Beyond Your Number

Subtype Layers: Types 3 and 4

17 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We are officially off the rails. Kelly is campaigning hard for “baby AI” versions of us. After we recover, we get back to what actually matters: s...

Cake & Subtypes: The 3 Layers of Enneagram 1s and 2s

10 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Beyond Your Number, Damon and Kelly head into the Enneagram “bakery” and build out the full three-layer cake of subtypes for Ty...

Enneagram Subtypes 401: Self-Preservation (Types 7, 8, 9)

03 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Damon and Kelly wrap up the self preservation section of the subtype series with Types 7, 8, and 9. They break down core motives, how self preservatio...

Gratitude Practice for Every Enneagram Type (1–9) (Classic Replay)

28 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This classic Beyond Your Number replay walks through all nine Enneagram types. For each number, we name what we’re grateful for, then give one pract...

Enneagram Subtypes 401: Self-Preservation (Types 4, 5, and 6 phobic vs. counterphobic)

19 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we continue our Enneagram subtype series and unpack the Self-Preservation instinct for Types 4, 5, and 6. Kelly explains how SP Fours pursue uni...

Enneagram Subtypes 401: Self-Preservation (Types 1–3)

12 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Kelly and Damon wade into the deep end of subtypes starting with the self-preservation (SP) instinct for Types 1, 2, and 3. You’ll learn how SP shap...

Enneagram Subtypes 401: The 27 Instincts & Your Three-Layer Cake

05 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Kelly and Damon kick off a brand-new series on Enneagram subtypes, the instinctual variants that turn 9 core types into 27 flavors. This is the deep ...

Lost in Translation: What Type 9 Hears When You Say “Be Assertive”

29 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Kelly and Damon unpack how a Type 9 processes “Be assertive” and why it can feel like a threat to calm rather than an invitation to contribute. To...

Lost in Translation: What a Type 8 hears when you say “Calm down.”

22 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When you tell an Eight “calm down,” they often hear “you’re too much,” “you’re out of control,” or “I’m censoring you.” In this...

Lost in Translation: What a Type 7 Hears When You Say “Be Serious.”

15 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week we unpack Enneagram Sevens, the joy-bringers who can feel shut down when they hear, “Can you just be serious?” Kelly explains how that l...

Lost in Translation: What Type 6's hear when you say "Don’t worry about it".

08 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Damon & Kelly break down how well-meant reassurances land for Enneagram Sixes (The Loyalists). When you say “Don’t worry” or “It’s fine,...

Lost in Translation: Type 5 “We Need to Talk”. Without the Ambush!”

01 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Type Fives value space, clarity, and time to think, so “We need to talk” can sound like “prepare to be emotionally mugged.” In this Lost in Tr...

Lost in Translation: What Type 4 Hears in Your Silence

24 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Beyond Your Number, Damon and Kelly unpack how silence, quick responses, or even well-intentioned pauses can land painfully with a ...

Lost in Translation: What Type 3's Actually Hear

17 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Threes often hear praise like “you’ve got it all together” as “you’re a fraud.” In this episode, Damon and Kelly unpack how seemingly harm...

Lost in Translation: How to Say “No”, without wounding a Type 2

10 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’re back from break and digging into Type 2 (The Helper) in our Lost in Translation series. What you mean as a simple boundary,“Thanks, I’m go...

Classic Replay: Understanding the Enneagram Triads (Gut, Heart, Head)

03 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’re dipping back into the archive with a foundation episode on the Triads—Gut (8-9-1), Heart (2-3-4), and Head (5-6-7). Damon and Kelly break d...

Classic Replay: Unlocking the Harmony Triads

27 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we’re revisiting a deep-dive conversation from our Enneagram U days, all about the Harmony Triads.Damon and Kelly unpack this advanced Enneagr...

Classic Replay: What Really Motivates Each Enneagram Type

20 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

While we take a short break from our Lost in Translation series, we’re re-releasing one of our most loved episodes: Motivations.In this conversation...

Lost in Translation: How to Speak So a Type 1 Truly Hears You

13 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’re kicking off our new Lost in Translation series, all about how what you say isn’t always what the other person hears. This week, we focus on...

Speaking vs. Listening: The Roles That Make or Break Conflict Conversations

07 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever tried to resolve a conflict only to end up in a verbal boxing match? This week, Damon and Kelly wrap up their 4-part conflict series by exploring...

The Self-Regulation Path: How to Calm Down Before Conflict Blows Up

30 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is the third in our conflict mini-series, if you missed the last two, definitely go back and catch them! Two weeks ago, we walked through...

What Gets in the Way of Healthy Conflict (And How to Spot It)

23 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Last week, we laid out a six-step process for navigating conflict, but let’s be honest, sometimes the real struggle is what happens before the steps...

Constructive Conflict: Turning Differences into Connection

16 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Conflict doesn’t have to mean shouting matches or broken relationships.This week on Beyond Your Number, Damon and Kelly dive into a topic that touch...

How to Speak a Type 9’s Language (And Why “Sure” Isn’t Always Yes)

09 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve made it to the end of our Enneagram communication series—and it’s Damon’s turn in the hot seat as we talk all things Type 9!In this epis...

How to Speak a Type 7’s Language (And Say ‘Wow’ Before ‘How’)

02 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Double-booked calendars, fast-talking optimism, and more ideas than minutes in the day…welcome to the world of the Enneagram 7!In this (slightly tur...

How to Speak a Type 8’s Language (Without Getting Run Over)

25 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What’s it like to talk with a Type 8? Passionate. Direct. Powerful. And sometimes, intense. In this episode, Kelly shares from her own experience as...

How to Speak a Type 5’s Language (Without Forcing Small Talk)

18 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Type Fives are thoughtful, observant, and incredibly insightful—if you give them the space to speak. In this episode, Damon and Kelly unpack how Fiv...

How to Speak a Type 2’s Language (Without Losing Yourself in the Process)

11 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How do you talk with someone who’s always giving, always helping, and always putting others first? In this episode, Damon and Kelly dive into the wa...

How to Speak a Type 6’s Language (Without Spinning Out with Them)

04 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How does an Enneagram Six communicate? In this episode, Damon and Kelly explore the loyal, thoughtful, and cautious communication style of Sixes — a...

How to Speak a Type 3’s Language (Without Judging the Hustle)

28 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How does an Enneagram Type 3 communicate — and what’s really going on beneath the polish? In this episode, Damon and Kelly dive into the world of ...

How to Speak a Type 4’s Language (Without Getting Too Deep Too Fast)

21 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How does an Enneagram Four communicate? In this episode, Damon and Kelly explore the creative, emotional, and deeply authentic style of Fours — and ...

Ep 100: How Each Type Handles Change — and What We’re Changing Too

14 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How do you respond to change? In our 100th episode, we explore how each Enneagram type handles change — from resistance to adventure — and why it ...

How to Speak a Type 1’s Language (Without Getting Frustrated)

07 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of EnneagramU, we explore how different Enneagram types communicate, focusing specifically on Type 1. We discuss the strengths and cha...

Using ChatGPT and Marvel Heroes to Discover Your Enneagram Type (Part 2)

30 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Last time, we used ChatGPT and Marvel characters to guess Blake’s Enneagram type. This time, he took the official WEPSS test — and the result was ...

Using ChatGPT and Marvel Heroes to Discover Your Enneagram Type (Part 1)

23 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week on EnneagramU, we embark on a unique journey of self-discovery with special guest Blake Fontinel, as he takes a Marvel-Themed CHATGPT Enneag...

The Path from False Self to True Self: Exploring Types 7, 8, and 9

16 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week we explored the true self and false self of Enneagram types 7, 8, and 9. We discussed how each type can move from their false self tendencie...

The Path from False Self to True Self: Exploring Types 4, 5, and 6

09 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week we continued our exploration of true self vs. false self for each Enneagram type, focusing on types 4, 5, and 6. We discussed how these type...

The Path from False Self to True Self: Exploring Types 1, 2, and 3

02 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of EnneagramU, we explore the concept of true self vs. false self for Enneagram types 1, 2, and 3. We discuss how each type can recogn...

True Self vs. False Self: Finding Your Way Back to Authenticity

26 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this week's episode we explore the concept of true self vs. false self, discussing how we often lose touch with our authentic selves and live ...

Understanding True Self vs. False Self: An Enneagram Exploration

19 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we introduce the concepts of true self and false self, explaining how the Enneagram can be used as a tool to recognize and move away ...

Enneagram Nines at Work: Peacemakers and Diplomats

12 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we discuss Nines and those who work with them. We explore how Nines bring a peaceful, diplomatic "glue" to teams while also ...

Enneagram Eights at Work: Leadership, Directness, and Finding Balance

06 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we discuss what it's like to work with Enneagram Type 8 personalities. We explore the strengths of Eights as leaders and decisio...

Enneagram Sevens at Work: Harnessing Creativity and Managing Restlessness

26 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we explore how Enneagram Type 7 personalities function in the workplace. We discuss their strengths, such as creativity, positivity, ...

Enneagram Sixes at Work: Security, Loyalty, and Taking Healthy Risks

19 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We're back with another episode, and this time we're diving into the world of Sixes. You know, those loyal, hardworking teammates who always...

Enneagram Fives at Work: Harnessing the Power of the Intellectual

12 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of EnneagramU, we dive into how Enneagram Type 5s operate in the workplace. We explore their strengths as analytical thinkers and info...

Enneagram Fours at Work: Creativity, Authenticity, and Unique Perspectives

05 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We're continuing our series on the Enneagram at work, focusing on Type 4 this week. We explore how Fours bring creativity, authenticity, and emot...

Enneagram Threes at Work: The Achiever's Strengths and Challenges

29 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week on EnneagramU we explore how Enneagram Type 3s function in the workplace. We discuss how Threes are the achievers and executors on teams, al...

Enneagram Twos at Work: Balancing Helping Others and Self-Care

22 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week on EnneagramU we dive into how Enneagram Type 2s operate in the workplace. We talk about how Twos are the helpers and connectors on teams, a...

Enneagram Ones at Work: Striving for Excellence Without Perfectionism

15 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we kick off our new series exploring how different Enneagram types approach work and careers. We start with Type 1, the Perfectionist...

Beyond Your Number: How Personal Style Impacts Your Work Life

08 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we dive into the concept of personal style and how it impacts our work lives. Are you energized more by people or tasks? Do you prefer a struct...

Beyond Resolutions: Creative Ways to Start Your New Year Right

01 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Happy New Year from EnneagramU!As we say goodbye to 2024 and welcome 2025, we wanted to share some thoughts on how to reflect on the past year. We&apo...

A Christmas Eve Reflection: From Advent to the Fullness of Joy

25 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hi! - In this episode of EnneagramU Kelly wishes listeners a Merry Christmas and reflects on the Advent season. She shares personal memories of Christ...

Advent Reflections for the Gut Triad: Finding Peace in the Holiday Chaos

18 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hosts Damon and Kelly explore how Types 8, 9, and 1 can navigate the busy holiday season. They discuss life-taking behaviors to avoid, life-giving pra...

Advent Week 2: Making Preparations for the Head Triad (Types 5, 6, 7)

11 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this Advent-themed episode, Damon and Kelly explore how the head triad types (5, 6, and 7) can find meaning during the Christmas season. They discu...

Advent and the Heart Triad: Finding Hope in the Waiting

04 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Damon and Kelly explore the season of Advent and how the heart triad of the Enneagram (Types 2, 3, and 4) can engage with it. They di...

Holiday Stress Survival Guide: Enneagram Tips for a Calmer Season

27 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this special solo episode, Damon tackles holiday stress through the lens of the Enneagram. Learn how each type typically handles seasonal pressures...

Practicing Gratitude for Each Enneagram Type: Tips to Improve Your Relationships and Wellbeing

20 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this Thanksgiving episode of EnneagramU, hosts Damon and Kelly explore the topic of gratitude through the lens of the Enneagram. They discuss what ...

Sibling Dynamics: Exploring the Enneagram with Sisters Valerie (8) and Vanessa (2)

13 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, hosts Damon and Kelly welcome back sisters Valerie and Vanessa to discuss how the Enneagram has impacted their sibling relationship. ...

Sibling Dynamics: A Family's Enneagram Journey with Kelly's Kids

06 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this special siblings edition of EnneagramU, hosts Damon and Kelly are joined by Kelly's children Madison and Micah. The family discusses how ...

Couples Edition - The Snow Globe and the Scorched Earth: A Conversation with Tanner and Madi

30 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of EnneagramU, hosts Damon and Kelly welcome special guests Tanner and Madi, a married couple with an Enneagram 8 and 5 pairing. The C...

Couples Edition - A Two and Four in Harmony: A Conversation with Rod and Christina

23 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of EnneagramU, hosts Damon and Kelly welcome Rod and Christina, a married couple with Enneagram types Two and Four. They share insight...

Couples Edition - Two Twos: A Conversation with Brock and Christy

16 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this heartwarming episode, hosts Damon and Kelly welcome Brock and Christy, a married couple who are both Enneagram Type 2s. They share their uniqu...

Couples Edition: Exploring Relationship Dynamics with Ronnie and Liz

09 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this special couples edition of EnneagramU, hosts Damon and Kelly welcome their first guest couple - Ronnie and Liz Lee. Married for 21 years, Ronn...

The Heart Triad and Money: How Twos, Threes, and Fours Handle Finances

02 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of EnneagramU, hosts Damon and Kelly welcome back financial expert Kimberly to discuss how the Heart Triad (Types 2, 3, and 4) interac...

Nines and Their Relationship with God: Finding Peace and Purpose

25 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Enneagramu, hosts Damon and Kelly wrap up their series on Relationships and the Enneagram by exploring the Nine's relationship...

Exploring the Peacemaker: A Nine's Perspective with Guest Jeremy

18 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of EnneagramU, hosts Damon and Kelly welcome a special guest - Kelly's cousin Jeremy, who is an Enneagram Type 9. Jeremy shares ...

Relationship with the Enneagram 9: Peacemakers, Assertiveness, and Self-Care

11 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

n this episode of Enneagramu, hosts Kelly and Damon dive deep into exploring the Enneagram Type 9, known as "The Peacemaker." They discuss k...

Eights and Their Relationship with God: Challenges and Practices for the Challenger

04 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week on EnneagramU, Damon and Kelly discuss the relationship between Enneagram Type 8 personalities and their faith. They explore the challenges ...

The Power and Vulnerability of Enneagram 8s: Insights from Two Female Eights

28 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this enlightening episode, hosts Damon and Kelly are joined by special guest Valerie to explore the complex world of Enneagram Type 8s. Two female ...

Understanding Relationships with Enneagram Type 8: The Challenger's Intensity, Vulnerability, and Need for Direct Communication

21 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Enneagramu, Damon and Kelly dive deep into the world of Enneagram Type 8, known as "The Challenger" or "The Protecto...

Money Matters: Understanding the Gut Triad's Financial Habits

14 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This episode of EnneagramU features hosts Damon and Kelly along with recurring guest Kimberly discussing how the Enneagram gut triad types (8, 9, and ...

Enneagram Compatibility: Exploring Types 7, 8, and 9 | PART 3

07 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Enneagram U, hosts Damon and Kelly conclude their three-part series on Enneagram compatibility. They discuss the most compatible an...

Enneagram Compatibility: Exploring Types 4, 5, and 6 | PART 2

31 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This episode continues the discussion on Enneagram compatibility, focusing on types 4, 5, and 6. The Damon and Kelly explore which types are most and ...

Enneagram Compatibility: Exploring Types 1, 2, and 3 | PART 1

24 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This podcast episode discusses Enneagram relationship compatibility.  Damon and Kelly, introduce the topic and explain their approach to categorizing...

Enneagram 7s and Faith: Exploring the Spiritual Struggles of the Enthusiast

17 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Join hosts Damon and Kelly on EnneagramU as they explore the complex world of emotions through the lens of the Enneagram. In this episode, they dive ...

Understanding Enneagram Sevens: Joy, Pain, and Personal Growth with Hartley

10 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ever wondered how handling a malfunctioning speaker can spark a deeper understanding of personality growth? Damon kicks off this episode with tales fr...

How to Thrive in a Relationship with an Enneagram Type Seven

03 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ever felt the invigorating pull of adventure and the soothing calm of nature? Join Damon and Kelly on Enneagram U as they recount their weekend escapa...

Enneagram & Money: How Head Triad Types (5, 6, & 7) Achieve Financial Freedom (Ft. Kimberly Ernest)

26 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Enneagram & Money: How Head Triad Types (5, 6, & 7) Achieve Financial Freedom (Ft. Kimberly Ernest)Unlock the secrets of financial success thr...

Navigating Faith as a Six

19 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Enneagram U, hosts Damon and Kelly discuss how Sixes can develop a strong relationship with God. They talk about the importance of ...

Understanding Sixes: Managing Fear and Anxiety Through Faith, Friends, and Self-Care

12 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

On this week's episode of Enneagram U, hosts Damon and Kelly are joined by guest Lauren, a Six on the Enneagram, to discuss how understanding her...

"Understanding Enneagram Type Sixes: Motivations, Strengths and Relationship Advice"

05 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Damon and Kelly dive into the Enneagram type Six, The Loyalist, in this insightful episode. Learn how Sixes are driven by security, support, and belon...

The Best Enneagram Resources

29 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We're serving up a treasure trove of Enneagram resources tailored for the curious minds of Type Fives (and anyone else keen on personal growth). ...

How Enneagram Fives Relate to God

22 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Kelly and Damon explore the enneagram 5's relationship with God.Follow us on Apple Podcasts and leave a review:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podc...

How To Understand Your Country Through the Enneagram

15 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ever wonder if your country has a personality? Enneagram U dives deep!This episode of Enneagram U explores the fascinating idea of applying the Enneag...

The Wise Person: Enneagram Type Five Special Guest

08 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Kelly and Damon talk Kelly's trip to Paris which will lead us to our next Episode - Travel and the Enneagram.Today's special guest is not Do...

How to Thrive in a Relationship with an Enneagram Five

01 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Kelly and Damon talk extensively about being in a relationship with an Enneagram Five.  They also encourage Enneagram Fives to lean into the relation...

Travel Adventures Through the Enneagram Lens

24 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Kelly and Damon talk about what travel adventures each Enneagram Type love.  Kelly travels to Paris - or does she?  And there is talk of an Enneagr...

Enneagram Type Four Relationship with God

17 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we talk about the unique relationship that Enneagram Fours have with God, faith, and people.Can a four remain unique and yet be a part...

The Individualist: Enneagram Type Four Special Guest

10 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This episode of Enneagram U with Damon and Kelly touches on the bittersweet moments of parting with my aging mother, the poignant acceptance of her mo...

Relationships with Enneagram Type Four

03 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ever pondered why some of us are drawn to the melancholic beauty of a solitary raindrop or the heart-wrenching lyrics in a song? Join Kelly and me as ...

Enneagram Springtime Edition!

27 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Spring is in the air, and guess what?  We're talking fresh starts, shaking off that winter funk, and maybe even hiding some chocolate from over-...

Enneagram Type Three Relationship with God

20 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When the waves of grief crash over us, how do we hold on to our faith without being swept away? In our latest episode, we invite you to join us as we ...

The Achiever: Enneagram Type Three Special Guest

13 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When my wife, Paula, an Enneagram Three, it was quite a surprise. As we journeyed through Paula's story, she candidly spoke about her battle with...

Relationships with Enneagram Type Three

05 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Despite a throat that's seen better days, I, along with my co-host Kelly, tackle the intricate dance of Enneagram Type Threes in the realm of per...

Enneagram Type Two - Relationship with God

28 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever considered the delicate dance between serving others and honoring your own needs? As we navigate the intricate motivations that drive T...

Helping Hands: Enneagram Type Two Special Guest

21 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

 Joining us is Vanessa from the VU security team, who, as an Enneagram Type Two, shares her heartfelt stories of support and service that are sure to...

An Enneagram Guide to Valentine's Day

14 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Confused about how your personality plays into Valentine's Day? Don't sweat it! "Enneagram U" is here to crack the code for a Vale...

Relationships with Enneagram Type Two

06 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever wondered how stepping away from the constant pings of your phone could change your life? Kelly's back from her transformative missi...

Embracing Imperfection: Enneagram One Special Guest

31 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever found yourself tripping over the invisible hurdles of perfectionism, only to land face-first into a puddle of self-compassion? Well, you...

Enneagram Type One - Relationship with God

24 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we talk about honesty and authenticity.  And then we unpack how the Enneagram Type One can connect to God through a downstream and up...