A Jaded Gay
Episodes
67. 303 Creative LLC v. Elenis
01 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Recently, conservatives have used the unrestricted exercise of religious freedom and freedom of speech to promote discriminatory beliefs and harmful i...
66. Shoot Your Shot on Archer (with Michael Kaye)
25 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
While most gay dating apps aim to connect LGBTQ+ people with their community, it can still be challenging to make genuine connections which can lead t...
65. Fire Island
18 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Just fifty miles east of Manhattan, Fire Island has been considered a gay village since the 1950s, with the stretch of land between Fire Island Pines ...
64. 40 Single Gay (with Jonathan Lee)
11 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
As gay men, we may experience complexities surrounding modern dating and societal pressures that often place unrealistic expectations of romantic and ...
63. The Stonewall Riots
27 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In 1960s New York City, gay men needed a safe space to socialize without being arrested, which resulted in many frequenting private bottle clubs, like...
62. Let Go of Your Religious Trauma (with Eric Feltes)
20 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Many gay men were taught that religion and sexuality are at odds with one another; either you're too gay to be religious, or you're too reli...
61. The Pulse Nightclub Shooting
13 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
During the early morning hours of Sunday, June 12, 2016, a gunman entered Pulse nightclub in Orlando, Florida, and opened fire on the crowd, who was c...
60. Is 30 Gay Death?
06 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Stereotypical gay culture has idolized youth, beauty, and sex, which has resulted in the concept of Gay Death, the all-too-popular myth that gay men h...
59. Say Bye Bye Bye to Bi Erasure (with Sam McClain)
30 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Despite the letter B in LGBTQ+, many people, both within and outside of the community, tend to discount the experiences of bisexual people. This ignor...
58. Gay Icons: Our Friend, Dorothy
23 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Previously, we discussed our iconic pop queens and how their songs typically fit into distinct categories that hit an emotional button that appeals to...
57. Protect LGBTQ+ Homeless Youth
16 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Being our authentic selves can be scary since many of us fear rejection—and for good reason. Family conflict and rejection is the main cause of LGBT...
56. LGBTQ+ Alcoholism
09 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
For many gay men, we struggle with minority stress and discrimination on a daily basis. Along with childhood trauma and gay shame, this adversity caus...
55. Gay for Pay: Should Straight Actors Play Queer Characters?
02 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve come a long way regarding LGBTQ+ media representation, with 92 LGBTQ+ characters appearing on scripted broadcast primetime programming for the...
54. Love in the Third Degree (with Eric Praniewicz)
25 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We live in a time when we don’t have to be confined to standard labels regarding gender, sexuality, and even relationship types. Regardless of wheth...
53. Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Gays
18 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In previous episodes, we talked about how gay men may struggle with perfectionism as a means to validate themselves and overcome their gay shame. As a...
52. Gayming: Level Up Your Sense of Community (with Jonathan Steele)
11 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In past episodes, we've talked about how it can be difficult for gay men to find a network of like-minded peers and the importance of finding you...
51. ACT UP: Silence = Death
04 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In 1981, reports of a “rare cancer” affecting homosexual men surfaced, which marks the start of the AIDS crisis. For years, those living with AIDS...
50. Self-Love Tough Love (with Tillie Lee)
28 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In past episodes, we've talked about how some gay men try to curate the illusion of a "perfect life" to compensate for feelings of sham...
49. Let's Shatter the LGBTQ+ Wage Gap
21 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
There is a longstanding stereotype that gay men have a disposable income to fund an extravagant lifestyle. However, recent data has found that there i...
48. Plant Gays and Mindfulness Lessons
14 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Over the past few years, there’s been an uptick in millennials’ obsession with houseplants. And with 10.5% of millennials identifying as being LGB...
47. Say Goodbye to Abandonment Issues
07 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
As gay men, many of us have feared being rejected by our friends and family as part of our coming out process. It’s no surprise that grappling with ...
46. Obergefell v. Hodges and the Ongoing Fight for Marriage Equality
28 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Correction: The U.S. Supreme Court's landmark decision for Obergefell v. Hodges came on June 26, 2015. It was incorrectly/accidentally stated as ...
45. Feeling Lonely in a Relationship? (with Jordan Nofziger)
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Many of us have experienced “gay loneliness” from growing up gay in a straight society. We can feel isolated from our straight peers and even memb...
44. Forget Valentine's Day
14 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It’s the most dreaded time of the year for single people.In this episode, we’re talking through the pressures of Valentine’s Day and how we can ...
43. Surviving a Breakup (with Sara Sabatino)
07 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In previous episodes, we discussed how being vulnerable in a relationship can trigger feelings of anxiety since it threatens longstanding psychologica...
42. Are You Emotionally Unavailable?
31 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Previously, we discussed how growing up gay can impact our attachment styles when it comes to dating. Unsurprisingly, gay men who were denied affectio...
41. Gay Icons: The Queen of Disco
24 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Previously, we discussed our iconic pop queens and how their songs typically fit into distinct categories that hit an emotional button that appeals to...
40. We Are Family: Part 2 (with Amy Loveless)
17 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Even though we may have had similar upbringings compared to our straight peers, members of the LGBTQ+ community still tend to carry trauma from growin...
39. We Are Family: Part 1 (with Michelle Loveless)
10 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Even though we may have had similar upbringings compared to our straight peers, members of the LGBTQ+ community still tend to carry trauma from growin...
38. Learning to Accept Kindness
03 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
As gay men, many of us have had to repress our authentic selves and hide our emotions because of negativity we may have experienced growing up differe...
37. Creating Your Own Closure
27 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
As we approach the end of another year, we may reflect on the past – from relationships to career pursuits to personal matters. And while we may loo...
36. Make the Yuletide (Movies) Gay
20 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In previous episodes, we discussed the importance of LGBTQ+ characters in TV and film and how being our authentic selves can manifest true representat...
35. Surviving the Holidays
13 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
While the holiday season is typically viewed as a joyful time, the pressure of gift-giving, traveling, and spending time with loved ones can cause str...
34. GBF: Gay Best Friend
06 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Since 1984, the gay best friend has been a staple character in movies and TV, often being portrayed as sexless and sassy. However, this stereotype—w...
33. Self-Deprecating Humor: Am I Crying or Laughing?
29 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
For gay men, humor has played a central role in their resiliency and helped get them through tough times. However, one form of humor, self-deprecating...
32. Gay Men and Body Obsession
22 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
From social media to cover models, society has an obsession with body image, which we all struggle with. But for gay men, our bodies tend to be object...
31. Gaydar
15 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The term gaydar, a colloquialism referring to the intuitive ability of a person to assess another’s sexual orientation, has been thrown around casua...
30. Gay Sex Education (or the Lack Thereof)
08 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In America, there has been a decrease in the number of teenagers who’ve received formalized sex education over the years. And for LGBTQ+ youth, incl...
29. Love Bombing
01 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
At the start of a romantic relationship, it’s exciting to receive positive affirmations and affection from your partner. However, if this affection ...
28. Gay Horror
25 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The history of horror goes back more than 250 years and has depicted queer themes since its origins. From Frankenstein to Freddy Krueger, horror has a...
27. Matthew Shepard
18 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On October 8, 1998, a 21-year-old college student was picked up from a gay bar, tortured, and murdered because of his sexuality in a state that had no...
26. Gay & Anxious
11 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Many of us grew up knowing we were different than our peers, feeling like being “other” and fearing rejection at an early age. Therefore, it’s n...
25. Gay Icons: My Name is Kylie
04 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Previously, we discussed our iconic pop queens and how their songs typically fit into distinct categories that hit an emotional button that appeals to...
24. Gay Villages: Won't You Be My Gaybor?
27 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It’s no secret that cities are typically more tolerant of the LGBTQ+ community, and a larger city allows for greater opportunities in general, as we...
23. Let's Talk About the F Word
20 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We’re all familiar with the F word (rhymes with maggot) and, unfortunately, we’ve probably been called it at some point in our lives. But where di...
22. Deeper and Deeper: Building Emotional Intimacy
13 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We previously talked about the concept of interpersonal vulnerability and why it can be harder for gay men to open up to a significant other. However,...
21. Supporting LGBTQ+ Ukrainians
06 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It’s been seven months since Russia invaded Ukraine, which has had global repercussions. However, an often-overlooked area of this tragic situation ...
20. Don't Say Gay
30 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This past spring, Florida made headlines for its Parental Rights in Education Act, informally referred to as the Don’t Say Gay bill. While this legi...
19. The Queer History of Disco
23 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In between the politics of the Stonewall Riots and the AIDS pandemic, disco emerged as a haven for gay men to escape the confines of heterosexuality.I...
18. Setting the Benchmark for Mr. Right
16 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
With all the shirtless, thirst pics on dating apps, it’s easy to get *ahem* distracted. But we must stay focused on attracting the right kinds of gu...
17. Mobsters & Mos: How the Mafia Owned Gay Nightlife
09 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In 1960s New York City, the Mafia needed a place to conduct business without police detection and gay men needed a safe space to socialize without bei...
16. Being an Ally (with Cheyenne Filipczyk)
02 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The word “ally” gets tossed around frequently, but what does it actually mean?In this episode, Cheyenne Filipczyk joins us to discuss what it mean...
15. Understanding Attachment Styles
26 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
John Bowlby’s attachment theory suggests that humans are born with a need to form a close emotional bond. For gay men, social stressors, such as dis...
14. The Ban on Gay Blood Donations
19 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Amidst the AIDS pandemic, the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) banned gay and bisexual men from ever being eligible to donate blood to protect peopl...
13. Perfectly Imperfect: Conquer Your Perfectionism
12 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Growing up in a heteronormative society, we may have learned to believe that our gay identity was a weakness. As a result, we’ve developed the need ...
12. Queer as Folk
05 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We previously talked about the importance of LGBTQ+ representation in TV and film and the “gay renaissance” of the 90s. While shows like Ellen and...
11. Overcoming Internalized Homophobia
28 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
No matter how long we’ve been out of the closet, many of us hold on to some of the antigay beliefs we were exposed to as children and turn that nega...
10. Out in the Workplace
21 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We spend approximately one-third of our lives at work, yet many of us struggle with being out in the workplace. And while many companies have tried to...
09. Corporate Greed & Rainbow Capitalism
14 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Every Pride, we see corporations proudly display their rainbow logos and merchandise…but what happens to all that on July 1?In this episode, we dive...
08. Finding Your Community
07 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Making new friends as an adult is difficult for anyone, but for gay men, it can be even harder to find a network of like-minded peers.In this episode,...
07. The History of Gay Representation in TV & Film
31 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve come a long way from the days of being portrayed on TV and in film as the sassy, sexless, gay best friend, but there are still improvements to...
06. Gay Panic Defense
24 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In a world where gay men already experience increased economic, emotional, and societal hardships, we are disproportionately affected by violent crime...
05. Interpersonal Vulnerability: Overcoming the Fear of Rejection
17 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
For years, most of us gay men have repressed our authentic selves and hidden our emotions. But when the time comes for us to form a romantic relations...
04. Pop Icons and Their Gay Emotional Appeal
10 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Why does it seem like pop icons have such an appeal to gay men? Are we simply drawn to the music, or is there a deeper emotional connection?In this ep...
03. Surviving Another Pandemic
03 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We’re more than two years into this COVID-19 pandemic, and minority communities, including the LGBTQ+ community, have been disproportionately affect...
02. From Codependency to No Dependency
26 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve talked about how gay men have a tendency to be emotionally detached due to trauma and shame. But what happens when we establish an intense rom...
01. Hello, Trauma. It's Me, Rob.
19 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Hello, podcasting world! Welcome to the first episode of A Jaded Gay, a podcast discussing pop culture, politics, and dating hardships, all through th...
Trailer
14 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Living in a world of fuckboys, homophobes, and inequalities can leave a gay feeling, well, jaded, so tune in for your weekly dose of gay empowerment. ...