A Jaded Gay
Episodes
167. Best of Guests 2025: Politico Edition
02 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
As we close out 2025, it’s hard to ignore this year’s political turmoil, with uncertainty about our future looming over us. With the holidays upon...
166. Confront Gay Ageism and Redefine Midlife (with Hunter Flournoy)
18 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In previous episodes, we’ve discussed how stereotypical gay culture has idolized youth, beauty, and sex. This fixation has led some gay men to equat...
165. Reclaiming Queer History: The Impact of LGBTQ+ Historical Fiction (with Jeza Belle)
04 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
LGBTQ+ history has long been overlooked, ignored, or actively erased, leaving us with only fragments of a past that deserves to be preserved and celeb...
164. Exploring Queer Identity Through Astrology (with Danny Santos)
21 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Previously, we discussed how some queer men find solace and empowerment in spiritual practices like astrology, which offers a means of self-discovery ...
163. Queer Belonging in the Digital Age (with Nick Paul)
07 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Social media has created vibrant online communities where LGBTQ+ people can connect, share experiences, and affirm their identities. Platforms like Ti...
162. Queer Beauty: Unfiltered (with Vincent Branchesi & Karim Fadel)
23 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Queer beauty celebrates self-expression, authenticity, and fluidity, challenging traditional beauty standards and embracing identities across the spec...
161. Queer Bodies: Navigating Illness, Identity, and Intimacy (with Mickie Kennedy)
09 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Societal pressure on men to appear tough and self-reliant can lead to the avoidance of medical care since vulnerability is wrongly equated with weakne...
160. Why Queer Bookstores Matter: Preserving LGBTQ+ Culture and Community (with Greg Newton & Donnie Jochum)
26 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Queer bookstores have long been more than just places to buy books, serving as cultural hubs, safe havens, and essential spaces for connection, repres...
159. Reclaim Your Queer Identity Through Self-Compassion (with Sam Fogarty)
19 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Many gay men grow up internalizing social norms that dictate how they should act, love, or present themselves—distorting their sense of self and mak...
158. Leaving a Narcissist (with Mack Ciccone)
12 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Previously, we explored the concept of love bombing, where one partner overwhelms the other with excessive affection and attention early in a relation...
157. Gay Icons: The Goddess of Pop
05 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Previously, we discussed our iconic pop queens and how their songs typically fit into distinct categories that hit an emotional button that appeals to...
156. Punchlines and Pride: Activism Through Queer Comedy (with Michael John Ciszewski)
24 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
For gay men, humor has long been a powerful tool for resilience, offering both a means of survival through marginalization and a way to reclaim joy an...
155. Queers in History: Pride, Resistance, and Fighting Erasure (with Keith Stern)
17 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We've previously explored how LGBTQ+ history has often been overlooked, ignored, or deliberately erased, demonstrating the importance of remember...
154. Pride and Protest: Defending LGBTQ+ Rights in a Shifting America (with Mari Nemec)
10 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The current state of LGBTQ+ rights and politics reflects both significant progress and mounting challenges, with ongoing debates over transgender righ...
153. Pride, Pleasure, and the Path to Healing (with Court Vox)
03 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
While Pride is often seen as a time for parades and rainbow flags, it can also be a reminder of the trauma, shame, and disconnection that many LGBTQ+ ...
152. Bratz to the Bone (with Chris Angelo)
27 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In previous episodes, we discussed how pop culture has long served as a powerful space for gay men to find representation, expression, and community, ...
151. Twink Death: RIP Skinny Jeans
20 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In recent years, "twink death"—the idea that a young, slim gay man loses social value as he ages out of the "twink" category—h...
150. Lights, Camera, Action: The Importance of Trans Voices in Media (with AJ Mattioli)
13 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In previous episodes, we explored how LGBTQ+ media representation has evolved significantly since the early days of cinema, shifting from largely nega...
149. Boats, Bears, and Building Community (with Chumley Singer)
06 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
LGBTQ+ individuals often navigate the diverse landscape of the queer community to forge connections that resonate with their identities, seeking space...
148. Ethical Non-Monogamy: Redefining Relationships (with Jeff Hudson)
29 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In a time when relationships are no longer confined to traditional labels, ethical non-monogamy allows gay individuals to build connections that align...
147. The Ultimate Guide to Gaycations (with Jason Heidemann)
22 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In previous episodes, we've explored the key themes of gay villages and how destinations like Fire Island and Provincetown serve as sanctuaries f...
146. The Velvet Rage
15 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Throughout many episodes, we’ve discussed how gay men continue to grapple with the shame they internalized as children growing up in a predominantly...
145. Resisting Erasure: Preserving LGBTQ+ History (with Michael Venturiello)
08 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In past episodes, we've explored pivotal moments in LGBTQ+ history that have often been overlooked or erased, highlighting why remembering our pa...
144. Bullies Beware: Confronting LGBTQ+ Bullying (with Mike Keller)
01 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The current landscape of LGBTQ+ bullying remains pervasive, especially in schools and online, where discrimination and harassment can have devastating...
143. Heal from Religious Trauma (with Ann Russo)
25 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
For gay men raised in religious environments, they often internalize harmful messages that condemn their sexual orientation, fostering a deep sense of...
142. Get Over Your Het Lag
18 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Het lag is a humorous term for the exhaustion and disorientation queer people experience after prolonged exposure to exclusively straight environments...
141. Queer All Year: 365 Days of Celebrating Pride (with Patrick Gevas)
11 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
While many people equate Pride to June, Pride events happen across the world throughout the year, amplifying the voices of the LGBTQ+ community. Given...
140. Calling All Allies: It’s Time to Step Up (with Greg Baird)
04 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
While many people support LGBTQ+ rights and equality, true allyship goes a step further by actively standing against discriminatory legislation and am...
139. You're Probably Gayish (with Mike Johnson & Kyle Getz)
25 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Gay stereotypes often arise from oversimplified and exaggerated portrayals in the media, which overlook the complexity of individual experiences and r...
138. Will & Grace
18 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve previously examined the history of gay representation in TV and film, tracing its evolution from early portrayals to groundbreaking moments li...
137. Who’s Your Daddy? (with Sal Zambito)
11 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The term "daddy" has been used as slang for over 300 years and was embraced by the gay community in the 1970s, particularly within the leath...
136. Closets & Cocktails: The Secret History of Gay Speakeasies (with Chris Holcombe)
04 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In previous episodes, we discussed how gay men often found refuge in mafia-owned private bottle clubs, where they could drink and socialize without th...
135. Don't Be A Mean Gay
28 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
While playful putdowns and throwing shade have long been a celebrated form of humor and bonding among gay men, they can sometimes perpetuate cliques, ...
134. A Message of Hope for the LGBTQ+ Community
21 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Following the harm inflicted on the LGBTQ+ community under the Trump administration from 2017-2021, including attacks on transgender rights and the ro...
133. Best of Guests (2024): Part 2
17 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As the end of the year approaches, it’s important to take a retrospective look to appreciate the challenges overcome, goals achieved, and lessons le...
132. Best of Guests (2024): Part 1
10 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As the end of the year approaches, it’s important to take a retrospective look to appreciate the challenges overcome, goals achieved, and lessons le...
131. Ringing in Controversy: The Salvation Army's Complicated Relationship with the LGBTQ+ Community
03 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Since 1865, the Salvation Army has provided social services, such as shelter, food, and rehabilitation programs, to people in need. While known for it...
130. Pride in Motion: Inclusive Fitness and Body-Positive Coaching (with Roy Belzer)
26 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In previous episodes, we’ve delved into the complex relationship gay men often have with body image shaped by societal expectations and stereotypes ...
129. The Gay Wellness Revolution (with Peter DeWitt)
19 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In most episodes, we often discuss how gay men face unique mental health challenges due to societal stigma, discrimination, and internalized stress, w...
128. Situationships: What's the Sitch?
12 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Situationships are undefined romantic or sexual relationships that lack clear commitment or future plans, often leading to ambiguous expectations betw...
127. Gay Icons: The Queen of Pop (with Stefan Mreczko)
05 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Previously, we discussed our iconic pop queens and how their songs typically fit into distinct categories that hit an emotional button that appeals to...
126. Gay of the Dead: Unleashing Queer Horror (with Sean Abley)
29 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In previous episodes, we explored how queer themes have been woven into horror for over 250 years, highlighting that the genre has always had an inher...
125. Bury Your Gays
22 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In previous episodes, we explored the history of gay representation in TV and film, touching on stereotypes and the challenges faced by queer creators...
124. Queer Frights & New Media: Horror Beyond the Screen (with Bobby Torrez)
15 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In previous episodes, we've explored how queer themes have been woven into horror for over 250 years, mirroring experiences of otherness, fear, a...
123. My Coming Out Story
08 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Coming out is a deeply personal and pivotal moment for LGBTQ+ individuals, encompassing the courageous act of sharing their authentic identity with ot...
122. A Queer Review of the Trump Administration (2017 – 2021)
01 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Presidential administrations significantly influence the well-being of the LGBTQ+ community through their policies on civil rights, healthcare, and an...
121. Unpack Your Gay Emotional Baggage (with Dr. Jason Durant)
24 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In numerous episodes, we’ve learned that gay men are more likely to struggle with mental health issues due to the trauma experienced from growing up...
120. Queer As In...
17 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Since the 1890s, the term queer was initially used as a derogatory slur against gay men until it was later reclaimed by the LGBTQ+ community as a symb...
119. Turning the Page on Queer Book Bans (with Alexander Rigby)
10 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In recent years, several states have enacted bans on queer books, citing unsubstantiated claims ranging from content deemed inappropriate to concerns ...
118. Heterosexism: Take Off the Straight Jacket
03 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Heterosexism is a system of attitudes, biases, and discrimination that privileges heterosexuality and marginalizes and oppresses LGBTQ+ people. This p...
117. Get Pop Cultured (with Carmine Davis)
27 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In previous episodes, we explored pop culture’s resonance with the LGBTQ+ community, serving as both a reflection of societal changes and a source o...
116. Rainbows Don’t Paint Themselves (with Jacoby Nordberg)
20 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Art has been a vital form of expression for queer people, providing a powerful platform to explore, celebrate, and communicate their identities, exper...
115. Spectrums of Pride (with Max Korten)
13 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
LGBTQ+ individuals often struggle to find their community and a place of support, encountering societal stigma and discrimination that can make it cha...
114. Provincetown
06 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Located at the northern tip of Cape Code in Massachusetts, Provincetown is a coastal town renowned for its vibrant arts scene and historic significanc...
113. Advocate Your Ass Off (with Anthony Munger)
30 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
LGBTQ+ advocacy dates back to early 20th-century efforts, such as the formation of the Society for Human Rights in 1924, and gained momentum with land...
112. Project 2025
23 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The Trump administration had a detrimental impact on LGBTQ+ rights by rolling back protections and supporting religious exemptions that allowed discri...
111. Opening Doors: Navigate the Real Estate Rainbow (with Ryan Windt)
16 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In today's challenging real estate market, aspiring home buyers grapple with rising prices, limited inventory, and intense competition, making th...
110. Where Have All the Rainbows Gone?
09 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
During Pride month, many corporations and "allies" enthusiastically showcase their support, donning rainbows and sponsoring LGBTQ+ events. B...
109. Queens Slayin', Haters Prayin': A Drag-tacular Showcase (with Bev, Philly’s Queen of Comedy)
02 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Throughout LGBTQ+ history, drag has held an essential role as a form of expression, resistance, and solidarity, offering a platform for self-discovery...
108. Celebrate Queer Joy
25 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Despite the rainbows and parades, Pride tends to remind the LGBTQ+ people of the systemic oppression queer communities have faced, highlighting the on...
107. Kiss & Release (with Anthony DiPietro)
18 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Poetry serves as a rich medium where the intersecting identities of gay men, encompassing aspects of sexuality, gender, race, class, and more, intertw...
106. Long Live Queer Nightlife (with Amin Ghaziani)
11 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In previous episodes, we discussed how the shifting dynamics of gayborhoods and dating app culture have impacted queer nightlife. While the closure of...
105. The Pride Divide (with Tyrell Brown)
04 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In previous episodes, we discussed the origins of Pride and the importance of continuing to stand up for equality. However, members of the LGBTQ+ comm...
104. The Castro Clone Wars
28 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Following the Stonewall Riots, San Francisco’s Castro District gained a reputation for its relative openness and soon emerged as a gay haven. During...
103. A Pulse Check on LGBTQ+ Healthcare (with Max Austin)
21 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Healthcare promotes the wellbeing of individuals and fosters societal resilience by addressing health challenges, preventing diseases, and providing e...
102. Let's Normalize Being Single and Happy
14 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Societal pressures surrounding marriage often fuel negative perceptions of being single, creating undue stress and stigma for those who haven't f...
101. Sci-Fi: The Future is Queer (with TQ Sims)
07 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Inclusive representation in various literary genres offers LGBTQ+ people a sense of visibility, validation, and connection as they see their experienc...
100. Best Little Boys in the World: It's Time to Grow Up
30 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Gay men often grapple with perfectionism, navigating societal expectations and internalized standards that can intensify the pursuit of an idealized s...
99. Coming Out Later in Life (with Kevin O’Connor)
23 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In previous episodes, we discussed the importance of coming out, which is a deeply personal and pivotal moment for LGBTQ+ individuals. And while livin...
98. Dear Netflix: Stop Cancelling Our Queer Shows
16 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today, authentic LGBTQ+ representation in TV is more important than ever since it reflects the community's diverse experiences, fosters a sense o...
97. Diversifying Queer Horror Cinema (with Jose Nateras)
09 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In previous episodes, we discussed the history of gay representation in TV and film and roadblocks LGBTQ+ actors encounter in Hollywood, with gay char...
96. Should You Swipe Left on Gay Dating Apps?
02 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
From early chatrooms of the 90s to geolocation apps in the 2010s, gay men have been considered to be early adopters of online dating. While today&apos...
95. Take a Page from #GayBookstagram (with Rod Lujano)
26 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Inclusive representation in literature offers LGBTQ+ people a sense of visibility, validation, and connection as they see their experiences authentica...
94. Girl, Please: Say No to People-Pleasing
19 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The fine line between genuine kindness and people-pleasing can pose a challenge, as the latter may lead to sacrificing one's own needs, compromis...
93. Unlock Financial Freedom (with David & John Auten-Schneider)
12 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In today's complex and rapidly changing landscape of economic uncertainty and unexpected global events, comprehensive financial planning is more ...
92. Metrosexual Madness
05 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The term "metrosexual" emerged in the mid-1990s, coined to describe a new wave of urban, fashion-forward men who embraced grooming, fashion,...
91. Fat and Fabulous: Embrace Body Positivity (with Matthew Simko)
27 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
For years, society’s sense of body image has been negatively affected by standards that often perpetuate unrealistic ideals and contribute to the pr...
90. The UpStairs Lounge Arson Attack
20 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
On Sunday, June 24, 1973, a gay bar in New Orleans was intentionally set ablaze, killing 32 people and injuring another 15. Fifty years later, despite...
89. Beyond the Brawn: Redefining Queer Masculinity (with Erick DuPree)
13 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Societal perceptions of masculinity are often rooted in traditional and restrictive norms, which can pressure gay men to conform to stereotypical idea...
88. Reparent Your Daddy Issues
06 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Daddy issues is a colloquial term often used to stigmatize psychological or emotional challenges that may arise in an individual's life due to a ...
87. Breaking the Binary (with Travis McMaster)
30 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Within the many letters of the LGBTQ+ spectrum, non-binary individuals embrace identities outside the traditional binary of male or female, challengin...
86. Turn Off Your Code-Switching
23 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Gay men sometimes shift between different modes of expression, including language, behavior, or mannerisms, to navigate between their authentic identi...
85. Boundaries: How to Understand and Set Them
16 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Boundaries are essential guidelines, defining the limits of acceptable behavior and establishing a framework of respect and mutual understanding. But ...
84. Best of Guests (So Far): Part 2
19 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Happy Holidays, my LGBTQuties! As the end of the year approaches, it’s important to take a retrospective look to appreciate the challenges overcome,...
83. Best of Guests (So Far): Part 1
12 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
As the end of the year approaches, it’s important to take a retrospective look to appreciate the challenges overcome, goals achieved, and lessons le...
82. Gay Gym Culture
14 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Gay men tend to grapple with complex feelings about body image, influenced by societal ideals that often emphasize a lean and muscular physique. As a ...
81. Are Mustaches Gay?
07 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The mustache has traversed centuries, evolving from a symbol of prestige in ancient civilizations to a statement of rebellion in modern counterculture...
80. Queer Haunts: Happy Halloween (with Ralph Anthony)
31 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Happy Halloween, my LGBTQuties! Previously, we discussed how queer themes have been depicted in horror for more than 250 years and that the genre has ...
79. Queer Mysticism: Gay Men & Spirituality
24 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Many gay men find solace and empowerment in spiritual practices like tarot, crystals, astrology, and witchcraft, as they offer a means of self-discove...
78. Ghosting
17 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ghosting has become an increasingly prevalent phenomenon in today's dating culture, reflecting a shift towards digital communication and a reluct...
77. Coming Out
10 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Coming out is a deeply personal and pivotal moment for LGBTQ+ individuals, encompassing the courageous act of sharing their authentic identity with ot...
76. Finally Free (with Seth Showalter)
03 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Conversion therapy is a discredited and harmful practice that attempts to change a person's sexual orientation or gender identity, often using ps...
75. Sunday Dinners, Moonshine and Men (with Tate Barkley)
26 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Previously, we discussed the complicated relationship gay men have with alcohol, which is shaped by diverse factors such as social acceptance, coping ...
74. Unmask Your Trust Issues
19 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Previously, we talked about how many gay men have grappled with the fear of rejection, which can result in struggling with intimacy, attachment, and e...
73. Brunch: The Most Important Gay Meal of the Day
12 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The stereotype of brunch being gay has emerged as a playful nod to the LGBTQ+ community's affinity for this leisurely meal. But, upon deeper exam...
72. Recovering from Recovery (with Adam Fitzgerald)
05 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Previously, we discussed the complicated relationship gay men have with alcohol, which is shaped by diverse factors such as social acceptance, coping ...
71. Queer Grief
29 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Grief is frequently associated with the LGBTQ+ experience, from fearing rejection to dealing with hate and living in constant terror of being in dange...
70. Good Grief: How to Cope with Loss
22 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve all experienced grief, that tender ache that lingers in our hearts following a loss. While the experience of coping with loss is crucial to ou...
69. That's So Gay (You Really Shouldn't Say That)
15 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
For decades, the phrase “That’s So Gay” has been tossed around carelessly to refer to things that are bad or undesirable. While many consider it...
68. Don't Conflate Infatuation with Love
08 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In the early stages of dating, it’s normal to feel butterflies and maybe even experience infatuation. But the intoxicating allure of infatuation can...