything. But what if we didn't. What if we did what ...
251: Warren Augustin – Transforming Into Yourself & Letting Go
17 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever found yourself wishing you could make yourself a priority instead of making everyone else the focus of your life. Or maybe you just can'...
250: Elliott Kronenfeld – Navigating Gay Empty Nester Syndrome
10 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
You come into your gay life and for some, being a parent is dream. Or maybe you have kids from a previous heterosexual relationship and then your gay ...
249: Tate Barkley – Moving Beyond The Chaos Of Your Past As A Gay Man
03 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine growing up in poverty and the only thing you really had in common with your Dad was that you were drinking buddies! Now imagine you stepped be...
248: Wyatt O. Evans – Confronting The Reality of Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse
27 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Gay men hide many secrets. It's what we've been trained to do...hide, hide, hide. Yet, this practice becomes harmful the more we do it. It's time to s...
247: Kenny Bramlett-Martin – The art of being yourself at any age and owning it
20 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
As gay men we never grow up. Really? So what is wrong with that and wanting to live our youth as long as we can. And, what's wrong with growing older ...
246: Victor Diaz – Stepping Beyond Your Past
13 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
He spent most his life living based on a past that held him hostage. From being an Evangelical migrant to uncovering hist truth as a gay man, Victor D...
Rick Clemons – Let’s Celebrate National Coming Out Day
11 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It's National Coming Out Day. A time for remembrance, celebration, and allowing each and every person to come out of the closet their own way and on t...
245: Kevin Kasir – Navigating The Daddy Thirst Trap
06 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
You're a guy over 40 and suddenly a younger gay guy calls you "Daddy!" Wait, "What?" Do you take offense, embrace it, or find a path somewhere in betw...
244: Ed Wilson – What Does It Really Mean To Be A Gay Man?
29 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
As gay men we grow up being told not to be seen, to heard, and to be understood. Taking a page, or actually a few pages from those experiences, Author...
243: Dale Allen-Rowse – Finding the Spiritual Disco of Your Soul
22 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How do you find the soul of yourself? You let it find you, but that doesn't mean you just sit around waiting for it. Author, performer, and Shamanic p...
242: Matthew Bennett – Being The Leather Master of Your Life
15 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It's time to drop the shame around what shames us and let our KINKS fly, even if that means you want to be who you are in the boardroom. English Leath...
241: Grant Miller – Navigating His Life Line One Obstacle At A Time
08 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
From an HIV diagnosis, to surviving narcissistic relationships, Grant Miller has found the best path through obstacles and boulders of life is simply ...
240: Jason Galvez – Moving Beyond Betrayal and Trauma
01 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you've ever felt betrayed,or traumatized in your journey as a gay man, this episode is for you. Jason (Jay) Galvez, a Betrayal Trauma Practitioner ...
239: Corey and Kendall Stulce – Finding Your Self & The Life You Missed
25 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine losing yourself and finding yourself. But what you lost came and found you in the most unique way. Kendall and Corey Stulce share a unique sto...
238: Rob Gutro – Uncovering the life lessons in the after life
18 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What can we learn from those that have passed on? Whether it be a pet, a family member, or even a spouses former partner, if we tune in to the essence...
237: Jonathan Lee – 40 Single Gay…You’re Not Alone!
11 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It hits. The big 4-0, and then something even worse happens and no one can quite believe how that happened to you, and when it happened to you on your...
236: Gary Logan & Rob Grover – The magic of mushrooms and conscious gay living
04 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Finding yourself, reaching deep into the essence of who you are as a gay man, is a lifelong journey. Yet, with the right tools and guidance, your jour...
235: Amber LeMay (Bob Bolyard) – Living Out & Proud And Having Fun
28 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
You reach a point in life where you realize that you gotta be how you want to be, and do what ya gotta do. For over 30 years Bob Bolyard, a.k.a. as Am...
234: Michael Coleman – Live Your Best Gay Life Without Apologies
21 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you are tired of not living your dreams as a gay man, maybe you aren't activating them on a regular basis. Producer, songwriter, Founder of The Gra...
233: Nick Santo – Your better than your guilt, shame, and anxiety
14 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Nothing says guilt, shame, and anxiety than being a gay man who had to hide who you are for years - regardless of how many years you've hid your truth...
232 Bill Robertson – How To Never Stop Being Yourself
07 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you find yourself often hiding yourself, then now's the time to stop doing that. Writer, screenwriter, film producer Bill Robertson shares his jour...
231: Dr. Roger Leslie – Doing your gay life your way
30 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
From an early age he knew he was different, and that never stopped him from being who he is as a gay man. He continues to let his gay light come out o...
230: Jim Fielding – Living a All Pride, No Ego Life
23 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Many gay men, navigate the inevitable question of "How do I show up at work, and as a leader, while still being true to myself as a gay man?" The answ...
229: Rick Clemons – Celebrating Pride with the Letter “D”
16 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Moving right along in PRIDE Month, we take the letter "D" in PRIDE and explore the Dignity, Dedication, and Daring it takes today and every day to sta...
228: Rick Clemons – Celebrating Pride with the Letter “I”
09 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We continue the PRIDE Celebration focusing on the Letter "I" in pride by exploring how to illuminate, inspire, and ignite ourselves into the world to ...
227: Rick Clemons – Celebrating Pride with the Letter “R”
02 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Continuing our PRIDE Month Celebration, we take the Letter "R" in pride and unravel the significance of being resilient, remarkable, and reconnecting ...
226: Rick Clemons – Let’s Celebrate Pride with the Letter “P”
26 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It's pride month and all this month we are waving our flags and celebrating you - gay men and the PRIDE it takes to be a gay man in our society. Today...
225: Harker Jones – To Find Your Passion – Just Do Something!
19 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
So many gay men struggle to find their passion, purpose, and to be happy. But, why? It's actually quite simple. They do nothing. They try a little, do...
224: Jon Fischer – Embracing Your Bear and Bare Self
12 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Our gay culture has labels for everything - Twink, Side, Daddy, Top, Otter and even Bears - Oh My. Yet, we often allow these labels to hold us back fr...
223: Rick Clemons – Time To Stop Rejecting Our Gay Brothers
05 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If the polarization in America, and across the globe has taught us anything, it is empathy and understanding goes along way. Yet, we don't seem to pra...
222: Jarrod Lee – Daring To Be Fit On Your Terms As A Gay Man
28 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The battle of the bulge. It confronts you everytime you sit down to eat, sneak that snack, look in the mirror - if you even look in the mirror, and al...
221: Wil Fisher – Embracing your deeper self as a gay man
21 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Instead of embracing our deeper selves as gay men, we often allow our "rejectionist mentality" to show up and turn that dimmer switch down on our life...
220: Court Vox – Sex, Intimacy, and Being Your Most Delicious Erotic Gay Self
14 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you are tired of shoving your sexual curiosity into the closet, then today's podcast is for you. No more need for shame around being a sexualy, ero...
219: Rick Clemons – BANK on yourself as a gay man
07 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you don't bank on yourself, nobody else will. That's just a life truth. We put so much effort getting others to love, trust, like, and support us, ...
218: Sex, Queer, and Christian – OH MY!!! – Jon Carl Lewis
31 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Sex, queer, and Christian. For some people those three just don't go together. However, if we are made in the image of God, does that mean...??? Unrav...
217: Rick Clemons – Dating with Dignity, not Drudgery
24 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
For most gay guys, especially once you hit your 40's, you're looking to date and hopefully mate. Yet, it can be so exhausting and discouraging unless ...
216: Over 40 Fitness Hacks For Gay Men – Brad Williams
17 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
One of the hardest things to do as a gay guy over 40 is to accept that you are a gay guy over 40. Then add the battle of the bulge, the changing "what...
215: Coming Out & Losing Out – John MacDonald
10 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine that you have waiting all these years to finally be yourself. Over 50+ years to truthful. Finally the day comes and you feel alive and finally...
214: Find Your Gay Wellness Match – Peter DeWitt
03 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Making your way through life as a gay man can be challenging. Then finding the right support whether that be for your mental, physical, or spiritual h...
213: Electrifying your way out of gay male body shame – Craig Cullinane
24 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine, activating your life force by being 100% comfortable in your erotic self. Genuinely connecting your heart and your genitals in a way that mak...
212: Don’t Dis The Disabled Guys In Your Gay Dating – Stephen Fratello
17 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
He looks normal, acts normal, and just wants to be loved like any other gay guy. But, he has a disability and as soon as he shares that with a guy he'...
211: Two Things Getting In The Way of Getting Your Man – Rick Clemons
10 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
There are many things that can get in the way of gay men finding their man. Not knowing where to look, settling for hook-ups, and confidence to name a...
210: Stroking the big “E” to get along better as a gay man – Rob Volpe
03 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It's really easy to get bitchy with each other in our gay male community. Whether it is on the apps, in relationships, or when we are trying to come o...
209: Let Your Sexual Freak Flag Fly – Rick Clemons
27 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Great sex. Fun Sex. Sex on your terms, your way. Why is that so hard for so many gay guys to achieve? Because of shame, shame, shame about sex and ask...
208: Gay Men’s Get Out of Debt Guide – David and John Auten-Schneider
20 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Debt. Most Americans, and many, many, many gay men have it. Why? Because we want to live a fabulous life and then we end up fabulously in debt. No fun...
207: Breaking the More, Better, Different Cycle For Success – Rick Clemons
13 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I want more. I want to be better. I need something different in my life. Ok, cool. But do you get so obsessed about that as a gay man that you never g...
206: Hacking Your Way To Better Sexual Health For Gay Men– Dr. Judson Brandeis
06 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Whether it is better sexual health - rock hard erections, stamina, or screwing like a porn star - most gay men want great sex but do they do what they...
205: Declutter Your Gay Life For 2023 – RIck Clemons
30 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
New Years is just two days away and while we could do, "Tips for making the most of your New Year," instead let's declutter our lives so we can have a...
204: Stroke This, Not That, And Survive – RIck Clemons
23 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Instead of getting caught up in your gay life that doesn't please or serve you, go have a stroke. Actually don't. I speak from experience in this podc...
203: Navigating Loss and Grief of a Partner- Jason Arnold
16 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Your partner has cancer, then recovers. Then you have cancer, and recover. Then your partner and pets both pass on. All of this while lovely COVID is ...
202: Overcoming The “Pleaser” Within – RIck Clemons
09 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
If I make them happy, then I will be liked. Or even better, if I do this for them then they will do something nice for me. Sound familiar? It's call b...
201: Being An Authentic Gay Man: It’s Truly Possible – Coach Maddox
02 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Authenticity is one of those words that can be cringe or cult worthy. For most gay men, it is something that we all struggle with as we battle the dem...
200: Give a shot to the heart in your online dating – Michael Kaye
25 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Dating. It's either fun or the bane of your existence. Whatever happened to the good old days of waving a magic wand and meeting Prince Charming. LMAO...
199: Leverage your milestones instead of complaining – Rick Clemons
18 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Stop whining and start celebrating your milestones of life - age, career advancements, make-ups and breakups, losing weight, gaining weight. They are ...
198: Up Your Cocksmanship – Susan Bratton
11 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Sex, sex, sex. That's all gay men care about. Not exactly true but even if it is, sex and sexual pleasure can get the best and worst of us as we age.....
197: Find Your Just Right Spot For Aging Gracefully – Loren Ostrow
04 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Aging. Wondering what do I do and where will my life lead me? It's happening to all of us. One of the biggest questions is "When the time comes, where...
196: How to be a Titan of Building Your Own Business – Stefaan DeVreese
28 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
You have this burning desire to do your own thing, start your own business, be your own boss. Great. Awesome. Then the challenges arise and instead of...
195: A Gay Man’s Guide To Life – Britt East
21 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Living life is messy. Messy, messy, messy. Now add to it being a gay man, and Lord help us, it can get real messy. Helping us undo some of that mess w...
194: It’s never too late to come out about anything – Rick Clemons
14 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It's too late to come out. It's too late to find a relationship. It's too late to find my passion. BULLSHIT! You can come out of the closet of your li...
193: Thruples and Polyamory – Kitty Chambliss
07 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Seems non-monogamy is more and more common as gay men try to find themselves in their relationships in a way that works for them as individuals and as...
192: Combating “Button Pushing” Syndrome – Rick Clemons
30 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We guys over 40, should have so much figured out in life, like how not to get our "buttons pushed" by other people. Ok, that is probably not 100% true...
191: Sex, Drugs, and Jesus – DeVannon Hubert
23 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine going from being an active member of one of the most well known evangelical churches in Houston - Lakewood Church - yes that one...to becoming...
190: The New Masculine For Gay Men – Travis Stock
16 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What does it mean to be masculine? Who defines it? What does it matter? These are all the big questions we're asking on 40 Plus: Gay Man, Gay Talk Pod...
189: Stop shaming Monogamy, Open Relationships, and Polyamory – Rick Clemons
09 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There's a lot of shaming going on around how people do their most intimate relationship(s). You get shame for wanting monogamy. Shade gets thrown if y...
188: Embracing A Holistic Approach To HIV & Monkeypox – Jill Baker
02 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
First it was HIV and AIDS, now Monkeypox. And the LGBTQ+ community, and more specifically gay men are being called out as the source of these issues. ...
187: Staying Sane As Our LGBTQ Lives Are The Targets Again– Rick Clemons
26 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Now we're being blamed for Monkeypox, and of course, there's threats that Gay Marriage could be overruled just like Roe vs. Wade. So how do you stay p...
186: Finding Your Passion, Purpose, and A Thriving Career – John Thorpe
19 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
One of the most common things men tell me in our coaching sessions is, "I'm just not happy. I have no purpose. I've lost my passion in my career." I g...
185: Lessons Learned After Another Trip Around The Sun – Rick Clemons
12 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It WAS my birthday, and it WAS great. That's why today, I want to share 10 things with you gay-man-to-gay-man, that I feel are some of the greatest le...
184: Helping Gay Men Feel Seen and Heard – Adam Lippin
05 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Loneliness is an epidemic that is growing by the day. Gay or straight it is causing huge amounts of mental health issues. For gay men, the isolation a...
183: Navigating Your Way To Your Passion and Purpose – Scott Gatz
29 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
One of the things many gay men struggle with the most is finding their passion and purpose. Landing in that career that truly lights them up. But what...
182: Stop being petrified to show up as a gay man – Rick Clemons
22 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Whether it's showing up on a gay vacation, hitting the bars on the weekend, or walking into work, it can be petrifying to show up in your world as a g...
181: The Joy of Navigating An Ever Changing Career Ride – Michael Novin
15 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I'm going to be an actor. No wait, I'm going to be a Broadway star. Nope, I'm going to be a financial planner. Ay yes, I'm going to run a talent agenc...
180: Living an Inspired Queer LIfe After 40 – Darren Stehle
08 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel challenged to live an inspired queer life? Feeling aimless and not sure what is next? Fellow Queer coach Darren Stehle challenges us to take...
179: Getting Your Sexual Mojo On – Bryan “Uncle B” Ayers
01 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
As men we want to take care of our bodies...we really do...even when we don't do it. But oh my goodness me, if our man junk - PENIS - stops working th...
178: How To Not Lose Yourself As Your Parents Age – Rick Clemons
24 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Aging and losing our parents is inevitable. Losing ourselves and having no life doesn't have to be inevitable. As much as you love your parents, don't...
177 – How To Be Proud About Coming Out Late In Life – Rick Clemons
17 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
You're not late to the game, nor have you wasted too much time. You're simply showing up out of the closet when it best fits for you and your life. No...
176: Overcoming External Validation Syndrome – Rick Clemons
10 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
You do not, do not, do not, need someone elses validation to make your 40+ gay life complete. If you think you do, then that is why so many things are...
175: Having PRIDE at Any Age and Stage of Your Gay Life – Rick Clemons
03 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It's PRIDE month, but PRIDE should be something as a guy over 40, you should have in yourself all year long. Every day, in every way. But what do you ...
174: Gay Dad, Jocks, and Athletics: Oh MY! – Bradley Jacobs
27 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
A sports-phobic single gay dad faces his longtime insecurities about jocks and athletics when his son lands a spot in a competitive NYC travel soccer ...
173: No more neckties…Just Be Gay – Dr. Loren A. Olsen, MD
20 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Many of us as gay men grew up always doing what was expected of us, trying to fit in, compartmentalizing our lives and never letting anyone see the si...
172: Moving Past Being “Friendzoned” – Rick Clemons
13 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We've all been there and you are NOT alone. Friendzoned! It isn't fun and it can truly screw with your confidence and cause you to lose hope in ever f...
171: Are You Making Room For A Man In Your Life? – Rick Clemons
06 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
You want a man, you feel like you need a man (even though you don't) yet, are you making room for a man in your life? Once we hit our 40+ lives as gay...
170: Lessons Learned From The Frugal Gay – Tom Brickman
29 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What do you do when you just can't find the way to make money doing your passion? You just keep doing it on the side until you find the way. Is it dif...
169: The Art Of Self-Forgiveness – Rick Clemons
22 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We all screw up. We all are too hard on ourselves and not in a good way. And, we all find it really hard to forgive ourselves. Well time to put that c...
168: Stop the “Should-ing” and Starting Doing These 10 Things As A Gay Guy – RIck Clemons
15 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
SHOULD, ought to be banned from the english language. Or at least from the gay man's talk. Because when we should all over ourselves, we don't have mu...
167: Kicking Ass By Being Your Own Gay Leadership Dude – Dr. Steve Yacovelli
08 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
You hit that point in your life where something has got to change. Get that promotion, find that next gig, be more intentional about your passion. Reg...
166: Stop Fooling Yourself & Living A Fools Life – Rick Clemons
01 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We're all fools. Every one of us gay men. No one gets out of life without being a fool. Crappy dating habits. Pursuing wrong careers. Eating unhealthy...