Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Episodes
8 DAYS OF DATING OPTIMISM: The Boyfriend Manual (Day #6)
25 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our h...
8 DAYS OF DATING OPTIMISM: Meeting Your Half Orange (Day #5)
23 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our h...
8 DAYS OF DATING OPTIMISM: Just Keep Going (Day #4)
21 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our h...
8 DAYS OF DATING OPTIMISM: Make Dating Fun Again (Day #3)
18 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our h...
8 DAYS OF DATING OPTIMISM: Just Say Yes (Day #2)
16 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our h...
8 DAYS OF DATING OPTIMISM: Trust In Your Timing (Day #1)
14 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our h...
S21E17: How To Be Detached in Dating Yet Still Open For A Relationship w/ Sabrina Bendory
09 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Being detached doesn't mean that you don't care or give up on dating. But it does mean that you know your worth and aren't going to settle...
#brunchtalk: Why Being Single DOESN'T Suck During The Holidays (And the Best Ways To Meet People This Time of Year)
07 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Hot take: The holidays are actually the best time to be single. Between holiday parties, so many events, and everyone feeling merry, there are SO many...
S21E16: Inside A Man's Journey To Becoming Emotionally Available & Ready For A Relationship
02 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're giving you an authentic, raw and rare male perspective on Dateable—that of a single British man in his 40s, who’s done the inner work to...
#brunchtalk: Is This Weird To Do In Dating?
30 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever questioned if something you were doing or saying would be perceived as odd when dating? We're breaking down two instances that have ...
S21E15: Grateful For Modern Dating (Yes, Really) (Plus A BIG Announcment)
25 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Happy Thanksgiving all! First off, we're grateful for YOU but we wanted to do a little pre-thanksgiving gratitude to put us all into the thankful ...
#brunchtalk: How Much Advice Is Too Much Advice?
23 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever ask your partner for support and end up getting a TED Talk you never requested? We’re exploring how unsolicited advice shows up in partnerships...
Quickie w/ Julie: What I Learned From Getting Married After 40
20 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Is love coming later than you expected? We're back with a quickie where Julie talks about what she learned about getting married a bit "later&...
S21E14: Designing The Love Life That's Meant For You w/ Ellecia Paine
18 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if the secret to a healthy, lasting relationship isn’t finding “the right person”… but designing the relationship that’s actually right...
#brunchtalk: Can You Future-Proof Your Relationships When Dating?
16 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In a world where everything feels uncertain, is it actually possible to future-proof your relationship? In today’s episode, we’re diving into one ...
S21E13: Surviving The Horrors of Dating w/ Rory Uphold
11 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Does dating feel less like a rom-com and more like a horror show these days? We’re here with Rory who has survived it all – from the ghosters, na...
#brunchtalk: How Single Are You Really?
09 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Most people are not truly single in modern dating. Even if they say they are. And being on this 'single scale' could be exactly what's hol...
S21E12 The Commitment Conundrum w/ Steve Budd
04 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever been with someone that said they wanted to get married – yet couldn't seem to pull the plug when it came to commitment? What happe...
#brunchtalk: Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?
02 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You may have seen the viral article 'Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now"? from Vogue circling around. We're giving our two cents on th...
S21E11: The Art Of Moving On (After Heartbreak) w/ Kendra Allen
28 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Whether it was from a situation you thought was going to become more to your ex of five years, moving on after heartbreak is one of the most challengi...
#brunchtalk: Our Top 10 Red Flags To Watch Out For
26 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're not talking about...they wore a weird belt. Or have three cats. But the REAL red flags that eventually wreck havoc on your relationships and...
S21E10: How To Be A SuperCommunicator On Your Next Date (Or In Your Relationship) w/ Charles Duhigg
21 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever had a date where it felt like pulling teeth to have a conversation? Or a conflict with your partner where it felt like you were speaking...
#brunchtalk: This Is How You Never Settle Again
19 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The "S" word...the dirtiest word in dating. No one wants to settle. And we're 100% advocating that you never settle again. But all too oft...
S21E9: The Emotional Labor and Mental Load (In Dating & Relationships)
14 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Who carries the weight in your relationship or early dates—the calendar, the check-ins, the emotional temperature checks? We're diving into the ...
#brunchtalk: How To Get Asked Out On Dating Apps
12 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In the world of dating apps, it's easy to get caught up in the endless cycle of messaging without ever meeting in person. Join us as we explore th...
S21E8: Dating Apps, D*ck Pics, and Sexts: Why We Need Digital Sexual Consent w/ Dr. Mindy DeSeta
07 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever gotten that unwanted sexual message or pic on a dating app? You're certainly not alone, which is why we need to talk about digital s...
#brunchtalk: The Difference Between Being Picky & Having Standards
05 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What's the difference between having standards and not being so picky that there's no one that's good enough to date? Join us as dive into...
S21E7: Breaking The Cycle Of Dating Emotionally Unavailable Men w/ Drea Renee
30 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever feel like you are unconsciously seeking the unavailable type and you don't know how to break the pattern? We're chatting with Drea...
#brunchtalk: The Biggest Lies About Falling in Love and Finding the One
28 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
With so much focus on the early stages of dating, we're often so focused on the lies we've been told about falling in love that we miss the bi...
S21E6: The Real Reason Dating Makes Us So Angry (That No One Talks About) w/ Jordana Abraham & Jared Freid from U Up?
23 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Is the biggest change in 2025 in dating...the anger? It certainly feels like it! We're chatting with Jared and Jordana, the hosts of the U Up? pod...
#brunchtalk: How To Interpret Mixed Signals (Without Losing Your Mind)
21 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are mixed signals a sign of disinterest or just poor communication? We're diving into the confusing world of hot and cold behavior in dating – ...
S21E5: Is Your Independence Empowering Or Keeping You Single?
16 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're told to be independent but not too independent...so what's the line between what helps us preserve our autonomy versus what keeps us out...
#brunchtalk: Date Them Til You Hate Them
13 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Date them til you hate them. Is this a brilliant strategy or a complete cop out? We're discussing the latest viral TikTok dating trend and why it ...
S21E4: The Dating Plan
09 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you want to shift the way you date completely? You come up with a plan that's so counter to the way we date today that it may be...
#brunchtalk: Monogamy ISN'T Dead
07 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
It may feel like everyone is looking for something casual or non-committal but the reality is that there are people looking for exactly what you are. ...
S21E3: Chaotic Singles Party: Inside Edition w/ Cassidy Davis
02 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you can't seem to find any good people to date? Your app dates are blah and it feels like you just aren't meeting the right ...
#brunchtalk: Dating Isn't As Personal As We Make It
31 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
It's hard not to take dating personally. But the reality is that most people WON'T be matches – and if they don't text back, don't ...
S21E2: The Compatibility Myth w/ Eli Finkel
26 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How do you choose a partner that's a good match for you? We're joined with Eli Finkel, social psychologist and the Director of the Relationshi...
#brunchtalk: You Don't Need To Be Good At Dating
24 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Yup, you heard us right. You don't need to be good at dating – at least the way we're dating today. We're back for all new brunch talk ...
S21E1: The Shift To Conscious Dating
19 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're back for SEASON 21 and we're reporting on the next biggest shift in dating, that takes dating intentionally one step further – and al...
#brunchtalk: Is Being Too Interested A Turn Off?
17 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Sure you want someone interested but can they be too interested? Or has anyone every told you that you come off too eager? In this week's #bruncht...
What It Means To Be Dateable w/ John Kim
12 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're one week away from Season 21....so what else would we do but reminisce about our 21st birthdays as we usher in a new season of Dateable! But...
#brunchtalk: What To Do When You're Relationship Ends Out of Nowhere
10 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You finally found someone you're into who is also into you. Until out of nowhere – it all blows up. If you've been here before, you know ho...
The Surprising Things That Seduce Us Away From Authentic Relationships w/ Ken Page
05 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if when dating there are certain things getting in your way that are tempting in ways you may not expect? We're talking with our dear friend ...
#brunchtalk: What To Do When They Won't Commit
03 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
So you met someone awesome...but...they aren't ready to define the relationship or stop seeing other people. Do you wait? Date other people? Hold ...
Finding Love After Heartbreak w/ Heather McG
29 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you're in the thick of heartbreak (or have been before) know that there is hope! Yes, you absolutely can come back stronger after this period o...
#brunchtalk: The Difference of First Dates in Your 30s
28 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Dating should be fun! But it also should be intentional....especially if you're looking for a life partner. With all these conflicting messages, i...
How To Be Dateable & Rarely Into Anyone w/ Damona Hoffman
22 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you're trying to be Dateable....yet not finding anyone of interest? We're re-airing one of our fave interviews with the fabu...
#brunchtalk: What To Do When They Stop Being Consistent
20 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
They're texting every day, replying quickly, and making plans...everything's running smoothly until one day it just stops. In this week's ...
How Dating Rules Keep You Stuck w/ Talia Koren
15 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
From dating books like 'The Rules' to TikToker's giving dating advice, we're here to say the rules don't freaking work – yet th...
Best of Brunch Talk: The Reason Dates Don't Turn Into Relationships
13 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel like you just can't move past those first couple dates or actually get into a committed relationship? You're not alone. Join us this...
Mid-2025 Updates
08 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're officially on the off-season and kicking it off with some life updates from both of us. We recap the first part of 2025 – from our book t...
Best of Brunch Talk: Should You Wait for Them To Be Ready?
06 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're back with some of our most popular #brunchtalks and a question we always get is: what should I do if they say they like me but they just are...
S20E22: The Perfect Partner Equation
01 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if we were to tell you there's a way to find the right partner that doesn't feel like you're looking for a needle in a haystack where...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About Why The Matchmaking Industry is F%cked and Our Polar Opposite Views on Materialists
29 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Yue almost walked out of the movie Materialists...it may be one of Julie's favorite movies of all times. Whether you've seen it or not, we'...
S20E21: What To Know About Marriage (Before You're Even Married) w/ Casey & Meygan Caston
24 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you meet the love of your life but then the relationship completely falls apart not long after you get married? You learn what you p...
#brunchtalk: Determining If Your Situationship Could Be More (Or Not)
22 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You met someone amazing. The chemistry is incredible and you really enjoy their company. So this is obviously headed into relationship territory, righ...
S20E20: Ask A Matchmaker w/ Matchmaker Maria
17 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever want to pick the brain of a matchmaker? Well we're about to as we're joined with Matchmaker Maria to discuss her journey as a fourth-gene...
#brunchtalk: The Real Reasons You're Getting The Ick
15 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
So you met someone you could be into. And then it just hits you and takes over the entire situation. Something they did gave you the ick – so much ...
S2019: Doing Love Differently w/ Dediker, Jase & Emily of Multiamory
10 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
From monogamy to nonmonogamy, casual dating to queerplatonic partnerships, married couples living separately to those who are single by choice, we'...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About The Dating App for Foodies, Do You Tell Your Friend & Love Bombing
08 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're catching up as we talk about a situation of 'should you tell them or not' when you know something about their relationship but you&#...
S2018: Meeting Someone 'Later in Life' w/ Sandy Weiner
03 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Reality check: You can find love at any age. And often times the BEST relationships happen "later in life" (which for the record is definitely...
#brunchtalk: Why They Lost Interest After the First Date
01 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Nothing is worse than when you have a seemingly great first date...and then the next one just never happens. Whether they ghost, tell you there wasn&#...
S2017: How To Stop Wasting Time When Dating
27 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The #1 thing we hear is: But I don't want to waste time. We feel you! Time is our most valuable asset and nothing feels more discouraging than spi...
#brunchtalk: Always the Friend, Never the Boy-Friend
25 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Grab your mimosas, we got a good one as we chat about why you can be great on paper, attractive, the whole nine yards – yet still have trouble attr...
S2016: Living Your Radical (Dating) Life w/ Marni Battista
20 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Were you, you? Were you radically honest with yourself? Did you seek wisdom? We're back with a fave return guest, Marni Battista to talk about how...
#brunchtalk: Green Flags To Look For On A First Date
18 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We don't know about you, but we're sick of all the negativity – always looking for every last red flag out there. So we're flipping the...
Quickie w/ Yue: The Wine Pairing Test (To Determine The Right Partner For You)
15 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We always wonder...how do I know if someone is right for me? Yue's breaking down her recent analogy that gives you a good gut check when dating to...
S2015: The Friendship Episode w/ Danielle Bayard Jackson
13 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're talking about a different relationship today: friendship! Not only how your friends can be there to support you while dating – but more im...
#brunchtalk: The Difference Between Overthinking and Being Intentional & Cautious
11 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you have a tendency to overthink dating situations? What's the healthy line of thinking things through to be intentional and even cautious – ...
S2014: How To Flirt (Without Being Cringy) w/ Benjamin Camras
06 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We have a confession: we have a love / hate relationship with the word flirting. But we absolutely loved the energy of our guest Benjamin Camras aka t...
#brunchtalk: Opening The Ex Files
04 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Dun. Dun. Dun. It's about to get creepy...or maybe just cringy as we talk about all things exes: what's your reaction to finding out your ex i...
S2013: Dating In Your 40's (And Beyond) w/ Kimmy Seltzer
29 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We've talked about dating in your 20s and 30s....but now we're diving into dating in your 40s – and beyond. We're joined with return gu...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About The Gender Divide, High EQ, and the 80/20 Rule of Apps
27 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
With so much discourse lately around the gender divide of men and women, we wanted to share our POV a bit more and open up the convo more on Dateable....
S2012: The Only 7 Things That Matter (When Choosing a Partner)
22 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're back with a topic that's near and dear to our hearts: how to know if the person you're dating is right for you. We're giving you...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About AI Girlfriends, Foolproof Ways to Ask Someone Out & How To Get Set Up By Your Friends
20 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We got a meaty one for you today....as we're talk about the best (and WORST) ways to ask someone out, the system to rejection-proof yourself, and ...
S2011: Let's Get Vulnerable w/ Dr. Morgan Anderson
15 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Who else is ready to heal their relational trauma, become securely attached, and attract their available dream partner? We're feeling inspired by ...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About Opting Out of Situationships, Reasons People Won't Commit, and The Sales Technique To Get What You Want
13 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Can we all make a pact? Can we just opt out of situationships as it seems like a lot of people are starting to do? We're discussing why situations...
S2010: No Contact & The Key To Moving On From A Breakup w/ Cole Zesiger
08 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We’re talking breakups…but more importantly how to move forward, and not only reclaim your life…but live an even better one. And we are joined w...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About The White Lotus Dating Archetypes, Hooking Up With Your Friends Crush, and The Most Humiliating Thing To Happen Post Sex
06 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you're anything like us, we've been obsessed with The White Lotus as we head into the big finale. So much that we've decided to analyze...
S20E9: Can You Be UnDateable? w/ Ryan Keely
01 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is a question we often get but we never thought we'd get it from America's favorite stepmom aka porn star Ryan Keely (who you may even re...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About NOT Dating Multiple People At Once, Speed Dating & The Ultimate Way To Let Someone Down
30 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This weeks's brunch talk has us all hopped up as we chat about surprising results from our archetypes quiz that are counter to how we all *think* ...
S20E8: Love Factually w/ Dr. Paul Eastwick & Eli Finkel
25 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're back with the guest of our #1 most listened to episode and this time with his mentor for more insights...more science...and more facts – t...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About Surprise Run-Ins with Dateable Listeners, The Actual Definition of Dating Intentionally & Saying Goodbye to The Wrong People
23 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
With all the buzz about dating intentionally...what does it even mean? Because we've seen some definitions that aren't helping – and may ac...
S20E7: Assessing Your Relationship Readiness (And Of Those You Date)
18 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How ready are you for a relationship? Like truly ready? We're diving into what it means to actually be ready for a real, long-term committed relat...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About Our Biggest Fears In a Relationship, How Many People To Date at Once, And What To Do When You're Unsure About Someone
16 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
There's so much to unpack this week as we chat about everything from air fryers to Mark Zuckerberg's mid-life crisis. But most importantly, it...
S20E6: How To Love Better w/ Yung Pueblo
11 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You’ve probably seen his quotes all over the internet or maybe read one of his many bestselling books but we have the man behind it all Diego Perez ...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About Bachelorettes, The 12 Stages of Dating Burnout, and The One Term We Will Never Use Again
09 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're back together chatting about a relevant topic: burnout. Whether it's from dating or just life in general, we're discussing the stage...
Quickie w/ Julie: The Magic of The Middle
07 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
It's so hard to not be focused on the milestones, but Julie had a reality check recently that she wanted to share on this quickie with you. Becaus...
S20E5: The Science of Happiness (In Relationships) w/ Dr. Laurie Santos
04 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do relationships make us happy? If so, why are unmarried and childless women the most happy cohort of people out there? Because happiness is more than...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About The Benefits Of Being The Last Person In Your Friend Group To Find Your Person, Trophy Fetishes, and Why To Send The Damn Text
02 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're chatting over brunch recapping some of our SF together time, from dinners out together with friends to the types of questions we got from da...
S20E4: Navigating 'The Almost' Relationship w/ Ali Jackson of Finding Mr. Height
25 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you feel like you've had a string of *almost* relationships that haven't quite turned into the real deal, then this one's for you! We&#...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About Past Drunken Shenanigans, The Need For Community & The Taxi Cab Theory
23 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're catching up after a whirlwind trip to LA discussing how we failed on the brunch front but had one heck of a time at our first book launch ev...
S20E3: Money For Couples w/ Ramit Sethi
18 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
From talking about money on early dates to navigating the complexities of managing finances within a relationship, we're diving into it all with N...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About Bad TV Series Endings, The Demise of Dating Apps & Being Ready to Date Again
16 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're dishing over brunch around the decline in dating apps, the alternatives for daters, and also when to know if you're ready to date again ...
S20E2: Quiet The Clock w/ Beth Gulotta
11 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
It's time to QUIET THE FREAKING CLOCK y'all because we don't know about you but it's exhausting to be running up against societal time...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About Freakin Eggs, Age Gap Relationships & Wedding Planning
09 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#brunchtalk is back...with a twist. We're trying out a new format where we dish about some of the things going on in our lives, the (dating) news,...
S20E1: Scare Them Away
04 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're back for SEASON 20 with something you need to hear right now. In dating, we think we're asking for too much, when in fact we ask for far...
Quickie w/ Julie AND Yue: Welcome To The World
31 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
It's been one heck of a week with our book, our baby 'How to Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person & Falling In Love'...
Ask Us Anything: How to Be Dateable Edition
28 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
IT'S OFFICIALLY PUB DAY - the day that 'How to Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love' is out, availa...