14. QUICK RESET: I Cancel Plans Because I Don’t Have the Energy to Fake My Personality

This one is for the mums who cancel plans and then spiral into shame — not because you don’t care about your friends, but because you’re tired of becoming someone else just to belong. This Quick Reset goes straight into the emotional cost of masking, people-pleasing, and being ‘palatable’ in social spaces when you’re already running on empty. If you've ever ghosted a dinner invite because the idea of smiling through small talk made you feel sick — you're not rude. You're exhausted. And there’s a reason your nervous system taps out. We unpack the invisible work of shaping your personality around others, the aftermath of overthinking every interaction, and what it means to parent, mask, and still try to hold onto yourself. 🧠 What We Cover in This Episode: Are you antisocial — or socially exhausted? What ‘masking’ actually costs neurodivergent women Why even a quick coffee can feel like a performance review Patchwork identity and shape-shifting through a room The difference between safe friends vs. performance friends How playdates, school pickups, and small talk drain your nervous system Real life examples of emotional hangovers after 'being social' Reset strategies for identifying low-cost, low-mask relationships Why you don’t have to host, chat, or explain — and how to drop the guilt 💭 This episode is for you if:– You dread text replies or cancel plans last minute and don’t know why– You feel like friendship has become another task to survive– You’re tired of auto-correcting your personality to be liked– You want to create space for friendships that feel safe — not scripted 📚 Mentioned Resource:– A Guide to Navigating School Pick-Ups for ADHD Mums — includes scripts, social energy planning, neurodiverse/NT dynamics, and boundaries 🔗 Resources & Links: 📚 Reference:Price, D. (2022). Unmasking Autism: Discovering the New Faces of Neurodiversity. Harmony Books.• Join the Facebook community: ADHD Mums FB Group• More resources & tools: www.adhdmums.com.au/shop 🔁 SHARE THIS RESET:If this one hit hard, send it to a mum friend who’s also stuck in survival mode. Let her know: she’s not broken, she’s bracing. Other Quick Reset Episodes: S3E8 Advocating for Your Child Shouldn’t Break You — But It Often Does: Spotify | Apple Podcast S3E10 Why am I bracing for impact when nothing is wrong?: Spotify  |

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