40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.
Episodes
165: Dissecting The Truth Of Gay Men: Coach to Coach – Brian Madigan
25 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What motivates gay men? Do all gay men only want sex? What if an open relationship can work? Can I be spiritual or religious as a gay man? Questions, ...
164: Slaying The Inner And Outer Narcissist – Rick Clemons
18 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Gaslighting. Blaming. Pulling wicked "not me, that's you" bullshit on ourselves and from others. It's called being a Narcissist. If you've ever lived ...
163: The Art of Truly Loving Yourself As A Gay Man – Jerome Braggs
11 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
As RuPaul sez, "If you can't love yourself, how the hell you going to love someone else?" But what many of us as gay men don't realize is when we love...
162: Give yourself a little RESPECT – Rick Clemons
04 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
As the queen of soul sez: R-E-S-P-E-C-T. It is time to respect yourself and if you don't then that is on you, and only you. Because self-respect is wh...
161: Skin Care, Plastics, And All That Anti-Aging Jazz – J. Shea Terry
25 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Like it or not, all of us gay men are aging. It's a conveyor belt and there is nothing we can do about it. Nor should we feel pressure to do something...
160: Do we really have to play sexual roles? – Rick Clemons
18 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Roles, roles, roles. Everyone wants us to play some role so that it makes it easier to relate to them. We all do it, and don't say you don't. Yet, as ...
159: Loving Yourself This Valentine’s Day – Steve Disselhorst
11 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Valentine's Day is just a few days away. So let's start crying the blues about what sucks about being a gay man and no one to love. Nah. Let's not do ...
158: Conquering The Confidence Conundrum – Rick Clemons
04 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How do you as a gay man, conquer the confidence conundrum? we say the last part of that question 3 times really fast, and if you can say that, you've ...
157: Yup. You’re No Good At Gay Sex! Really? – Rick Clemons
28 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The clothes are coming off. Your heart's racing and an appendage is growing, and you can't wait to touch him and have him touch you. Then your head - ...
156: How Do You Do Gay – Rick Clemons
21 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The biggest question I get asked, by guys coming out of the closet, is not how do you take a big penis, it's how do you do gay? Ok, maybe the penis qu...
155 – There is Gay Life Beyond Prostate Cancer – Kenneth A. Johnson
14 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
OMG. My penis no longer works, and my prostate no longer feels pleasure. My life is over! That may be the way it seems, but does having and living wit...
154: Breaking The “I don’t know syndrome!” – Rick Clemons
07 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It's the beginning of the year, and what do you want to do with this year? I don't know! What do you want from this year? I don't know! What would mak...
153: Ready. Set. Let Your Intentions Guide You in 2022 -Rick Clemons
31 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Do not set a New Year's Resolution. Do not head out to that party dreading the start of another year. Do not do anything that you do not plan to do wi...
152: 12 Gifts You Should Give Yourself This Holiday – Rick Clemons
24 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
You're running yourself ragged, trying to get all the right gifts for everyone. But, what have you done for you? What gift are you going to give yours...
151: Healing Religious Wounds – Eric Feltes
17 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Religious trauma. Seems to be the norm for a majority of LGBTQ people that you encoutner. "You're damned to hell!" or "You're a sinner!" Of course mos...
150: What if there were no hook-up apps? – Rick Clemons
10 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
What if there were no Grindr, Scruff, Adam4Adam? What would you do? Get out and meet guys? Resort to hooking up in the back of bars or restrooms? Or I...
149: You’re Never Too Old To Say – Judge Me Not – James Merrick
03 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
From a young age, the fear of God caused him to tremble in his boots about his secret. Then, in his 40's he could no longer live within that secret, a...
148: Holiday Prep – No Douche Required – Rick Clemons
26 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We're coming into the home stretch of the year and it's - HOLIDAY TIME! Don't freak out, don't put pressure on yourself, and please don't try to pleas...
147: Killing Your Relationship Expectations – Rick Clemons
19 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
You want a man, and you want him to be perfect. Really? Maybe you should be looking in the mirror. For every expectation you put on your man you bette...
146: Self-Awareness – The Gay Man’s Key To LIfe’s Big Ticket Questions – Ed WIlson
12 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
As a gay man do you find yourself constantly looking for answers, and then getting frustrated because they aren’t right there in front of you? What ...
145: Internalized Homophobia – Knock That Sh*t Off – Rick Clemons
05 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
There isn't a gay man alive who hasn't hated on himself or another gay man. Sometimes, we do it subconsciously and don't even realize what an ass we'r...
144: Owning That Dad Bod – Anthony Catalino
29 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We're all perfectly imperfect. But for gay men, perfection seems to be a futile pursuit - perfect abs, ass, chest, smile, bank account, material thing...
143: Defining A Healthy Gay Relationship – Rick Clemons
22 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Sex, laughter, sex, love, sex, money. That's all it takes to make a healthy gay relationship work. If you believe that I've got a bottle of Clorox for...
142: Loving Yourself Through and Out of Addiction – Gregory Silva
15 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
LGBTQ people are 9-10 times more likely to addicted to sex, drugs, alcohol or food. Why? For many reasons, but the most obvious reason is we've been s...
141: The Art of Relating, Man-to-Man – Rick Clemons
08 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This man-to-man connecting, dating, mating, and relating, is so damn hard. Or is it? It can be if the effort isn't there, but it does take effort in a...
140: All The Sh*T You Can Do After 40 – Anthony Hand
01 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
When you hit 40 you think, "It's all down hill from here!" Sure it is if you are on a bike, riding 500 miles and you come into the home stretch of the...
139: Why Open Relationships Work – Canaan
24 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
If you don't like gay marriage, then don't marry someone who's gay. If you don't approve of abortion, then don't have one. And, if you don't want an o...
138: Gay Man’s Manifesto For Living: Part 3 – Rick Clemons
17 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We're coming into the home stretch of this three part series that explores 12 manifestos that I have uncovered for gay man that truly inspire them to ...
142.1: 20 Years of Making It Work With My Man – Rick Clemons
16 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
I can't believe I'm saying this, but we've made it work, last, thrive, and sometimes even survive. Yup, me and my guy - George Solis - are celebrating...
137: Gay Man’s Manifesto For Living: Part 2 – Rick Clemons
10 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
As a gay man, have you ever struggled? Felt exhausted by trying to do the right things for your life? Felt like everything was in vain and just wanted...
136: Gay Man’s Manifesto For Living: Part 1 – Rick Clemons
03 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
As a gay man, have you ever struggled? Felt exhausted by trying to do the right things for your life? Felt like everything was in vain and just wanted...
135: Why are gay friendships so hard to make? – Rick Clemons
27 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Friendships. Gay Friendships. You either have them or they are completely absent from your life. This is what I hear over, and over, and over from gay...
134: Date Smarter. Sexier – Andrea LaRosa
20 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
If your dating expectations constantly leave you disappointed, and the only compatibility you can find is hooking up on Scruff or Grindr, it's time fo...
133: How To Start Having Better Sex Now – Rick Clemons
13 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Most gay men enjoy sex. Doesn't matter what that looks like. Whether it is simple intimacy, to dolled up in Leather, or playing in an orgy. We gay men...
132: Dating for the modern gay guy – Tyler Greenberg
06 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Dating is a pain in the ass...and not in a good way. For most gay men, the dating and pursuit of Prince Charming, is a frustrating, just give up scena...
131: Getting Over Your Money BS – Martin Cowart
30 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Money, money, money. Never enough, always wanting more, and being judged for having to much or too little, and we haven't even started on the vicious ...
130: Break free from the “You’ve done so much wrong” syndrome – Rick Clemons
23 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
You're a liar. You're a cheat. You've broken trust. You're wrong by being gay and not worth knowing. To many of us as gay men have been told how - WRO...
129: How To Break Free From Your Hidden Addictions – Rick Clemons
16 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Sex, Drugs, Food, Video Games. We all have addictions, but we may not OPENLY admit to them. Another possibility, is we don't seem them as addictions, ...
128: Quit Bitching and Step Up To The Plate – Rick Clemons
09 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We all complain. We all want more. We all wish it was easy. Check, check, check. But WTF happens when all you do is complain and never step up to the ...
127: Why Validation and Attention Seeking is F*CKING You Up! – Rick Clemons
02 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Look at me. See me. Love me. Want me. Hell just notice me. This seems to be the quest for most gay men, but it's also the quest that kicks us in the a...
126: It’s Fat Loss Not Weight Loss For The Gay Man – Jack Kunkel
25 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Give me those abs, pecs, guns to hang on and that bubble butt to salivate over. Sound like a pipe dream? Or is it more of a nightmare because you just...
125: Infatuation or love…what is it you really feel? – Rick Clemons
18 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
You're hot for him, or you're hot about the thought of love with him, or both, or are you just confused? If you're confused, welcome to finding love. ...
124: Should you be OUT at work – yes or no? – Rick Clemons
11 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Even though there are Federal and State Guidelines and laws prohibiting discrimination at work because you are a gay man, doesn't mean every gay guy g...
123: Stop being commitment phobic you silly homo – Rick Clemons
04 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
I want a man. I want a better job. I want to lose weight. I want, I want, I want. Yes, yes, yes, and yes. Gay men want a lot but for some silly reason...
122: Confidence For The Queer Guy – Yannick Picard
28 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Confidence doesn't come easy, or so they say. But confidence for the gay guy can really be an uphill climb unless you have some guidance. Slaying the ...
121: Gay GHOSTING is Not Pretty on you – Rick Clemons
21 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
About MikeMike mi-KAL-o-wits is the author of Profit First, Clockwork, Surge, The Pumpkin Plan, and his newest release Fix This Next. By his 35th birt...
120: Dadding, Careers, And All That Gay Stuff – Hans M Hirschi
13 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
The struggle is real. From managing a multinational relationship, to raising a child, and doing your career. May sound like no big deal, but when you ...
119: How not to FREAK out when the sex dies – Rick Clemons
07 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
He's not so into sex. He must be cheating. That BJ you were so fond of, he's no longer interested in giving it to you. He must think you are ugly. The...
118: Aging as a Transman – Sex and all that jazz – Buck Angel!
30 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
He's in his late 50's. He's a trailblazer. He's done porn, and he's a man. A transman, and he's got something to say about being a man of a certain ag...
117: The Ultimate Circle Jerk – Rick Clemons
23 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Who doesn't like an awesome circle jerk? Ok, maybe not everyone, but most gay men do, but sometimes they love a circle jerk so much the end up jerking...
116: To Be Out or Not To Be Out In Corporate Life – Jeff Nally
16 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Are you out? Really out? Let's rephrase that question. Are you out in your work life, and really out in a way that represents you, the whole you that ...
115: Let Go Of Your Ex or Shut The F#CK Up – Rick Clemons
09 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Break ups are inevitable. Don't believe it ? Watch any episode or Queer as Folk, The "L"Word, or Pose and the truth will show you it's real. Of course...
113: Pushing Past Loneliness As A Gay Man - Rick Clemons
26 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
About SteveMike mi-KAL-o-wits is the author of Profit First, Clockwork, Surge, The Pumpkin Plan, and his newest release Fix This Next. By his 35th bir...
112: Jealousy and Insecurity – Gay Men’s Worst Enemies – Rick Clemons
19 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
"Don't you be looking at my man!" Sigh. Guys we don't own the market on men looking at our men. Unless you reign that jealousy and insecurity in, you ...
111: Why gay men avoid commitment – Rick Clemons
12 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Gay men can't commit. Really? Maybe some can't but most can and will if given the chance. The truth is most have to give themselves the chance to comm...
110: Just Be Gay, Gay, Gay…Your Way – Rick Clemons
05 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Whether you're 40+ or 2o something, or sliding into your golden years, someone is going to throw you some shade by telling you, "This is how you do ga...
109: What’s Right With Having An Open Relationship – Rick Clemons
26 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Open relationships. They seem to be the hot button trigger in gay men's circles. You're either all for them, completely against them, or not being hon...
108: How To Have the Confidence Of A Porn Star – Rick Clemons
19 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
One of the things gay men struggle with the most is CONFIDENCE, with a capital "C." Whether it's our looks, career, finances, or the size of our penis...
107: Determined To Be A Dad – Steve Disselhorst
12 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This guy said "Fatherhood is for me, no matter what, even if I am gay!" He was so determined to be a Dad, her wrote a book by the same name. Speaking ...
106 – Can you really handle an Intergenerational Relationship? – Rick Clemons
05 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do...
Temporary Show Hiatus
15 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Hey Guys, Check This Out!Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re g...
105: How To Avoid Gay Death Bed – Rick Clemons
08 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
It's inevitable. Wait that's not true. It likely - that sounds better - that at some point in your gay relationships the bedroom will die. No not the ...
104: Best Life Hook-up Tips For 2021 – Rick Clemons
01 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Happy New Year Guys! So excited to launch the new version of 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk, with the slight, fabulous twist to 40Plus: Gay Men. Gay Tal...
103: The One Gift – Rick Clemons
25 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Merry Christmas guys. As you celebrate, however you celebrate this year, I want to invite you to consider this one gift. One that is important, and ju...
102 – How To Get Out of Your 40 Plus Life Rut – Rick Clemons
18 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We all get in ruts in our lives. 2020 has only made that worse in so many ways. And ruts, suck. Here's a few simple steps for getting unstuck and out ...
101: Finding Your Soul Center As A Man – Chris Failla
11 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
At the heart of every guy there is a man who want's to be his own man, his way. A guy who wants to be seen, heard, and understood...on his terms. And,...
100: 10 Things I’ve Learned As A Guy Over 40 – Rick Clemons
20 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We're celebrating the 100th Episode with the 10 things I've learned to make me a better man as a guy over 40. What could those 10 things be? Listen an...
099: The art of Humility & Acceptance – Rick Clemons
13 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Regardless of the fact that some men can't accept defeat and loss (Donald Trump for example) the truth is most of us as men hate to admit we've lost a...
098: You’re never too old to be fully yourself – Colton Ford
06 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
"I'm to old for that!" Really, then you must not have any adventure left in your life and your soul. How about instead, you said, "I'm never to old fo...
097: Men, Intimacy, and Affection – Get Over It Already – Rick Clemons
30 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
You'd have to be hiding with your head in the sand to not hear all the crappy politics going on right now. And this podcast isn't about politics, unti...
096: More To Life and Work After Coming Out Late In Life - Peter McGuire
23 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
095 - Embracing a "Why Not" Mindset - Rick Clemons
16 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
094: Being Better Beings – Michelle Zellner
09 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
How often do you find yourself wishing you were better? Better at your job, better at your relationships, better at taking care of yourself, just simp...
093: Stepping Into and Letting Go of Love – Rick Clemons
02 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Not all divorces, job layoffs, or health scares require walking away in disgust from something that we love. In fact, really healthy situations lead u...
092: Tap Into The Power of Your Younger Self, Even In a Pandemic – Rick Clemons
25 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Life sucks right now in so many ways, but are you really going to let it keep you stuck? In a rut? Causing you to give up? Maybe what you should do is...
091: How your hard “No’s” are ruining your life – Rick Clemons
18 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
"NO!" We started learning that word form a very young age. Before we knew it, our life was filled with no, no, no's! So are we surprised that we have ...
090 – Helping men find peace in a chaotic world – Steve Strother
11 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We're living in a chaotic world. Possibly in some ways more chaotic than at any other point in the history of the world. So how does a guy find peace ...
089: Becoming A Boomer Musician – Michael Fairman
04 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
It's time to take a stand against ageism. No more saying, "You're to old!" You're only as old as you buy into the voice in your head. But, you have to...
88: Creating Radical Alignment In LIfe & Love – Alexandra Jamieson & Bob Gower
28 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Nothing is harder in any kind of relationship than having difficult conversations. For us guys those conversations make us feel uneasy,vulnerable, and...
087: How to come to terms with the “What’s next?” question – David Hooper
21 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you live your life, doing your thing, been doing it for most of your life, and then suddenly you hit the brick wall, and you gotta f...
086– Gay and 40 Plus – William Smith
14 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
You might argue that being over 40 is no different for gay men versus straight men. On the surface that may seem correct. However, straight men don’...
085: Fitter Healthier Dad – Darren Kirby
07 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you're a Dad who's ever woke up feeling BLAH about your body, your energy, or the way you approach life, then it's probably time for you to be a Fi...
084 – Developing The Attitude of Gratitude – Chris DT Gordon
31 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine a simple little cut on your arm, changing your whole life, but also causing you to truly embrace the attitude of gratitude. Chris DT Gord...
083: Stop playing it safe and do what you love – Tripp Lanier
24 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you've ever found yourself on the hamster wheel of life, just getting through the day, and not feeling alive, then it's time you become dangerous, ...
082: Embracing F*CK Ups When They Happen– Rick Clemons
17 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
About MikeMike mi-KAL-o-wits is the author of Profit First, Clockwork, Surge, The Pumpkin Plan, and his newest release Fix This Next. By his 35th birt...
081: Why your mindset makes the day, every day of your life – Tomi Dagan
10 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Mindset, mindset, mindset. It seems to be all we hear about these days. So it's either a crock of crap, or a load of wisdom. The latter seems to be mo...
80: Real Talk, About Being A Male Victim of Sexual and Physical Abuse – Brian Cardoza
01 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine hiding a secret that made you question who you are, if you did something wrong, and causing you to feel like you are not worthy. Now imagine a...
079: Defining Your “WHY” behind your health – Jack Kunkel
26 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
No guy anywhere said, "I want to be unhealthy, fat, and struggling diabetes and heart disease," or any other such thing that keeps us from living our ...
078: Embracing Your Dad, Loving Every Bit of Him, Even The Worst Parts – Rick Clemons
19 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Happy Fathers Day! It's that once a year time when we celebrate and being a Dad, regardless of what your version of a Dad is. But what do you do when ...
077: Standing in your naked truth – Ben Bidwell
12 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Why can't you stand around naked? Naked in your truth! Allowing yourself to be aligned in your truth so you can be exactly who you are. For most me, i...
076: Why Pride Matters For Every Man – Rick Clemons
05 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
It's the kick-off of LGBTQ pride month, but what does that have to do with guys over 40? Everything, even if you're not LGBTQ. Pride in who you are is...
075: How to take the leap in to self-care and peace – Troy Love
29 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Men, in general, struggle with self-care. Not talking about the brushing teeth, taking showers, eating right, etc. Talking about the deeper stuff. Wor...
074: Do your thing, stay young at heart – Michael Symonds
22 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you are one of those guys that says, "One day I'll..." or "I'm too old to..." you need this podcast. You are never to old and someday might not com...
073: Vulnerability and Responsibility – Matt Ward
15 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
When COVID19 became our reality, our lives took on a whole different meaning. Many of us began thinking about life in a whole lot of new dimensions - ...
072: How To Compete Every Day – Jake Thompson
08 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Every day is an opportunity. You either compete or give up. Whether it is with yourself or the rest of the world, you GET, not HAVE to compete. Yet, m...
071: Making Your Age Work For You – Tavarus Hogans
01 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We all are aging, and there is nothing we can do about that. But what we can do is realize that everything works out just as it should.Serial entrepre...
070: How to be an Uplifting Dad – Mark LaMaster
24 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Fatherhood is a gift, a challenge, a blessing, and a trial by fire. It's also a great reward. It can also be a huge failure if you don't play you...
069: Fix This Next – Mike Michalowicz
17 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What do you do when you hit that block wall in your life or your business, and you feel like, "Shit, this isn't ever going to change?" You lean into y...
068: Successfully Living In A Blended Family – Joel W. Hawbaker
10 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
When it comes to divorce, it's never easy, and it's often chaotic. Yet, when you realize that it is not your job to get your ex-spouse to do what you ...
067: Erectile Dysfunction Doesn’t Make You Less Of A Man – Dr. Ron Gor
03 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Most guys fear having a broken penis. It's our lifeline to enjoyment, pleasure, and of course peeing. But how much of our issues with sexual function ...