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Chapter 1: What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
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What's your tattoo? What have you got? I had this done for Billy because Billy had roses on his arm. That's it, yeah. I love that it's here and it's sort of in a place where I always remember him.
Chapter 2: What should you do if you dislike your friend's partner?
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It's about all the diggers and we have some lovely questions from you lot that we're going to try and share with you all and answer. Zoe, you all right? I'm all right. Top of the morning to you all diggers. We have a question from Ella Jo. She says, my friend has just got back with a guy who she dumped six months ago.
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Chapter 3: How should you handle your child's questionable tattoo?
It wasn't a healthy relationship and I never really liked him. To be honest, I tried my best to not make this known as all good friends would. So I was relieved when they broke up. I made a big effort to be there for my friend and assure her it was the right decision. But I recently found out they'd got back together and she'd been hiding it from me as she knew I'd be disappointed.
Now I feel like I'm being pushed away when I was just trying to do the right thing for her. I feel like I need to sit back now and let her find out alone that he might not be right for her, which feels really hard. Is this the right thing to do? Have you ever had to step into a friend's relationship? And how did it affect your friendship if you did? From Ella. Oh, bless you. It's sort of.
Yeah, I've had this. You know, you have this with your kids. You do. You have it with friends. Sometimes you have it with parents, with relationships that from afar you look in and think, I don't know if this person is good for them. But yes, I think, Ella, you're probably doing all you can do. Just the fact that your friend didn't tell you they were back home.
with the person because they know that you're not sure about this person. You know, that's such a tricky one, isn't it, Jo? It's really awkward. It really is, yeah. I mean, you've made your feelings plain and clear and she completely understands that.
So I think all you can do is just take a little bit of a backseat and accept that it's got to play out and they've got to find their way and maybe he will prove himself to be better than you thought he was. Maybe he will have learnt. Yeah. And it will, you know, it'll come good in the end. But there's nothing that you can do apart from being there for your friend if she does make contact.
And, you know, you can't completely go, oh, no, I've totally changed my opinion about him. And it's all good. There's no point in lying. You don't want to kind of present any kind of falsehood. So I think just just kind of be there in the background. And I think you need to interfere anymore because I think you've made everything your feelings quite plain.
So I think you just need to be in the background and just watch it play out. That's all you can do to see if he's maybe suddenly he'll prove to be an amazing person. Their relationship will flourish and they'll be very happy. That would be the best case scenario. And then you can get involved because you'll like him more if he's turned out to be a good guy.
But otherwise, you just have to watch, I think, and be there for your friend. Just kind of keep in touch, texting. Sometimes people do deserve a second chance, don't they? And, you know, I think that's the thing is we're all growing rapidly. We learn more about ourselves.
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Chapter 4: What are the iconic elements of 90s wedding hair?
And it's so key in a relationship to grow in a relationship, to learn about each other, to be able to be honest, to say, well, that doesn't really work with me. And does that work with you? And hopefully grow. And sometimes you do need to sort of step back and And think, OK, all right, I understand. And maybe he has gone away and done some, you know, deep thinking.
And maybe there's something that's brought them back together. Hopefully it's not just convenience or, you know, hopefully it's the right reasons they've got back together. I'm trying to think of friends of mine who haven't liked boyfriends or relationships or stuff. I mean, I've had it with my kids where they've been with someone who I wasn't sure was right for them.
I think it's a case where silence is deafening, isn't it? I think I remember various people from my past and when your friend suddenly goes silent, you're like, oh, oh, I think maybe they don't approve. I haven't heard from them. Oh, okay, they're not saying anything." That's when you get the inkling that there might be something quite wrong with this person for you.
I definitely remember having some deafening silence from various friends. And if I see anybody in a situation and I can see it's not working out, I would definitely go silent rather than speaking up. I have one amazing friend who is so brutally honest and she can't be anything but. And she was always the hardest nut to crack.
for any you know potential partners and it would always be that sort of you know like the litmus test oh my gosh are they going to meet the approval of this friend and if she's listening she'll know who she is I love her dearly And actually, she was often right. In fact, yeah, she was often right.
But sometimes you've got to give people the benefit of the doubt because if people you love, love someone, there must be something in that relationship. Also, not everybody gets on sometimes. Not everybody, you know, there can be personality clashes, you know, with friends who just sort of wind each other up a little bit.
But it sounds here, Ella, like you have your friend's best interests at heart.
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Chapter 5: What is 'Maranoia' and how does it affect runners?
So fingers crossed, we'll watch this space. Hopefully the guy has gone away, done some work, they're communicating well, and maybe things will be different this time around. And if they're not different, your friend will definitely need you further down the line. And maybe you will one day have that conversation of... You were right. You were right.
We've given it a second chance and still the same problems. Or perhaps positively thinking you might later on say, OK, all right, giving him a second chance.
Chapter 6: What happens when robots attempt to run a marathon?
He's making my friend happy. She seems happy in a healthy way. Maybe that will work out. Yeah, you're doing the right thing, Ella. Just sitting back. Fingers crossed he does turn out to be a good and not a complete wrong and right. If you're loving Dig It so far, hit follow or subscribe, and that way you'll get brand new episodes as soon as they're out.
Next up, we've got a voice note from Mariam.
Hi, Zoe and Joe. Firstly, loving the podcast. It really does cheer me up, so thank you. My adult daughter of 24, she's an incredible, kind, beautiful and intelligent being who has really made me a much stronger person
Chapter 7: What are the pros and cons of having a robot in your home?
and better person than I ever used to be. She has gone and got herself a tattoo. I won't say what it is. It is quite inoffensive, although quite ugly, which is now sitting prominently on her arm. She knows I hate them, and we have talked about it many times before. She already has a few other small ones, albeit quite discreet. I'm trying not to be, but it has really upset me.
I keep telling myself it's her body, her life, but I'm struggling to move on from it. We can blame it on the generational differences, perhaps, which is increasingly growing wider. Anyway, some words of advice on how to deal with my feelings would be really appreciated. Thank you.
Oh, Mariam, I can really hear it in your voice, actually, how tough that is. Oh, gosh, yes. You see, I haven't had this yet. Woody doesn't have any tattoos.
Chapter 8: How can you express your frustrations in a healthy way?
The closest I've got to this is Nell talking about getting her nose pierced, which both her father and I said, oh, for goodness sake, do you really need to do that? And then I think, oh, no, am I that person now? The thing with tattoos is they're so evident, aren't they? And if it's something in quite a prominent place, Mariam, it's something you can't even escape from.
And it's not something she's going to particularly hide from you. But like you say, she's grown up. It's her body. Maybe you'll get used to it with time. You know, we've talked about it before, Jo, haven't we? Like, you know, the things that you don't like about someone's belongings or things about them that often you can grow to really love in different ways and appreciate.
And tattoos are all about self-expression, aren't they? And they're things that mean so much to the person who has them done. So maybe in time, Miriam, you'll get used to it. And maybe one day you might even like it. I mean, I'm desperate to know what it is. I've got all kinds of images going through my head right now. What is it?
I wonder why, Mariam, this bothers you so much because you said she's got other smaller tattoos. So I wonder if it's that you think it's ugly, if it says something, if it symbolises something that you don't like. It sounds like you're having to come to terms with the age gap between you and the distance between being the mother and being the daughter and...
Maybe the independence, something else is going on. It feels to me like there's something else going on. And this tattoo symbolizes your struggle with your daughter. I might be reading way too much into this. But it is hard giving up the having...
control of somebody I think and just sort of going you know acknowledging that it's their body and they can do what they like with it Jude's got three tattoos two tattoos anyway abstract tattoos and I'm a really big fan of tattoos I love tattoos I think they're really nice and I've never dared to have a decent one myself I'd love to um
But I think it is that thing of you just desperately want them to have something that looks cool or aesthetically beautiful, is in the right position. And when you can see that they've maybe made a bit of an error, it's really hard to bear. You just have to bite your tongue and you have to just accept that they've made that decision for themselves and you've just got to live with it.
You've just got to not look at it and you've just got to move on. But it sounds like a complex one for me, Mariam. I really hope that you are able to move past this and move Just accept it because that's all you can do. Acceptance is all you can do. There's nothing else. You can't make her take it off. You can't change it. Unless it's like a cross of knuckles or something or other.
She did say it's inoffensive. It's not anything like that. So that's why I'm wondering why it's an issue. Maybe it's just big and in a rubbish place. I mean, some people do get terrible tattoos in terrible places. We think, wow, that was a very strong thing to do. So diggers, bring it on. Yeah. Yeah, has anyone had tattoos somewhere that they've kind of regretted? It's interesting as well.
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