Apologies for Your Sanity (EP 496)
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Who is Riley and why is she seeking an apology from her mom?
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Good morning, Kelly. Good morning. Our story today is about a woman named Riley. She is, I believe, from England, that area, like around in Europe. That's where I got her name. And at the beginning of her session, she simply says to me, I'm just here to connect to my mom. She says, I'm just here to hear anything that she has to say. And I'm open to all of it. And Riley's mom comes in and says, I was mean. she's here and hoping for apologies. And I said, okay. I said, do you want to give me some background information about the meanness? And she goes, well, start off by saying that I'm here to apologize. She says, because this is all of her anxiety is that I haven't learned anything on the other side. And she's been to a lot of mediums.
She's gone around like looking for the apology and And a lot of mediums get me, they get my energy, they describe what I look like, they do a good job. They can say like, the things I liked, like they can give great validations. But she's never getting that. She's never getting what she needs. So she's afraid that it's going to be another letdown. So there's a lot of anxiety over it. I said, okay. So I said, Riley, your mom's here and she says that she was a mean woman. She was mean to you. And as soon as I say that, Riley looks at me like, Cha-ching. And I went, oh, okay. I said, your mom is saying that you've been to other mediums and that you've been waiting for some acknowledgement about her behavior so that you can know that her behavior was unhealthy and that you were trying to be healthy.
And that you were figuring things out. And she goes, yes. She goes, that's exactly what I've been looking for. She says, and I ended up in therapy. And she says, I ended up getting some of this with a therapist, but I've never been able to get it from my mom. And she says, so this is why I'm here one more time. She says, trying to figure it out. She goes, I go for a couple of years thinking I don't need it. And then I realized I do. She says, and then I'm back again looking for somebody. She says, so go on. She says, for what? And I said, okay, mom, show's yours. Like you start telling me. And so Riley's mom says to me, and I'm just going to say mom instead of Riley's mom. Mom says to me, I had two daughters and Riley is the oldest, but they're very close in age.
There's just like about a year and a half. I think she said difference, less than two years. And she says, I pitted them against each other, right in front of each other at times, to see which one of them was going to please me, which one of them was going to obey, give me what I wanted, this is what I need. And she says, I can give you a list of the things that I did. And I said, well, I would appreciate the list of things. I said, can you give me some idea or some things that you did this about? And she goes, yeah. She says, I didn't want to do housework. She says, so as soon as they were even slightly old enough, they started doing housework. So I would do things so that they would do the housework for me.
And I did it either by like rewarding whoever did it or by punishing whoever didn't do it.
What does Riley’s mom admit about pitting her daughters against each other?
I also didn't like cooking. So she says, I passed off the cooking. And I did it again where it was sometimes a demand that this one's going to do the cooking. Or it was, you know, so-and-so, like to one, oh, this was one of the things she did, Kelly. She would go to one daughter and say, you know, she's going to be making Thanksgiving dinner and her baking is horrible. Just horrible. It's going to be a disaster. And that would be it. And then that daughter's message was, you better make a dessert. So then both of them are making desserts. And now the first daughter who got bullied into the cooking, Riley, or her sister at different times, would then wonder why the other sister's doing a dessert when she made the dessert.
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