Enneagram and Marriage

Adventuring Together Across Stances This Summer!

21 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Adventures vary across couples and across types. But we can all agree on one thing - they're essential to a healthy marriage. Today Christa takes you ...

Creative Ways to Build Connection in Marriage w/Billboard & Dove-Award WInning Artist Paul Cardall, Enneagram 4

19 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When you're in an opposites-attract marriage, you've got to be creative to make sure you're moving together in harmony. Today we get to talk to Dove-a...

Virtue Signaling and Villainizing Across Every Enneagram Type

14 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When you're upset in your relationship, do you ever villainize your spouse? You're not alone if you do, in fact, it's part of human nature to rate one...

Building Deeper Connection in Marriage with Dove Award Winner Matt Hammitt, Enneagram 9

12 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When you have family, fame, and faith, plus a Dove-award-winning musical career with millions of downloads (Sanctus Real, Matt Hammitt), life can feel...

Mini-Meditations for Each Enneagram Space

07 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

 Do you ever notice how when your emotions get flooded, you end up finding yourself on the wrong side of regulation? Your relationships, especially t...

Attachment Needs for Every Enneagram Type in Marriage

05 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How does your Enneagram personality type specifically get in the way of your deepest attachments in marriage? Without a safe language, you're probably...

Dealing with Attachment Breaches: Tips for Head, Heart, and Body Types in Relationships

31 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever feel like your spouse truly misses out on what your greatest attachment needs are? You may even wonder occasionally if you're doomed as a ...

A Memorial Day Mystery Couple Episode with Author Kate Hallock (Type ???)

28 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

As you kick back a bit from work this opening summer Monday, we hope you take some time to chill during this fun conversation together with author Kat...

How Your Enneagram Worldview Affects Your Relationship

24 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We each bring something valuable and beautiful to our marriages in terms of worldview but also bring an accompanying shadow to the relationship as wel...

Love on the Brain: Brain Boosting Hacks w/ Dr. Krissy Thomas, Ph.D

22 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Did you feel different when you fell in love? Love does indeed change our brains, and wonderfully, love can even support us with emotional bonding. Ho...

E + M Rom-Com Fun: Typing Tom Hanks & Meg Ryan Movie Characters Together!

17 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this unabashedly romantic and just-for-fun episode, Christa and Hannah curl up in the 7 space with some decaf chai and invite listeners to grab a c...

Essential Conflict Goals for Every Enneagram Type with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo, One Extraordinary Marriage

15 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You need to know exactly what's getting in the way of the two of you in conflict, not only in terms of Enneagram type issues but also in terms of your...

Nurturing Children of Every Enneagram Type

10 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

  Research tells us kids struggle more post-Covid with mental health issues and it's often because they have a sense of hopelessness and culture. Th...

Setting New Parenting Goals As We Resist Toxic Teaching with Sheila Wray Gregoire, Enneagram 8w7

08 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week of Mother's Day, we work together on parenting goals as we look at the absolute best and worst researched-based practices with teens as they...

An E + M Mini: BookTok Picks Across the Enneagram Types, Melody Hardin, Enneagram 9

03 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes you just need to let down and read a really good book, and today Christa is joined by her daughter Melody Hardin, Enneagram Nine, to discuss...

Amping Up Your Sexual Goals Together with the Sex Educator You Always Wish You Had, Carlie Palmer-Webb, MS

01 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

As we begin to refine our goals together this month, we're covering the area of sexual intimacy right off the bat with the wonderful sex educator you ...

Life and Marriage with an Enneagram 1, Wes Hardin

26 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this "Life" series, you're getting to listen in on the relationship stories of each of the Enneagram types. It's a time for you to experience sitti...

Scott Allender, Enneagram 3, The Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence and the Defense Strategies Blocking Us from Our Goals

24 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What's preventing you from reaching your goals, from thriving personally, relationally, or at work? It's often so more than just circumstantial, but s...

Sober Spirituality: The Joy of a Mindful Relationship with Alcohol, Erin Jean Warde, Enneagram 6

19 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How can those who struggle with sobriety create mindfulness around alcohol, especially since the struggle affects all of us culturally as the leading ...

Orphaned Believers: How A Generation of Christian Exiles Can Find Their Way Home w/Author Sara Billups, Enneagram 4

17 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

So many individuals and couples depend on faith for life's sustenance as well as a purposeful call together in relationships, and yet many times there...

Life & Marriage with an Enneagram Type Two, Kirsten Barker

12 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this "Life" series, you don't just get to hear about relationships with each of the Enneagram types but for you to experience sitting with an authe...

Allowing In Your Grief & Faith Questions w/Dr. Mekel Harris, Enneagram 4w3

10 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Grief hits us all at times - as a world, as a community, and yes, even as leaders, helpers, pastors, parents, or spouses. When grief and the ensuing l...

Life & Marriage with an Enneagram Type 3, Abigail Perry

05 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this "Life" series, you're doing more than learning about relationships with each of the Enneagram types but it's a time for you to experience sitt...

Overcoming Father Wounds w/Kia Stephens

03 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Whenever we approach spiritual growth, we look for roots in hurt or pain. Where have we gone off track with God and how does this distance or these wo...

Life with Enneagram 4s + Sleep Tips for Each Type, Jentry Courter, Enneagram 4

29 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this "Life" series, you get to experience sitting with an authentic and real person of each personality type in a very relaxed fashion, too. Join u...

Strong Like Water with Aundi Kolber, Enneagram 4

27 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Whether you're hypervigilant or you tend to become withdrawn in the aftermath of trauma, there are certain costs to being strong - we were made well a...

Life and Marriage with a 5, Jennifer Passmore

22 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this "Life" series, you don't just get to hear about relationships with each of the Enneagram types but for you to experience sitting with an authe...

The Enneagram & Your Marriage with Jackie Brewster, 7-3 Marriage Pairing

20 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When we don’t have a healthy foundation or direction for exploring conflict well together, things tend to fall apart and keep falling apart - confli...

Life and Marriage with an Enneagram 6, Heather Richmond

15 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for a cup of matcha and convo as we continue to drip out an Enneagram series of chats with each type! In this "Life" series, you don't just ge...

A Powerful Conflict Tool w/Psychologist Dr. Wyatt Fisher, PsyD

13 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Psychologist Dr. Wyatt has an important mission: to reduce the divorce rate one marriage at a time and today on the Enneagram and Marriage podcast, he...

Life and Marriage with an Enneagram 7, Alaina Pompa

08 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this "Life" series, you don't just get to hear about marriage with each of the types but for you to experience sitting with an authentic and real p...

Stances, The Repressed Centers of Intelligence in Marriage with Best-Selling Enneagram Author & Master Teacher Suzanne Stabile, Enneagram 2

06 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for a deep dive into a relationship chat on our repressed centers of intelligence, or stances, with Suzanne Stabile, best-selling author, spea...

Lessons in Love By Enneagram Type from Jane Austen Character Arcs

01 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s mini-podcast just-for-fun episode, we take you through the nine Enneagram types by way of some of our favorite classical characters in th...

Life & Marriage with an Enneagram 8, Laurie Palau, This Organized Life

27 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this "Life" series, you don't just get to hear about marriage with each of the types but for you to experience sitting with a person of each person...

An E + M Mini: The Four Types of Love You Need in Marriage from CS Lewis & The Four Loves

22 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This Ash Wednesday, as we consider our fallibility in loving perfectly and yet our strong need for community and connection as humans, we're talking a...

Life & Marriage with an Enneagram 9, Emily Wingfield, Enneagram with Emily

20 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for a cup of coffee and convo as we drip out an Enneagram series of chats with each type! Today we are interviewing an Enneagram Type 9 speake...

An Enneagram Valentine's Day Mystery Mini-Episode

14 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this fun shortie episode, Christa invites listeners to join her in a personality-type excavation to find the Enneagram types of a couple in a brief...

Loving Each of the Enneagram Types in Marriage w/Dani Cooper of Deep Waters Enneagram

13 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

As we explore the heart of romance together, one of the most important ways we can connect hearts together is by really understanding the deepest need...

The Heart of True Marriage Connection with Elizabeth Overstreet

08 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

February can be a tough month of disillusionment and regret because of a lack of expected romance, a break of connection due to stress, or even findin...

Revving Up Your Romance with Relationship Coach Dana Che, Enneagram 3 (3-9 Pairing)

06 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We begin a month of romance with our fresh and fun first February guest relationship coach Dana Che, Enneagram 3! Dana is witty, articulate, hilarious...

An E + M Short: Celebrating & Reflecting on One Million Podcast Downloads With You!

01 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When we started the podcast just around the time of the pandemic, we had no idea what was in store; so many systems for healthy relationships have dev...

How Christ Relates to Each Type w/Jesse Eubanks, 3w4 of Love Thy Neighborhood & The Enneacast

30 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this darkest time of the year, it's so important we have good ways to wrestle with the things keeping us from hope, from faith, and from light. In ...

E + M Shorts: Why & How Anger Must Be Addressed in Marriage for a Healthier You

25 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this short but essential episode, Christa talks about how critical anger processing is for your marital and physical health for individuals of ever...

In Sickness & In Health: Immunity-Boosting For Your Marriage w/Coach Jenn Johnson

23 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When we agree to vows to support one another in sickness and in health, we want to be able to provide one another a safe space to heal as well as a sa...

A Mini-Episode: #RelationshipGoals for Each Enneagram Type

18 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We interviewed each type to find out what would be the most popular goals of each Enneagram type in marriage this year. In this mini-episode, we have ...

Trauma and Polyvagal Processing with E + M Coach Jessica Vangsnes, 4-8 Pairing

16 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Join E + M Certified Coach and trauma-informed polyvagal specialist and marriage helper Jessica Vangsnes, of the 4-8 pairing on today's E + M Pod. Jes...

Activating Your Repressed Instincts in Life & Marriage

11 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Often our instincts lead the way in marriage, sometimes even more than type. However, they can also be our biggest stumbling block. In this E + M Mini...

Five Love Languages of Your Sex Life

09 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Our second week of the New Year brings your brightest and best in the bedroom together as we discuss the 5 main sexual love languages in your marriage...

An E + M Mini: Finding Your Best Goal Rhythms w/Your Spouse

04 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Christa briefly walks you through five essential goal practices that have not only been life-changing and that are going to help you clarify and step ...

Five Goal Practices That Will Change Your Life This New Year

02 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We open Season Five of the E + M Podcast as Christa walks you through five habits that have been life-giving and life-changing for her and invites you...

REPLAY: Christmas Movie Fun with Amy Wicks of Simply Wholehearted, Enneagram 7

28 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

When the holiday stress arises and you need to just relax, there’s nothing more fun than hanging out together and talking about Christmas movies and...

Resentments of Each Enneagram Type and How to Heal Your Marriage

26 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Resentments are one of the main issues in a marriage, and we've got the reasons why for both marriages in general as well as Enneagram users. E + M di...

The Gifts Each Enneagram Type Brings to Marriage

19 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

During a season of dysregulation, it's easy to forget the good of our spouse. Studies also remind us that the holiday vibes create a wishful desire fo...

E + M Shorts Series: Compatibility Across Head, Heart, and Body Triads

14 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Though each member in a couple can balance one another out as we give to one another, there are also certain ways we crash together in terms of our he...

Finding Your Flow & Joy in Marriage w/Neal Samudre, Enneagram 3w4 of EnjoyCo

12 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Have you been going through the motions lately, scared to look under the surface for fear you may not be able to get back up again? Today's episode ha...

Working Through Parental Enneagram Overlays This Holiday

07 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

So many times, we don’t realize that the parental overlays from our first few years of development have laid a foundation that runs deeper than we c...

Music Therapy & Marriage with Destiny Boyum, MT-BC, Enneagram 2w3

05 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Destiny Boyum, MT-BC, Enneagram 2w3 joins Christa on the podcast today to help our community to process how music therapy can heal and soothe and even...

An E + M Mini: Building Out Your Marriage Mission

30 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

When the holidays get busy, it can be so easy to get lost in the shuffle of the tyranny of the urgent. However, without intention, you not only won't ...

The Nitty Gritty of Non-Verbal Communication in Marriage

28 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

As we head into the topic of marriage communication, Christa takes us on a journey of nonverbal communication research and why the tiny nuances in mic...

An E + M Mini: Processing Grief This Season

23 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you feeling alone in your grief or even just stuck this season? Join Christa for a therapeutic journey of discovering ways of processing grief, le...

Building Marriage Allure Versus Affairs

21 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The dangers of a complacent marriage are many, ranging from stagnancy to infidelity, the latter of which makes trauma imminent. During the holidays, a...

Finding Your Holiday Glow with Every Enneagram Type

16 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How can you best shine together this holiday? This episode is not only a safeguard against stress and struggle over the holiday maritally, but it's an...

The 9 Enneagram Types & Communication w/Steph Barron Hall of @NineTypesCo

14 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We're digging into the nuances of how each of the nine Enneagram type communicates in terms of their communication style strengths and stressors in ma...

E + M Shorts: Harmonic Groups in Love - Enneagram Types 2, 7, and 9

09 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Types Two, Seven, and Nine stay as positive as possible and as such there are some extremely important reminders as you learn to walk through your lov...

3 Essential Communication Practices for Your Marriage w/Steph Barron Hall, Enneagram 3

07 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We all need good tools for marriage communication as we try to stay warm together this holiday season ahead. Christa is joined for this important 2 pa...

E + M Shorts: Harmonic Groups in Love - Enneagram Types 4, 6, and 8

02 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Types Four, Six, and Eight are quite passionate and as such there are some extremely important lessons to find - and keep - love with them! In this mi...

Bringing Brain-Based Solutions to Your Marriage with Dr. Jerome Lubbe

31 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Jerome helps us to understand how we develop provocative differences in marriage over time, differences that can cause conflict but that are essen...

E + M Shorts: Harmonic Groups in Love - Types 1, 3, and 5

26 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Types One, Three, and Five are quite logical and as such there are some extremely important straightforward ways to finding love with them! In this mi...

Your Internal Enneagram Narratives & An Exercise from the E + M Membership

24 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You bring your internal narratives to everything you do, and as such, the stories and scripts inside of you not only matter but affect your life more ...

E + M Shorts: The Heaven/Idealist Triad - Enneagram 1, 4, and 7

19 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Some of us, particularly those who identify with Enneagram 1, 4, and 7, create patterns of idealistic expectations that potentially hinder their quali...

Setting Boundaries with Extended Family w/Dr. Alison Cook, Enneagram 3

17 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes we do all the right steps and we still don't get the desired results with family and friends around us. Dr. Alison Cook joins us with some p...

E + M Shorts: The Attachment Triad 3, 6, and 9 in Marriage

12 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Some of us, particularly those who identify with Enneagram 3, 6, and 9, create patterns of comforting behavior that potentially hinder their quality o...

Working Through Family Ties & In Law Issues w/Hailey Brown, LCMHC, Enneagram 9

10 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In-law issues and extended family are enormous contributors to marital discord. Because of the exorbitant stress, one of the best ways to look both in...

E + M Shorts: The Rejection Triad - Enneagram 2, 5, and 8

05 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Some of us, particularly those who identify with Enneagram 2, 5, and 8, create patterns of rejecting behavior that potentially hinder their quality of...

Beyond the Enneagram with Marilyn Vancil, 9, Spiritual Processing in Marriage and Family Issues

03 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

When we're considering how to glow or even relate with a spouse from a different family pattern than us, we are often called to not only marital or pe...

An E + M Hurricane Ian Crisis & Update

02 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In today's mini-episode with Christa, we share an extension of gratitude for the kindness and love shown in this time of Hurricane Ian crisis and our ...

Couples and Addictions with Dr. Deborah Russo, Psy.D

28 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

For many, a marriage or close relationship with addiction is the norm, and yet life with an addicted partner is not only not the ideal, but is often a...

Healing in the Shadows & Seasons of Change w/Abram, Drew, and Creek of Fathoms Enneagram Podcast

26 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

As we talk about seasons of change, today we are focusing on how to walk through the shadows that often accompany us while remembering we are more tha...

The Three Subtypes of Enneagram Nine

21 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for this simple series on each type as we share about the three subtypes of Nine in marriage and family life! Want a deeper dive into the type...

Emerging from the Shadows of Marriage w/Evan and Tiffany Doyle, Enneagram 5 & 2

19 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

When we begin relationships, we often have no idea how past trauma from the past will affect us in the future, nor do we often know how to address it ...

The Three Subtypes of Enneagram 8 in Marriage

14 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for this simple series on each type as we share about the three subtypes of Eight in marriage and family life! Want a deeper dive into the typ...

Seasons of Love, Friendship, & Family w/ Stacey Day, Enneagram 2

12 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we not only brief you on the stages of marriage across seasons, but we share seasons of a friendship "glow" also so you can make sure your frien...

The Three Types of Enneagram Seven in Marriage

07 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for this simple series on each type as we share about the three subtypes of Seven in marriage and family life! Want a deeper dive into the typ...

Finding Personal & Family Rhythms in Seasons of Busyness w/Melissa Thompson, Enneagram 2

05 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

As we roll into a new season this Labor Day episode, we aim to find rhythms and balance amidst work and family life, especially since the days are lon...

Special Episode: The LOTR & The Rings of Power w/Natalie Hooper, 2-8, The Lettering Wife

01 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

As Amazon Prime releases the new Lord of the Rings prequel, The Rings of Power, it's time for the merging of the worlds and a trek into Middle Earth f...

The Three Types of Enneagram Six in Marriage

31 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for this simple series on each type, including as we share about the three subtypes of Six in marriage and family life! Want a deeper dive int...

Burn Fat & Feast with Sarah Thomas, Enneagram 1 (1-8) Glow

29 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today's podcast offer both a personal and a collective experience for empowered healthy fitness lifestyle habits. Christa is joined by Sarah Thomas of...

The Subtypes of the Enneagram Type 5 in Marriage

24 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for this simple series on each type, including as we share about the three subtypes of Five in marriage and family life! Want a deeper dive in...

Bringing Healthier Hormones & Body Practices to Your Marriage with Health Coach Jenn Johnson, Enneagram 1

22 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

When you're struggling with healthy eating or extra weight, we know the last thing you need is to be shamed. However, your life and relationship is ev...

The Subtypes of the Enneagram Type 4 in Marriage

17 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for this simple series on each type, including as we share about the three subtypes of Four in marriage and family life! Want a deeper dive in...

Finding Your Way to Enneagram & Health w/Coach Myrna Cervetti, Enneagram 1

15 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We are indeed better spouses when we're energized and following a healthy fitness and eating routine, but let's face it, sometimes we simply need some...

The Three Subtypes of Enneagram 3 in Marriage

10 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for this simple series on each type, including as we share about the three subtypes of Threes in marriage and family life! Want a deeper dive ...

Getting Healthy Together in Marriage with Wes Hardin, PA-C

08 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

As we lean into our health and fitness focus on the podcast this month, Christa takes an interview-style approach with her husband Wes, a specialist i...

The Three Types of Enneagram Twos in Marriage

03 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for this simple series on each type, including as we share about the three subtypes of Twos in marriage and family life! Want a deeper dive in...

Finding Spiritual Growth with the Enneagram w/Author Meredith Boggs

01 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

As we pause to reflect on all of the growth of the seasons past, we transition to new spaces with spiritual growth in mind. Christa is joined by autho...

The Three Types of Enneagram Ones in Marriage

27 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for this simple series on each type, including as we share about the three subtypes of Ones in marriage and family life! Want a deeper dive in...

Finding the Most Loving Sexual Intimacy in Your Marriage with Expedition Marriage

25 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for our final episode in the July sex series with the wonderful Chris and Jamie Bailey of Expedition Marriage. Christa brings the hard but mos...

Enneagram Instincts in Where the Crawdads Sing with Katy

22 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for this just-for-fun episode on Delia Owens' Where the Crawdads Sings. We talk with biologist Katy Beckham, Enneagram 5 about relationships i...

E + M Shorts Series: What a Type 9 Wants in Marriage

20 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you want to know the collective facts about what each Enneagram type wants in marriage? Join us for this simple series on each type, including as ...

Instincts in Intimacy with Sexpert, Sam E. Greenberg, Enneagram 5

18 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Have you wondered how your survival instincts affect your sex life or lack of intimacy as a couple? The instincts are undoubtedly relevant as we talk ...