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AuDHD Expert: What Female AuDHD Really Feels Like, THIS Trait Makes You Vulnerable!
03 Mar 2026
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Chapter 1: What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
ADHD neurotype is different to pure ADHD and pure autism, but it overlaps with autistic girls and women's social communication patterns.
Chapter 2: What does AuDHD feel like for women?
We are driven to connect. It can come across as looking quite innocent, having dissonance about how people feel, what they tell you and what they really want. It's not that we do not sense it, it's that we sense so much.
Chapter 3: What is Dr. Samantha Hiew's personal journey with AuDHD?
Dr. Samantha Hu is a highly specialized female ADHD and autism expert with a PhD in medical science. She's here to give you a detailed crash course in ODHD and help you spot it. With ODHD, there is that heightened cue detection. The salience network trying to pick up stimuli from your environment.
But an ODHD-er who had been through trauma in their lives, that salience network then becomes a threat detection more than cue detection. How would you explain how it feels that might help somebody recognize it? First of all, if someone's thinking that they might be ODHD, I would... So sorry to interrupt your hyperfocus for 30 seconds, but you're going to want to hear this.
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How would you explain how it feels that might help somebody recognize it? Yeah, so first of all, if someone's thinking that they might be all DHD, I would question what brought them here. With all DHD, because of the co-occurrence of ADHD,
the ADHD traits and the autistic traits and I've spoken about this before in the last episodes where it is often a collision of the nervous system of wanting sameness and also craving freedom and you know adventure so for someone who is ADHD your life would look like
on any given day, maybe you just want things to stay the same, but then there's a part of you that really wants to do something new. And many people with this ADHD neurotype tend to end up in squiggly careers throughout their lives where it's like you have so many different hobbies and interests and jobs and maybe different relationships.
But yeah, definitely that wanting to chop and change just when things are good and stable and secure. I mean, that sounds like quite a confusing existence with so many different push and pulls and perhaps contradictions. Can that be quite a distressing experience for somebody living with that two opposing sides of their brain?
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Chapter 4: How can you identify AuDHD traits in women?
It is more distressing when we're in the middle of change or when we're at a place where we want change. Because it's when you feel like, you know, your life is stabilized and then all of a sudden you just don't want that anymore and you want something completely different. And often it is that middle place, you know, that people can feel destabilized and, you know, are looking for an anchor.
I said at the beginning, all the HD is such a big conversation within the community at the moment. And there are lots of people having conversations on it, which is brilliant.
Chapter 5: What challenges arise when partners don't understand AuDHD?
And I always like to bring the best, most credible people onto the podcast. Could you explain your qualifications to the people who are watching and listening?
Chapter 6: How can individuals advocate for themselves with AuDHD?
Yeah, so it's interesting because I mentioned a squiggly career. And if I were to bring the qualification that is relevant to this is that I have lived experience for 44 years going on 45 now. And I've lived with a brain that I didn't understand for decades.
Chapter 7: In what ways can Autism mask ADHD symptoms?
And it was only in my 40s when I was diagnosed that I... You know, I only began that excavation, but my career began in cancer research. I studied genes, molecular biology, biochemistry and cancer research. So I looked at how people's genes manifest into diseases and I culminated in a PhD in cancer research.
the age of 30 and then came out and swiftly landed in 16 different industries, one of which I told you about, which is in commercial modeling and acting. And for a really long time, I was really ashamed of it. And it was because I keep hearing from people who said to me, but you have a PhD, Sam, why are you doing modeling?
And I did it because part of it was because there was something inside me that really wanted to come out. You know, I wanted to express myself, you know, so much of my life was so inward and it was so contained.
Chapter 8: What practical hacks can help manage AuDHD challenges?
And also the other part was because I was a mom and being a freelance model was something that earned me better wage, you know, better rate, you know, at a more flexible timeline. And it was hard after I gave birth because I had a period of postnatal anxiety and really low, low mood and wondering who I am and what am I doing.
And I bring the science head and the heart of living as an ADHD to this. And I think that's what people resonate with. And you've clearly stuck at and done incredibly well in the field of neurodiversity and raising awareness about ADHD, I think predominantly, but now more so all-DHD.
What is it, do you think, about this particular topic that has maintained your attention or made you the most passionate that you've, I imagine, been about any of your different points in your squiggly career? Yeah, so the career really started from trying to figure out what happened to me and what happened to us.
That's why when I created ADHD Girls in 2021, it was very much to try and understand what ADHD looks like in women. Because what we have known is that the assessments that are done for ADHD and autism is very much gender bias. And because of my own cultural difference, I also noticed that some of the things that were...
you know tough for me was highly masked and I wasn't really able to relate to the diagnostic criteria which led to then also difficulty in getting my autism diagnosis which took me seven months you know to I was trying to convince them that I'm autistic
And the whole excavation into ADHD led me to then, you know, speak to the community and people were talking about what it's like to be autistic too. And I was like, oh my God, that's me. And they were saying how they could be quite blunt. in meetings, in workplaces. And I've offended my boss in my first week at work when I was working in Imperial College.
And he pulled me into a room after we had a meeting. And he said that the way I was challenging, the way things were done,
it's not how you do things here and it's like you don't talk to people who've been here for 20 years that way and I was like was I rude I didn't even know because all I really wanted to say was the truth and what I saw as the truth but to someone else it looks like I was this rude inexperienced person who came out from university well from academia and you know I've got to say the world of academia we're very much like secluded we're academics we look at books and
we don't communicate science very well, you know? So when I kind of went into communications doing that work, then yeah, people were shocked by the lack of social, you know, understanding. And yeah, so that brought me to really excavate into all the HD. And it was not only after I was denied an autism diagnosis three times that I've wondered what in the world is all the HD? Because it's,
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