“Let’s just figure it all out right now…”You’ve said it. Or your partner has. And before you know it, it’s 10:30pm, you’re in survival mode, and the ‘solution’ turns into another fight.In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, Chelsea and Mike get honest about why trying to fix your relationship during fight-or-flight doesn’t work and what to do instead.You’ll learn:What happens in your brain and body during conflictWhy “just talking it out” often backfiresThe neuroscience behind repair and regulationHow to pause a fight without ignoring itTools you can use to come back together in a healthier, more connected wayThis is the next step after last week’s viral episode on feeling touched out. Together, they unpack what stress really does to our relationships and how to build safety, repair, and teamwork in the hard moments.“You can’t fix a relationship in fight-or-flight. But you can come back stronger.”🎧 Missed last week’s episode? Listen to: ⁠Touched Out: What Your Nervous System Is Trying to Tell You⁠🔄 Reconnection Kit for Couples: ⁠Download Here⁠💬 Work with Chelsea & Mike: ⁠Coaching Options⁠References:Gottman Institute: Physiological Self-Soothing During ConflictNIH Study: Stress and Marital CommunicationKeywords:fight or flight in relationshipsrelationship repair after conflictnervous system and conflict resolutionpostpartum relationship strugglesco-regulation for coupleshow to stop fighting with your partnerstress and communication in marriageparenting and relationship stressemotional disconnection in relationshipsnervous system dysregulation and intimacy

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