Throughout many episodes, we’ve discussed how gay men continue to grapple with the shame they internalized as children growing up in a predominantly straight society that often invalidated or condemned their identities. This lingering shame can evolve into deep-rooted trauma, affecting their self-worth, relationships, and overall mental well-being.In this episode, we're exploring the theme of gay identity development from Dr. Alan Downs’ groundbreaking book, The Velvet Rage, and unpacking his three-stage framework for emotional well-being to live more fulfilling lives as proud gay men.Related Episodes:Listen to Episode 01. Hello, Trauma. It's Me, Rob.Listen to Episode 13. Perfectly Imperfect: Conquer Your PerfectionismListen to Episode 15. Understanding Attachment StylesListen to Episode 42. Are You Emotionally Unavailable?Listen to Episode 47. Say Goodbye to Abandonment IssuesListen to Episode 86. Turn Off Your Code-SwitchingAdditional Resources:Read The Velvet RageAuthenticity Unmasked: Navigating Mental Health for Gay MenUnderstanding and Addressing Emotional Unavailability in Gay Men: Causes, Signs, and SolutionsPerfectly Imperfect: Understanding Perfectionism and Its Impact on Gay MenNavigating Love with Attachment Styles: Building Healthier Relationships for Gay MenUnderstanding Abandonment Issues in Gay Men: Navigating Fear of Rejection and Building Healthy RelationshipsSupport the showGet Your Merch

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