Co-Host Cyndi Olin (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/cyndiolin) My long-time friend and erstwhile co-host for Dogs And Cats On Clubhouse is back, this time talking about a topic in one of her newsletters that caught my attention. She started talking about "shape shifters" in the dating world. Now, I realized up front she wasn't talking about "deer ladies" or something out there. This had to be figurative. So I had to have her on the show to unpack all of this. Well, for starters, things begin to go awry when we try to be someone we're not specifically to try to impress someone in particular. Then, we get generic dating or relationship advice that's allegedly "one size fits all" and we try to shoehorn it into what may be a rather unique situation...yet we're surprised when we get nowhere with it. So what's the deal here? Is it that we all have pretty much gotten really good at being politicians? And what's more, how are we supposed to make a woman feel safe and secure (and therefore attracted) if she can't even decipher who we really are? And the real fun starts when we talk about "shape shifting shadow dancing". What mental tricks do we play on ourselves when we believe all women must have impeccable social skills? And why is shape shifting actually harder and more complicated than going about dating and relating the right way? In the end, shape shifting is just another fear-based habit based on a fear-based mindset. So how do you escape it and approach radial authenticity instead? Get in on the free newsletter, check out my Substack and more at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

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