Dr. Patricia Bay - Therapy in a Nutshell

I AM NOT BEGGING ANYONE TO LOVE ME

24 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How do you cope when someone you love stops loving you? Many begin to feel desperate, lost, confused and angry. Often the desperation and the grief cr...

BILATERAL STIMULATION

29 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Bilateral and biolateral stimulation has been utilized for psychological healing with therapies such as EMDR, an awesome trauma therapy. This episode ...

HOLIDAY FAMILY DRAMA

21 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Almost every family experiences drama, especially around the holidays. Tamara Baker, LMFT joins Dr. Patty to discuss this issue and offer coping ideas...

SOBER CURIOUS

18 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you wondered what letting go of your addiction would look like? Drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, sex, food, shopping, gambling…what is your poison a...

ONE YEAR OF SOBRIETY

17 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Barbara, who spoke in my podcast “NEED TO STOP DRINKING?” and told of her journey into sobriety, is back in this podcast discussing ONE YEAR OF SO...

Need to stop drinking?

16 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Patty and Barbara talk candidly about Barbara’s journey into sobriety. She discusses Dr Patty challenging her, and Barbara diving into the chall...

HOLDING THE DOG POOP

30 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Life is full of adversity. Sometimes a hot, steamy mess gets plopped into our hands. How do YOU deal with the stresses? Do you feel victimized, blame ...

TARGETED BULLYING

05 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Bullying is not just a problem in our schools, there are adults that purposely target others with attempts to ruin them. Trying to emotionally devasta...

SENIOR PLACEMENT ISSUES

07 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Caregiving a loved one can been extremely difficult and exhausting. Thinking of needing to “place” them or get help can be complicated and frustra...

GETTING “CURRENT” in your relationship.

21 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hanging onto old issues, hurts and problems can ruin the intimacy and safety of your relationship. Learn how to work them out to get “current” and...

NICKNAMES- Trauma or Endearing?

15 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Nicknames can have an endearing impact or a traumatic effect on a person. Many people have childhood trauma surrounding nicknames they were given. It ...

ARFID - Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder

26 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

More than just picky eating, Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder, is a serious and challenging eating disorder. Learn the symptoms and dangers o...

PROCRASTINATION

18 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Learn why you put things off and how to overcome this difficult… and annoying… behavior.

LEAD WITH YOUR SOFT SIDE

11 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Many people are too efficient with their words. They bark out orders or assume the person they are speaking to knows that “please or thank you” is...

PTSD and MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS

29 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Doctors, nurses, medics, EMT’s, techs of all types and ER personnel constantly handle life and death situations. These heroes often struggle with PT...

EMOTIONAL TRIGGERS

21 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Everyone has their emotional weak spots that can be triggered. If you have trauma in your history or currently struggle with PTSD or you are just tryi...

PLASTIC SURGERY - Motivations & Expectations

14 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If you have considered plastic surgery, for reconstruction, cosmetic or medical reasons, this episode will give you a lot of great information. Board ...

Does your BEHAVIOR MATCH your WORDS?

07 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

When your behavior or someone else's behavior does not match their words, it creates problems. Intention does not equal action and that equals trouble...

Meaningful APOLOGIES

01 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

A well done, sincere apology is incredibly valuable. It furthers trust and intimacy in relationships as well as making you feel better about yourself....

LIFESTYLE CHANGES - Stop Something & Start Something

23 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Making changes in your life to improve your physical and mental health starts with small changes. Learn how to STOP something and START something to g...

CYBERBULLYING

09 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

CYBERBULLYING is a bigger problem than most people realize. It is an appalling, horrific issue for many, especially for teens. Understanding what to l...

ANGER

26 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How do you do anger? Learning to look below your anger can help you become a more emotionally developed, communicative person. All of your relationshi...

TERMINAL ILLNESS

19 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If you, or someone you care about, is facing a terminal illness, this episode will openly address issues many are afraid to talk about. Richard Malotk...

SARCASM

13 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you, or someone you know, often use sarcasm? Many use sarcasm to keep others and themselves in check. To deepen your relationships and grow emotion...

ESCAPE ADDICTIONS

05 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever wonder if you are addicted to gourmet coffee or social media? Does that nightly drink make you wonder if you are pushing any limits? Addic...

SEXUAL DISSATISFACTION

19 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Good sex... Bad sex... No Sex... Whatever you struggle with in your sexual relationship, it is probably fixable. You have to be able to talk about it ...

SUICIDAL CHILDREN

13 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

There are signs and symptoms that suicidal children often show. It is not unheard of in children as young as 5-years-old, and possibly younger. Listen...

BURNOUT

06 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

BURNOUT can happen with your job, a relationship, caregiving or just about anything you must do on a regular basis. It is important to recognize the s...

AFib

29 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Special guest, Richard Malotky, MD, talks about AFib (atrial fibrillation). Learn the most common symptoms and the importance of treating AFib. So man...

ACID REFLUX

15 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If you or a loved one suffers with acid reflux, also known as heartburn, or stomach ulcers, this episode will teach you how to deal with it. Richard M...

AGING GRACEFULLY

09 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Many are fearful of growing old. How do we let go of fear and age gracefully so we do not ruin out current peace of mind? Explore what is happening fo...

SOCIAL ANXIETY

19 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do you often say, "I do not want to go to that party," or "I'll go but I'm leaving early," or " I'm dreading my family gathering because I worry they ...

COMMITMENT

11 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How do you know if the commitment in your relationship is real? Are you hoping to create a lifetime commitment? Learn how to evaluate this important d...

DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIES

27 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

From mildly messed up to severely unhealthy, families fall into a spectrum of dysfunction. Is there truly a completely healthy family? Let's talk abou...

Surviving a mentally ill parent

20 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Special guest, Megan, joins Dr. Patty to discuss the ups and downs of being raised by a severely, mentality ill parent. Vulnerable and brave, Megan te...

COVID PREPARATION to survive at home

14 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

COVID is here. Many physicians will tell you it is not "if" but "when" you will get it. Being prepared to care for yourself, and possibly your loved o...

LISTENING

23 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Learn how to be a good listener and how this can deepen the safety and intimacy of your relationships. There are specific skills involved in not only ...

SEPARATION ANXIETY

17 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Separation anxiety can be experienced by adults as well as children. The uneasy, or fearful feeling of being away from your loved ones can be painful....

SHY PEOPLE

09 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes being an introvert, as opposed to an outgoing extrovert, can be a challenge. Curtis Moore, a very brave introvert, talks with Dr. Patty abou...

GETTING INTO THERAPY

02 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Choosing a therapist can be a challenging issue. Navigating the choices, financial issues, concerns and what to expect are very "doable." Dr. Patty he...

COVID SHAME and FEAR

25 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Many people try to use shame and fear to motivate others into doing what they believe is right for the CoVid pandemic. Some people who come down with ...

VACCINES - Making an informed decision.

28 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

There is so much fear and anxiety surrounding CoVid and the vaccines. Special guest, Richard Malotky, MD, gives a lot of great information to help you...

The Things People Fear

14 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Anxiety, phobias, rejection, abandonment, death and dying, etc.... The fears that many people have often ruin their lives. Work on understanding your ...

PAIN YOU CANNOT SEE

31 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The struggle of invisible illness and of pain others cannot see, can be excruciating. Whether it is physical or emotional pain, the frustration of lif...

VICTIMS in relationships

24 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel like a victim somewhere in your life? Your relationship? Your job? Does someone in your life "play the victim" and it drives you nuts? Und...

MEN AND DEPRESSION

17 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

It is often difficult for men to admit they might be depressed and need help. Denial, avoidance, minimizing and fear of looking weak and vulnerable ca...

RETIREMENT - The Emotional Transition

10 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Whether you are 30+, or nearing retirement age, or are already retired and not thrilled with your life, this episode will get you reorganizing. Prepar...

BE THE CHANGE

04 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How well do you handle change? Look at the areas in your life you have tried to change but could not pull it off. What keeps you from succeeding? How ...

What is your PURPOSE in life?

19 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Whether you are a young person starting out or revaluating your life, how do you know what your purpose is? Are you happy? Do you love what you "do?" ...

DEFENSE MECHANISMS

12 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When an event or upset makes us feel badly, worried, concerned, angry or fearful (or many other possible emotions), our defense mechanisms can come in...

JEALOUSY

05 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jealously distorts our relationships by distorting who we are... or who we want to be. Does your jealousy harm your relationships... personal, profess...

PATTERNS OF BEHAVIOR

29 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What are your patterns of behavior and how do they affect the quality of your life? This episode will help you identify unhealthy patterns and learn h...

EARTH SCHOOL ©

22 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We are born into Earth School © for one purpose. Learn what that purpose is and how to manifest it in your life. This comforting lesson can help you ...

LYING - Why do most people lie?

15 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Almost everyone lies sometimes. Why? This episode lets you see how the lies we tell are a window into our own emotional development and how we need to...

MOTHER RELATIONSHIP - A window into who you are

08 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Your relationship with your mother, good or bad, happy or challenged, is a window into who you are. What things have you adopted? How do you try not t...

The ME FILTER

10 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How aware are you of your own"ME FILTER?" Do you tend to take things very personally or feel obligated to always express your thoughts, opinions or ex...

CO-DEPENDENCY and ENABLING - A Fresh Look

03 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Co-dependent behaviors can be viewed in a manner that allows you to change in a healthy way. Why do some people enable others? How do you stop doing t...

The F-BOMB - Hiding Behind It

20 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do you drop the F-bomb a lot? In your vocabulary is it a noun, verb, adjective and an adverb? Do you wish you, or someone you care about, would stop s...

SECONDARY TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER

20 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Compassion Fatigue is another name for stress resulting from treating victims of trauma. First responders, military personnel, therapists, social work...

VULNERABILITY

13 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do you worry that you will be hurt... AGAIN? Many view vulnerability as weakness and they work really hard to stay safe from emotional turmoil and pos...

DYSTHYMIA - Pervasive Depressive Disorder (Mild, ongoing depression)

07 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel like you are sludging through mud? Have you lost your spark for life? This low level, ongoing depression can zap your energy and suck the ...

BLADDER ISSUES

30 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Many people, men and women, have bladder issues for which they never seek help. Bladder control issues and bladder pain issues are often suffered in s...

OCD - Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

23 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

OCD mental health disorder that can range from extremely mild to severe and debilitating. It can affect anyone. This episode will help you understand ...

TUMULTUOUS TIMES FOR THE USA

10 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Many people are extremely upset, nervous, disappointed and fearful for our country. Feelings of hopelessness, helplessness and feeling powerless are w...

PHOBIAS

26 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What are the things that you are afraid of that keep you from moving forward in your life? Are your phobias harming your health, your relationships or...

LONELINESS

12 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

LONELINESS often creates depression and hopelessness. This episode explores how loneliness can happen, the underlying feelings and how it can take on ...

CoVid School Closures

22 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Special guest, Amanda Nardo, discusses with Dr. Patty the impact of school closures on children and families. This episode will help parents know they...

COPING WITH THE UNCERTAINTY

07 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

These political times, as well as CoVid issues, have been stressing people to the max. If you are struggling, know that you are not alone. Listen to o...

SILENT TREATMENT

31 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do you experience the "silent treatment" from someone you care about? Are you the one who does silent treatment on sometimes else? When is this "takin...

BETRAYAL

24 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

BETRAYAL changes you and alters your life. It wounds your heart and feels like a knife in the gut. This episode helps you understand, and put into wor...

GASLIGHTING - Emotional Abuse

17 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Are you, or someone you care about, the victim of sustained emotional abuse? The absence of bruises and broken bones does not necessarily mean that ab...

HIGH MAINTENANCE PEOPLE

10 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do you deal with someone who exhausts you with excessive needs and constant boundary busting? It might be a partner, child, employee or family member....

RE-CENTERING

26 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do you, or someone you love, struggle with getting super emotional -- anxious, angry, frustrated, etc-- and do not know how to RE-CENTER and calm down...

DEPRESSION IN CHILDREN during these challenging times

19 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

These are chaotic and difficult times. The pandemic, school closures and unusually structured school openings are taking an emotional toll on children...

POTTY MOUTH

29 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do you use a lot of profanity... Swearing... Cussing... Dropping the "F" BOMB? Do people you love and trust talk about your "potty mouth?" This episod...

ADDICTIONS

22 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do you have an addiction to drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, sex, food, shopping, gambling, gossiping and/or political hatred? This episode explores those ...

THE POWER OF BELIEVING

15 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What do you believe? What do you doubt? Your relationships, career, financial stability, parenting, spiritual beliefs and much more, are a reflection ...

POLITICAL STRESS - The Other Pandemic

01 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The chaos and conflict of our current political environment can be deeply troubling to many people. It can affect friendships, family relationships an...

SUICIDAL THOUGHTS - A Call to Consciousness

18 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes the desire to die is a coping mechanism for controlling emotional pain. This is not about severe suicidal feelings but that slight "I just w...

HABITS - Making Them and Breaking Them

11 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Understanding how habits are formed will let you learn how to either make a new habit or break an old habit. It isn't difficult. There are some very s...

PERSONAL RULES

04 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What are your personal rules that you have developed in an effort to keep yourself safe? These rules, formed over your lifetime from experiences, trau...

GROWING OLD IS NOT FOR WEENIES

20 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Does the prospect of growing old frighten you? Do you feel like your get up and go, got up and went... and didn't leave a forwarding address? Dr. Rich...

ABANDONMENT ISSUES

13 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Unresolved abandonment issues can create havoc in your life. Relationships, friendships, jobs, and much more, can be compromised and ruined by unconsc...

SOCIAL MEDIA FRUSTRATION- Do You Need a Break?

06 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Are social media apps such as Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat and others creating anxiety, frustration, and anger for you? Many are saying the ...

DR. GOOGLE

30 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do you find yourself obcessively googling medical issues trying to figure out what is wrong with you or a loved one? Do you create anxiety and fear in...

BARELY HANGING ON

16 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

I AM SO WORRIED ABOUT MANY PEOPLE. Clients, friends, family and other professionals' patients who are struggling emotionally. Many of those doing okay...

Should I stay or should I go?

02 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Trying to decide to stay or leave your relationship is difficult. It is hard to be "the bad guy" and at times it is difficult to endure and stay. This...

SOCIAL MEDIA - A Love Hate Relationship

25 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Are you addicted to social media? It can make you laugh, feel connected and popular. It can also contribute to anxiety, depression and loneliness. Man...

CoVid19 BLUES

18 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How are you dealing with the quarantine, social isolation, financial stress, relationship issues and the many other issues we are facing right now? Ar...

UNDERSTANDING SLEEP

11 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

For many, sleep is illusive and difficult. Stress can severely compromise the ability to get productive and restful sleep. Understand what is going on...

SOCIAL ISOLATION

04 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Is social isolation bringing out the best or the worst in you? How is it affecting your relationships and your family? Work on coming out of this viru...

PATIENCE

28 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do you consider yourself a patient person? Did you know that you can learn to be more patient? This episode will break down the elements involved with...

CORONA VIRUS FEARS

21 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The fears surrounding this challenging time are not just about illness and death. Many are facing financial devastation, severe losses, crushing anxie...

LOVING YOURSELF

15 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Stepping into LOVING YOURSELF is actually much easier than you ever thought. It is a shift in perception. This episode of Therapy in a Nutshell will e...

REFINED BY FIRE

08 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Special guest, Jennifer "Jas" Shaw, shares her personal story of literally rising from the ashes after she and her daughter were terribly burned in a ...

BROKEN

29 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel broken and having a hard time getting back to your stronger self? You might feel mentally, physically and/or spiritually broken. You may b...

EMPOWERING CHILDREN and ADULTS

22 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Master James Matthews (8th degree Black Belt in Kung Fu San Soo) discusses his work with children and adults using martial arts to teach strength, pow...

FAMILY SECRETS

15 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Almost everyone has personal or family secrets that they guard. What are your secrets and why do you keep them? How do family secrets harm your family...

COLONOSCOPY and UPPER G.I. TESTS

08 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Are you avoiding the preventative care that you SHOULD be doing? Cancers of the gastrointestinal tract (throat, esophagus, stomach and colon) are prev...

BOUNDARIES OF PROTECTION

01 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

People have limitations that they deal with on a regular basis. These can be physical, mental or emotional issues that we need to, have to, or should ...