A Gay and A NonGay

No one cares that you have a girlfriend

29 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Why do people feel the need to announce that they're in a relationship? Is it arrogant? James has had it with people telling him they have a boyfrien...

Pride and Politics - Are Tories welcome in LGBTQ+ spaces?

22 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Is the Conservative Party welcome in LGBTQ+ spaces? Dan and James discuss a recent twitter/X spat where some members of the Tory Party were allegedly ...

Unashamedly Gay, Unashamedly Christian with Jayne Ozanne

02 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today we welcome Jayne Ozanne. Jayne is a former member of the UK government's LGBT advisory panel but sensationally quit 2 years ago because of minis...

Are the Conservative Party betraying LGBTQ+ rights? a conversation with Andrew Boff

25 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

James and Dan are joined by Conservative politician Andrew Boff - who was ejected from the party conference after heckling the Home Secretary Suella B...

Thy Art Is Eternal... Transphobia in music

18 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

James and Dan discuss transphobia in their respective worlds, as deathcore band Thy Art is Murder sack their transphobic singer - and 90s band Etern...

Princess Diana

11 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How often does Dan think about the Roman Empire, and how often does James think about Princess Diana? Dan has some very exciting career news, and Jame...

What is life like for LGBTQ+ asylum seekers in the UK?

04 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

James and Dan are joined by Leila Zadeh from Rainbow Migration. Together, we dig deep into the harsh realities faced by LGBTQ+ asylum seekers trying t...

Is being 'thick' a 'gay' thing?

27 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Dan thinks that James might pretend to be "thick" to fit a gay stereotype? This goes down well 😂 and James wonders if Dan thinks "all straight peop...

Bird News

20 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We're back with Bird News! James is ‘back in the game’ - dating-wise, but doesn’t want to use any apps. Plus is driving a car 'straight'? and i...

Is it safe to be gay in the UK?

13 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

James reflects on the horrific events at The Two Brewers in Clapham in August, and asks if the UK is a safe place for gay people. Learn more about you...

Is there a 'power dynamic' in gay relationships?

06 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What is the ‘power dynamic’ in a gay relationship? Would James role-play as someone’s brother? Plus Dan has some bird news. Learn more about yo...

Are rape and sexual assault considered 'normal' for queer people?

24 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It goes without saying, trigger warning. For help and support check out Galop ,the UK's LGBTQ+ abuse and violence charity, https://galop.org.uk/get-he...

Fire Island Chicken Tender-gate

17 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

James fills Dan in on more 'gay Twitter' drama regarding Chicken Tenders. Plus, is Jack Grealish leading a 'new trend' of feminiity? Learn more about ...

What is a 'circuit queen'?

10 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

James reflects on the *drama* at Adonis nightclub. Meanwhile, Dan's latest business venture 'Only Dans' is still not off the ground. :(.  Learn mo...

Go 'woke', go Broke? and Barbie

02 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This Barbie is a podcaster - As a christian preacher condemns Barbie, James is embarrassed to discover he's the only gay that fancied his Ken doll as ...

Are Just Stop Oil right to protest Pride in London?

26 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Were Just Stop Oil right to protest Pride in London? Plus James has witnessed his first orgasm at LA Pride. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit me...

Ten Years of Equal Marriage with Layla Moran MP

19 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

James and Dan are joined by Liberal Democrat MP Layla Moran, the UK's first pansexual MP. On the agenda - why is David Cameron taking credit for int...

Glastonbury Darkrooms

12 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Dan learns about a darkroom at Glastonbury, and James finds out what an upside-down pineapple means. Is this a thing? Meanwhile in Solihull, 'the most...

America's Chemsex Killer with Patrick Strudwick

05 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are experiences like abuse, chemsex, sexual exploitation, racism and even murder considered 'normal' for LGBTQ+ people? James and Dan dive into the de...

Has Philip Schofield given gays ‘bad PR?’

28 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Has the Philip Schofield scandal given the gays ‘bad PR?’. Dan wonders if age-gap relationships are more common in the LGBTQ+ community? Is there ...

Breakups and Beefs

22 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Should you be 'friends' with your exes? Dan discovers that none of James' breakups have been amicable. Meanwhile James' friend is panicked after slee...

Is everyone a bit queer?

14 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

James has an accident in a hotel room and Dan is annoyed by TERFS claiming to be punk. Plus can straight people also be 'queer'? Learn more about you...

Are straight people ‘endlessly boring?’

07 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

James is very bored this week - bored of straight people dominating narratives in TV shows and ‘endlessly running marathons’, Is he just jealous t...

Sam Smith and the fake moral panic

31 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

James has been arguing with Piers Morgan again 🙄 (he's got a tour to sell), and why if someone tells you to be less of something, you should be MOR...

Is sex funny?

24 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Is it healthy to laugh at intimacy? Is sex funny? Dan thinks it is, James thinks it isn't. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoi...

How to break through barriers of race and sexual orientation with Malcolm Kenyatta

03 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do Not Wait Your Turn. James and Dan are joined from Pennsylvania by State Representative Malcom Kenyatta for an empowering episode about overcoming b...

The audacity of straight men

26 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

James reflects on the tragic death of Paul O’Grady. Meanwhile Dan can't stop laughing about the ‘funniest thing that’s ever happened’ - the ti...

Allyship and activism with Jill Nadler... The Real Jill from It's A Sin

19 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jill Nalder is the inspiration behind the character Jill Baxter in Channel 4’s It’s A Sin. This is an inspiring episode about allyship, activism a...

The logistics of Golden Showers

05 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

James has been to Berghain in Berlin and Dan wants to know about a slide made of spaff. Plus we discuss the logistics of organising golden showers. Me...

Live from the O2 with Jake Shears

29 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

James and Dan are live from the O2 Arena with very special guest and power vers Jake Shears at Just For Laughs Festival London. We hear about his nak...

Suing the NHS with Eva Echo

01 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This is an empowering episode about a woman, fearless in her fight for equality. Today we're joined by Eva Echo, activist and Director of Innovation a...

That’s a load off my mind

23 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

James has started, in his own words, and the words of Good Morning Britain - a ‘national debate’ about bedsheets. Inevitably this leads to chat ab...

Dick O’Clock

15 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Is it rude to ditch your friends when the time hits ‘Dick O’Clock’? Or should gays ‘have an hour off’? Queer Icon Jake Shears joins us at ou...

Where is the non-gayest town in the UK?

08 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We reveal the most officially non-gay part of the UK. It's the non-gayest of them all (N.O.T.A). Plus is saying the word 'triggering' triggering?  Co...

Why Don't Gays and Lesbians Get Along Better? with Helen Scott

01 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Why is our community so divided? Why is there such disparity between gay men and lesbians? What can gay men do to be better allies to lesbians? Do we ...

Ex-ual Health

25 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Happy New Year! It's been a while but we're here again... James is newly single and in need of hole pics. Once he's got over bumping into his ex at th...

Best Of 2022

01 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In 2022 we had the privilege of speaking to some amazing people on the podcast. Hear from the second person to be cured of HIV Adam The London Patient...

Club Q Survivor Barrett Hudson

14 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On November 19th, an armed gunman opened fire on Club Q, an LGBTQ+ venue in Colorado Springs during a drag show, killing 5 people and leaving over 25 ...

A Bad Week To Be Gay

07 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

James and Dan reflect on the horrific attack on our community in Colorado Springs and discuss the England team's decision not to wear the 'One Love' a...

Santa Claus, The Serial Killer? with Mobeen Azhar

25 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How did a shopping mall Santa murder eight people before he was stopped? And what can the LGBTQ+ community learn from this case about how we treat eac...

Live in Birmingham with Eva Echo and Dan Tiernan

18 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The boys finally rock up in the home of metal and canals for a live show in front of a home crowd (for Dan) They are joined on stage by Eva Echo, Dire...

Open

02 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Is monogamy worth it or should we all just be open? If you're in an open relationship, does sleeping with other people make it more likely you’ll le...

Can anyone become an incel?

28 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In a ride of an episode, James is shocked to hear that Dan thinks he could have easily been radicalised as an incel. Plus, is there a ‘gay code’ t...

London Podcast Festival with Ki And Dee and Adam, The London Patient

21 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are nipples the clitoris of the boob? We're joined by TikTok icons Ki And Dee (Chiara Hunter and Diana Vickers) to find out. Plus James and Dan finall...

Live in Edinburgh with Myra Dubois and Jen Ives

14 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Our final and funniest show of the Edinburgh Fringe Festival 2022 😂. We've reached Peak Trans as we're joined by the hilarious Jen Ives... and nobo...

Live in Edinburgh with Jeena Bloom and Chloe Petts

07 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We're live in Edinburgh with LA Comedian Jeena Bloom and 'radical feminist, queer, football lad' Chloe Petts. Plus, 'Things Dan Cannot Say' returns wi...

The Monkeypox Outbreak with Martin Joseph

27 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

"They locked me in a room and called me from the other side, they didn't know what to do. Every time I asked someone 'What is gonna happen now?' They ...

Live in Edinburgh with Sikisa and Joseph Parsons

16 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

🎉 James and Dan are back at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival 2022. Dan has trouble finding the clitoris 👀 and we're joined by comedians Joseph Pars...

Dan For Hire

08 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It’s official! Soon you’ll be able to book Dan as a Jamie Dornan lookalike. Plus find out why James won't be winning an award for Best Poster at t...

Coming Out Out - A Gay and A NonGay's 300th Episode

25 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

A Gay And A NonGay is 300 episodes old... or thereabouts 😘. To celebrate, James, Dan and Drag Race royalty Scarlett Harlett help our listener Matt ...

LGBTQ+ Football with Ryan Atkin

14 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We've extended Pride Month for a special chat with The FA's first ever openly gay referee Ryan Atkin ⚽️🏳️‍🌈. We discuss Jake Daniels com...

Happy Pride! Acast's Audio Pride Parade

04 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Pride is a protest! LGBTQIA+ people face challenges and obstacles that heterosexual people don’t and today we proudly join podcasts all over the wor...

This Arab Is Queer with Elias Jashan

01 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

For Pride Month, the boys are joined by Elias Jashan, ‘Priti Patel’s worst nightmare’ and editor of the new Anthology This Arab Is Queer, the fi...

Why is Love Island So Straight? With Sharon Gaffka

24 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

As Pride Month continues, James and Dan battle logistical difficulties to welcome Love Island’s Sharon Gaffka, who came out as bisexual on the show ...

Ella Vaday

16 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

James and Dan are joined by West End icon and RuPaul’s Drag Race UK finalist Ella Vaday! Nick shares his coming out story, we talk life after Drag R...

Happily Ever Trans with Jake and Hannah Graf

11 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It's Pride Month and James and Dan are back with a whole host of fabulous guests. First up, Jake and Hannah Graf the UK’s first transgender parents...

Straight Jokes

02 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Burn the bridge Becky. People keep telling James he's "too gay". In this episode we hear about James' new stand up hour 'Straight Jokes' and his exper...

A Stand-Up Guy

20 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do all straight white men live in Kent? James thinks so 😝. Dan's learning stand up comedy and we reflect on his enormous success at the Shakespeare...

Diversity and Inclusion for Straight White Men

12 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Dan and James are joined by Suki Sandhu OBE. He's a CEO and author of the book, A Judgement-Free Guide to Diversity and Inclusion for Straight White ...

Dark Rooms in Deutschland

05 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

James and Dan are joined by multi-award winning film director Sebastian Meise to talk about his new film The Great Freedom. We learn all about the ...

Sex Tape

20 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Dan gives James his Christmas present... in April! James discovers the true meaning of Banoffee Pie, and the boys discuss Pam And Tommy. Get bonus c...

A Mother’s Love

13 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In memory of A Gay And A NonGay’s biggest fan. Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed Learn more about your ad choices. Vi...

Gay Happy

06 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

James wants to know if you can be gay and happy? Plus is it okay for LGBTQ+ people to work with organisations with a problematic past? Get bonus cont...

Chloe Moriondo has 'Straight Panic'

23 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

James and Dan welcome internet sensation Chloe Moriondo to our podcast 🐈. Chloe tells us about growing up queer on the internet, outing their frien...

'Heteronormative Hell'

10 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We've been nominated for a British LGBT Award! Vote now at www.gaynongay.com 🥇💗! Thank you so much, we love you! How do you balance your queern...

Kitty Scott-Claus

03 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

To celebrate 'Birmingham Day' (which may or may not be happening this year...) we welcome RuPaul's Drag Race UK superstar icon and ultimate hun Kitty ...

Fake Jamie Dornan

16 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Dan takes his delusion to a new low as he starts a career as a Jamie Dornan look-alike. Need a (supposed) Jamie Dornan lookalike for anything? Enquire...

LGBT History Month with Peter Tatchell

10 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In a very special extended episode for LGBT History Month, James and Dan are delighted and honoured to welcome the legendary British human rights camp...

Four Lives

03 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It's been a rough week for James as he discovers he’s been playing the wrong Wordle. We chat Grindr hook ups, the importance of our queer history an...

The Importance Of Pronouns

26 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

James responds to an article in The Mail On Sunday, which suggested a piece he wrote about pronouns was 'misleading'. For ad free episodes of our pod...

Pardon My Gay

19 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We discuss the UK government's pardon for historic same-sex convictions and talk about Priti Patel’s Anti-Refugee Bill. Plus James didn't think he n...

NonGay Resolutions

13 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It's our first studio episode of 2022! Will Dan stop saying 'whatnot' this year?! Can James stop sending Dan e-mails saying 'let me know?'. We're sett...

Be Our Guest 2021

05 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We're starting the New Year with major inspiration for 2022. Join us as we celebrate some of the most iconic voices from our podcast in the last 12 mo...

Christmas with Krystal Versace

22 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We're serving Krystal for Christmas! James & Dan welcome the winner of RuPaul's Drag Race UK Season 3, Krystal Versace! We find out how she first step...

A Gay Muslim's Journey to Acceptance with Mohsin Zaidi

16 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

James and Dan are joined by iconic barrister, speaker and author Mohsin Zaidi about his must read memoir A Dutiful Boy, A Memoir of A Gay Muslim’s ...

From Grindr to Grindcore

09 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Dan and James reflect on the release of their new BBC documentary ‘Sashay To Hell’ set at Bloodstock, the UK’s premier extreme metal festival. S...

Brandan Robertson the Tik-Tok Preacher

25 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're joined by the Reverend Brandon Robertson, writer, activist and preacher, who rose to fame during the pandemic as the TikTok Preacher. We’...

Bonus Episode: Sashay NonGay with Vanity Milan

23 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

It's another bonus episode featuring RuPaul's Drag Race UK's Vanity Milan. We find out why Vanity near quit the show, what the producers of RPDR UK c...

Josh Cavallo

17 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Dan doesn't do flowers or dead cats. James is celebrating Australian Footballer Josh Cavallo coming out and we find out what makes a gay wedding, gay....

It's Raining Them with Mila Jam

10 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

November is Transgender Awareness Month. Dan and James catch up with singer, songwriter, dancer, actress and LGBTQ+ activist Mila Jam. Today we find ...

Sashay NonGay with Scarlett Harlett

06 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Every town has one, Scarlett Harlett! It's another bonus episode of Sashay NonGay, our mini series featuring the fallen queens of Drag Race UK Season ...

Sashay NonGay with Choriza May & River Medway

02 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

SPOILERS! Sashay NonGay is back sweeties. River Medway officially launches Christmas for us, Choriza May discusses RuPaul's 'disrespectful' decision ...

Sashay NonGay with Charity Kase

28 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

It's another bonus episode of A Gay and A NonGay, featuring alternative drag royalty, Charity Kase! Charity talks about her shock sashay from the sho...

The Male Gaze

27 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We discuss the straight male gaze and James thinks Dan might be a pot calling the kettle black after his comments at our Big Gay Show. Support our po...

Billy Porter

20 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Theydies and Gentletheys, the icon, the moment, Billy Porter! Billy Porter joins us to chat about his new song Children, Unprotected: A Memoir and hi...

Sashay NonGay with Veronica Green & Victoria Scone

12 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Spoiler Alert. Today we welcome RuPaul's Drag Race Royalty, Veronica Green and the show's first ever AFAB Queen Victoria Scone. Veronica reveals that...

Bonus Episode: Sashay NonGay with Elektra Fence

05 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to another bonus episode of A Gay and A NonGay, The Sashay NonGay Podcast! This is your official SPOILER ALERT. Today we welcome Elektra Fenc...

Big Gay Show with Felicity Ward, Sophie Anderson & Vanessa Feltz

30 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This live recording of our podcast features extremely adult content. Finally! Felicity Ward, Sophie Anderson and as James puts it, 'the original Cock...

Bonus Episode: Sashay NonGay with Anubis Finch

28 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to a bonus episode of A Gay and A NonGay and the first EVER Sashay NonGay Podcast! Alongside your favourite straight man’s hilarious Ru-Cap...

Sober

23 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

James is navigating life without alcohol right now and the boys discuss Lil Nas X's masterpiece, Montero. If you'd like to chat non-drinking with us,...

First Comes Love with Tom Rasmussen

15 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Does getting married make LGBTQ+ people ‘normal?’ Is getting married selling out to the patriarchy and heteronormativity or it is an act of activi...

Straight Tax

01 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Dan is parading around as a Madonna expert and James is worried about getting trench foot. Plus, should straight people pay a tax to attend LGBTQ+ eve...

Vanessa Feltz

25 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Salutations... Today we welcome the icon, the myth, Lady Vanessa Feltz. See us live babes. We're playing Underbelly Festival London on Friday 10th Se...

Bonus Episode: Bloodstock

19 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Dan's taken James to Bloodstock Open Air, the UK's biggest Heavy Metal Festival. We’ve been working on a top-secret project and we can’t wait for ...

Michael Gunning

11 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're joined by British-Jamaican swimmer Michael Gunning. We chat about his journey as an openly gay member of Team Jamaica, Team LGBTQ+'s succe...

Glory holes and Sourdough

04 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Ringlight my Fire. James keeps sending ring lights to Dan. Meanwhile Dan's been busy telling everyone he’s not an LGBTQ+ ally?! Plus we discover tha...

Don't Tell Nikki's Mother

29 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

James and Dan are joined from Los Angeles by film executive, TV host & creator of the hilarious podcast Don't Tell My Mother, Nikki Levy. We hear the...

Bottoming

21 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Dan thinks he knows a thing or two about 'bottoming' 😂, and we welcome the return of an old friend, The Velvet Rage. Our Big Gay Live Show is comi...

Gay Spellings

14 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

James thinks this was the 'straightest' Pride Month yet? Meanwhile Dan has a revelation about his favourite Ace of Base song - and do gays deliberatel...

Pride Month with Tom Allen

30 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Dan and James are so excited to be joined by the hilarious Tom Allen. On the agenda - Why Tom is no longer waiting for the weather with Tomas Schafern...