After the Affair
Episodes
75. 8 Steps to Healing part 2: Rebuilding and Renewal
28 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this compelling continuation of our journey through healing, "8 Steps to Healing: Part 2 - Rebuilding and Renewal" takes us deeper into the transfo...
74. 8 Steps to Healing part 1: Laying the Foundations
21 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this first part of a two-episode series, I begin outlining the 8 steps I took to heal from betrayal and then dive deeper in to the first four cruci...
73. The Empathy Challenge: Conflict After Infidelity
14 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's episode of "After the Affair," with infidelity recovery expert, Luke Shillings. He dives deep into the heart of relational conflicts, e...
72. How to Get Over Your Ex: With Breakup Coach Dorothy
07 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with the renowned Breakup Coach, Dorothy AB Johnson, to tackle one of the most challenging journeys one can face...
71. Is Forgiveness Necessary? Can You Reconcile Without It?
31 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this insightful episode of "After the Affair," Join me Luke Shillings as I delve into the complex interplay between forgiveness and reconciliation ...
70. The 3rd Law of Conflict: Can Isaac Newton Help us Heal?
24 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this thought-provoking episode of 'After the Affair,' host Luke Shillings delves into the surprising parallels between Isaac Newton's Third Law of ...
69. Intimacy After Infidelity: Under the Sheets with Sex Expert, Lee-ann Cordingley
17 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Slide under the covers with me in this eye-opening episode of 'After the Affair', where I get intimate with the intricacies of reigniting the spark af...
68. Reward or Punishment: Rewriting Our Reward System After an Affair
10 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Join me, Luke Shillings in this eye-opening episode of the After the Affair podcast. Dive deep into the complexities of how betrayal in relationships ...
67. Facing Failure after Infidelity: Shifting the Narrative
03 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In "Facing Failure after Infidelity: Shifting the Narrative," Join me Luke Shillings as I explore the transformative journey of redefining failure in ...
66. Farewell 2023: A Year of Recovery, Resilience, and Reflection
27 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to a Special Year-End Episode of 'After the Affair' Podcast Join me, Luke Shillings, as I embark on a reflective journey through 2023, revisit...
65. Choice or Obligation: Should I stay or leave after the affair?
20 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
"Choice or Obligation: Should I Stay or Leave After the Affair?" explores the heart-wrenching decision-making process in the aftermath of infidelity. ...
64. Benefits of Healing from Infidelity
13 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We begin by exploring the importance of recognizing what's within our control and what isn't. This crucial step sets the foundation for healing, helpi...
63. What if it was me? Self-Reflection in the Wake of Betrayal
06 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Join me Luke Shillings in this thought-provoking episode of 'After the Affair', titled "What If It Was Me? Self-Reflection in the Wake of Betrayal." T...
62. Overcoming Thought Addiction after Betrayal
29 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this enlightening episode of "After the Affair," Join me Luke Shillings as I talk about 'Thought Addiction', something that many individuals face p...
61. Once a Cheater: Possibly a Keeper?
22 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
"Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?" Join me Luke Shillings as I challenge this oversimplified notion, bringing a nuanced perspective to the complex is...
60. Gaslighting an Affair? Take a look in the Mirror
15 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Join me in this enlightening episode of "After the Affair, where I delve into the often-overlooked phenomenon of self-gaslighting following infidelity...
59. Trust After Betrayal: Is There Hope?
08 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Explore the complex journey of rebuilding trust after the pain of infidelity in this insightful episode of 'After the Affair'. Join Luke Shillings, a ...
58. Why We Stray: Does Attachment Theory Explain the Unthinkable
01 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of 'After the Affair,' Join me Luke Shillings as I delve into the profound connection between attachment styles and infidelity. Disc...
After the Affair Podcast - What to expect.
01 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to the 'After the Affair' podcast trailer, your essential introduction to the gripping world of infidelity recovery and relationship rebuildin...
57. Between Culture & Infidelity - A Journey of Identity, Love and Self Discovery with Yasmin Majid
25 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of "After the Affair," Join me Luke Shillings as I sit down with guest Yasmin Majid as she shares her powerful story of love, resilien...
56. ’Humping’ After the Affair - Navigating the Emotional Terrain of Recovery
18 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this eye-opening episode of 'After the Affair,' I explore the challenging middle ground of the healing journey - affectionately coined as "Humping ...
55. The Invisible Weight - Societal Pressures after Betrayal
11 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of 'After the Affair,' I take a look at the societal pressures that shape how we cope, react, and even move forward. While the emotion...
54. Divorce after Betrayal - Expert Perspectives with Charlotte Tweed
04 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of "After the Affair," host Luke Shillings interviews Charlotte Tweed, a family divorce solicitor, about her personal experience with ...
53. Betrayed and Doomed - Spot the Signs and Know When to Walk
27 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this eye-opening episode of 'After the Affair,' join me Luke Shillings, as I identify the key elements of a Doomed Relationship ... What to look ou...
52. Ignoring Red Flags - The Guilt of Not Acting Sooner
20 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are you carrying the heavy burden of guilt after discovering your partner's affair, wondering why you didn't act sooner on those red flags? In this ...
51. Parenting Through Infidelity with Ben Pugh
13 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Joining us today is my guest, Ben Pugh, who during the course of conversations shares his background and insights on how parents can better support th...
50. Dating After the Affair
06 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this 50th episode of "After the Affair," I take a look at the complexities of reentering the dating scene after experiencing betrayal. It's unchart...
49. A Choice No One Talks About: Are you Volunteering to be a Victim?
30 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode of 'After the Affair,' I uncover the often unspoken but pervasive issue that many betrayed partners grapple with: the Victim Mental...
48. Motivating Change: Faust Ruggiero’s Guide for Professional Self-Help
23 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of "After the Affair," host I am joined by guest Faust Ruggiero to discuss the importance of accountability and personal growth after ...
47. Understanding Cheaters
16 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I try to get a better understanding of those who cheat and how it affects the healing process after betrayal. Join me Luke Shillings ...
46. From Struggle to Triumph - Heather O’Connor’s Tale of Reinvention after Divorce
09 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of After the Affair, join me Luke Shillings as I welcome divorce and custody attorney Heather O'Connor to share her personal journey a...
45. Affair Partners - The bad smell that just won’t leave
02 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Stuck with the stench of your ex's lover? In this controversial episode of 'After the Affair,' I dive into the dirty laundry and explore how to cleans...
44. Redefining Masculinity with Jennifer Jehl
26 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of After the Affair, I'm joined by Jennifer Jehl. Jenn helps men create next-level confidence by discovering their deepest selves in o...
43. Solitude - Working alone, Healing together
19 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's episode, I look into the intricate ways people process emotions, influenced by their unique experiences, upbringing, and societal expec...
42. Pivot after Infidelity with Furkhan Dandia
12 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I have the pleasure of speaking with Furkhan Dandia. Furkhan is a therapist, author, speaker and coach. After going through adversit...
41. The Aftermath - How to deal with Sudden Change
05 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In the latest episode of "The After the Affair", join me as I navigate the treacherous waters of sudden change post-infidelity. This change can leave ...
40. Looking Inside with Jen Frey
28 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When we see things that aren't right in our relationships and have no idea how to fix them ... the easiest thing to do is look around and see what eve...
39. Unveiling EmpathMe - The Dark Side of Self-Empathy
21 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In the aftermath of an affair, the path to healing is often paved with self-reflection and inner exploration. Join me as I delve into the depths of wh...
38. Breakthrough Conversations with Diana Maria Indries
14 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this captivating podcast episode, join me for a breakthrough conversation with the brilliant creator behind the relationship card game, 'Better Top...
37. Identity - Who Am I Now?
07 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Explore the intricate layers of personal identity in this captivating episode of "Identity - Who am I now?" Join me as I navigate the complex interpla...
36. Couples Retreat - With Tamika Carlton
31 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Join me in a fascinating discussion with Tamika Carlton about what Data Tells Us About Couples Retreats & Why It Matters (aka what happens when scienc...
35. Reject Compromise - Rethinking Resolution in Relationships
23 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Reject Compromise: Rethinking Resolution in Relationships challenges conventional wisdom around conflict resolution, focusing specifically on the conc...
34. Resentment Reboot - Trust yourself after Betrayal
17 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Resentment and bitterness are common feelings after you have been betrayed. They are easy to justify and really seem to help alleviate all responsibil...
33. Forgiveness with Nicole Harvick - The Quantum Energy Healer
10 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Join me in this episode as I explore the lesser-known world of Quantum Energy Healing with Forgiveness expert, Nicole Harvick. She believes all healin...
32. Through the Lens of Negativity
03 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When you have witnessed behaviour in your partner that you don't like, how regularly do you use that as a template to judge many of their future behav...
31. The Role of Self-Awareness after Infidelity
26 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Taking responsibility is a message we hear more and more, but where do we start? In this episode, I look at some of the methods I have used persona...
30. The Tech Trap - How Infidelity is being facilitated by Technology
19 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Join me whilst I delve into the dark side of technology and its impact on infidelity. With the rise of social media, dating apps, and messaging platfo...
29. The Truth behind Unconditional Love
12 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Feeling love towards others is a choice that we often overlook. Choosing negative thoughts and emotions towards people who do not meet our expectation...
28. Breaking the Cycle
06 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore the common cycles of pain and mistrust that often accompany healing from infidelity. Cycles and patterns show up in many di...
27. Redefining Self Worth - A candid conversation with David Redbord
29 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I sit down with David Redbord, a self-worth expert, to discuss how to redefine self-worth and cultivate a healthy sense of self-estee...
26. Secrets of an Infidelity Coach
22 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's episode, I delve into the secrets of being an infidelity coach and how I help couples and individuals navigate the aftermath of betraya...
25. The Power of Limerence
15 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
'Limerence' to infidelity, is like 'Furlough' was to Covid. A word that most people had never heard of, before being unwillingly forced into the situa...
24. Jealousy Unmasked
08 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
'Jealousy Unmasked' explores the topic of jealousy in relationships (Including post infidelity). I discuss common sources of jealousy, how it can mani...
23. The Danger of People Pleasing
01 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you have ever found yourself saying 'yes', when you meant 'no' .... then this episode is a must listen! People pleasing shows up in many relatio...
22. The Blame Shame Game
22 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Healing from an affair is complicated. One often overlooked part of the healing process is understanding the effects that blame and shame have recover...
21. Why People Cheat
15 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wondered why people choose to be unfaithful. What makes betrayal so difficult to resist? Learn some of the reasons in this episode and as always,...
20. How to handle any problem.
08 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Learn how I handle any problem, and how you can do the same. To find out more, grab a drink and pop your headphones on! To subscribe to my weekly ma...
19. Confidence After Infidelity
01 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Infidelity can have a major and lasting effect on confidence. Do you understand the difference between confidence and self-confidence? Today I will ex...
18. Road to Forgiveness
25 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The road to forgiveness is a challenging journey, but it is one well worth taking. There are many misconceptions that say we shouldn't let them off ...
17. It’s all Lies
18 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Lies form a very real part of the world we live in. From the innocent white lies we tell our children, to the scandals in government, and everything i...
16. Best way to Heal
11 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
There are lots of ways people choose or recommend as the way to heal from betrayal but that raises a question ... Is there a 'Best way to heal' from i...
15.The Motivational Triad
04 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Happy New Year! Let's make 2023 the turning point in your recovery. Today's episode is all about the Motivational Triad. This is the human need to;...
14. Put it to Work
21 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Come on, admit it. We are all guilty for consuming a great piece of advice, reading and inspirational quote in a magazine or learning that new techniq...
13. Know Your Boundaries
14 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What boundaries do you have in your relationships? Have you ever intentionally set a boundary? What is expected of other people who infringe on your e...
12. The Rulebook
07 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Following on from last weeks episode I explore the list of rules that we have for our partners. How they are something that we don't even notice yet t...
11. Rose Tinted Glassed or Not
02 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We all see the world through a different lens. Sometimes it's easy to use the analogy of Rose-Tinted Glasses where you only see the positives, this wo...
10. When Things Seemed Fine
23 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
For episode 10, we're doing something a little different. Whatever it is that you are going through, whatever stage of recovery you are at, there...
9. Rebuild Trust
16 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Such a common question after infidelity, how do I rebuild trust? How can I ever trust again? I could talk about this subject for hours but I've kept ...
8. Choosing to Stay
09 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
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7. Don’t Mention the ’F’ Word
02 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Feelings! It's all about feelings. Feelings/emotions are the fuel for everything we do. In this episode you'll learn what feelings are, why they ...
6. Unexpected Guilt
26 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When betrayal happens, it's common to assume that guilt is only experienced on the side of the unfaithful partner. Further into the healing process ho...
5. When Words Ignite
19 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Are you are trying to heal from infidelity? But no matter how hard you try, every discussion is like setting off a firework! Then this episode is for ...
4. The Truth
12 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Truth, True and Fact ... are these the same things? In today's episode I'll explore my thoughts around how they affect the experiences we have within ...
3. Misjudging Others
07 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I'm discussing the common ways we misinterpret each other, in particular within relationships. This stemmed from a recent conversatio...
2. Letting Go
03 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I am exploring the concept of letting go of the outcome. This is an important part of the healing process from infidelity. When your p...
1. Consider This
02 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Join me in this first episode to discover a little about me, but more importantly an exploration into my thoughts and insights into the world of infid...