Delight Your Marriage

421-Be Your Spouse's Servant

01 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Maybe you don't really understand what "servant" means in relation to your spouse.    Let's explore that together on our podcast today.   Be your s...

420-Argument vs. Clarification

22 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you've been around for a while, you may have heard that we say you must have "0 arguments" in your marriage.  "But that's not normal." "But that's...

419-Half Truths Can Destory More than Lies

17 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The definition of a half-truth is "a statement that conveys only part of the truth, especially one used deliberately in order to deceive someone." I d...

311-Intimacy and the Gospel (Re-release)

09 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

(This is a re-release from previously.) I used to be so weirded out by sex because I was pursuing Jesus with everything. How could my life be sold out...

418-Appreciate Your Spouse's Uniqueness

02 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

"We're just so different." "We have nothing in common." "Our personalities are not compatible."   This is a big problem in marriages.  People notice...

417-Resensitize Your Pleasure (for PIED, Low Drive & Hi Drive folk)

26 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

"Why can't I be fulfilled by what I SHOULD be able to?" -Higher-drive men, Higher-drive women "Why can't I get aroused by what I SHOULD be able to?" ...

416-Increased Desire (Asexual is/not a Thing?) Sarah's Transformation Story

19 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Many of our wife listeners have lower drives than their husbands. (I hear you!) And that's just the way it is. Nothing to be done, just deal with it....

415-Married to YOU--Year End Review

30 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In approaching the new year, I invite you to rewind your calendar and consider...your marital performance in 2023. What if I asked your spouse what it...

414-Changing OURSELVES In Light of Eternity

22 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

As we are soon gathering together with loved ones to celebrate the Savior's birth, I would love for you to remember what life is all about.  When we ...

413-Obsessed with Marriage or God's Will?

15 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It's hard to discern (or even admit) if we are obsessed.  So here's the definition:  "an idea or thought that continually preoccupies or intrudes...

412-Sleeping in Separate Bedrooms, Now Healing. Interview with Jacques

08 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

After 33 years of marriage, they were disconnected.  At that point, they were sleeping in separate bedrooms.  Maybe you're at a spot where it's hard...

411-Real Love Takes Sacrifice

01 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You may wonder when God is going to show up in your life.   In your situation.    In your marriage.    You may believe in God but don't feel His ...

410-Turn Tension to Thanksgiving (4 Steps)

22 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Tomorrow is the day (in the US) we set aside to be grateful.   Or it's a day we set aside to get frustrated with family, binge eat, and watch footbal...

409-Lonely & Pessimistic to Blossoming & United. Randy's Transformation Story

17 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Randy felt lonely, disconnected, and that his wife cared about everything and everyone else more than his wife. He was a strong believer and prayed fo...

408-Every Dad Can Win. Interview with Dr. Don & Ninja Suzanne Manning

10 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Dads, When it comes to fatherhood, do you feel at times like you don't know what you're doing?  At times, does the chaos and frustration of it all fe...

407-Jesus Treated Women Differently (Men--It's Learnable)

03 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When I was first with my (now) husband he showed me my value.  Value I didn't know I had. Worth I didn't know I was. He taught me how precious my ...

406-Who Are You Confessing Your Sin To?

30 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Solomon. The wisest man in the whole world. Ever. Fell to sex.  David. The man after God's own heart. Fell to sex. Samson. The real-life superhero....

405-Persistence, Twice-through and God Changed It. David's Transformation Story

20 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today's story is by a wonderful man who needed help to receive the intimacy he was really hoping for.    As a person who believed in Jesus and was s...

404-Be Refreshed to Refresh Your Spouse

13 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You may be one who is really good about getting yourself filled up in order to be your best for your spouse. But for the rest of us, this episode is...

403-Finally Unstuck. Chris' Transformation Story

06 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

He's been a Christian for many years, yet couldn't seem to "crack" how people transform. He knew he wasn't where God would want him to be, but couldn'...

402-My Son's Appeal to Let Your Husband Lead

29 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

My son, age 10, is going to talk to you today. And I invite you to ​​imagine this is your son.  What kind of father do you want him to see? A...

401-Purity Culture Had Side Effects Til Now. Lindsay's Transformation Story

22 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

They saved themselves for marriage. (Yay!) But there were other hurdles encountered as a result of a lack of insight around intimacy and God's wonderf...

Thank you! ...Pre-Engaged Workbook hit #1!

18 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

DYM Listeners -- Thank you SO much for all your help with this Pre-Engaged Workbook launch.    And God got us on the charts... #1 New Release in ...

400-Stop Competing and Win

15 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We are LOVING the excitement about the Pre-Engaged Workbook, which will be released soon.   (It is supposed to go live today, but isn't available yet...

399-"My Wife Wanted a Divorce." Now, "Like Newlyweds." Hunter's Transformation Story

08 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I just have to apologize ahead of time because this headline is way too sensational. I can hear you saying, "It's frankly not realistic." I get it.  ...

398-Your Insecurity Is Harming Your Spouse

01 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We're all insecure.  I am. You are.    We might not be insecure about the same things, but we've all got it.    Today, I want to talk about the i...

397-Pride & Adultery to Healing & Joy! Amber's Transformation Story

25 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Amber can tell you straight up... God has changed her.  For so many reasons, she would have said her behavior was warranted. (I know the feeling and ...

396-Is Porn a Salvation Issue?

18 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

There can only be 1 answer to this question: Yes, or No.    Well, who do you go to to answer questions like this? Do you have a pastor? A friend? A ...

395-After an Affair He Changed & Won Back His Wife's Heart. Wayne's Transformation Story

11 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I don't have to tell you that the enemy is out for families. Because the best-case scenario is a mom and dad that love each other raising children tha...

394-THIS Intimacy is What God Wants With You. Dan's Transformation Story

04 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Driving down the road, crying out to God.  And, maybe, the strongest he's ever heard the Lord responded to him. It wasn't rebuke. But an invitation....

393-The Sin of Self-Pity (aka Pride)

28 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I should be clear... I don't struggle with this. The stories I share about my pride in this episode are a complete rarity. Almost never happens. ​I ...

392-Dropped Porn (& 20lbs). Taylor's Transformation Story

21 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Back 1.5 years ago, Taylor went through the men's program and witnessed God do some important work. Most important: in his heart.  But as Jesus says:...

How healthy is your marriage? Marital Health Assessment (free tool)

20 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You may be on a journey to get a better marriage...  But do you know where you are right now?    The trouble is when people with a 9/10 marriage gi...

391-Marriage and the End Times

14 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We are indeed at war.  Now is not the time to walk idly by.  Now is not the time to pretend it's all just fine.  Now is not the time to think only ...

390-Should a Woman Lead This? Donny's Transformation Story

07 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

As an Amish growing up, Donny has had quite the journey.  Just a couple of years ago after God rescued him from a very difficult place, his marriage ...

389-Frustrated Empty Nesters to Enjoying Growing Old Together. Kim's Transformation Story

30 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

As empty nesters, you know how they say you'll enjoy growing old together. Well, Kim says, "We were growing older, but not enjoying it." Kim was suffe...

388-Healing His Wife's Sexual Abuse. Bill H's Transformation Story

23 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

My heart goes out to any wife who has experienced sexual abuse. There are so many layers of pain... it's truly horrible.  As a husband, the evil that...

REPOST: 345-What Is the Value of a Clarity Call?

19 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Clarity is crucial in a marriage because it allows individuals to gain self-awareness, understand their own emotions and behaviors, and without even r...

387-Engineer, Feeling Helpless, Discovered "It's REAL". Kevin's Transformation Story

09 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I'd like to share Kevin's story, mostly in his own words.  As always, there is a huge message of hope and transformation available in this story, so ...

386-Men, You Were Designed For Respect

02 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I am grateful so many men share their unfiltered hearts with me.  It is an honor and a privilege.  I find that many men feel extremely misunderstood...

385-Nervous Breakdown or Separation? But Then He Led. Joyce's Transformation Story

26 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Oh, the pain of frustration, being consistently misunderstood, and having your needs (legitimate needs) consistently trampled upon. Both Jerry and Joy...

384-Good Mother to God-Honoring Wife! Jenny's Transformation Story

26 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for an inspiring conversation with Jenny, a loving housewife and mother of four from Finland. In this episode, Jenny shares her remarkable tra...

383-Moms Sacrifice. Should Wives?

12 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Mother's Day is almost here! (This Sunday!) Make sure the mom in your life is getting treated really nicely! She is WONDERFUL and deserves to be celeb...

382-Set Biblical Boundaries Graciously -- With Yourself & Others

05 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This title was hard to come up with.   Essentially, I want you to have the tools and mindset to figure out how to set boundaries with yourself and wi...

381-Judicious Pastor Vouches for This. David's Transformation Story

28 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Pastor David had a rocky start with his marriage.    Facing his hurts wasn't what he actually wanted to do. He was nervous to bring it up to his wif...

How to STRATEGICALLY share Pre-Dating Workbook? (#1 New Release in Youth Ministry!!)

28 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Our interview is about how to get a young person to read/do this workbook that could set them up for a successful dating and married life! --- WOW! I ...

380-Unfaithful but Now Trusting Again. Brett's Transformation Story

21 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Brett is fantastic! Firstly, many men have a similar past that we work with but don't share it openly. I really appreciate Brett's boldness to share a...

379-What are You Teaching the Next Generation about Marriage?

18 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You are teaching them.  Whether consciously or unconsciously, they're observing you and figuring out whether you have something they want.  Do they ...

378-[Even During War] "Don't Postpone It". Ukrainian Alex's Transformation Story

14 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When the crisis occurs outside of your home, if it's not peaceful and healed in your marriage, it becomes an additional stress instead of support in a...

377-Your Prison of Shame--the Way Out

06 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you exhausted from the fight? The struggle? The resist and then fail? Then try, then fail, then good, then fail, then try again, then fail...   M...

376-Proud, Serious & Lonely to Leading with Wonderful Connection. Steve's Transformation Story

31 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

So... a serious ex-military gent (on his way to becoming a drill sergeant) decided it was time to fix his marriage.  Then as a business leader and a ...

375-"Roommates" to "Unbelievable" in 3 Months. Adam's Transformation Story

24 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

"Unbelievable." (ie: There's no way that's true.) That's how he felt when he heard the transformation stories. He was in a place of desperation.  Bei...

374-A Marriage Saving Roadmap for Skeptics or Non-Christians

16 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

There are so many people I wish I could help when I meet them at the playground, park, at a party... so here it is.    Marriage can be tough. VERY t...

373-Infertility, Anxiety and Now Joyful & Even Adventurous. Rose's Transformation Story

10 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Their marital intimacy never seemed to be right. Early on, they struggled with infertility and then a heartbreaking miscarriage. God did give them a b...

372-Love His Member, Win His Heart Part 2

03 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

If you're a wife...this podcast is dynamite! Wow, I just gotta say...thank You, Lord, for giving our dear Belah such wise insight and for her willingn...

371-Love His Member, Win His Heart. Part 1

24 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

My goal today is to inspire a curious heart.  Could God have really designed men and women differently? Could your differences truly be HIS design? C...

370-Discontentment Has a Cost

17 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

God gives us opportunities to change all the time. Change the way we think, the way we are, the way we understand the world.    And it saddens me wh...

369-My Husband's Encouragement to Wives

10 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hi, dear sisters.   My husband felt inspired to share some thoughts with you.    Actually, I was trying to communicate something to wives that I ju...

368-From Good to Marriage of His Dreams. Roy's Transformation Story

31 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Roy was married 25 years with 5 kids. And they had a good marriage. They love the Lord and seek to serve Him with all. Intimacy was tough though. And ...

367-Bad Communication, Bitterness to Beauty. Tom's Transformation Story

27 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Is what you're doing in your marriage right now working for you?    Do you feel hopeless?   Are you lonely in your marriage?    If you believed t...

366-Humility/Humiliation in Your Marriage

20 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Is there dignity in humility?  Is there dignity in humiliation?  Initially, you might think not.    But then we have to take a moment to consider ...

365-Are You the One Who Needs to Change? (3 Discernments)

13 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

"It's my spouse who needs to change."   If you've said this or thought this...you are right.    So now, no need to listen to anything because there...

REPOST: 171 New Year Reflections That Will Change My Life

06 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

  This episode was back from the very beginning of 2019. Wow! It's STILL relevant. And even when I re-listened, I was struck by a specific exerci...

364-Damned If I Don't Forgive My Spouse?

22 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This was meant to be a light & encouraging holiday podcast episode.    Then, it turned into a heavy and warning-type episode.    You'll be around ...

REPOST: 273-New Year, Stronger Vision

16 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This was originally published a while back--but we highly recommend you listen again as you're praying through and discerning what God has for you in ...

REPOST: 303-Communication Secrets, Part 2

09 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This is the next part of Communication Secrets and I think it's an important addendum.    We talk about what to do when you're disappointed with you...

REPOST: 302-Communication Secrets

02 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

… So much stress revolves around communication. I've been there! My husband and I have miscommunications everyday. Today, for example, I was telling...

REPOST: 312-Why A Potholder Started WW3

23 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Since Thanksgiving is coming up and we're around people we love, but sometimes have strained relationships. We wanted to repost this episode so you ca...

REPOST: 331-Why Duty Sex Hurts Him (& Her)

18 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Often preparing for Thanksgiving is the real STRESS. So -- guess what!? Make love now, so you have a connected, peaceful, and truly enjoyable Thanksg...

363-Tough to Teachable to "Truly Unbelievable" - Mick's Transformation Story

11 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

(Alliteration is such a... joy--isn't it? :) Hoping that gave you a needed chuckle...   But seriously... Mick's story is GREAT! He is a dynamic, char...

REPOST: 286-Change Your Motivations

04 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If you've ever seen a headline (one of mine or someone else's), "They did [this] and got [this]" you may have experienced a "transactional trigger". ...

REPOST: 298-Respect An Untrustworthy Husband--or He May Never Change

28 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I used to think I only respected someone if they deserved it. Whether that was my husband or the young adults I worked with. Which meant I didn't trea...

REPOST: 342-If You Only Knew His Love

21 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

When I look back on my life — when I see what is currently unseen — when I see Jesus face to face — when all has been revealed… I am convinced...

362-Healing from Sexual Trauma. Lisa's Transformation Story

14 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel broken? Dirty? Ashamed? These are all normal feelings for a victim of sexual trauma.    Do you know what feelings Lisa now has? Freedom....

361-Preventing and Healing from Infidelity. Interview with Gary Thomas

07 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

"Betrayal to a marriage is what dynamite is to a door" says Gary Thomas. Obliterating all trust, safety, dreams... Could there be hope? Could there be...

360-Can You Release Sexual Anxiety While Engaged? Transformation Stories

30 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you getting close to marriage and the looming thought of a healthy sex life gives anxiety? I invite you to listen in to these two women who were v...

359-What is TRUE Masculinity? Convo with Kyle

23 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Enrollment for the program closes tonight, Masculinity Reclaimed delightyourmarriage.com/minvite ----- Today's podcast episode... If perverted masculi...

358-Rapid Fire Transformations (Part 4)

20 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Wow -- God is so good. Men are joining the 3-month program Masculinity Reclaimed because they're ready to become the men that God has called them to b...

357-Do You TRUST God with Your Intimacy?

16 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Is Jesus the Lord of your life in EVERY area?  Are you trusting God in everything except your marriage?  Are you saying, "Yes, I will follow," but t...

356-How to Encourage Your Man (my husband joins me!)

06 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

**Masculinity Reclaimed: Foundations course is starting Monday, September 12, 2022 -- it's on-demand training but will only be available for about a w...

355-Change & Your Kids Witness an AWESOME Marriage. Robert's Transformation Story

02 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

(My boys make an audio appearance on today's episode). I thought it was appropriate because Robert and I both got choked up towards the end of this in...

354-I Had to Heal for My Marriage To. Reed's Transformation Story

27 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

From a past of pain and hurt Reed realized he needed healing. His first wife left him after twenty years. He then found out that she had had several e...

353-What's Behind Porn Addiction? Interview with Therapist Sam Tielemans

19 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

An episode for a struggling husband -- or his wife.  To give you hope.  See, if you don't know what is the root of a behavior it's very hard to "whi...

352-"Once You Know, You Can't Unknow." Jameson's Transformation Story

12 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We invite you to listen in to Jameson's story. Jameson participated in the free MR Foundations course that we offered in March 2022, and then decided ...

351-Do Not Squander Today (Lay Down Your Pride)

05 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The FREE Masculinity Reclaimed Foundations training is back for the last time this year. If you missed it previously, join on September 12 -- sign up ...

350-Never Argue -- How You Should Disagree

29 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Alternate Title: 7 Steps to a Productive Disagreement -- Arguing. Ugh. It's so... so... unhelpful. When have you left an argument where the dust has s...

349-Pray with Me...for Your Encouragement

19 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Encouraging believers is a very biblical concept in the New Testament.  I want to encourage you in this episode.  I am praying for several people th...

348-"Wholehearted" Sex - Darcy's Advice for Husbands and Wives

15 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I'm excited to share that my wonderful friend Darcy is here to share her story and advice for you! She is actually the Delight Your Marriage Office Ma...

347-How to Be Spiritually Mature

08 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Well, first of all, I feel very ill-equipped to answer this question.    However, I don't think it serves you best for me to pretend that I don't kn...

346-Be Mature (Surrender Your Sexuality to God's Design)

30 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

When God said, "Let there be light," something amazing happened.  When I said, "Let there be light," ummm... well... I felt silly and 0 things, amazi...

345-So What Exactly Is a Clarity Call?

23 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Clarity is crucial in a marriage because it allows individuals to gain self-awareness, understand their own emotions and behaviors, and without even r...

344-How to Make Orgasm Better for Her (Re-Release)

17 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I am sharing the episode that has the most downloads at Delight Your Marriage of all time!   Blessings, Belah PS - Also, I have many free resources a...

343-When the Past Still Plagues Your Marriage

10 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If your marriage is still plagued by your past mistakes -- she brings up what happened 20 years ago... or he brings up how you used to be all the time...

342-If You Only Knew His Love

03 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

When I look back on my life -- when I see what is currently unseen -- when I see Jesus face to face -- when all has been revealed... I am convinced I ...

341-"I Didn't Realize How Much I Needed to Change". Meredith's Transformation Story

27 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You're doing it. You want to hear where you might need to grow. You want to see where you might not see yet. That was Meredith's heart and what led to...

340-What to Do With Your Jealousy

20 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If you have temptations to jealousy, here's what I recommend.  If you've listened to the transformation stories and become upset, angry, bitter, rese...

339-Irritable & Hurt to Flirty & Free. Emily's Transformation Story

13 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I've been there.  Angry because he wouldn't change.  Hurt because he wasn't giving me what I needed. And God was kind to me.  He helped me to see t...

338-"Pretty Much Done with Life" and Now True Intimacy. Len's Transformation Story

06 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

"I was pretty much done with life...I wouldn't have minded if I passed away. If this is all life has to offer, what's the point?"   A father of 7. De...

337-Three Ways to Dismantle the Marital Atomic Bomb During the Countdown

29 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

They're saying a lot of hurtful things. They're saying it in a mean tone of voice. Their face has the look of disgust, or worse.   You can feel your ...

336-His Aggression Impulse (& Wrong Sex)

21 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

SO much packed in here, but I tried to narrow it down so you have a helpful summary. We go deep in this episode, I really think it'll help you. Three ...