Anger Management

68 - Why Defensiveness Is Wrecking Your Relationship

15 Feb 2026

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For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever been in a calm conversation that suddenly turns tense before you even realise what happened? In this powerful episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores why defensiveness shows up so fast, how it quietly wrecks conversations and what you can do to stop it before conflict takes over.Through a practical, real-world deep dive with AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah, you’ll learn how defensiveness isn’t a character flaw. It’s a reflex. And more importantly, how small, intentional shifts can transform arguments into moments of connection.Key Takeaways:Defensiveness is a reflex, not a flaw — it’s your nervous system trying to protect you.Awareness is the first breakthrough: noticing physical cues like a tight jaw, racing thoughts, or chest tension gives you a chance to interrupt the reaction.A three-second internal pause can stop conversations from collapsing into blame and escalation.Partial responsibility — acknowledging even one valid point — helps the other person feel heard and instantly lowers conflict.Empathy changes everything: most arguments aren’t about dishes, money, or timing — they’re about unmet emotional needs.Long-term change happens when couples address communication patterns together, outside the heat of the moment.If defensiveness has been sabotaging your conversations, especially with the people you care about most, this episode gives you practical tools you can start using immediately. Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking the Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

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3ª PARTE | 17 DIC 2025 | EL PARTIDAZO DE COPE

13:00H | 21 DIC 2025 | Fin de Semana

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13:00H | 20 DIC 2025 | Fin de Semana

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