Delight Your Marriage

335-Don't Undermine Her (Sexual) Progress

08 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This is a great sadness to me. When a wife steps out (even an inch) from her comfort zone and her husband mishandles this vulnerability.  Whether it'...

334-Rapid Fire Transformation Stories - Part 3

03 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I never want to "get over" the miracles we see, daily. But, you will be blown away by what God continues to do. It can happen for you. It can happen f...

333-Roommates for 20 yrs... "I Truly Cannot Believe Where We Are". Bill's Transformation Story

01 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

(Enrollment is open for Masculinity Reclaimed program -- check it out here delightyourmarriage.com/minvite -- closes April 4, 2022) -- Skeptical. Yep,...

332-Tunnel With No Light & Now Joy Filled -- Steve's Transformation Story

26 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Click here to sign up for the all-new Masculinity Reclaimed: Foundations course! THIS Monday, March 28, 2022! delightyourmarriage.com/menscourse -- Ho...

331-Why Duty Sex Hurts Him (& Her!)

16 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Duty sex…this is such a huge challenge for SO many couples - on both sides of the aisle!   Husbands and wives, how does our personal approach to se...

330-DYM Team Take Over!

11 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I promise I didn't put them up to this... But I was nervous about what they'd say, so I asked if they'd let me hear it before it went live.  Golly....

329-"I Changed & She Drew Towards Intimacy" - Minister Matt's Transformation Story

07 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Have you lost hope of your marriage EVER changing? You're not alone! Many who come to Delight Your Marriage (DYM) have all but given up on their marri...

328-Years of Confusion Around Sex and Now Finally Clear…Pastor Luke's Transformation Story

25 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How would you rate intimacy in your marriage…any type of intimacy?    Do you wonder why intimacy is such a difficult topic in marriage? Do you wis...

327-"We Fell in Love Again!" - Pastor Bennie's Transformation Story

18 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

"I wish I could have done this course before I got married." - Pastor Bennie This is a statement that we commonly hear at DYM. Whether a marriage is g...

326-Thirty-Seven Years "Pushed" & Now "Free" - Julie's Transformation Story

11 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

"She felt he was pushing her towards sex and she would pull away and it would make him angry". After 37 years of marriage, God has done a work in thei...

325-Married (Sacred) Sex. Interview with Gary Thomas

04 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What a fantastic interview with Gary Thomas! If you're not familiar with him yet, I think you'll be glad that you are now! Gary has a new book out: Ma...

324-The Humility (& Humiliation) of Growth

28 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever feel humbled by your mistakes? Do you ever feel flat-out humiliated?    Oh my, do I fall into that sometimes!  I think the enemy feels ...

323-Your Wife's First DYM Episode

21 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This is a resource to invite your wife to Delight Your Marriage, and to me, Belah Rose.    I would love for you, husband, to listen first and see if...

322-The Danger of Words on Intimacy

14 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I think we often forget about the power of words. Especially if the "party" we're talking about isn't present.  But what about the "party" that is pr...

321-Impotent Masculinity: "The Biggest Issue on the Planet"

07 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jfyi, I recorded all of this episode (except for the very last portion) about 11 weeks ago, so for those currently in DYM programs -- take it personal...

320-How I Discern God's Will -- Your 2022 Goals

04 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you have your goals for 2022? Do you have your goals for Q1 of 2022? I don't just mean business/work goals. I mean goals that help align your life ...

319-May Christmas Inspire Faith for...

16 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Oh, we wish you a Merry Christmas, and we wish you fear-free Christmas, and we wish you a faith-filled Christmas, and from all of us at D-Y-M!   That...

318-The Value (And Annoyance) of Feelings

10 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How do we process feelings in order to bring about healing into our relationships, rather than cause tension and strife? Can we trust our feelings? Do...

317-Be Gentle with Yourself, But Don't Stop. Interview with Ebony

01 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Oh wow -- what an awesome and surprising conversation I got to have with Ebony.  Firstly, this was supposed to be my opportunity to coach her as a re...

316-10 Ways to Rekindle Your Relationship, Part 2

23 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Last week was part 1, and today I'm excited to bring you the last few items to rekindle the romance, intimacy, connection that may have been lost over...

315-10 Ways to Rekindle Your Relationship, Part 1

23 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

So this is a catch-all type of episode that seeks to give you high-level insights where you can almost immediately gain traction in rekindling romance...

314-(For your Holiday) The Harm of Fights & How to Recover

16 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

JUST in time for the holidays! Please listen to this before you have a blow-up with the people most important to you. I'll give you a lot of tools tha...

313-Don't Give Up (my husband joins me :)

11 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You have too much riding on this.  There is too much to lose or gain.  Don't give up.  My goal today is to encourage you. You're doing a really goo...

312-Why A Potholder Started WW3

05 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes we look at our blowups and wonder -- how did we even get here?  How did a wrong turn, an unpaid bill, an unwashed dish, or a burnt potholde...

311-What Does Intimacy Have to Do with the Gospel?

29 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I used to be so weirded out by sex, because I was pursuing Jesus with everything.  How could my life be sold out for Christ and have to engage in suc...

310-Rapid-Fire Intimacy Transformations, Part 2

16 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Masculinity Reclaimed (the program these gents took to transform their lives, by God's grace) has opened enrollment and it all closes down this Monday...

309-When YOU Lead... Rapid-Fire Intimacy Transformations

15 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If you're looking for hope that your marriage or intimacy could change, you've found it.  These are rapid-fire stories of how these men's marriages l...

Enrollment Opened! Here's what Masculinity Reclaimed is about

14 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

delightyourmarriage.com/minvite   If you join within the first day, you can get the fast-action bonus Team Strategy Session with Belah!   Hope to se...

Just started: Men's Masterclass Oct 11, 12 & 13!

12 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

delightym.com Join us!  Some gents have met together to go through the material carefully after each class (like a Bible Study!). Some men have moved...

308-How to Get Her In the Mood (& Turn Her On)

08 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This Monday -- Oct 11 is when the Men's Masterclass begins -- sign up delightym.com and please send it to your friend who may need this. --Now to the ...

307-He does not know it will cost him his life

07 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

He does not know it will cost him his life.   Sounds like a horror movie -- where the killer is waiting in the woods without the person knowing. But ...

306-"Resigned Myself to Misery" to "Happiest We've Ever Been." Nick's Transformation Story

01 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Get inspired and encouraged by Nick's story. It's amazing! They were miserable. He had plenty of ministry and church background. He certainly tried hi...

305-Fear God and Remember to "Make Love"

21 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Our society today so often wants to ignore God's design and essentially forget the fear of the Lord. But, he made men and women in His image and those...

304-No Desire Due to Abuse, But Now "I Just Want It So Bad!" Testimonials with Two Pastors

17 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Pastor Nathan's wife had abuse/trauma growing up that severely inhibited her sexual desire and affection with him.  They were good people and she wan...

303-Communication Secrets - Part 2

07 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This is the next part of Communication Secrets and I think it's an important addendum.    We talk about what to do when you're disappointed with you...

302-Communication Secrets

27 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

So much stress revolves around communication. I've been there! My husband and I have miscommunications everyday. Today, for example, I was telling him...

301-Fear God and Forget the Toothpaste

20 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Two brothers were at the playground the other day.  I was talking to their mom. This happens to be a beautiful playground with a huge fountain and am...

300-Recognize God's Hand in Your Marriage...Or Else

20 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I really do mean this title.  I keep seeing miracles, but when people don't recognize God's working in their lives... it may not continue.  It seems...

299-Let the Sun Go Down On Your Argument

13 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do not let the sun go down on  your anger IS a scripture.  But for us go-getters it often feels like an argument has to get settled before any of us...

298-Respect An Untrustworthy Husband--or He May Never Change

09 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I used to think I only respected someone if they deserved it. Whether that was my husband or the young adults I worked with. Which meant I didn't trea...

297-Courage Is Required for Intimacy

30 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We're all insecure.  Which I think is why God says "do not fear" so often in the Bible.  The only one we are to fear is Him. (Which when we get that...

296-My Husband's Reaction to the Miracles

22 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If you've ever heard my husband on the podcast, you'll want to hear him now. I was speaking to a mom at the playground and she was remarking at how ca...

295-Hollow & Cold to Joyful & Intimate (She Had No Inkling). Testimonial with Timothy R.

16 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

So, this is such a fun story to share. I believe it will inspire hope, excitement and most importantly faith that God can do this for you too! I remem...

294-Motivate Her Towards Wholehearted Intimacy

13 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If you are wondering why she won't initiate or she doesn't have passion when you do...  Here are a few things you may be missing. Too many men reach ...

293-She Didn't Want to Listen OR Him Listening, But Now... Testimonial with Russ & Kim

02 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Coming up on their 35th wedding anniversary, Kim didn't even want to celebrate. "I don't like you.... I don't want to be mean, but I don't want to li...

292-Make Orgasm Easier for Her

24 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today's topic is a topic that I hear a lot about from men and women.    I'm addressing men because I think there is a lot of misunderstandings about...

291-Starting Over

17 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Life is messy.    Things get busy.   Our focus can get on things that just don't matter.   But...    We get to start over.    We can take a br...

290-Repulsed by His Touch 17 Years & Now Craves It. Testimonial with Dana

07 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

She wanted nothing to do with touch, much less intimacy. For years.  She loved the Lord and it took a journey for Him to bring her to a place where s...

289-Failure & Embarrassment to Growth & Godliness

28 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"It's part of life." But it really is, IF we're growing. If we numb and distract ourselves away from God's growth opportunities, we can really get off...

288-Listen for Intimacy

20 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When she says, "We just don't communicate," or "You never listen,"...she is talking about this learnable skill.    Listen to her heart. Listen to un...

287-Steadying the Waves of Marriage

13 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

It's ok to not feel amazing in your marriage all the time. This is real life and sometimes things happen.  Someone gets sick. Someone is tired. Someo...

286-Change Your Motivations

29 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If you've ever seen a headline (one of mine or someone else's), "They did [this] and got [this]" you may have experienced a "transactional trigger". ...

285-Courage to Change

24 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In our family, we are going through some important paradigm shifts around parenting - through a coach, articles, books, etc. It's great! It's also har...

284-Discipline for Intimacy

20 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Duty sex" or "lazy or selfish husband". These are phrases I hear a lot. And it's sad.  It's certainly not what a good and loving marriage should be....

A prayer for you

16 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

283-How to Love No Matter What

09 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I talk a lot about success stories. To inspire you that transformation can happen and God does it all the time! But this is really all about unconditi...

Good Friday Reflection & Prayer

02 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

282-Brink of Divorce, Now in Love. Testimonials with Hope & Norm

31 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

2 Different Stories: 1 - Norm's wife shared that she wanted to end the marriage. That she didn't like or love him anymore.  ​ He prayed fervently,...

281-Sexless 35 Years, Now Lovemaking Every Week! And She Didn't Know. Testimonial with Lyle

23 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

ANNOUNCEMENT: For those of you already registered for the FREE Masterclass---they are being released at 7pmEST, TODAY.  Or sign up here: delightyourm...

280-Sex Created Constant Tension and It Now Creates Desire. Kyle & Ali's Testimonial.

18 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever felt like your intimacy was just a duty that needed to be marked off the "to-do" list? What about that sex was great physically but emot...

279-Suffering Over a Decade, Until One Choice at 3am & Now She Loves Intimacy. Glen & Anne's Testimonial

11 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Anne and Glenn lived in a blissful honeymoon state at the beginning of their relationship, until their relationship quit growing and grew stale. They ...

278-Requirement for Your Marriage Miracle

01 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If you want your marriage to change... this is required. Faith. Faith that it will change. But how do you even get there? How does it relate to your l...

277-Her Disinterest Transformed to Desire, When HE Changed. Testimonial with Jeremiah.

26 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today's interview is with Jeremiah, a graduate of my Masculinity Reclaimed program. They had a pretty good marriage. And originally their sex life was...

276-Gents, When You Want It But She Doesn't

15 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Frequently, men are craving intimacy more than their wives. If you're in that category, then this podcast will help you.    I have some very importa...

275-Wives, Organize Your Lives for Passion

20 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sex motivates us to be the men and women He wants us to be.    Men have to discipline themselves to be more like Jesus for her to want to have sex ...

274-For 28 years It Was a Duty...Then a Miracle. Interview with Darcy

14 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Darcy is a busy business owner, mother, and grandmother--married 28 years.  She loves God and has had a better than average marriage all that time. A...

273-New Year, Stronger Vision

05 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I love new years because everything feels fresh and energized. Even though practically speaking it's the same as every other day, you just have to sta...

272-If You're Considering Divorce: A 5-Part Roadmap to Healing

30 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

There are too many marriages flirting with divorce. You may be one, if not you probably know several. Maybe you're at a spot where you don't want to ...

271-Use Challenge To Change Your Marital Culture

16 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

When we have a warm, loving culture in a family, passionate intimacy is the result. Or is it the cause? -- If you're listening to this in the ...

270-She Felt Pushed, But Now She's Thrilled. Interview with Diana

09 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

My conversation today is with a wife who had a persistent husband.    After he worked on himself (!) he highly encouraged her to work with me in a p...

269-What Seduction Means. Interview with My Husband, Part 2

02 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This is part 2 with my husband where we're talking about what seduction means to men.  Husbands: I encourage you to "catch" my husband's heart. That'...

268-What Seduction Means. Interview with My Husband, Part 1

24 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hi there,    Today is extra special because I have on the most amazing man I've ever met. Ehemm... my husband. :) If you want to know why I am the w...

267-Why Seduction Matters

17 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

As a wife, this is something I really struggled with.   Why would he want me to do such embarrassing things? Does it remind him of sin? I don't want...

000-Start Here: An Introduction to Delight Your Marriage

10 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

If you're new to Delight Your Marriage, this is the first episode you should listen to.   Many people come to my resources with a question on how to ...

266-Thankfulness During Political (or Marital) Upheaval

03 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

So, today's a pretty important day. And you may listen to this in the future which will be relevant.    More than ever, our land is divided and we h...

265-Abuse then Foster Care to Healing. Interview with Alexis & Justin Black

27 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hi there!   I hope things are going well for you. I have an inspirational story to share with you today. It's a story of challenge and ultimately hop...

264-When to Share Hard Things With Your Spouse

20 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

I'd like to give you a view of communication that isn't repressing feelings but also isn't open with all of them, at least not all at once. And when ...

263-Will My Wife Say No...Again?

13 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hi there,    This podcast is for men (or the women who want to peer inside of hearts of men) it's all about the specific Stages to Sexual Freedom...

262-Her Anxiety + His Masturbation Transformed to Frequent Intimacy! Interview with Captain

06 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This interview is with a man who had suffered in intimacy in his marriage for 14 years.  She had intense anxiety (I've been there!) and it ma...

261-From Serial Infidelity to Marital P-A-S-S-I-O-N. Interview with Charles

29 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hi there,   Not sure if it was for you... but for me it was a whirlwind of a weekend. I put on a church conference on Saturday (in Spanish--eek!) whi...

260-Attract (Don't Push) Your Spouse Towards Jesus

17 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hi there,    If you're going through hard times, this is particularly applicable because we need a lot of love right now. The right kind of compassi...

259-How to Sabbath for Intimacy

08 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hi there! Hoping your day is going well? There's a lot of difficulty you may be facing right now, and one of the best gifts I can give you is rest. W...

258-Sexual Health & Medical Solutions for Age. Interview with Ben, Part 2

01 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I have a former student who is in his 70s and has been married over 45 years.  Not only has he and his wife used some of these inter...

257-After 45 Years Married, Is Passion Possible? Interview with Ben, Part 1

28 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

I'm excited to bring you an interview with a former student, Ben.   His upbringing was tense and he tried to stay away from home. His parents' relati...

256-How to Not Fail At Marriage

18 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

With so much going on in the world, I think people are making big changes in their lives. Given that people are becoming more aware of their own morta...

255-Coveting Affects Your Sex

10 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Most people don't use that word anymore.  But I think "coveting" is still very relevant to our world today. And is still an egregious sin we need...

254-Dealing with Disappointments

04 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Have you been hurt? Have you been disappointed?  By your spouse. By those you love. By God.   I think the answer has to be yes. Disappointment is pa...

253-The Sexiest Dad Alive! Interview with My Husband, Part 2

10 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hi there, Hoping you're well? In challenges, my aim is to keep showing up and helping inspire and empower you to have a wonderful marriage and intimac...

252-The Sexiest Dad Alive! Interview with My Husband, Part 1

03 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Like the title? LOL. I know, I know... I'm too much.  But it was intriguing right? If not... pretend it was something more mature like: "How to B...

251-How Intimacy Affects Your (God-Given) Assignment

17 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

You have an Assignment (1 Cor 7:17). A plan a purpose God laid out for you to do. A set group of people He wants you to impact. Jesus didn't assign yo...

250-How to Help Her to Have Sexual Freedom

10 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This is probably THE question I hear in one way or another over and over again. Lights off, sheets up and "vanilla" sex is the refrain that is very fr...

249-How to start to talk to your spouse & kids about racism

04 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

To my beloved listener, I want to encourage your heart in trying to understand what's happening and why. I know you're doing hard work to figure out w...

248-Why Playfulness Matters to Your Sex

15 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Playfulness doesn't seem important now that life is so busy and stressful, but it's actually central to a good marriage and a PASSIONATE marriage.   ...

247-Wild Romance At Home (but there's a catch)

07 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

(Note: Free resources offered in this podcast for a review are no longer available.) As a husband, maybe you're wondering where the passionate nights ...

246-We're All Insecure in Intimacy

01 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

So, what I've noticed is that all of us are insecure. For some of us it's more obvious than others.   It shows up in life, and it shows up in the bed...

245-Peace & Presence for Intimacy

23 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Addiction runs rampant... for most of us. Myself included.  Especially when we're facing tough things: anxiety, pain, loneliness, vulnerability, iden...

244-Sexual Health & Immune System with Joel K. Kahn, MD

14 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

I'm very excited to share this interview with Dr. Kahn a renowned cardiologist (seen on Dr. Phil and The Doctors tv series among other great accolaide...

243-Your Secret Weapon (& how we beat COVID)

10 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hi there,  Happy Good Friday. It feels a bit strange going to service online, but the beautiful thing about Jesus is we get to meet Him anywhere bec...

242-Can Your Marriage Become a Soft Landing During Quarantine?

23 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Corona virus, COVID-19, has impacted you.  For so many the fear is tangible.  I know it's impacting your marriage. Sadly the divorce rates in China ...

241-Use This Crisis Wisely

16 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Fear activates. Over the Christmas break my son had a very serious health crisis. And we cried out to God. And God moved. My faith was increased and e...