47 - Breaking Free from the Blame Game

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.When things go wrong, it’s tempting to point the finger — at your partner, your boss, even your kids. But blame doesn’t solve problems; it creates distance. In this powerful episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores "The Blame Game" — a hidden habit that damages relationships and keeps us stuck in conflict. With help from AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah, Alastair unpacks why we blame, how it affects those around us and what you can do instead to build understanding and connection.Key Takeaways:-Blame is a defence mechanism: It often shows up automatically to protect our ego from discomfort, but it only deepens disconnection.-Awareness is the first step: Simply noticing when you’re blaming — even in your own mind — opens the door to a different response.-Own your part: Taking responsibility for your contribution, no matter how small, shifts you from victim mode into growth and empowerment.-Practice empathy over accusation: Asking “Why might they be acting this way?” builds understanding and defuses conflict.-Let go of “shoulds”: Rigid thinking about how things should have gone only fuels resentment. Focus on what can be done now.-Communicate to connect: Use “I” statements, listen actively, and validate feelings to create safer, more productive conversations.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

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