157: Yup. You’re No Good At Gay Sex! Really? – Rick Clemons
28 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The clothes are coming off. Your heart's racing and an appendage is growing, and you can't wait to t...
156: How Do You Do Gay – Rick Clemons
21 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The biggest question I get asked, by guys coming out of the closet, is not how do you take a big pen...
155 – There is Gay Life Beyond Prostate Cancer – Kenneth A. Johnson
14 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
OMG. My penis no longer works, and my prostate no longer feels pleasure. My life is over! That may b...
154: Breaking The “I don’t know syndrome!” – Rick Clemons
07 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It's the beginning of the year, and what do you want to do with this year? I don't know! What do you...
153: Ready. Set. Let Your Intentions Guide You in 2022 -Rick Clemons
31 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Do not set a New Year's Resolution. Do not head out to that party dreading the start of another year...
152: 12 Gifts You Should Give Yourself This Holiday – Rick Clemons
24 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
You're running yourself ragged, trying to get all the right gifts for everyone. But, what have you d...
151: Healing Religious Wounds – Eric Feltes
17 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Religious trauma. Seems to be the norm for a majority of LGBTQ people that you encoutner. "You're da...
150: What if there were no hook-up apps? – Rick Clemons
10 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
What if there were no Grindr, Scruff, Adam4Adam? What would you do? Get out and meet guys? Resort to...
149: You’re Never Too Old To Say – Judge Me Not – James Merrick
03 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
From a young age, the fear of God caused him to tremble in his boots about his secret. Then, in his ...
148: Holiday Prep – No Douche Required – Rick Clemons
26 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We're coming into the home stretch of the year and it's - HOLIDAY TIME! Don't freak out, don't put p...
147: Killing Your Relationship Expectations – Rick Clemons
19 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
You want a man, and you want him to be perfect. Really? Maybe you should be looking in the mirror. F...
146: Self-Awareness – The Gay Man’s Key To LIfe’s Big Ticket Questions – Ed WIlson
12 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
As a gay man do you find yourself constantly looking for answers, and then getting frustrated becaus...
145: Internalized Homophobia – Knock That Sh*t Off – Rick Clemons
05 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
There isn't a gay man alive who hasn't hated on himself or another gay man. Sometimes, we do it subc...
144: Owning That Dad Bod – Anthony Catalino
29 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We're all perfectly imperfect. But for gay men, perfection seems to be a futile pursuit - perfect ab...
143: Defining A Healthy Gay Relationship – Rick Clemons
22 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Sex, laughter, sex, love, sex, money. That's all it takes to make a healthy gay relationship work. I...
142: Loving Yourself Through and Out of Addiction – Gregory Silva
15 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
LGBTQ people are 9-10 times more likely to addicted to sex, drugs, alcohol or food. Why? For many re...
141: The Art of Relating, Man-to-Man – Rick Clemons
08 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This man-to-man connecting, dating, mating, and relating, is so damn hard. Or is it? It can be if th...
140: All The Sh*T You Can Do After 40 – Anthony Hand
01 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
When you hit 40 you think, "It's all down hill from here!" Sure it is if you are on a bike, riding 5...
139: Why Open Relationships Work – Canaan
24 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
If you don't like gay marriage, then don't marry someone who's gay. If you don't approve of abortion...
138: Gay Man’s Manifesto For Living: Part 3 – Rick Clemons
17 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We're coming into the home stretch of this three part series that explores 12 manifestos that I have...
142.1: 20 Years of Making It Work With My Man – Rick Clemons
16 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
I can't believe I'm saying this, but we've made it work, last, thrive, and sometimes even survive. Y...
137: Gay Man’s Manifesto For Living: Part 2 – Rick Clemons
10 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
As a gay man, have you ever struggled? Felt exhausted by trying to do the right things for your life...
136: Gay Man’s Manifesto For Living: Part 1 – Rick Clemons
03 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
As a gay man, have you ever struggled? Felt exhausted by trying to do the right things for your life...
135: Why are gay friendships so hard to make? – Rick Clemons
27 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Friendships. Gay Friendships. You either have them or they are completely absent from your life. Thi...
134: Date Smarter. Sexier – Andrea LaRosa
20 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
If your dating expectations constantly leave you disappointed, and the only compatibility you can fi...
133: How To Start Having Better Sex Now – Rick Clemons
13 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Most gay men enjoy sex. Doesn't matter what that looks like. Whether it is simple intimacy, to dolle...
132: Dating for the modern gay guy – Tyler Greenberg
06 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Dating is a pain in the ass...and not in a good way. For most gay men, the dating and pursuit of Pri...
131: Getting Over Your Money BS – Martin Cowart
30 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Money, money, money. Never enough, always wanting more, and being judged for having to much or too l...
130: Break free from the “You’ve done so much wrong” syndrome – Rick Clemons
23 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
You're a liar. You're a cheat. You've broken trust. You're wrong by being gay and not worth knowing....
129: How To Break Free From Your Hidden Addictions – Rick Clemons
16 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Sex, Drugs, Food, Video Games. We all have addictions, but we may not OPENLY admit to them. Another ...
128: Quit Bitching and Step Up To The Plate – Rick Clemons
09 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We all complain. We all want more. We all wish it was easy. Check, check, check. But WTF happens whe...
127: Why Validation and Attention Seeking is F*CKING You Up! – Rick Clemons
02 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Look at me. See me. Love me. Want me. Hell just notice me. This seems to be the quest for most gay m...
126: It’s Fat Loss Not Weight Loss For The Gay Man – Jack Kunkel
25 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Give me those abs, pecs, guns to hang on and that bubble butt to salivate over. Sound like a pipe dr...
125: Infatuation or love…what is it you really feel? – Rick Clemons
18 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
You're hot for him, or you're hot about the thought of love with him, or both, or are you just confu...
124: Should you be OUT at work – yes or no? – Rick Clemons
11 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Even though there are Federal and State Guidelines and laws prohibiting discrimination at work becau...
123: Stop being commitment phobic you silly homo – Rick Clemons
04 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
I want a man. I want a better job. I want to lose weight. I want, I want, I want. Yes, yes, yes, and...
122: Confidence For The Queer Guy – Yannick Picard
28 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Confidence doesn't come easy, or so they say. But confidence for the gay guy can really be an uphill...
121: Gay GHOSTING is Not Pretty on you – Rick Clemons
21 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
About MikeMike mi-KAL-o-wits is the author of Profit First, Clockwork, Surge, The Pumpkin Plan, and ...
120: Dadding, Careers, And All That Gay Stuff – Hans M Hirschi
13 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
The struggle is real. From managing a multinational relationship, to raising a child, and doing your...
119: How not to FREAK out when the sex dies – Rick Clemons
07 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
He's not so into sex. He must be cheating. That BJ you were so fond of, he's no longer interested in...
118: Aging as a Transman – Sex and all that jazz – Buck Angel!
30 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
He's in his late 50's. He's a trailblazer. He's done porn, and he's a man. A transman, and he's got ...
117: The Ultimate Circle Jerk – Rick Clemons
23 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Who doesn't like an awesome circle jerk? Ok, maybe not everyone, but most gay men do, but sometimes ...
116: To Be Out or Not To Be Out In Corporate Life – Jeff Nally
16 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Are you out? Really out? Let's rephrase that question. Are you out in your work life, and really out...
115: Let Go Of Your Ex or Shut The F#CK Up – Rick Clemons
09 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Break ups are inevitable. Don't believe it ? Watch any episode or Queer as Folk, The "L"Word, or Pos...
113: Pushing Past Loneliness As A Gay Man - Rick Clemons
26 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
About SteveMike mi-KAL-o-wits is the author of Profit First, Clockwork, Surge, The Pumpkin Plan, and...
112: Jealousy and Insecurity – Gay Men’s Worst Enemies – Rick Clemons
19 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
"Don't you be looking at my man!" Sigh. Guys we don't own the market on men looking at our men. Unle...
111: Why gay men avoid commitment – Rick Clemons
12 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Gay men can't commit. Really? Maybe some can't but most can and will if given the chance. The truth ...
110: Just Be Gay, Gay, Gay…Your Way – Rick Clemons
05 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Whether you're 40+ or 2o something, or sliding into your golden years, someone is going to throw you...
109: What’s Right With Having An Open Relationship – Rick Clemons
26 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Open relationships. They seem to be the hot button trigger in gay men's circles. You're either all f...
108: How To Have the Confidence Of A Porn Star – Rick Clemons
19 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
One of the things gay men struggle with the most is CONFIDENCE, with a capital "C." Whether it's our...
107: Determined To Be A Dad – Steve Disselhorst
12 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This guy said "Fatherhood is for me, no matter what, even if I am gay!" He was so determined to be a...
106 – Can you really handle an Intergenerational Relationship? – Rick Clemons
05 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you kee...
Temporary Show Hiatus
15 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Hey Guys, Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thi...
105: How To Avoid Gay Death Bed – Rick Clemons
08 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
It's inevitable. Wait that's not true. It likely - that sounds better - that at some point in your g...
104: Best Life Hook-up Tips For 2021 – Rick Clemons
01 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Happy New Year Guys! So excited to launch the new version of 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk, with the ...
103: The One Gift – Rick Clemons
25 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Merry Christmas guys. As you celebrate, however you celebrate this year, I want to invite you to con...
102 – How To Get Out of Your 40 Plus Life Rut – Rick Clemons
18 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We all get in ruts in our lives. 2020 has only made that worse in so many ways. And ruts, suck. Here...
101: Finding Your Soul Center As A Man – Chris Failla
11 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
At the heart of every guy there is a man who want's to be his own man, his way. A guy who wants to b...
100: 10 Things I’ve Learned As A Guy Over 40 – Rick Clemons
20 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We're celebrating the 100th Episode with the 10 things I've learned to make me a better man as a guy...
099: The art of Humility & Acceptance – Rick Clemons
13 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Regardless of the fact that some men can't accept defeat and loss (Donald Trump for example) the tru...
098: You’re never too old to be fully yourself – Colton Ford
06 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
"I'm to old for that!" Really, then you must not have any adventure left in your life and your soul....
097: Men, Intimacy, and Affection – Get Over It Already – Rick Clemons
30 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
You'd have to be hiding with your head in the sand to not hear all the crappy politics going on righ...
096: More To Life and Work After Coming Out Late In Life - Peter McGuire
23 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
095 - Embracing a "Why Not" Mindset - Rick Clemons
16 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
094: Being Better Beings – Michelle Zellner
09 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
How often do you find yourself wishing you were better? Better at your job, better at your relations...
093: Stepping Into and Letting Go of Love – Rick Clemons
02 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Not all divorces, job layoffs, or health scares require walking away in disgust from something that ...
092: Tap Into The Power of Your Younger Self, Even In a Pandemic – Rick Clemons
25 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Life sucks right now in so many ways, but are you really going to let it keep you stuck? In a rut? C...
091: How your hard “No’s” are ruining your life – Rick Clemons
18 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
"NO!" We started learning that word form a very young age. Before we knew it, our life was filled wi...
090 – Helping men find peace in a chaotic world – Steve Strother
11 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We're living in a chaotic world. Possibly in some ways more chaotic than at any other point in the h...
089: Becoming A Boomer Musician – Michael Fairman
04 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
It's time to take a stand against ageism. No more saying, "You're to old!" You're only as old as you...
88: Creating Radical Alignment In LIfe & Love – Alexandra Jamieson & Bob Gower
28 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Nothing is harder in any kind of relationship than having difficult conversations. For us guys those...
087: How to come to terms with the “What’s next?” question – David Hooper
21 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you live your life, doing your thing, been doing it for most of your life, and the...
086– Gay and 40 Plus – William Smith
14 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
You might argue that being over 40 is no different for gay men versus straight men. On the surface t...
085: Fitter Healthier Dad – Darren Kirby
07 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you're a Dad who's ever woke up feeling BLAH about your body, your energy, or the way you approac...
084 – Developing The Attitude of Gratitude – Chris DT Gordon
31 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine a simple little cut on your arm, changing your whole life, but also causing you to truly emb...
083: Stop playing it safe and do what you love – Tripp Lanier
24 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you've ever found yourself on the hamster wheel of life, just getting through the day, and not fe...
082: Embracing F*CK Ups When They Happen– Rick Clemons
17 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
About MikeMike mi-KAL-o-wits is the author of Profit First, Clockwork, Surge, The Pumpkin Plan, and ...
081: Why your mindset makes the day, every day of your life – Tomi Dagan
10 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Mindset, mindset, mindset. It seems to be all we hear about these days. So it's either a crock of cr...
80: Real Talk, About Being A Male Victim of Sexual and Physical Abuse – Brian Cardoza
01 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine hiding a secret that made you question who you are, if you did something wrong, and causing ...
079: Defining Your “WHY” behind your health – Jack Kunkel
26 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
No guy anywhere said, "I want to be unhealthy, fat, and struggling diabetes and heart disease," or a...
078: Embracing Your Dad, Loving Every Bit of Him, Even The Worst Parts – Rick Clemons
19 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Happy Fathers Day! It's that once a year time when we celebrate and being a Dad, regardless of what ...
077: Standing in your naked truth – Ben Bidwell
12 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Why can't you stand around naked? Naked in your truth! Allowing yourself to be aligned in your truth...
076: Why Pride Matters For Every Man – Rick Clemons
05 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
It's the kick-off of LGBTQ pride month, but what does that have to do with guys over 40? Everything,...
075: How to take the leap in to self-care and peace – Troy Love
29 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Men, in general, struggle with self-care. Not talking about the brushing teeth, taking showers, eati...
074: Do your thing, stay young at heart – Michael Symonds
22 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you are one of those guys that says, "One day I'll..." or "I'm too old to..." you need this podca...
073: Vulnerability and Responsibility – Matt Ward
15 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
When COVID19 became our reality, our lives took on a whole different meaning. Many of us began think...
072: How To Compete Every Day – Jake Thompson
08 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Every day is an opportunity. You either compete or give up. Whether it is with yourself or the rest ...
071: Making Your Age Work For You – Tavarus Hogans
01 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We all are aging, and there is nothing we can do about that. But what we can do is realize that ever...
070: How to be an Uplifting Dad – Mark LaMaster
24 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Fatherhood is a gift, a challenge, a blessing, and a trial by fire. It's also a great reward. I...
069: Fix This Next – Mike Michalowicz
17 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What do you do when you hit that block wall in your life or your business, and you feel like, "Shit,...
068: Successfully Living In A Blended Family – Joel W. Hawbaker
10 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
When it comes to divorce, it's never easy, and it's often chaotic. Yet, when you realize that it is ...
067: Erectile Dysfunction Doesn’t Make You Less Of A Man – Dr. Ron Gor
03 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Most guys fear having a broken penis. It's our lifeline to enjoyment, pleasure, and of course peeing...
066: 6 Steps for committing to show up fully in crisis – Rick Clemons
27 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We all know where we are right now as a planet. In the midst of a global pandemic - COVID19. But, wh...
065: How to tap into joy, gratitude, and connection – Murray Guest
20 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you lose sight of joy, happiness, connection, and intent in your life? Us guys ten...
064: Your Negativity Is Killing You – Rick Clemons
13 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Ever found yourself stuck in the negativity? Like nothing does anything but pisses you off and makes...
063: When Opposites No Longer Attract – Michael Testa
06 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
There are those life moments when you realize, "This just isn't working!" For some it's when they re...
062: Navigating The Possibility Of An Open Relationship – Rick Clemons
28 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Relationships are not easy...right? Yet, sometimes relationships cause one or both partners to wande...
061: Building Your Destiny – Grant Baldwin
21 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
He went from being a youth pastor to a conversation with his Dad about his destiny, to now running a...
060: All YOU need is love…self-love – Rick Clemons
14 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
It's Valentine's Day. The day of either a lot of pressure, loads of love, or screw this who cares. R...
059: I got nothing – Rick Clemons
07 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
I woke up this morning, chatting with a friend, and then she said, " I got nothing!" She was referri...