A findom is a dominatrix that hits you where it hurts most-- your bank account. If this sounds like a made up fetish or something highly unethical, it's actually neither. Mistress Harley, otherwise known as the Techdomme, is a high-profile findom. She's appeared on The Doctors and profiled in The Washington Post, Engadget, and more. During this fascinating conversation Mistress Harley demystifies financial domination. We talk about how she obtains consent, why her services are similar to a personal trainer, how she uses technology to take control of devices and accounts, and why this is a legitimate fetish like any other form of extreme psychological edge play. She also walks us through the ethics of some of her more controversial scenes like homewrecking and medical castration. We even explore the psychology behind findom-- why people eroticize money, how playing out this fetish helps people work through the negative effects of patriarchy (regardless of their gender), and more. ____________________________________ Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to [email protected] To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you'll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com Join our mailing list by texting MEGATRON to 444999 Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 68 Links Mistress Harley's Website https://www.mistressharley.com/ Mistress Harley's Twitter https://twitter.com/Techdomme Mistress Harley's Music https://www.techdommehiphop.com/ Mistress Harely's Instagram https://www.instagram.com/techdomme/ Who was Fakir Musafar? https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/13/obituaries/fakir-musafar-whose-body-play-went-to-extremes-dies-at-87.html Sunny Megatron Instagram (please help us get to 10k to unlock more business features!) http://instagram.com/sunnymegatron Submit your 69 sex position related questions, thoughts & stories for our 69th episode to [email protected] or comment on our reddit thread: American Sex Podcast new subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast Cale Storer for jingles/music [email protected] (creator of our Patreon theme music) Whispered True Stories Podcast https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/whispered-true-stories/id1437927544?mt=2 Episode 68 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info Enter to win a We-Vibe Discover Gift Box & other goodies valued at $350 from babeland.com by filling out our Pleasure Podcasts listener survey. Winner will be randomly drawn the last week of December. Good luck! http://bit.ly/americansexsurvey Sunny & Ken's classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 15% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyearlytobed

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