A Gay and A NonGay
Episodes
10 Years Of A Gay and A NonGay: Jamie Dornan Reviews His 'Doppelgänger' Dan
31 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is a re-release celebrating a decade of love and allyship on A Gay And A NonGay. For our final throwback, we're revisiting a particularly memorab...
10 Years Of A Gay and A NonGay: Confessions Of A Gay Metal God with Rob Halford
29 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is a re-release celebrating a decade of love and allyship on A Gay And A NonGay. This week we're throwing it back to November 2020... On this ep...
10 Years Of A Gay and A NonGay: The London Patient: A Cure for HIV?
24 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is a re-release celebrating a decade of love and allyship on A Gay And A NonGay. This week we're throwing it back to May 2020... We've heard abo...
10 Years Of A Gay and A NonGay: Bring Your Own...
22 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is a re-release celebrating a decade of love and allyship on A Gay And A NonGay. This week we're throwing it back to November 2017... James has ...
10 Years Of A Gay and A NonGay: Say Yes To The Cross-Dress with Fat Mike of NOFX
17 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is a re-release celebrating a decade of love and allyship on A Gay And A NonGay. This week we're throwing it back to April 2021... Dan and James...
10 Years Of A Gay and A NonGay: COLIN STRIKES BACK
15 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is a re-release celebrating a decade of love and allyship on A Gay And A NonGay. This week we're throwing it back to April 2017... It's the podc...
10 Years Of A Gay and A NonGay: Let's Talk About Alice with Caroline Litman
10 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Trigger Warning: This episode contains multiple mentions of suicide and suicidal thoughts as well as themes that some listeners may find triggering. ...
10 Years Of A Gay and A NonGay: A Gay Muslim's Journey to Acceptance with Mohsin Zaidi
03 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is a re-release celebrating a decade of love and allyship on A Gay And A NonGay. This week we're throwing it back to December 2021... James an...
10 Years Of A Gay and A NonGay: Leaving the Westboro Baptist Church with Megan Phelps-Roper
26 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is a re-release celebrating a decade of love and allyship on A Gay And A NonGay. This week we're throwing it back to November 2019... The Westb...
10 Years Of A Gay and A NonGay: Chickens
19 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is a re-release celebrating a decade of love and allyship on A Gay And A NonGay. This week we're throwing it back to November 2015 to an episode ...
Live From The First-Ever Solihull Pride
13 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We’re heading to Solihull for a special episode of A Gay And A NonGay! Recorded just days before the first-ever Solihull Pride, Dan sits down with ...
Gogglebox, Gay Divorces and Going Kilimanjaro with Dan Lister
05 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are sitting down with the iconic Daniel Lustig-Webb, a familiar face from the hit show Gogglebox....
When Self-Love Becomes Too Much
29 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
James and Dan are back with another chaotic, hilarious episode of A Gay and A NonGay! This week, Dan’s lost his phone — and apparently his sanity...
The Curious Case of Gay Dave
22 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Dan and James are back with more A Gay And A NonGay for a wide-ranging conversation, starting with stereotypes! Is there such thing as a gay name and...
Straight Men Behaving Badly...
15 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Why is it that straight men can seemingly never behave themselves in public? That's the discussion on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay! James and D...
Pride, Refugees & The Politics Of Britishness
08 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're getting political on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay! Rylan’s controversial comments on immigration - the episode spirals into a fiery deb...
Sharing Your Location With A Partner? Think Again!
24 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're back with a new episode of A Gay And A NonGay! James and Dan are diving into the age-old relationship question: should you share your location w...
Is Liking Pop Music Performative?
10 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
James and Dan are back with another hilarious deep dive into gay and non-gay life! Kicking off with a listener question about what gay people really ...
Banning Songs At A Wedding?!
03 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
James & Dan's Webby Award has finally arrived... and it's going to cost HOW MUCH to get a second one!? They'll be sharing for now! On this episode of...
The Cost of Inauthenticity with Rich Clarke
27 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Get ready for a raw and honest conversation on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, as James & Dan are joined by broadcaster Rich Clarke to talk about ...
Regional Gays & Lavender Marriages
20 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're here for another Summer episode of A Gay And A NonGay. With James at Edinburgh Fringe, we're focusing on the really big questions in life... So...
Wearing A Rucksack With Both Straps
13 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We have our first guest-free episode of A Gay And A NonGay in ages! We're diving into everything from backpack etiquette to Oasis concerts. We kick o...
Why History Is Much More Gay Than You Think with Harry Tanner
06 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're diving in deep with historian and author Harry Tanner on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay! As a teenager, Harry was an evangelical Chr...
Everyone's A Little Self-Obsessed with Eurovision winner JJ
30 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We’re joined by Eurovision royalty on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay — the winner of the 2025 Eurovision Song Contest, JJ! Fresh from Vienna,...
Pride, Protest, and Politics with Eva Echo
23 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We have a record-breaker on the podcast this week! It's Eva Echo's third appearance on A Gay And A NonGay, which puts her in a class of her own! Eva ...
Staying Sober In The LGBTQ+ Community with Frankie Grande
16 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We have pop royalty on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay as James and Dan are joined by actor, singer and famous brother Frankie Grande! Frankie's n...
Why Do So Many Men Have No Mates? with Max Dickins
02 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are joined by author, comedian and honorary sixth straight guest, Max Dickins! Max opens up abou...
Fighting HIV Stigma with Richard Angell
25 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We’re joined by Richard Angell, OBE and Chief Executive of the Terrence Higgins Trust, on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay! The Terrence...
Love Yourself Before You Love Another
18 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you can't love yourself, how can you love anybody else? On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are diving into the importance of self...
What Is The Male Equivalent of Brunch? with Elf Lyons
11 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We’re joined by the award winning Elf Lyons on this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay! She has literally been listed as one of the 50 Funniest Co...
From Awards Ceremonies to Marathons!
04 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
On this week’s episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are having a long overdue catch-up to chat about the recent goings on in their lives. F...
Gay Bars, Ghosts & Politics with Jeremy Atherton Lin
21 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Gay love stories? We're here for them - especially when they speak to a broader message about the world we live in. Our guest on this episode of A Gay...
We Won A Webby Award!
14 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
SEE US LIVE! We're doing a live show at the Kings Head Theatre in London on May 23rd. Visit wizardradio.lnk.to/tickets for tickets n...
Letters To My Younger Queer Self with Daniel Harding
07 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you could tell your younger self anything... what would you say? That's the question that journalist Daniel Harding is answering with his new book...
Gay Love IRL vs Incest On The White Lotus
30 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Does gay love always need to be shown as a weird power play in the media? Well, when major TV shows like The White Lotus portray a major gay romance a...
If I Wasn't Gay... Who Would Appreciate This Bum?
16 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, we're talking about all things marriage! But, not how you would think... James & Dan are talking about ...
Is Laughter A Privilege?
09 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Can comedy ever be homophobic? Well, of course it can, but on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay we're talking about the complexities of making...
Resisting Moving Backwards with Divina de Campo
29 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
BFI Flare, London's LGBTQIA+ Film Festival, runs from 19th to 30th March. For more details, visit: https://whatson.bfi.org.uk/flare/ Thank you to our...
I Identify As Love with Toby Marlow and Lucy Moss
26 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're joined by the creators of two of the theatre world's most successful new musicals of recent years! Toby Marlow and Lucy Moss are the creative mi...
It's Not That We Don't Like You... Criticism Is Important!
19 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you know what a 'war pig' is? Dan's friend Olga thinks that James might! On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, we're talking all about cult...
Open Relationships, Egg Shortages and Adventures Abroad
12 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
It's another week of A Gay And A NonGay and we're got a bunch of catching up to do! James has just returned from Australia, whilst Dan has returned fr...
Let's Talk About Alice with Caroline Litman
05 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Trigger Warning: This episode contains multiple mentions of suicide and suicidal thoughts as well as themes that some listeners may find triggering. ...
Sex Positivity... Or Has It All Gone Too Far?
26 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
She's the name on everybody's lips... but what does the rise of Bonnie Blue tell us about societal double standards? In a society that is increasingly...
Revisiting Jack Rooke Live At Edinburgh Fringe
19 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're throwing it back this week on A Gay And A NonGay as we revisit James & Dan's episode with Jack Rook, from Channel 4's Big Boys. Recorded live at...
They're A Massive Gay! But What Does That Mean?
12 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Don't worry, we haven't just time travelled back to 2021! This week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay is recorded virtually... but Dan & James are still...
Can Straight Men Do Drag? with Holly Stars
05 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Drag queen, stand-up comic and author Holly Stars is this weeks guest on A Gay And A NonGay! Ever wondered what it takes to conquer the allusive world...
Who Should Propose? The Great Debate
29 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're talking all things marriage proposals and gay weddings on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay! So... who should propose? James and Dan are...
You Hear That? It's Straight Men Being Silent...
22 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Would you ever go gay for hay? Kicking off this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan consider whether pretending to be gay to secure a r...
Maybe God... Made Us This Way?
15 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This week is just a quick check-in with our A Gay And A NonGay community as James Barr has an announcement about down under (not like that!), James an...
Keighley Cougars: The Rainbow-Roaring Rugby Club with Ryan O’Neill & Kaue Garcia
08 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When Ryan O’Neill & Kaue Garcia bought their beloved local rugby club the Keighley Cougars in 2018, they never expected the backlash that would come...
What's Gay and What's Not?
01 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Happy New Year! We're kicking off 2025 how we meant to go on... with an insightful debate around the perceptions of behaviours and items labelled as '...
Elliot Page, Tia Kofi, Jamie Dornan + More! (Best of the Guests 2024)
25 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It's time! Christmas Day has come and we're serving you some of our finest moments from 2024... all in one neat package, waiting underneath the tree. ...
Christmas If You're Queer
20 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It's so nearly Christmas... but what does that mean if you're queer? On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are exploring issues ...
Ageing Twinks & Gay Cruises with Joe Sutherland
11 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you have an imagined feud with a celebrity? Well, this weeks guest certainly has a story to tell! James and Dan are joined by comedian Joe Sutherla...
Getting Into The Holiday Spirit!
04 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It's officially the holiday season and we're delving into some of our holiday traditions (and stresses) and how they differ between gays and, well, no...
Are Straight People A Hoax?
27 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you agree with Bob The Drag Queen that straight people are a hoax? On this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are unpicking the soc...
Feeling Like A Spare In Your Relationship?
20 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This episode isn't about that Prince Harry memoir - no, this week on A Gay And A NonGay we're talking about the concept of 'spares' in relationship. A...
Shoe Sizes, Bed Sharing & Overhead Lighting
13 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you know your shoe size? Well, before we start outrage... on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are tackling some of the top-...
The Triumphant Journey of Tia Kofi
06 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When it comes to the Drag world... you don't get much better than the current Queen of the Mothertucking World, Tia Kofi! Having recently won RuPaul's...
We're Award Winners! (And A Long Story)
30 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We're award winners! A Gay And A NonGay recently won the Independent Podcast Award for Best Sex, Love & Relationships and have been shortlisted at the...
Big Feet, Big... Energy?
23 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Pubs, they're a British institution. But, in this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are exploring the cultural differences between ga...
Traffic Cones On Your Head
16 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever put a traffic cone on your head? On this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay, we're starting off with a serious (not) debate about headw...
Humour Is A Great Form Of Therapy with Rob Madge
09 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We are joined by a modern-day icon of the theatre world on this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay! Rob Madge first rose to prominence as a child act...
What's Hair Dye Got To Do With It?
02 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Why do gay people always bang on about being themselves... and then die their hair? Homophobia to one side - on this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonG...
Are You More Than A Gay Best Friend?
25 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We're back with a new episode of A Gay And A NonGay and this week we're diving into the world of relationships - and all of the complexities that can ...
All It Was & All It Could Have Been
18 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Now that the Summer seems to be officially over (thanks, weather!), us here at A Gay And A NonGay HQ are reflecting on all it was, and all it could ha...
It's A Lesbian Renaissance with GIRLI
11 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
A Gay And A NonGay is officially back from the Summer break! And we're back with a bang as singer-songwriter GIRLI sits down with James & Dan to talk ...
From Queer Joy to Rage with Reuben Kaye
07 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Looking for unapologetic honesty? This weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay delivers exactly that as James and Dan are joined by Australian singer, wri...
Dating Whilst Discovering Yourself
31 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Following last weeks conversation about gay stereotypes, this week James and Dan are diving into another myth: that all gay people know each other! Hi...
Why Do Gays Dance Better? (& Other Stereotypes)
24 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
On this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay we're discussing two unavoidable questions that have been plaguing the community for years: the so-called ...
New York vs London Dating with Bright Light Bright Light
17 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We have a special guest on A Gay And A Non-Gay this week... it's 4x Top 20 charting artist Bright Light Bright Light! The Welsh-born, New York-based a...
Hell, Toes and Unasked Questions
10 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Talk about twists and turns... this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay spans spans from the afterlife to unexpected Grindr encounters in Bali. James ...
Failed Pop Stars & Dating Someone In The Closet
03 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Pride Month might have come to an end... but every month is Pride Month on this show! Looking back at this years Mighty Hoopla, James talks about the ...
How Do You Know... If You've Never Done It?
26 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week, James and Dan are tackling listener questions around challenging assumptions about sexuality. In this weeks "Non-Gays Can't Say", Josh from...
Why We Still Need Pride Month
19 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
With the pendulum swinging and violence towards the LGBTQ+ community on the rise, this week James and Dan are discussing why Pride Month is still so i...
When Did "Just Sex" Stop Being Enough?
12 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
James and Dan are back with a bonus Dear Queerdrie episode, answering a listener's question: when did 'just sex' stop being enough? Let us know what y...
Some Men In London: A Conversation with Peter Parker About Gay History
05 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Happy Pride Month! In this episode, James and Dan are in conversation with writer and historian Peter Parker to discuss his new anthology series Some ...
How To Find Gay Friends In Your 30s
29 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How do you go about making male gay friends as a man in your 30s? Are heterosexual people allowed to use terms like 'top/bottom' and 'pillow princess'...
A Conversation with Eurovision's 2024 Winner Nemo
22 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
James and Dan caught up with the winner of 2024 Eurovision, Nemo. They chat about how the winning single was created, what's the tea on the dropped tr...
Can identity exist without labels?
15 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
James and Dan use a previous listener dilemma as a starting point for a wider discussion around labels and identity. They also answer the question of ...
Is it toxic for gays to be anti-pride?
09 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Why are so many gays anti-pride? Is it internalised homophobia? Plus - are bisexuals just greedy? Dan ran the London Marathon in 3h 27! You can help ...
Is monogamy a hoax?
01 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
James and Dan react to RuPaul saying that monogamy is a hoax. Is there such thing as monogamy with men, and is it a different script for gays and nong...
Who Is Joel Creasey's Front Runner For Eurovision?
24 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ahead of Eurovision, and James co-hosting Denmark's official pre party Malmohagen, Australian comedian and actor Joel Creasey joins James and Dan on t...
Richard Gadd on Baby Reindeer (2019 Re-Release)
17 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Netflix's 'Baby Reindeer' creator Richard Gadd had a chat with James and Dan back in 2019 at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival when it was first performed...
Are 'TradWives' Progressive Or A Step Backwards?
10 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you seen the TradWives movement? What do you think? In this episode James and Dan explore whether coming out will always be 'a thing', the boom o...
Exploring Trans Love And Identity: 'Close To You' with Elliot Page & Dominic Savage
27 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
James and Dan share a deep conversation with Elliot Page and Dominic Savage, makers of the new film 'Close To You'. Sam (Elliot Page) has a chance enc...
I Had To Have Tea With His Mum On The First Date
20 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What would you do if you had to have tea with someone's mum on the first date? James and Dan are back and in this episode they explore whether online ...
Barbie needed The Gays
13 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Happy Ken Day! ... But where were the gays in Barbieland? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Crystal Hefner's Journey to Freedom: How to find strength after manipulation and control
06 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Crystal Hefner sheds light on her time at the infamous Playboy Mansion, from the glamour of the mansion to the shadows of manipulation, abuse and cont...
Do All Men Reply Like That...?
28 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself attractive? Would you put your honey where your mouth is and literally taste your own penis? James and Dan are back with a chat a...
Do Gay's Experience 'The Girlfriend Effect'?
21 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Is the "girlfriend effect" real? Do straight men suddenly get their act together because of their girlfriends? Plus James wants to know if it's okay t...
Crazy Celeb Rumours
15 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
James and Dan dive into the absurdity of rumors about Prince's alleged rib removal and an MP's peculiar habit. Plus what is docking? Learn more about...
Jamie Dornan Reviews His 'Doppelgänger' Dan
07 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It's finally happened. What does Jamie Dornan think of Dan moonlighting as a Jamie Dornan look alike? Jamie Dornan makes a surprise appearance to set...
I think I fancy my best friend
31 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
James and Dan are back and we're answering your questions. Today, a straight man in his thirties, finds himself grappling with unexpected emotions fo...
Queer Love and Loneliness: A Conversation with Andrew Haigh, Director of 'All of Us Strangers'
24 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
James and Dan sit down with acclaimed filmmaker Andrew Haigh to dive deep into his latest film, "All of Us Strangers." The movie explores the complexi...
Best of the Guests 2023
04 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Join James and Dan for a trip through some of their favourite interviews from 2023. Highlights include our chat with Eva Echo after she sued the NH...
DJ Fat Tony on addiction, recovery and how to finally find happiness
26 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Live at Cheerful Earful Festival Part 2. James Barr and Dan Hudson are joined by legendary DJ Fat Tony for an in-depth conversation about addiction, r...
Jamie Raines - Live at Cheerful Earful Festival Part 1
20 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In the first of two episodes recorded live at Cheerful Earful Festival in November, James Barr and Dan Hudson are joined by LGBTQ+ educator & YouTube...
The Aces
13 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
James and Dan are joined by Cristal and Alisa from The Aces. We’re going to talk about the new album, growing up in the Mormon Church and why they ...
Re-release: Our big gay show with Sophie Anderson
06 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Re-release: Our big gay show with Felicity Ward, Sophie Anderson and Vanessa Feltz. In light of the sad death of Sophie Anderson, this week there's an...