Chapter 1: What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
Hi everybody and welcome to the show. Happy Friday. We have a lot to discuss today. I didn't know what I was going to talk about on today's show. And then I started getting a bunch of videos of all these single women who are like, I am done with men. I don't want to date men anymore. You guys are soft.
Chapter 2: Why are young women declaring they are done with men?
You do this, you do that. It's not worth it. And I figured this might be the conversation for today. A lot of young women are saying they are done with men, they're not dating anymore, and they're happy doing so. So I was questioning, you know, we talk a lot about the male loneliness epidemic in this country, in the West in general. Is there a female loneliness epidemic?
Are women just fine not dating, being single, not having a man? And I want to make this a very interactive live today. I want to see from you guys in the comments what you feel about this, especially if you're a man who's out there experiencing women like this. If you're a woman who is sitting in this mindset right now, I want to hear from you. I've been like calling my man.
I've been calling my single friends, trying to get little touch points for today's conversation. I'm in a different season of life, y'all. Let me stand up. Boom. Okay, you see the bump, bump check. Okay, I'm in a different season of life than this conversation. So I think I'm a little bit outside the bounds when it comes to what I'm hearing.
But I'm going to try from a female perspective to get into this with you guys.
Chapter 3: Is there a female loneliness epidemic similar to the male one?
And I want to see what you have to say. And we are going to go through your comments and listen to you guys. Now, here's some of the videos that sparked my interest in this conversation. Let's get straight into it.
So we'll start with you, Diamond. Why do you have no desire to date?
Men are exhausting. OK, I agree. I don't know if it's like the fact that men and women are just pulling so far apart from each other now. But like there's no like common ground with men these days. I feel like every conversation I have with a guy, we're about to argue over something that's really not that deep. You know what I mean? We just don't see eye to eye. And I don't need the stress.
You know what I mean? Just go away.
Chapter 4: What are the perspectives of women on being single forever?
Leave me alone. Also, men feel like you have to prove something to them because the internet has made them feel as if they're the prize by themselves. It's just like, can you cook? Can you? We all need to be able to feed ourselves.
Wait, hold on. A guy has actually asked you if you can cook.
Are you...
absolutely can you cook i'm like can you change a tire do you know how to change the toilet seat if it starts to fall off what are you talking about okay there we have take number one basically she's saying that men are not worth the investment they're asking you what you bring to the table they're bringing nothing to the table i'm going to give you guys some counter points to this by looking in the comments now jake the crusader says these women are mean masculine and manipulative but
We normal men are not too fond of these traits. And I see this said by men quite a bit. Here's another one from Pentair who says, we have to do everything, but we're exhausting? LOL. So there's a lot of back and forth. between men and women on these issues. I hear from a lot of women that they're saying, I bring a lot to the table. I bring a lot to the table financially.
I bring a lot to the table with education, with the things that I'm capable of doing, with how I'm capable of taking care of myself, with my emotional intelligence. And men are just not bringing the same to the table. I wonder if you guys actually believe that or if they're just maybe waiting for
You know, and there are men out there who I think are capable of meeting the needs I've seen from some experts. They're basically saying that women are lapping men as far as finances and education. And we know historically and well, in the modern sense that women like to date across and up when it comes to finding a male counterpart.
So if you're outpacing men financially and if you're outpacing them with education and you're looking across and up, there's not going to be much to look for with certain men. And it seems a lot of women are going for a particular type of guy and all the rest of the other men are maybe getting left behind in the conversation. Is that the experience that some of you are having?
Because I'm going through this. And I'm getting video after video after video of, I'd say, 20 to 35 women saying what's out there is just not for me. This is not going to work. I can't find somebody who is worthy of being in a relationship with me. And I have to wonder whether or not That's actually true.
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Chapter 5: How do modern dating expectations affect relationships?
They're literally not going out to meet women whatsoever. And I'm thinking, how do we solve this? How do we solve this? Somebody says here... Wait, you guys are dating? See, and that seems to be a general sentiment. Some people are just absolutely giving up. Today, we're talking about a more modern woman.
I would say probably a more feminism-centered woman, although I'll share some stories outside of that as well. I'm going to get into our next video here.
So guys, I've literally just deconstructed patriarchy. This is a very recent revelation for me. I mostly started recognizing that dudes were god-awful in today's dating realm because obviously I've had dating experiences that have gone south and I realized after enough times of going through the same horrible fucking shit from men just putting me through the goddamn ringer
It takes enough times for you to eventually just be like, okay, I am not the problem. Because as women, we internalize that, right? And women around us internalize that for us. Or if they don't internalize it for us, they project onto us that it's somehow our fault that our dating lives are not going well.
Whether it's telling you to pick better, whether it's telling you that you're not doing the right things, like you have to heal your attachment style or you have to keep him on his toes or whatever, whatever fucking dating advice is out there to convince the girl to act a different way. And that's what's going to get the guy to treat you right. Like somehow it's always your fault as the woman.
I have to pause here. If somebody is telling you, and if the people close to you are telling you, I'm talking friends, family, peers, and they're telling you you're bad at choosing men, you might just be bad at choosing men. And I know some women wanna flip it over on men and say, well, I wouldn't be bad at choosing men if there weren't so many bad men out there.
But I think there is a certain type of woman that gravitates towards a choice that is not going to work for her. Instead of recognizing that pattern through pattern recognition and trying to change that pattern, they just fall into the same cycle over and over again. And it's maybe time if everybody, including your friends and family are telling you you're choosing the wrong man,
Maybe it's time to start blaming yourself and not blaming men. I have a feeling I'm just going to be flip-flopping on a ton of different perspectives here because there are some genuinely just like not great men out there who I guess are approaching women, giving them a bad time, and there's room to talk about that.
But if you are consistently running into the same problem, dating the same type of guy, he has the same issue for you every time, You might be the common denominator. You just might be. Okay. And I think a lot of women today want to act like they understand men and they don't. Instead of admitting, I don't understand men. And I'm trying to like get a grasp on this.
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Chapter 6: What role does social media play in dating dynamics?
What's weird is I've gotten to this point in my life where the options are limitless. Like, if I wanted to have a boyfriend right now, I could. If I wanted to get a husband and get married right now, I could. Start a family, do the whole shebang, I could. But the idea of even wanting someone to be that close to me anymore sounds truly exhausting.
And I've never looked at love as exhausting or a waste of time. But I've gotten to this point in my life where I'm pretty much settled in how I feel that the only thing I'm constantly worried about is how I can make more money on my own and give myself a life, not ever wanting to rely on someone else to give me that life.
Okay. So we heard a lot of different points there. One that has been echoed in the chat, I feel like social media is undermining Western civilization. This seems to be a big part of this conversation. Social media and the sort of globalization of so-called connection has made us feel like we are connected to a ton of different options online.
all at any singular point and that they're all viable options rather than this sort of fleeting connection that social media actually is. A lot of people are reporting burnout with things like social media and dating apps to the tune of what I think 70 to 80% right now are saying that dating apps and social media used for dating is making them feel wholly burned out.
And that is a lot of the driving force behind how people are meeting right now through dating apps. On top of that, she's echoed the point that she is financially stable. She's educationally stable. And she's doing that for herself. So why does she need a man? And a lot of people, I think, would answer back to that and say, well, you want a companion. You want emotional support.
You want somebody to go through life with. You want somebody to lift a lot of that burden with you because that's what life is about. And women are retorting back, I can't find a man who has that. the emotional capacity and the maturity to carry any of that weight with me.
In fact, I called a couple of my single friends before I did this because I'm like, I need a little bit of a recap on why you guys feel like you're single, how you feel about the prospect of being single forever. Now, they both said to me, that they are fine being single forever. I don't think either of them wants to be single forever, but they're willing to accept that reality.
And they say that so far their experience with men has been one that sort of coincides with feeling exhausted. feeling like they have a lot of value to bring to the table and the men are not balancing out that value, that they're not making their lives easier and that they don't have the emotional maturity or acuity to stay in a relationship. One of them said they're trying to drag
feelings and emotion out of these men. And then they're doing that to no avail. So I'm curious how men feel about that take, because I can see a lot of different perspectives here. I've heard a lot of men say that men are soft right now. And the fact that men are soft is why men or women are not interested in them. They really don't want a soft man, even though they're saying that they do.
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Chapter 7: How are men responding to the changing expectations of women?
So why is it that the two parts don't seem to be meeting? Is there a lack of effort being put in? Have people just by and large given up? I will say there's a lot of men in the chat right now saying they can't put up with these women. that these women are not soft, that they are not feminine, that they do not treat them well.
As we said before earlier in the show, that they are super masculine and sometimes mean, and that's what they're struggling with. And let's see, here's one who says, I think a lot of guys are tired, don't care, or are exhausted. And I guess it's really hit or miss what you're going to experience out there if you're going to talk to women or try to engage with them.
I'm going to show you a video right now that sort of exemplifies that. And I watch something like this and I go, well, this has got to be the experience of a lot of men. And you guys will let me know in the chat if that's true.
Guys, I have noticed my man-hating reach new depths as of late. yesterday I was walking and this guy steps inside steps out of his car and he goes are you single and I'm like what I said I saw that he said the lean in me so what like super annoyed like that he's like are you single and I was like ew and I literally went like that and he goes you don't have to be mad
Cause it's just like, why would you approach a woman like that? You don't know her. You don't say hi. You don't introduce yourself. You don't say anything. Are you single bitch? Are you dumb? Okay. There's that. And then lately I'm like, I want no male followers. Like I, when I post a picture of me at the gym or something, I'm doing that for the girls and I'm doing it most importantly for myself.
When a guy likes it, I swear to God, I go to his page and I block him. Me when I lie. I don't even want you to perceive me in my body. Me when I lie. Don't. Don't do it. And then if a guy follows me, I just go to his page and I remove him as a follower.
It's so interesting. So she's saying, I really hate men. A man approached her and just asked if she's single. She goes, what? And goes off on this man, which is an interesting response. And you'd think some people would be like, well, you can just calm down and answer the question and go on about our day. It's not the best approach from a man, but I could see...
With a lot of single men out there, you do approach a woman and it's immediately, I have a boyfriend, no matter what you say. And you're getting shot down and being told to leave them alone. So coming up and cold approaching and asking, are you single, might be something that you've sort of just trained your brain to do.
Because why move forward with the conversation if she's going to shut you down and say that she's single? she's not. So I can have compassion for that question and walking up in that way. But my goodness, to have this sort of a strong reaction to a guy asking that, a little strange, no?
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Chapter 8: What challenges do men face in dating today?
And this sort of brawn versus emotion, the ethos and the logos, back and forth, you know. And Women do, I think, assume that emotional intelligence in a man is going to show up in the same way that emotional intelligence shows up in a woman.
And they're expecting men to communicate like women do rather than having some sort of thing in the middle where we translate for each other what we mean through our different spaces of communication. And whilst many women will say they understand men, I don't know that that's
necessarily true and the same for men who say they understand women i think we at some point have to accept that our communication styles are very different the way we socialize is very different and instead of asking men to act like women we need to accept men for the way in which they act and communicate and find the best man who's communicating like a man
not the best man who can communicate like a woman. Because now the men who are out there, oops, I just dropped my chair, being successful out there in like the dating world or whatever are ones who are mimicking female behavior. And I see it a lot. They're like, wearing feminist t-shirts and painting their nails and talking in a very feminine way, I think to disarm women around them.
And they're finding success at least momentarily because women go, oh my gosh, he's emotionally intelligent and he's communicating in a way that I understand. But in the long run,
These men are like either manipulative or women end up being unattracted to this very feminine man who's sitting across from them, who maybe initially had some attraction because of the way he approached and how emotionally intelligent it seemed. But it's not that women really want that in the long run. I'd be curious to hear your opinions on that.
Okay. I don't have nothing to look forward to no more. when it comes to relationships. And I don't care when people are like, oh, you're being dramatic. I don't want to date anymore. I'm probably never going to date anybody seriously again. I'm probably never going to be in a serious relationship again. I just realized that men, y'all don't like women. Y'all don't like black women.
Y'all only like us when we're naive, when we're not taking care of ourselves, when we're not loving ourselves, when we're not understanding what our worth is, we, as women, we're doomed. We're doomed. And I'm at a point right now where either you get with the program or you stay in denial.
And I'm at a point right now where I'm just going to get with the program because let's not sit here and act like that I want to find true love. I want to find my person. I'm going to be in a happy, healthy relationship. It's not going to happen. It's not going to happen because if we're being honest,
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