Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Episodes
#brunchtalk: Opening The Ex Files
04 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Dun. Dun. Dun. It's about to get creepy...or maybe just cringy as we talk about all things exes: what's your reaction to finding out your ex i...
S2013: Dating In Your 40's (And Beyond) w/ Kimmy Seltzer
29 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We've talked about dating in your 20s and 30s....but now we're diving into dating in your 40s – and beyond. We're joined with return gu...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About The Gender Divide, High EQ, and the 80/20 Rule of Apps
27 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
With so much discourse lately around the gender divide of men and women, we wanted to share our POV a bit more and open up the convo more on Dateable....
S2012: The Only 7 Things That Matter (When Choosing a Partner)
22 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're back with a topic that's near and dear to our hearts: how to know if the person you're dating is right for you. We're giving you...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About AI Girlfriends, Foolproof Ways to Ask Someone Out & How To Get Set Up By Your Friends
20 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We got a meaty one for you today....as we're talk about the best (and WORST) ways to ask someone out, the system to rejection-proof yourself, and ...
S2011: Let's Get Vulnerable w/ Dr. Morgan Anderson
15 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Who else is ready to heal their relational trauma, become securely attached, and attract their available dream partner? We're feeling inspired by ...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About Opting Out of Situationships, Reasons People Won't Commit, and The Sales Technique To Get What You Want
13 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Can we all make a pact? Can we just opt out of situationships as it seems like a lot of people are starting to do? We're discussing why situations...
S2010: No Contact & The Key To Moving On From A Breakup w/ Cole Zesiger
08 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We’re talking breakups…but more importantly how to move forward, and not only reclaim your life…but live an even better one. And we are joined w...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About The White Lotus Dating Archetypes, Hooking Up With Your Friends Crush, and The Most Humiliating Thing To Happen Post Sex
06 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you're anything like us, we've been obsessed with The White Lotus as we head into the big finale. So much that we've decided to analyze...
S20E9: Can You Be UnDateable? w/ Ryan Keely
01 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is a question we often get but we never thought we'd get it from America's favorite stepmom aka porn star Ryan Keely (who you may even re...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About NOT Dating Multiple People At Once, Speed Dating & The Ultimate Way To Let Someone Down
30 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This weeks's brunch talk has us all hopped up as we chat about surprising results from our archetypes quiz that are counter to how we all *think* ...
S20E8: Love Factually w/ Dr. Paul Eastwick & Eli Finkel
25 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're back with the guest of our #1 most listened to episode and this time with his mentor for more insights...more science...and more facts – t...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About Surprise Run-Ins with Dateable Listeners, The Actual Definition of Dating Intentionally & Saying Goodbye to The Wrong People
23 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
With all the buzz about dating intentionally...what does it even mean? Because we've seen some definitions that aren't helping – and may ac...
S20E7: Assessing Your Relationship Readiness (And Of Those You Date)
18 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How ready are you for a relationship? Like truly ready? We're diving into what it means to actually be ready for a real, long-term committed relat...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About Our Biggest Fears In a Relationship, How Many People To Date at Once, And What To Do When You're Unsure About Someone
16 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
There's so much to unpack this week as we chat about everything from air fryers to Mark Zuckerberg's mid-life crisis. But most importantly, it...
S20E6: How To Love Better w/ Yung Pueblo
11 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You’ve probably seen his quotes all over the internet or maybe read one of his many bestselling books but we have the man behind it all Diego Perez ...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About Bachelorettes, The 12 Stages of Dating Burnout, and The One Term We Will Never Use Again
09 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're back together chatting about a relevant topic: burnout. Whether it's from dating or just life in general, we're discussing the stage...
Quickie w/ Julie: The Magic of The Middle
07 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
It's so hard to not be focused on the milestones, but Julie had a reality check recently that she wanted to share on this quickie with you. Becaus...
S20E5: The Science of Happiness (In Relationships) w/ Dr. Laurie Santos
04 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do relationships make us happy? If so, why are unmarried and childless women the most happy cohort of people out there? Because happiness is more than...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About The Benefits Of Being The Last Person In Your Friend Group To Find Your Person, Trophy Fetishes, and Why To Send The Damn Text
02 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're chatting over brunch recapping some of our SF together time, from dinners out together with friends to the types of questions we got from da...
S20E4: Navigating 'The Almost' Relationship w/ Ali Jackson of Finding Mr. Height
25 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you feel like you've had a string of *almost* relationships that haven't quite turned into the real deal, then this one's for you! We&#...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About Past Drunken Shenanigans, The Need For Community & The Taxi Cab Theory
23 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're catching up after a whirlwind trip to LA discussing how we failed on the brunch front but had one heck of a time at our first book launch ev...
S20E3: Money For Couples w/ Ramit Sethi
18 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
From talking about money on early dates to navigating the complexities of managing finances within a relationship, we're diving into it all with N...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About Bad TV Series Endings, The Demise of Dating Apps & Being Ready to Date Again
16 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're dishing over brunch around the decline in dating apps, the alternatives for daters, and also when to know if you're ready to date again ...
S20E2: Quiet The Clock w/ Beth Gulotta
11 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
It's time to QUIET THE FREAKING CLOCK y'all because we don't know about you but it's exhausting to be running up against societal time...
#brunchtalk: Dishing About Freakin Eggs, Age Gap Relationships & Wedding Planning
09 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
#brunchtalk is back...with a twist. We're trying out a new format where we dish about some of the things going on in our lives, the (dating) news,...
S20E1: Scare Them Away
04 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're back for SEASON 20 with something you need to hear right now. In dating, we think we're asking for too much, when in fact we ask for far...
Quickie w/ Julie AND Yue: Welcome To The World
31 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
It's been one heck of a week with our book, our baby 'How to Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person & Falling In Love'...
Ask Us Anything: How to Be Dateable Edition
28 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
IT'S OFFICIALLY PUB DAY - the day that 'How to Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love' is out, availa...
Finding Love (And Yourself) Again - Julie Interviews Yue
21 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
While last year was all about building resilience after that heart-wrenching infidelity, this year was about finding love again. Julie interviews Yue ...
The Year of Yes – Yue Interviews Julie
14 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
From getting engaged to quitting her job pursue Dateable full-time, it's been a year of taking that next step – saying yes to the future that&#...
Discovering Your Dating Archetype
07 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to 2025 all! This is the year filled with abundance and finding your person...we can feel it! Because our book comes out January 28th, and we&...
S19E19: Break Up On Purpose w/ John Kim (aka The Angry Therapist)
31 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
With the end of the year comes new beginnings. Whether you're in the thick of a breakup or just in reflection mode, you're going to enjoy this...
#brunchtalk: New Years Edition
29 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
For our last brunchtalk of the year, we're doing a little reflection of new years resolution, prepping for dating Sunday on the apps, and answerin...
S19E18: An Insider's Look Into Matchmaking w/ Jaydi Kuba & Lauren Rosenberg
24 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you're looking at new avenues to meet people in 2025 or you're curious why matchmaking is so appealing to GenZ, look no further. We're ...
#brunchtalk: Holiday Edition
22 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Whether you're single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between, there's always a lot of questions that come up around the holidays. Should ...
S19E17: Relationship Chicken
17 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you say you want a relationship yet act in ways that drive away the exact thing you want? Introducing relationship chicken...which w...
#brunchtalk: Why Can't I Get A Relationship To Progress?
15 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel like you just can't move past those first couple dates or actually get into a committed relationship? You're not alone. Join us this...
S19E16: Overcoming Anxiety, Overthinking & Imposter Syndrome (When Dating) w/ Sabrina Zohar
10 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This is a big one y'all. We're talking about all the states, beliefs, and feelings that make dating oh so hard – and end up really getting i...
#brunchtalk: Am I Being Too Much?
08 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever had the thought...am I being too much? Am I too interested? Too excited? Just too much personality for this person? Let's stop the r...
S19E15: Bringing Back Organic Connections IRL w/ Harrison Forman & Brandon Berman of Updating
03 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What if instead of searching for the random meet-cute, we could share another way to meet IRL that actually yields more relationships? We're chatt...
#brunchtalk: When Your Relationship Ends Abruptly...
01 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You finally found someone you're into who is also into you. Until out of nowhere – it all blows up. If you've been here before, you know h...
S19E14: Recovering From Dating Burnout w/ Jemma Sbeg of The Psychology of Your 20s
26 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you feeling a bit dating fatigued? Have no fear, with the holidays around the corner, it's the perfect time for a reset. And what better way t...
Special Edition Pre-Thanksgiving #brunchtalk: Are You Seeing Anyone Special + Other Awkward Thanksgiving Questions:
24 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
With Thanksgiving right around the corner, it can be the most joyful...and stressful time of year. Not everyone wants enjoy their turkey dinner with q...
Quickie w/ Yue: Dating Shouldn't Be This Hard
21 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We're meant to do life with other people. So then, why is dating so damn hard? Yue's sharing why dating feels so difficult these days – and ...
S19E13: The Validation Trap
19 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
There's so much pressure when dating....so much that dating becomes more about measuring up than actually finding the right partner. We're div...
#brunchtalk: Are A Couple Of White Lies A Deal Breaker?
17 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
So you told a couple of white lies. Or the person you're dating did. Is this ground for the budding relationship to be over? In this week's br...
S19E12: Decoding Dating & Human Connection w/ Jeremy Hurewitz
12 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Curious about how to read people better and understand their behavior when dating? Want to build deeper connections with more trust and EQ? We have a ...
#brunchtalk: When They Won't Commit...
10 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
So you met someone awesome...but...they aren't ready to define the relationship or stop seeing other people. Do you wait? Date other people? Hold ...
S19E11: Cultivating Compersion (In Dating) w/ Dr. Marie Thouin
05 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We don't know about you, but we could use a big ol' break from all the politics. So it's the perfect timing to introduce the concept of co...
#brunchtalk: Are They Breadcrumbing You?
03 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You're with someone...but they aren't quite making you a priority and giving you the attention you desire Should you cut out or is there a way...
S19E10: The Settling Paradox
29 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We're so afraid of settling yet we settle for....situationships? We're chatting today about the difference of being picky and having standards...
#brunchtalk: When The Consistency Stops...
27 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
They're texting every day, replying quickly, and making plans...everything's running smoothly until one day it just stops. In this week's ...
Quickie w/ Julie: The Case for Underthinking (In Dating)
25 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What if there were benefits of underthinking in dating and relationships? Yup, you heard us right. Julie's sharing a low light from her trip to It...
S19E9: Harnessing Your Dreams (For Dating) w/ Charlie Morley
22 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Could your subconscious actually be the missing ingredient for your love life? We're diving into everything from lucid dreaming to dream interpret...
#brunchtalk: Do Breakups Reveal Someone's True Character?
20 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When you have a not so cordial breakup and you start seeing different sides of the person you dated...is this their true self coming through or just a...
S19E8: I Do (I Think) w/ Allison Raskin
15 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
With marriage rates on the decline....do people still want to get married? And why does it still hold the significance it does? We're joined by Al...
#brunchtalk: What's The Expectation Of A First Date In Your 30s?
13 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Dating should be fun! But it also should be intentional....especially if you're looking for a life partner. With all these conflicting messages, i...
Quickie w/ Yue: What You Have In Common Doesn't Really Matter
10 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We tend to be so focused on commonalities when dating...but what if that wasn't actually what mattered in finding a compatible partner? Yue's ...
S19E7: The Expectation of Love On Demand
08 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Why do we expect everything to happen so damn fast when dating? From the need to feel that instant chemistry to freaking out if someone doesn't te...
#brunchtalk: How Do You Interpret The Combo of Looking for "Fun and Serious"?
06 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Anyone else seen this phenomenon where people on dating apps are checking that they're looking for something fun/casual and also serious/long term...
S19E6: The Secret To Attraction w/ Mat Boggs
01 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We're not talking about what to wear or how to look, but rather how to elude that contagious energy that just attracts someone to you. And what be...
#brunchtalk: Can Someone Be Too Interested?
29 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Sure you want someone interested but can they be too interested? Or has anyone every told you that you come off too eager? In this week's #bruncht...
Quickie w/ Julie: A Letter To Your Ex
26 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What's better than coming across letters you wrote to your ex(s) years later? Julie's diving into how this practice has helped her process the...
S19E5: Date Like A Feminist w/ Lily Womble
24 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If dating like a feminist means embracing your desires while also valuing independence and equality....then sign us up! Whether you identify as a woma...
#brunchtalk: Should You Wait Or Let Them Go?
22 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when someone wants to date you (or even be in a relationship!) yet there's something going in their personal lives that's prevent...
S19E4: We're in a F*cking Love Crisis (And How We Get Out)
17 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
With the feeling that dating is harder than ever before and people outright giving up on love, we believe we're in a love crisis. But what does th...
#brunchtalk: How To Be Taken More Seriously When Dating
15 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you feel like you've been falling into the friend zone, or looked as someone more 'casual' yet you want something real, we're break...
Quickie w/ Yue: What I Learned About The First 6 Months of A Relationship + Updates On My 'New" Relationship
13 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You've heard the theories about the first 6 months of a relationship and how it's a marker if the relationship will last. Yue's breaking d...
S19E3: How To Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind w/ Todd Baratz
10 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you're looking for a raw, real, non-sugar coated look into dating and relationships, we got you. We're chatting with Todd Baratz – thera...
#brunchtalk: Is It Love Or Infatuation?
08 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When you just start dating someone and you really, really, REALLY like them, it may even feel like love...but is it? And what happens when one of you ...
S19E2: Healing From Relationship Pauses & The No Man Diet w/ Kylie McBeath
03 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you're feeling stuck in dating or your relationship, maybe the solution is a....no man diet. Wha? We're chatting with Kylie McBeath about h...
#brunchtalk: How Do You Stay Motivated To Date?
01 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
With so much happening in life, it can be hard to stay motivated to date –especially when you're not meeting the right people or having the resu...
Quickie w/ Julie: Dating Is Rarely As Personal As It Feels - And Here's Why
29 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It's hard not to take dating personally – especially when someone can't commit or doesn't want to see you again. But what we've lea...
S19E1: The Paradoxes of Modern Dating
27 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Dateables! We're so excited to be back start Season 19 with a bang, diving into the many contractions with modern dating and relationships that co...
Best of Brunch Talk: How Much Should You Share On A Date?
25 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How much do you need to share about yourself, your upbringing, or your past relationships in the early stages of dating? In this week’s best of brun...
How To Date When Dating Is Harder Than Ever Before w/ Damona Hoffman
20 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We're back with our last episode before Season 19 begins next week!!! And this is a good one as we reair an episode we did with Damona Hoffman on ...
Best of Brunch Talk: Is Bad Sex A Dealbreaker?
18 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you meet someone great but the sex is well not so much? On this best of brunch talk, we're diving into how to handle this mismat...
Quickie w/ Yue: Poop Anxiety (In Early Dating)
16 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How many of you get anxiety about using the bathroom when you're just starting to date someone new? Anyone? Yue is going there: taking us through ...
Dating Skills You Need To Find The Relationship You Want w/ Talia Koren of Dating Intentionally
13 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We're getting into some super practical tips to propel your love life as we re-air one of our favorite episodes we've been on with Talia Koren...
Best of Brunch Talk: Can You Turn A Situationship Into a Relationship?
11 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You've been seeing someone for bit now, yet you don't know where things stand and you're starting to yearn for this to be more. Is it too ...
Recovering from Cool Girl Syndrome: A Flashback To Our First Exit Interview
06 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Dates don’t usually end with a satisfaction survey. And yet — we rate everything in our lives, from Uber drivers to local coffee shops. We complet...
Best of Brunch Talk: What To Do When You Keep Getting Rejected?
04 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When another date or budding relationship doesn't work out, it can feel like a sucker-punch in the stomach. You start to question what you're ...
Quickie w/ Julie: Finding Closure From Past Relationships
01 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It's been a big week! Writing a book brings up a lot – especially when the topic is around dating and relationships! Julie is discussing how sh...
Nothing To Lose By Making The First Move: A Flashback For Meeting IRL Inspo + HOW TO BE DATEABLE
30 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Our book HOW TO BE DATEABLE is available for pre-order! We'll recap the wild announcement week along with a flashback episode to a still very hot ...
Best of Brunch Talk: How To Stay Emotionally Available When You've Been Burned in the Past?
28 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How do you keep your heart open when it's been trampled on a few too many times to count? Whether you've recovering from a big breakup or have...
The Secret To Enjoying Dating: A Flashback For Instant Positivity + BIG ANNOUNCEMENT reveal
23 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Our BIG ANNOUNCEMENT is here....along with a flashback to one of the most positive guests we've had on the pod. We guarantee you'll feel more ...
Best of Brunch Talk: How To Tell When Someone Likes You
20 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do they like you? Or not? We're bringing back one of our most listened to #brunchtalks to dissect the age old question of how to tell if someone l...
The Science Of Attraction: A Flashback to Our Most Popular Episode
16 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What makes you attracted to one person and not another? We're bringing back our most popular episode ever with Dr. Paul Eastwick about his work at...
Best of Brunch Talk: Should You Leave a Relationship That's Good But Not Great?
14 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Would you rather stay in a mediocre relationship than to start over and be single? The thought of dating "from scratch" can be daunting but do...
Quickie w/ Yue: The Quickest Way To Stop Bad Dating Behavior
11 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you sick of the ghosting, bread crumbing, flaking, zombie-ing, and the myriad of other bad dating behavior? Yup, us too. Yue is discussing her the...
A PSA To Women: A Flashback to Our Most Controversial Guest
09 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wanted to get into the mind of men who act like they're interested only until you have sex? We're bringing up a spicy one from t...
Best of Brunch Talk: How Do You Know If They're 'The One'?
07 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We've been told from an early age, there's 'The One' – that person who is our best friend, our soulmate, the person we belong with. ...
Sex, Lies, and Scandal: Flashback to our Ashley Madison Exposé
02 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
To kick off this "off season" hot, we're bringing back an extremely relevant episode where we did a deep dive into Ashley Madison, the dat...
Best of Brunch Talk: How Do You Not Get Ahead of Yourself (in Dating)?
30 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It's hard not to imagine a future with someone especially when dating has been a struggle and you *finally* meet someone you like! But what happen...
Quickie w/ Julie: The #1 Skill In A Relationship (That's Not Communication)
27 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We're told that communication is everything in relationships....but what if there's another skill that is arguably more important??? Julie tak...
S18E18: An Alternative To Dating
25 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Is dating the only way to find your person? Contrary to popular belief, we do think there are other ways that aren't the typical date sequence. Tu...
#brunchtalk: How to Stay Open Without Sacrificing What's Right For You?
23 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When you're at a place when you've learned to say no to things that don't feel right...how do you also strike that balance of saying yes w...
S18E17: Navigating The Setback Cycle (in Dating & Relationships) w/ Amy Shoenthal
18 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are setbacks inevitable while dating? We think so – and it's more about how you handle them to move forward. We're joined today with setbac...
#brunchtalk: Are Different Political Views A Deal Breaker?
16 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What happens if you have totally different political views than someone you're seeing...or in this case have been f*cking for the last 15 years? J...