240: Making and Keeping Agreements with Martha Kauppi

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes back guest Martha Kauppi for a vibrant discussion on the art of making and keeping agreements in relationships. They explore the importance of having explicit conversations to establish trust and understanding between partners. Topics include identifying when and what types of agreements should be made, the significance of revisiting and renegotiating agreements, and developing the skills needed to navigate these discussions constructively. The episode also delves into distinctive challenges faced by both monogamous and polyamorous couples, providing insights into maintaining integrity and trust. Listeners are guided on how to uphold agreements effectively and the potential pitfalls of inadequate or overly detailed agreements.00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast00:51 The Importance of Agreements in Relationships03:29 Common Areas Requiring Agreements07:20 Revisiting and Keeping Agreements11:15 The Skills for Making Good Agreements22:31 Trust Building Through Transparent Agreements24:10 Mid-Episode Break: Resources for Desire Discrepancy25:04 Revisiting Agreements: The Importance of Flexibility25:13 Experimentation in Agreement Making26:27 The Collaborative Nature of Agreements26:54 Understanding Your Partner's Needs28:32 Building Trust Through Hard Conversations30:14 Monogamous vs. Polyamorous Agreements33:17 Avoiding Pitfalls in Agreement Making39:17 The Consequences of Breaking Agreements40:50 When Agreements Become Deal Breakers48:35 Resources for Better RelationshipsWant access to the secret podcasts regarding desire discrepancy?Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastBio:Martha Kauppi is a marriage and family therapist, educator, author, speaker, and AASECT-certified sex therapist and supervisor. She has a lifelong career in health and sexuality, and is a senior trainer of the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy. Martha trains therapists all over the world to work more effectively with relational intimacy challenges and sex issues. She is the author of Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients).Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.More info and resources:Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcastSecret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcastHow Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.comThe Course – https://www.intimacywithease.comThe Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.comAccess the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

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