What if your anxious attachment wasn’t something to fix—but a survival response to be understood and healed? In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by trauma-informed somatic coach Valerie Rubin to explore the deeper roots of anxious attachment and why nervous system regulation—not mindset work alone—is the missing piece for so many.Valerie shares her own journey from anxiety and people-pleasing to emotional safety and secure connection, as well as the body-based tools she now uses to support clients in transforming their relationship patterns. We talk about how anxious attachment shows up in everyday life, how to navigate dating and relationships when you fear abandonment, and why true healing starts by coming home to your body.Whether you're stuck in anxious loops, craving a more secure love, or feeling exhausted by chasing validation—this episode offers a hopeful, grounded path forward.Connect with Valerie:https://www.valrubin.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/?hl=enFacebook: https://m.facebook.com/valerie.rubin.39/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/valerierubin?utm_source=share&utm_campaign=share_via&utm_content=profile&utm_medium=ios_appMy podcast: https://spotify.link/75rKte7pRJbMy free masterclass on how to break your attraction to emotionally unavailable partners: https://stan.store/healwithval/p/get-my-templateebookcourse-now-ora8z2gu---------------------------------EASE: THE MASTERCLASS—> REGISTER HERE; LIVE JAN 21st:https://marinayt.com/ease-masterclass ❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform❥❥❥Stay or Go Course: ⁠https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go⁠ ❥❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggersTRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERSThis powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your lifeDownload here:⁠ ⁠https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"Anxious attachment is not a flaw—it’s your body asking for safety.""Before I could show up securely in love, I had to re-parent the parts of me that never felt seen.""Healing anxious attachment is less about fixing and more about softening into yourself.""Somatic work helps you rewire what love feels like in your nervous system.""You can’t think your way to secure attachment—you have to feel your way there."anxious attachment, attachment healing, somatic therapy, nervous system regulation, secure relationships, inner child healing, trauma-informed coaching, embodied healing, emotional regulation, attachment style, healing relationships, relationship anxiety, self-worth, nervous system healing, trauma recovery

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