Dhru Purohit Show
Energy Vampires and Narcissistic People Are A Tax On Your Health - Here's What To Do About Them
18 Nov 2024
This episode is brought to you by Bon Charge, Fatty15, and Lifeforce. A long and healthy life isn’t just about physical well-being—our emotional health and social relationships are crucial in determining whether we truly thrive. Spotting toxic relationships and navigating them can be challenging, but today’s guests offer valuable insights on assessing the relationships in our lives and reclaiming our health. Today on The Dhru Purohit Show, we have a special compilation episode featuring Dhru's conversations with guests about the profound impact of toxic relationships on our physical and mental health. Dr. Ramani delves into why staying in toxic relationships is a major public health issue that often goes unspoken. She shares insights into the diseases she’s observed in patients linked to toxic relationships, the rapid healing that can occur after leaving them, and the damaging cycle of self-blame individuals face when dealing with a narcissist. Vanessa Van Edwards explores how to assess our inner circle, recognize the effects of ambivalent relationships, and identify key red flags of ambivalence. She also highlights the traits of a master communicator and offers tips on how to use those skills as an invitation to clarify intentions. Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a licensed clinical psychologist, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University Los Angeles, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. She discusses narcissism on her popular YouTube channel and social media, her popular online program on healing from narcissistic abuse, and as the host of the podcast Navigating Narcissism with Dr. Ramani. Vanessa Van Edwards is a multi-time bestselling author and renowned behavioral researcher on professional communication and leadership. Vanessa’s work has been featured in national and international media and to audiences in workshops worldwide. In this episode, Dhru and his guests dive into: The public health issue of our time (2:10) Disease and healing when toxic relationships are removed (4:40) Lack of courage, training, and awareness among professionals (9:07) What is a narcissist, and how to spot one (16:46) Studies on the quality of our relationships and happiness (22:35) How to assess your inner circle (24:21) Ambivalent relationships (27:21) Red flags and body language indicating ambivalence (31:11) Master communicators and how to change the agenda (40:41) How to practice discernment (44:31) Characteristics of a narcissist and self-blame (48:51) When leaving isn’t possible and support systems (53:21) This episode is brought to you by Bon Charge, Fatty15, and Lifeforce. Right now, BON CHARGE is offering my community 15% off; just go to boncharge.com/DHRU and use coupon code DHRU to save 15%. Fatty15 is offering an additional 15% off its 90-day subscription Starter Kit. Go to fatty15.com/dhru and use code DHRU to replenish your C15 levels for long-term health. Right now, you can save $250 on your first diagnostic and get personalized suggestions. Optimize your longevity and track your progress; go to mylifeforce.com/dhru! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Hi everyone, Drew Proat here. When we think about the most important factors for living a long and healthy life, we tend to focus on the indicators of physical health, like working out, movement, the physical health of our bodies from the food that we eat, the supplements that we take. However, the research reveals something else. Those things are important.
And the quality of our life is hugely impacted by the relationships we have, meaning the high quality relationships we have lead to a happy and fulfilled life. And so therefore the opposite is true. The low quality toxic relationships that we have in our life, surrounding ourselves with narcissistic people, that will eat years away from our life and that'll eat away at our longevity.
So we have to know how to navigate these individuals because we are all surrounded by them. You know, I used to think that it was unfair to call somebody a narcissist or that I was lazy. I didn't even really like the word toxic when describing people because I felt, you know what? Everybody's on their own spiritual journey. They're doing the best they can and everybody can get better.
But today's first guest that we have on kind of shifted my mind a little bit about it. She helped me understand that there's a reason that we have the word narcissist or toxic because a very small percentage of the population does fit this label. And if we don't know how to identify them and how to protect ourself,
we can end up finding ourselves stuck in these relationships for years, for decades, for our entire life. And that only harms us, harms our dreams, and harms everything that we care about and love. So our first guest today is Dr. Romani. We feature a very powerful opening interview that I had with her earlier this year.
And then we'll be talking with Vanessa Van Edwards, an expert and an author on behavioral research on professional communication and leadership. But let's first start off with Dr. Romani, a clinical psychologist and narcissism expert. And we talked to her specifically about this idea of the longest running study on health and happiness and what it's taught us about avoiding toxic people.
So let's start off with our interview with Dr. Romani, narcissism expert. There was a pretty groundbreaking study that made all the headlines last year. And it was one of the longest studies on health and happiness. It actually ran 80 years, I believe. And it was published by the individuals and a research team at Harvard University. And that study showed something pretty remarkable.
It showed that the happiest and longest living people that were in the study had reliable and supportive relationships that they built their life around. There was a deep sense of trust, admiration and support that was there. Now you're the world's foremost expert in narcissism and you teach people how to manage and move on from the narcissistic people that are destroying their lives.
So if you wouldn't mind, I'd love to start off with talking a little bit about the toll that it takes on your mind, body, health, your spirit, when you put up with and deal with and stay connected to narcissistic personalities and individuals long term.
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