Stop Chasing the "Spark" - It’s a Trauma Response

Are you caught up in the thrill of chasing that elusive “spark” when dating, only to find yourself in another unfulfilling relationship? You’re not alone, and it might be time to see the spark for what it really is. In this episode, I’m joined by expert dating and relationship coach Bern Mendez, who specializes in helping women in midlife finally break free from painful dating patterns and attract genuinely available partners.In “Stop Chasing the ‘Spark’ – It’s a Trauma Response,” Bern Mendez shares his expertise on why that intense chemistry you’re seeking could actually be the result of unresolved trauma, not true compatibility. Together, we explore the science behind attraction, how past wounds shape who you’re drawn to, and the concept of attraction blind spots that keep you stuck in repetitive cycles. Bern lays out practical steps for identifying your true needs, confidently expressing your must-haves, and establishing healthy boundaries without guilt or fear of being alone.If you want to understand why you keep falling for the wrong people and are ready to reset your approach to love, this episode delivers empowering, actionable insights to help you build the relationship you truly deserve. What You’ll Learn:Why the “spark” can be a trauma response—not a sign of lasting emotional compatibilityHow attraction blind spots are formed and how to recognize them in your own dating lifeHow to separate genuine relationship needs from wish-list items, so you can express your must-haves without guiltThe power of boundaries and delayed gratification in creating trust and true intimacyStep-by-step strategies for healing from heartbreak and shifting your dating patterns as a woman over 40Call to Action: Ready to change your story? Like, share, and SUBSCRIBE, then comment below: What relationship blind spot are you ready to leave behind? 📕 Resources: https://createthebestme.com/ep135https://bernmendez.com/ https://www.youtube.com/@BernMendezDiscover your attraction blind spot with Bern’s free quiz: https://go2.bucketsurveys.com/sf/cc11a9b3 Book a private session with Bern Mendez: https://bernmendez.com/private-coaching/ #MidlifeDating #DatingAdvice #BernMendez #CreateTheBestMe #RelationshipPatterns #EmotionallyAvailable #DatingOver40 #AttractionBlindSpots #HealthyRelationships #Boundaries #HeartbreakRecovery📨 Newsletter: https://createthebestme.com/newsletter/ 👀 Connect With Me: Website: https://createthebestme.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/createthebestme Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carmenhecox/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@carmenhecoxYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@createthebestme LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/carmen-hecox 📽️ Video Request: https://forms.office.com/r/LvLV1AsBfv

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