Ever felt like you want a connection, but the thought of one more person touching you makes your skin crawl?You’re not cold. You’re not broken. You might just be touched out.In this episode, Chelsea and Mike dig into what’s really happening when physical affection feels like too much, especially in the postpartum season. Using Polyvagal Theory as a framework, they explore how your nervous system responds to chronic stress, the mental load, and overstimulation.They talk about:Why being touched out is not just a mom thing (though it hits moms hard)The science behind why your body says “no” even when your heart says “yes”How to recognize when your nervous system is in shutdown or high alertThe power of co-regulation (and why it’s more effective than just pushing through)Tools that help you reconnect even if you only have five minutesThis isn’t about fixing your partner. It’s about understanding yourself, offering compassion, and having new language to break old cycles.Want to dive deeper into the science?👉 Link to Dr. Sarah’s podcast with Dr. Stephen Porges's teamReady for simple ways to rebuild connection at home?👉 Link to the Reconnection Kit for CouplesCurious about the card deck we mentioned?👉 Link to Love Lingual CardsThis episode is for anyone who’s ever felt close, but also miles apart, and wants a better way back to each other.

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