In previous episodes, we talked about how gay men may struggle with perfectionism as a means to validate themselves and overcome their gay shame. As a result, it’s easy to compare ourselves to others and compete against other gay men instead of lifting our community up.In this episode, we’re talking about some of the reasons why gay men compete with one another, ways to stop comparing ourselves to others, and how we can better support our community instead of tearing each other down.Additional Resources:Social Comparison TheorySizing Up: When We Compete with Other Gay Men in Gay CommunitiesHow to Deal with Comparing Yourself to Another Gay?The Top 10 Reasons the Gay Community is so Competitive32. Gay Men and Body Obsession13. Perfectly Imperfect: Conquer Your Perfectionism10 Reasons Gay Men are Hyper Competitive42. Are You Emotionally Unavailable?Gay Men & Self-Perception Based on Grindr UseCouple CompetitionHow to Stop Comparing Yourself to OthersHow To Stop Comparing Yourself To OthersMatthew J. Dempsey on How Gay Men "Compare & Despair"Support the showGet Your Merch
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