Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Episodes
#brunchtalk: How Do You Know When To Trust Your Gut?
24 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When something feels off...is it just your anxiety talking or is this your gut telling you something is very wrong? Whether you're dating someone ...
Quickie w/ Yue: Stop Waiting For That Text Back (Among Other Things That Are A Waste of Your Time)
22 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We're back for another “Quickie” where every other week, we’ll share a single idea, theory, or revelation – in 10 minutes or less – tha...
S18E4: The 333 Dating Strategy w/ Haifa Barbari
20 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Date 3 People at a time, for 3 months, with 3 chances. Does this strategy work? We're chatting with Haifa about how her 333 Dating Strategy helped...
#brunchtalk: What To Do When You're The Last Single Friend
17 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
So all your friends are all boo'ed up...and then there's you. Single as a Pringle. We've been there before and we get how crappy it can fe...
S18E3: Nice Guys Finish First w/ Vince Xu
13 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We've been told nice guys finish last, but we're debunking this myth as we chat with return guest Vince Xu about how being the nice guy actual...
#brunchtalk: Should You Move For Better Dating Options?
10 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Could the problem be your city? Is it worth moving for better dating prospects? We're diving into it all as we chat about why (or why not) your lo...
Quickie w/ Julie: The Single Scale
08 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We're trying something new! Welcome to the first installment of “Quickies” where every other week, we’ll share a single idea, theory, or rev...
S18E2: F The Fairy Tale w/ Damona Hoffman
06 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Does dating feel like you’re chasing a “happily ever after” that always seems out of reach? We're chatting with dating coach Damona Hoffman...
#brunchtalk: What To Do When Someone Won't Stop Talking On a Date?
03 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever been on a date when your date won't stop talking? We're back with a new season of brunch talks as we go into how to know if it's firs...
S18E1: The Reason You Don't Need To Be Good At Dating
28 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We're back with Season 18 here to answer an existential question we've had after doing this podcast now for 8 years: do you need to be good at...
Best of Brunch Talk: When Should You Define The Relationship
25 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
So you've been dating someone for a little bit now...when is it time to DTR (define the relationship) and how do you broach the subject? In our la...
Are You Using Dating Apps All Wrong? w/ Heather & Laura from Thirsty
21 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As that essential tool we love to hate, the question remains: are apps the problem or are you just using them wrong? We're diving into it all as w...
Best of Brunch Talk: What To Do When They Don't Text Back
18 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
One of the worst feelings in dating is sending that text and only to be left on read 4 hours later....yup, you too? We're going back to our OG Bru...
How To Get Through Valentine's Day w/ 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose
14 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Whether you're newly single after a breakup or you're just trying to figure out how to navigate the day with someone new in your life – we ...
Best of Brunch Talk: Should You Go On A First Date If You're Not 100% Sold?
11 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We're diving into another crowd favorite and incredibly common question we hear over and over again: should I go on that date if I'm not sure ...
Prepping For Your Great Relationship w/ Julia Mazur
07 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Single for V-day? We got you! Get ready for all the feels as we speak with Julia Mazur, ex-Tinder employee turned confidence coach, about what it'...
Best of Brunch Talk: What's The Difference Between Being Picky and Not Settling?
04 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you've ever been told you're being "too picky" or you have a fear of settling, this brunch talk is for you! We're re-airing one...
How To Stop Getting Ghosted w/ Rory Uphold
31 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Despite over 70% of people being ghosted, it doesn't diminish how f%cking sh*tty it feels. We're breaking down how to stop getting ghosted (or...
Best of Brunch Talk: Is Timing Everything In Dating?
28 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Right person, wrong time? Or is it just not meant to be? Trust us, we've pondered this ourselves and we're reairing one of our most passionate...
DIY Your Love Life w/ Ken Page
24 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What if you could throw out all the rules and create your own Do-it-Yourself Vision of a relationship? We're talking about how to design your love...
Best of Brunch Talk: Is The Saying 'If They Wanted To, They Would' True?
21 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Popular dating advice has told us: if they wanted to, they would. They'd move mountains to be with us and if they can't, then they just aren&#...
The Highs and Lows Of Finding Your Person w/ Dr. Alexandra Solomon
17 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
From that post-great-date moment of bliss to the can't-get-out-of-bed heartbreak, we're diving into all the wonderful, problematic, and even h...
Best of Brunch Talk: How Can You Tell If Someone Is Serious About You?
14 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The age old question that never stops coming: how can I tell if the person I'm seeing is as invested in me as I am in them? For our best of brunch...
Playing the F%cking Dating Game w/ Gabrielle Stone
10 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
From mind-numbing texting etiquette to turning situationships into real-deal love stories, we're laying it all out in this week's episode wher...
Best of Brunch Talk: How Do You Meet More People IRL?
07 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
2024 is here and it's time to meet more people in the wild! We're re-airing one of our crowd favorites around the lost art of meeting IRL – ...
New Year, New Love Life
03 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Happy 2024, all! It's the new year which means...a new opportunity to date differently and have the love life you've always wanted! We're ...
#brunchtalk: How To Go Into the New Year with More Optimism Around Dating
31 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
As we approach the new year, how can you change your outlook on dating? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing how to feel more hopeful abou...
S17E18: End of Year Wrap: Breakups, New Relationships, and Living Together
27 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It's been a heck of a 2023! From cheating scandals to cohabitating, we've both been through a lot – and we're sure you have, too! Join u...
#brunchtalk: Should You Go No Contact With Your Ex?
24 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you got your heart crushed – or even if the breakup was amicable – does it make sense to stay in touch with your ex? In this week’s brunch t...
S17E17: Lessons In Love (From A Former Serial Dater) w/ Matteson Perry
20 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Fast-forward 15 years: what does your love life look like now? We're chatting with former guest Matteson Perry, author of a memoir chronicling his...
#brunchtalk: What Constitutes As Cheating?
17 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
From strip clubs to liking sexy Instagram photos, what's the line of cheating in this day and age? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussin...
S17E16: A Second Shot At Love w/ Heather & Laura from Thirsty
13 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We think our chances of love are over after that divorce or heart-wrenching breakup, but it's just the beginning. We're chatting with Laura &a...
#brunchtalk: How Do You Manage A New Relationship?
10 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How much time do you spend together? When should you meet each other's friends and families? How do you still make time for your friends? In this ...
S17E15: Healing Your Intimacy Wounds w/ Andre Lazarus
06 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We're getting intimate, y'all with Intimacy Coach Andre Lazarus as we talk about how past sexual experiences – or inexperiences – may be...
#brunchtalk: Is It A Date Or A Vibe Check?
03 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Dating can be hard (and expensive!) when you're dating multiple people at once, never sure if that first date will amount to anything more. In thi...
S17E14: Is There Any Reality In Reality TV Dating Shows? w/ Justine & Natasha From 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose
29 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
From the Bachelor to Love is Blind to Indian Matchmaking, how much is reality TV is seeping into real-life dating? We're chatting with Natasha &am...
#brunchtalk: Can Your Relationship Work If Your Friends Dislike Your Partner?
26 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Nothing is more uncomfortable than when friends don't approve of your relationship, but is it a dealbreaker? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re...
S17E13: F*ck Cuffing Season
22 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re freaking out about finding a partner during cuffing season – stop right there. We're talking about why cuffing season is actually th...
#brunchtalk: How To Deal With Your Family Asking About Your Love Life Over the Holidays
19 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Tis the season....for the grilling of what's going on in your love life. From questions about why you're still single to when we'll ever g...
S17E12: When You're Ready And They're Not w/ Dr. Alexandra Solomon
15 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Talking about the future can be scary – especially if you're not operating at the exact same speed as your partner. We're talking with Dr. ...
#brunchtalk: What Should You Do When Your Partner Prioritizes Their Family Over You?
12 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
From spending time with their children or even their parents, what do you do when you feel like you come second to your partner’s family? In this we...
S17E11: The Reason They May Not Be Making Moves
08 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Maybe you've experienced that great date only to be confused when it didn't result in a kiss goodnight – or anything more. Are they just no...
#brunchtalk: Why do exes leave breadcrumbs and stay in your life?
05 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
From the IG story view to continuing to profess their love, why don't exes just go away once the relationship is over? In this week's brunch t...
S17E10: Pretty Much Done w/ Julia Mazur
01 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re pretty much done with the pressure of being single and you just want to live your best damn life, then you’re in the right place, our fr...
#brunchtalk: Should I Continue To Date Someone With Mental Health Struggles?
29 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when the person you're dating is going through mental health struggles that make it difficult to date? In this week's brunch talk...
S17E9: The Benefits of Situationships
25 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Yup, you heard us right. We often talk about how situationships wreak havoc to your love life...but today we're back with a solo episode looking a...
#brunchtalk: Is it a Bad Idea to Date Someone Who is Going Through a Divorce?
22 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
So you met someone amazing except they aren't fully separated yet...in fact, maybe they're still living with their ex! Is this a total dealbre...
S17E8: Why People Cheat w/ Dr. Nicolle Zapien
18 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Once a cheater, always a cheater? We’re finding out as we break down the psychology of infidelity with Dr. Nicolle Zapien about the psychology of ch...
#brunchtalk: Can They Love You but Not Want Anything Real?
15 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Is it possible for someone to love and care about you, yet still not want anything serious? Did their words mean anything? On this week's brunch t...
S17E7: Inside The Psyche of a F*ckboy w/ Martin Morrow
10 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wonder why someone would f*ck around instead of fully committing –even if they're in love? We’re going deep with comedian Martin Morrow a...
#brunchtalk: Are They Just a Rebound?
08 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you're fresh out of a relationship – or dating someone who is newly single – how do you know if it's real or just a rebound? We’re d...
S17E6: Recovering From Crimes of the Heart w/ Rory Uphold
04 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
From horrific first dates to savage breakups, you've probably experienced crimes of the heart ranging from misdemeanors to full on felonies. We...
#brunchtalk: Is Lack of Experience a Turn Off?
01 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you've had limited relationship experience, do you have wonder if it's getting in your way? We’re discussing ways your past relationship ...
S17E5: Should You Stay or Should You Go?
27 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When is it time to work on a relationship vs. call it quits? Should you go on that 2nd date or swipe on someone new? We're back with a solo episod...
#brunch talk: Any Advice for Moving In Together?
24 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When you've been single and have lived alone for a while, what happens when the time comes to move in together? If you're anything like us, yo...
S17E4: Following Your Intuition (in Dating) w/ Nikki Novo
20 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
You always hear: listen to your gut, follow your heart, trust your intuition. But what does that even mean? We’re chatting with one of our favorite ...
#brunchtalk: How Do You Keep a Connection Going?
17 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you meet someone you like – then you go away for a week, and they go away for a week, only to realize that your budding romance ha...
S17E3: Where Are All The Dateable People? w/ Evan Marc Katz
13 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Maybe you've ever wondered why you can't seem to find good people on the apps, in your city, or wherever you go. But today we're sharing h...
#brunchtalk: When Do You Reveal Your Past Relationship History?
10 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The past is the past...but is it? We're discussing the circumstances when you should bring up your past relationship status when dating. We’re d...
S17E2: The Other Woman
06 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Buckle up friends, this one is juicy! Today we're joined with Kelly aka "the other woman" in Yue's infidelity story to hear her POV an...
#brunchtalk: Should You Go on a 1st Date if You're Not 100% Sold?
03 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Brunch talk is back as we go into a question that all too many of you may be asking: should I go on that date if I'm not sure about them. In this ...
S17E1: The 80/20 Rule of Dating Apps
30 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wonder why it's so damn hard to meet people on dating apps yet 40% of couples meet that way? We're back with a solo episode uncovering th...
BONUS: Down & Dirty w/ Darci Smith
23 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Just one more week until we’re back with Season 17! But until then, we’re getting down and dirty with @careercoachdarci as we take a more professi...
Flashback Series - Rock Bottom
16 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever had that moment that made you re-evaluate your entire dating life? Well friends, we’re about to hit rock bottom as we reair one final ...
Flashback Series - Love Is Not Enough w/ Mark Manson
09 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
All you need to do is meet the right person, fall in love, and then everything magically works out...right? Sadly this isn't a romcom and we'r...
Flashback Series - So We Went to a Sex Party...
02 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Summer is filled with parties…bday parties…pool parties…sex parties? We’re going back to the archives for this epic episode as we reair our to...
BONUS: This is 40 - Yue interviews Julie
26 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It's a celebration, y'all! We're talking about milestone bdays as Yue interviews Julie about turning the big 4-0 and the celebrations that...
BONUS: The Friendship Episode
19 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today we're talking about one of the most important relationships of all: friendship! Julie and Yue discuss the importance of friendship, yet why ...
Bonus: Are We Dating The Same Person?
12 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
So you’re dating someone new - would you want to know if someone else had intel about them before you went on a date? Or would you want to find out ...
BONUS: The Next Chapter Post Breakup - Julie interviews Yue
05 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you discover your partner of almost 5 years has been unfaithful? In this episode, Julie interviews Yue about her recent breakup. We ...
S16E20: Finding Love At Any Age w/ May Lee
28 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Gone are the days when you need to lock it down before you're 30 – we're firm believers that you can find love at any age! We're chattin...
#brunchtalk: How Do You Meet More People IRL?
25 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ah the age-old question: How do I meet people in the wild? Nowadays it seems like a lost art yet we're craving this organic meet-cute more than ev...
S16E19: Discovering Your Core Gifts In Dating w/ Ken Page
21 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What if what you thought was your biggest fault ended up being your greatest asset? We're digging into how to use our core gifts as we chat with o...
#brunchtalk: Should You Move In With Your Partner?
18 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you need to move in together to move your relationship forward? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing the right time to move in together...
S16E18: The Truth About Love & Money w/ Meredith Goldstein
14 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Money, money, money! We're diving into why money is so much more central in dating and relationships than we even thought as we chat with journali...
#brunchtalk: How To Respond When Your Ex Asks To Be Setup With Your Friend
11 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
So you got a text from your ex....and they're asking to be set up with your friend. Wait...what? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing ...
S16E17: Getting Married in the Metaverse
07 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We're going into a galaxy far away to experience the ultimate commitment – the very first legal marriage in the Metaverse! We're chatting w...
#brunchtalk: Is It A Red Flag If Your Date Texts Too Much?
04 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
So you have a date set up but they are a bit text heavy before you've even met in person. In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing the lin...
S16E16: Why Divorce Doesn't Have to Suck
31 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Whether you've been divorced before or you just fear it, we're going to debunk why the D word doesn't have to be so scary by talking to di...
#brunchtalk: Help! Am I coming on too strong?
28 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever been worried your anxious attachment style sabotages your relationships? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re dissecting what "comi...
S16E15: What Would Your Ex Say?
24 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wonder what your ex would say if someone were to ask them about your relationship? Dates don't usually end with a satisfaction survey, yet we...
#brunchtalk: How do you deal with negativity on the apps?
21 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
So you're on the dating apps and you start to encounter a ton of negativity – so much it's making you start to rethink dating at all. Do yo...
S16E14: From Casual to Committed
17 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
So you're not looking for anything serious....sh*t. Whether you've been here before or you're wondering how something more casual may shif...
#brunchtalk: Should You Have A List?
14 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
So you're dating and trying to find your person. You know what you're looking for...should you make a list? In this week’s brunch talk, we’...
S16E13: How Your Childhood Wounds Impact Your Love Life w/Vienna Pharaon
10 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
So is the reason our love lives are so f#*ked because of our...childhood? While we aren't blaming our parents, we are unpacking our childhood woun...
#brunchtalk: How Do You Go In For The Kiss?
07 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
You know that moment...the date's going well, and you're wondering: should I go for it? Should I go in for that kiss? In this week’s brunch ...
S16E12: Dating In Different Cultures
03 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Buckle up as we're about to embark on a trip around the world to find out what it's like to date when you're the one immersed in a new cul...
#brunchtalk: How Do You Date Someone Avoidant?
30 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you find yourself dating someone who is avoidant? How do you navigate conflict especially when you may be more on the anxious side? ...
S16E11: Coming Back Stronger After Heartbreak w/ Gabrielle Stone
26 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you experience not one, but two gut-wrenching breakups within a couple of months? You go on a solo trip to do some soul-searching! W...
#brunchtalk: How Much Should You Share On A Date
23 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How much do you need to share about yourself, your upbringing, or your past relationships in the early stages of dating? In this week’s brunch talk ...
S16E10: Taking Sexual Attraction Out Of The Equation
19 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you were to take sex and attraction off the table, what does it mean to have a relationship? We're diving in with David and Yasmin about their ...
#brunchtalk: Can I Use ChatGPT On Dating Apps?
16 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How well does ChatGPT work for dating app convos? Is it ethical? We're diving in to discuss (and find out!) in this week's brunch talk. We’r...
S16E9: Do You Believe In Love At First Sight?
12 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Whether you're screaming YES or you're extremely skeptical, this episode is going to be relatable for all as we chat with Kate about her exper...
#brunchtalk: How Much Communication Should Happen Between Dates
09 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
So you met someone who seems fantastic and everything has been moving along well...except that you don't talk much between dates. Should you be co...
S16E8: Healing Your Past to Feel Dateable
05 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We all have a story about ourselves that explains why our love lives aren't falling into place...but are they even true? We're chatting with B...
#brunchtalk: How To Go From "Fine" Dates To Great Ones
02 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Maybe you had a date or a series of them that were fine. You *could* see them again but would also be perfectly OK if your paths never crossed again. ...
S16E7: What It's Like To Be In A Sex Cult
29 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when the sexual wellness community you're part of starts to feel like a cult? We're chatting with Rebecca, who is still coming to...
#brunchtalk: Is It A Red Flag If They Don't Have Friends?
26 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
So you’re dating someone new and when it comes time to meet the friends…there are none. Is this a major red flag or not a huge deal? In this week’...
S16E6: Why You're Choosing The Wrong Partners w/ Psychotherapist Marc Sholes
22 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when your "type" doesn't seem to work, yet you keep gravitating towards people with similar characteristics over and over aga...
#brunchtalk: How much PDA is too much PDA?
19 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We all want to be the cute loving couple but never to be THAT couple....so what's the line? And how do your levels of PDA change depending on if y...