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Create The Best Me

The Conversation That Makes Couples Want Each Other More

18 Dec 2025

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Can one conversation really reignite intimacy? In this episode, “The Conversation That Makes Couples Want Each Other More,” I sit down with double-doctorate, board-certified sexologist Dr. Diane Mueller, also known as the Libido Doc, to break down why sexual desire changes over time and how couples can bring back lasting passion. Together, we delve into science-backed strategies for reviving libido in a long-term relationship, the surprisingly powerful impact of novelty (hint: it’s more than cliché roleplay), and the biggest mistakes couples make when discussing sex. We also reveal why “waiting for spontaneity” can hurt your connection and why planning passion with the “5:30 tweak” can transform your relationship. 5 Key Lessons from This EpisodeNovelty Reignites DesireSmall doses of newness, like changing environment, roleplay, or trying new methods, stimulate anticipation and dopamine, boosting passion in monogamous relationships.Arousal Precedes Desire for Many WomenDon’t wait to “feel in the mood.” For women, body sensations and arousal often precede mental desire; intentional touch can spark libido.Open Communication is EssentialSharing needs, curiosities, and insecurities about sex leads to more satisfying and frequent intimacy. Happy couples talk about sex 92% of the time!Scheduling Passion WorksTired at bedtime? Schedule intimacy when energetic. Use the “5:30 tweak” for better planned passion instead of waiting for spontaneous moments that rarely happen.Confidence and Self-Knowledge Are KeyDiscover what feels good for you first. Self-exploration improves communication and connection with your partner. Music:  Title: Ambient Music by MomotMusic  Call to Action:Like what you hear? LIKE, COMMENT your thoughts, SHARE with someone who needs it, and SUBSCRIBE for weekly tips to Create The Best Me in midlife. 📕 Resources: https://createthebestme.com/ep147Dr. Diane Mueller: https://havehotsex.com Free Novelty Checklist:  https://mysexdoc.comFree Libido Quiz: https://libidoquiz.comyoutube.com/@mylibidodoc Disclaimer:This episode contains adult themes intended for mature audiences. The information is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice. Always consult a healthcare professional about your unique health needs. Guest views belong solely to Dr. Diane Mueller.#DrDianeMueller #LibidoDoc #Libido #Intimacy #MarriageAdvice #SexualHealth #Midlife #RelationshipGoals #Monogamy #BodyConfidence #CreateTheBestMe #TheConversationCouplesNeed📨 Newsletter: https://createthebestme.com/newsletter/ 👀 Connect With Me: Website: https://createthebestme.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/createthebestme Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carmenhecox/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@carmenhecoxYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@createthebestme LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/carmen-hecox 📽️ Video Request: https://forms.office.com/r/LvLV1AsBfv

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