ANNOUNCEMENT: For those of you already registered for the FREE Masterclass---they are being released at 7pmEST, TODAY. Or sign up here: delightyourmarriage.com/masterclass -- About 15-20% of couples are "sexless" meaning very few instances of intimacy per year. When I work with these couples it's evident that both people are hurting. And often the husband doesn't realize he's injuring his wife on a daily basis which prevents her from coming towards him in intimacy... which leads us to Paul's powerful testimony of Jesus' work in his marriage. This conversation is such a joy because you can't help but be in awe of God after listening. Lyle and his wife had been married 35 years. And unfortunately, many of those years were sexless. Though they spent 21 years in counseling, tens of thousands of dollars on counseling, they had experienced separations and he said they were housemates and often adversaries. "The year before your course, we had sex 4 times" and as he puts it there was no intimacy, just "sex". He decided to take the leap of faith and enroll in the Masculinity Reclaimed program. He worked for 3 months. But he saw changes even after the first meeting. His heart changed. He started to see her as an incredible woman again. Something he hadn't been able to see for many years. And his wife started noticing his changes and liking them! And then they started making love! Enthusiastically and regularly! And even a few months after the program (and him still implementing what he learned!) SHE suggested they make love every week in a playful and positive way. They went from housemates to friends and lovers. Lovemaking increased in all ways, but as Lyle mentioned it is reflective of their entire relationship improving. And she didn't even know he was doing the program, because he didn't want her to think his efforts to change their marriage were selfish or all about sex. When he did share it with her a couple of months after the program, not only was she glad he did it, but she also said she was glad he didn't tell her. Otherwise, she would have been suspect. I grilled Lyle pretty hard on this point because it's a question I get from husbands a lot. They want to take the program but feel they need to involve their wives. But Lyle wonders how about planning a surprise for your wife--a birthday party for example. It's also a secret, but a good secret. And one your wife will THANK you for later. You'll be encouraged by Lyle's testimony. You can have hope of transformation. Truly you can. The burdens of rejection, stress, and oppression were gone and instead were replaced with creativity, energy, and LIFE. Intimacy can be hard to navigate especially when your marriage seems to be falling to pieces, but by God's grace, it does not have to stay that way. Listen in to this amazing testimonial of God's transformation! And Lyle gives plenty of advice and encouragement for you! Blessings, Belah PS Today is the day for the FREE Masterclass! One for men or the other one for women, go to delightyourmarriage.com/masterclass (It'll be available for just a few days.) It's released at 7pmEST today!

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