168: From Anxious to Unbothered
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What is the Unbothered movement and why is it appearing on morning TV?
Hello, it looks like Unbothered has become an actual living real life on the TV movement. What we created here, ladies and some gentlemen, has become a thing that exists outside what we do here, and that is blowing my mind. If you are watching this, I will play you the video of me going on morning TV talking about unbothered, the book and our unbothered movement. And if you're listening, then you can listen to it. It's only a few minutes clip, but I will let it roll right now.
With three million followers plus a hit book and podcast, Margarita Nazarenko is the online life coach helping people flip much needed emotional switches to create a better mindset. Her latest viral tactic is mastering the art of becoming unbothered with her book offering a clear and compassionate roadmap to choosing peace over potential. Oh, let's get into this. Margarina Nazarenko joins us live in the studio. Hello. Hello, hello. Hello, unbothered person. Why do you think women in particular put so much pressure on themselves to try and have everything under control?
Well, I certainly wasn't unbothered my whole life. I was very bothered, very anxious about what people thought and I found that a lot of women feel the same. They wanna perform their best at work, be the best mum, look the best, exercise. They're waking up at five AM, they're so highly strong and over functioning, but they're not happy. And so they kind of found me and together we created the unbothered movement and now the book and now all these millions that apparently I have that I
don't Okay, so a new book is called Unbothered. Great title, great name for a movement. But what does it look like in real life, being unbothered?
Being unbothered in real life means focusing on what you can control, focusing on yourself and letting go of things that you can't control and understanding that the best outcomes is from detachment from the things that you can't control.
Mm. Okay, so I get that as a concept. Yes. But help us give us some steps to how we can actually make that happen. Okay. So
step number one, it's very important. You sit down and you go, what can I control? If I can't control what someone thinks about me, if I can't control what someone's going to say about me, or the outcome of things, I just let it go. It's not in my wheelhouse, okay? Step number two is stop personalizing everything. You think that someone at work rolled their eyes at you or your husband didn't unload the dishwasher like that on purpose. It's not about you, it's just who he is. Let it go. And breathe. And number three, this is my favorite, and that is build a bigger life. I find that people who are very bothered have their eggs in one basket. So one relationship or one man they're chasing or one thing. If you have a bigger life or a bigger purpose or a goal, like writing a book, you start being you stop being bothered about all the things around that really don't matter, like people's opinions.
You you're big on boundaries. We talk about a that a lot in these equations, right? Why is it so important?
Because if you don't have boundaries, you're going to burn out. And in this day and age of over functioning, our phones always pinging, everyone online has opinions about us. If you don't put boundaries in place, you will be a very frazzled, depleted version of yourself. And we can't have that. Mm.
No no. Okay, so help us put the boundaries in place. You've got something called the three C's.
The three C's. Three
simple C's. Yes.
Three simple C's, it's in the book. So the first one is you need to be clear about your boundaries. You're not going to s nag, you're not going to say a hundred things that you want. One clear boundary. For example, I'd like to see you every week when you're dating someone. Um calm, you can't shout it. You can't be unhinged about it. I know we want to, but you've got to be calm. And last but not least, consistent. If they break that boundary, that's it. There's going to be consequences. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, it's kind of like parenting, really.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What is the Unbothered movement and why is it appearing on morning TV?
0:08–4:03
2
How does Margarita define being ‘unbothered’ in everyday life?
4:03–8:06
3
What practical steps does she recommend for gaining true detachment?
8:06–12:29
4
Why are clear, consistent boundaries essential for staying unbothered?
12:29–18:07
5
Who are the two fictional characters in the book and what do they illustrate?
18:07–25:21
6
How did recording the audiobook with a newborn change the process?
25:21–29:03
7
What are the upcoming plans for the US book launch and travel?
29:03–30:03
8
What final advice does Margarita give listeners who want to become unbothered?
30:03–30:28
Speakers
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