Delight Your Marriage
Episodes
254-Dealing with Disappointments
04 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Have you been hurt? Have you been disappointed? By your spouse. By those you love. By God. I think the answer has to be yes. Disappointment is pa...
253-The Sexiest Dad Alive! Interview with My Husband, Part 2
10 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Hi there, Hoping you're well? In challenges, my aim is to keep showing up and helping inspire and empower you to have a wonderful marriage and intimac...
252-The Sexiest Dad Alive! Interview with My Husband, Part 1
03 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Like the title? LOL. I know, I know... I'm too much. But it was intriguing right? If not... pretend it was something more mature like: "How to B...
251-How Intimacy Affects Your (God-Given) Assignment
17 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
You have an Assignment (1 Cor 7:17). A plan a purpose God laid out for you to do. A set group of people He wants you to impact. Jesus didn't assign yo...
250-How to Help Her to Have Sexual Freedom
10 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is probably THE question I hear in one way or another over and over again. Lights off, sheets up and "vanilla" sex is the refrain that is very fr...
249-How to start to talk to your spouse & kids about racism
04 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
To my beloved listener, I want to encourage your heart in trying to understand what's happening and why. I know you're doing hard work to figure out w...
248-Why Playfulness Matters to Your Sex
15 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Playfulness doesn't seem important now that life is so busy and stressful, but it's actually central to a good marriage and a PASSIONATE marriage. ...
247-Wild Romance At Home (but there's a catch)
07 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
(Note: Free resources offered in this podcast for a review are no longer available.) As a husband, maybe you're wondering where the passionate nights ...
246-We're All Insecure in Intimacy
01 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
So, what I've noticed is that all of us are insecure. For some of us it's more obvious than others. It shows up in life, and it shows up in the bed...
245-Peace & Presence for Intimacy
23 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Addiction runs rampant... for most of us. Myself included. Especially when we're facing tough things: anxiety, pain, loneliness, vulnerability, iden...
244-Sexual Health & Immune System with Joel K. Kahn, MD
14 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
I'm very excited to share this interview with Dr. Kahn a renowned cardiologist (seen on Dr. Phil and The Doctors tv series among other great accolaide...
243-Your Secret Weapon (& how we beat COVID)
10 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Hi there, Happy Good Friday. It feels a bit strange going to service online, but the beautiful thing about Jesus is we get to meet Him anywhere bec...
242-Can Your Marriage Become a Soft Landing During Quarantine?
23 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Corona virus, COVID-19, has impacted you. For so many the fear is tangible. I know it's impacting your marriage. Sadly the divorce rates in China ...
241-Use This Crisis Wisely
16 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Fear activates. Over the Christmas break my son had a very serious health crisis. And we cried out to God. And God moved. My faith was increased and e...
A prayer for you
14 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In the midst of the storm that you both would be bound together. That any worry or fear would be replaced with faith, hope and love.
240-Motivated to Intimacy
05 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
So, I messed up. I'm throwing myself under the bus here. I'm having trouble having grace with myself. I share what happened here. Maybe you can totall...
239-For the High Drive Husband
28 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
So, I hear you. And I validate your desire. I wish wives would understand the importance and privilege she has to love him the WAY HE RECEIVES love. W...
238-Song of Songs about Intimacy. Interview with Sharon Jaynes
20 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
You may have an inkling, but I bet you'll be surprised by my guest Sharon Jaynes (sharonjaynes.com) and the interesting topics we dig into to help oth...
237-Heal From Sexual Trauma, Interview with Catherine Wilson, Part 2
14 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Why did she heal? What motivated a woman who was a size 0, undernourished, had been abused horribly to decide it was worth the challenge to heal? Ho...
236-Heal From Sexual Trauma, Interview with Catherine Wilson, Part 1
06 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Today's interview is a story of resilience and hope. Catherine goes into her story lightly because her full story is extremely difficult to take in....
235-Is Fantasy Bad?
01 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
So this is one of those topics that even when we're talking about intimacy we don't talk about. But because I have the honor of speaking to women an...
A prayer for you
23 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
"Belah , your webinar was absolutely amazing , we both enjoyed it and cant wait for the other 2! You have such an incredible insight on the male -f...
234-Oral Sex: Why He Cares (SO Much) & Why She's Not Comfortable
16 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Wives: As a wife who was bewildered by his desire and feeling grossed out by it, I get it! But more than that... my hangups included, it's dirty, wron...
233-CONFLICT is... good? Interview with Larry Shushansky
09 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Oh man! You're going to get a lot out of this one. Larry Shushansky (from https://www.independentenough.com/) has 40 years of experience as a psychoth...
"Honey, for my Christmas present, would you...?"
21 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
If you've listened for a while you may be at a spot where you're really hoping your spouse would tune into the content. Especially if you're a husb...
232-Reflect On This One, For Your Next Best Year
12 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The new year is just about upon us! But how are you prepping for it? How are you making sure you're growing in the ways God wants you to? In this podc...
231-Happiness
27 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
It's that time of year. Happiness and fun and joy is expected. Is it reality for you? Do you have joy in your heart? CAN you have it? I want t...
230-"I Don't Know What to Do"
21 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
I've been asking women about hope they feel about seduction because 1-that's what I hear so often from the husbands I coach. They crave to be sedu...
A prayer for you
18 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
229-Arguments Affect Your Sex: My husband's awesome conversation
14 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
We argued yesterday. Knives were involved. Well truthfully, it was a disagreement at a restaurant. But the actual emotions happened way before the res...
228-Stretch Yourself to Enjoy Lovemaking
07 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Your first time having sex, was it just like my experience? A bit awkward, NOT like how the movies portrayed it, and maybe even a BIT uncomfortable? ...
227-Love Your Body TO Love Sex
01 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
I used to think "if I just got thin enough then I'd be confident." But, then I did. And I didn't. Our society tricks us into thinking beauty is only...
A prayer for you
23 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Low Drive? Discover "The 9 Lies Undermining Your Sex Drive" audio & pdf
18 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
For the free resources The 9 Lies Undermining Your Sex Drive audio & pdf go to: www.delightyourmarriage.com/desire Do you have low drive? Discover ...
226-"My Husband's A Sociopath. Really." Interview with Marie Wood Part 2
16 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
When she found out he went to jail because he almost killed his father and was a diagnosed sociopath... a thought struck her: "I will trust him with t...
225-Loving During Your Child's Suffering. Interview with Marie Wood Part 1
08 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
I had a wonderful and extremely inspiring chat with Marie Wood, who is raising 5 children (a basketball team, according to her!) with her husband, Dav...
224-Make Intercourse More Pleasurable for Her. Interview with Ruth Buezis Part 2
01 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Hi there! This is part 2 of my chat with Ruth Buezis, author of Awaken Love. You can listen to part 1 here. If you loved listening to part 1, part 2 d...
223-Make Intercourse More Pleasurable for Her. Interview with Ruth Buezis Part 1
24 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
I'm so excited to chat with Ruth Buezis (author of Awaken Love) about how to transform your sex life into something much deeper. Ruth started o...
222-Attract Her Back
12 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
How do you become MORE attractive to your wife? What exactly do I mean when I say "attraction"? Well, it's kind of like having a pull toward...
Delight Your Husband is available on paperback!
03 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Over the years listeners have asked for my book Delight Your Husband: The Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence, and oral sex, to be avai...
221-If Sex Is A Duty
03 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Does sex feel like a duty? When he asks to make love, I believe that he's actually doing a really brave thing. He could be afraid of rejection an...
220-Plan Sex, Sexily
27 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
First and foremost, I'm so glad you're planning for sex. Many people let this HIGH priority slip away from their marriage. And they wonder why their m...
219-All-day Seduction
19 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
What does it mean and WHY would you actually do it? What if it's COMPLETELY outside of your personality? What to actually do? (Steamy examples!) ---...
A prayer for you today
19 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Good Morning--- I wanted to say a prayer for you. And let you know that whatever situation you're facing He is with you. He is right there beside you....
218-Invite God Into Your Sex Life
15 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Do you wish YOU were into sex more? A lot of things are not mentioned in the Bible: Electricity Vehicles Importance of exercise Internet So much ...
217-Transform to be Easygoing (Final keys) Part 3
20 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This is our (my husband and I) final conversation about being easygoing, playful and fun together. It's a bit of insight into our relationship and w...
216-Transform to be Easygoing Part 2
12 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
My darling husband and I continue our chat about becoming easygoing and why it's important to develop this skill. And how it can impact even their rel...
213-Obsessed with Sex?
25 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
I think this has been something I've wondered and I know the wives I've worked with have thought their husbands were. Maybe you're a husband and you'r...
215-Are You at "The End of Your Rope"?
17 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
"I can't go on like this" "I don't think we can make this work" "I'm at the end of my rope" (what I hear the MOST) I hate these phrases. They're not...
214-Transform to be Easygoing (5 Keys) Part 1
14 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Is easygoing a personality trait or a skill? I am definitely NOT a natural "easy-goer". Most of my life, I have generally had an opinion and if asked ...
212-The 3 Ways to Change A Controlling Wife
23 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Sexless + Controlling = miserable husband Sex-Full + Controlling = miserable husband Sexless + Non Controlling = miserable husband Sadly, sexless o...
211-"Honey, You're Hot--PLEASE Seduce Me!"
16 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Yep... MY husband said this! Like last week. What did he mean? Maybe you're a wife that has insecurities like me? After a wonderfully intimate even...
210-Should You Tell Her About Your Past Sex Life?
03 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Do you want unity in your marriage? Do you want her to feel safe to be utterly vulnerable and literally naked before you? Then it is NOT helpful for h...
209-Last Week... My Brother Was Found Without A Pulse
23 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
I have been late to get a podcast out to you...for a pretty important reason. My brother was found on the side of the road without a pulse. I raced to...
208-"Help! I Have Low Libido" OR "HE Does!"
09 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
What if you're a wife that has WAY lower libido than your husband? If you feel like this is just physiologically the way you were made, I want to help...
207-My Husband's Advice
02 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
My husband is a very wise man. Probably the wisest I've met (and I get to live with him! :) :) :) ) Listeners have asked to hear from my husband an...
206-Playful sex life
26 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Productiveness IS good, but we forget that we're not just human doers -- we're also human beings. Take the story of Martha and Mary. Martha was work...
205-Words in Sex
19 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Words are important. They can cause a wildfire or a passionate flame in your bedroom. Outside of the bedroom: We can be hurtful and careless with ...
204-The TRUTH about "honesty"
12 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
A lot of women are under the impression that they need to share everything with their husbands. In fact, they say this is being "honest". I disagree. ...
203-Your Sex-Life Impacts Your Kids
27 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
As a mother, you would do ANYTHING for your children. What does that have to do with making love to their father? Well, A LOT. In fact, their eternity...
202-Wisdom > $$$
20 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
What does money have to do with your marriage? Finances are often touted as the biggest reason for divorce... but get this: when you have an awesome s...
201-Why he's DESPERATE for your intimacy
14 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
I get so many emails from husbands. I want to send a message to their wives...the wife I used to be. I was a wife who saw sex as Dirty Wrong Ungodly ...
200-Two Types of Sex: Masculine & Feminine
06 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Are you having the WRONG type of sex? Why your wife doesn't LOVE intimacy Why sex feels carnal Why sex feels like it's just for HIM Why sex isn't ful...
199-The 3 Things He Wants In Sex
29 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
So... my husband listens to every podcast before I post them. He often gives me notes on what I need to take out or change. I have been podcasting sin...
198-Fear of change
24 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
197-The Gifts of Suffering
17 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
How could suffering ever be a gift? Why would focusing on suffering be a wise thing? A lot of times the women I coach don't take the time to look at t...
196-Can it ever really change?
10 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Can things really change? "It's been 5, 10, 25 years, how could this ever be different?" Suffering in marriage makes your whole life suffer---kids, jo...
What should your life be about at the beginning of 2019?
01 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
WHAT SHOULD YOUR LIFE BE ABOUT AT THE BEGINNING OF 2019? I used to try to cram all of my goals into the beginning of the year. And I would scramble fo...
195-Abuse, Part 6: How to EFFECTIVELY change it
18 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
You might think your marriage is too far gone. There is too much strife, emotional and mental abuse, painful memories, WAY too much baggage to ever re...
194-Abuse, Part 5: Sexual Abuse
11 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
1 in 4 women this year will be sexually abused. You may never know who... your sister, best friend, daughter, mother, wife... You may have been the vi...
193-Abuse, Part 4: I used to "submit"
04 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Here's what is covered in today's episode There are a ton of "submit" verses in the Bible. They were used to abuse me in my first marriage. I thin...
192-Abuse, Part 3: Unique but Equal
27 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This one honestly wasn't that easy to think through or record. Here's what I cover: how I hold my opinions about women in the church and I think we...
191-Abuse Part2: Boundaries
20 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
When I work with women, I think the biggest problem is they don't have boundaries. And for them to slowly strategically come out of abusive relati...
190- Abuse, Part I: Blinders
15 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
(So sorry, my computer broke so I wasn't able to edit and this is late, but I think the content is all there!) -- I was abused and I was completely u...
189-When you're attracted to someone else
15 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Not discussed… but it's common to be attracted to someone that's not your spouse. What do you do about it? First, figure out where you are in your l...
188-Christian Sex Scandals
12 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Excited we're back together after far too long! We have got some fantastic episodes coming your way in this new season of DYM! What was the last s...
Summer break
03 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Hi all, DYM is taking a break for the summer but will be back on late August, early September. Blessings, Belah
187-Get Turned on by Him
08 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Questions Discussed: Is it helpful to fantasize about others? How to get turned on How to have an orgasm Female erections How to rekindle your attrac...
185-Surrendering 2.0. Interview with Laura Doyle, Part 2
01 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Well, by now you know that I'm a fan of The Surrendered Wife. It has changed the way I think and I am so grateful. Well, this time I have some of the ...
186-Surrendering 2.0. Interview with Laura Doyle, Part 2
17 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Part 2: Well, by now you know that I'm a fan of The Surrendered Wife. It has changed the way I think and I am so grateful. Well, this time I have so...
185-Surrendering 2.0. Interview with Laura Doyle, Part 1
12 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Well, by now you know that I'm a fan of The Surrendered Wife. It has changed the way I think and I am so grateful. Well, this time I have some of the ...
184-How to Apologize
03 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
183-Divorce IS an Option
20 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Discussed in this conversation: Divorce is an option, for Christians and non-Christians. I hope I can convince you of the importance of this truth. I...
182-What Makes Intimacy Exciting
13 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
What is included in this show: Why is amazing intimacy important in marriage? Why the lure of Sex is so great Marital love making is supposed to be i...
181-Connection Goals
06 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
What do you want your marriage to look like? Is it at the level of the connection and depth of love that you desire? If not, what does it look like?...
180-Sex is Better In Marriage
27 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sex is Better In Marriage. If it's better, why is there so much divorce and so many unhappy marriages? Its better but it's also harder. Here's why sex...
179-The Missional Marriagebed
20 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Main Points: The safety and stability of a home is due to the spouses' generosity in the bedroom Making love is God's work. "Yes, God changed me. But...
178-Stoke His Desire
13 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
The specific steps to seduce: Get him to want it Tease him Give him a little bit Pull away Give him what he wants Why Seduction is important, helpfu...
177-Body P6: Be Released
06 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Main points: -God's might and glory is shown in the uniqueness of creation. And in the tiniest of details of your body. -The way you feel about your...
176-Body P5: Value Touch
30 Jan 2018
Contributed by Lukas
How to enjoy sex as a woman. We as women have so much going on. So many commitments and responsibilities. Busy. For women its a slow process to tran...
175-Body P4: Honor Your Ressa
23 Jan 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Embodying your Sexuality P1 & P2, Episode 160 & Episode 161. "Save sex for marriage". A wise piece of advice. But because I didn't learn anything ab...
174-Body P3: Flaunt, Don't Seek Approval
16 Jan 2018
Contributed by Lukas
When you're confident in your body you're not being prideful, you're humbly acknowledging His gift of your body. Your beauty is not a question is a st...
173-Body P2: Know Your Worth & Freedom with Food
09 Jan 2018
Contributed by Lukas
I thought my body was gross. I thought God didn't give me a good one. God changed my perspective. Now that insecurity has become fierce respect for th...
172-Body P1: Behold Your Body
02 Jan 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to this brand new series all about body. Body image, food issues, body acceptance, comfort in sex... all of it affects how you make love. Bu...
171-New Year's Reflection That Will Change My Life
19 Dec 2017
Contributed by Lukas
In the long view of your 100 years on earth, what is going to matter in THIS season? I had an abrupt and unsettling realization when I had a parent ...
170-Rest in Sex. Interview with Dr. Juli Slattery, Part 2
12 Dec 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Sexual intimacy should be a place of rest. It can even become a "haven for me". In this interview, Juli Slattery, of Authentic Intimacy, talks about...
169-Biblical Women--Sensual? Interview with Dr. Juli Slattery, Part 1
05 Dec 2017
Contributed by Lukas
When you think about the women of the Bible who comes to mind? Ruth, the loyal daughter who served her widowed mother-in-law. Esther, who risked her l...
168-Why He Became Romantic, Part 4 (Belah's Husband Tell's All)
28 Nov 2017
Contributed by Lukas
He proposed to me over fast food in a parking lot. I think it might have been drizzling. Well he's not that man anymore. God has changed him. He has...
167-Why He Became Romantic, Part 3 (Belah's Husband Tell's All)
21 Nov 2017
Contributed by Lukas
This is Part 3 of Why we became romantic. I was a generous wife in intimacy and I felt loved in some areas, but I didn't feel loved outside of the bed...
166-Why He Became Romantic, Part 2 (Belah's Husband Tell's All)
14 Nov 2017
Contributed by Lukas
I encourage you to first listen to Part 1 here. Today, you get to hear the gory details of how awful I was...from my husband. He is giving you all ...