Evolutionary Men
Episodes
How to Find the Right Couples Therapist (with Ryan Ginn)
20 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I bring on my friend and practicing couples therapist Ryan Ginn to break down what separates great couples therapy from a waste of you...
Shadow Work for When You Can't Say What You Feel
14 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I'm joined by Dr. Luke Adler, my co-facilitator in the Heart of Shadow program, to dive into shadow work for one of the most commo...
Shadow Work for Better Sex (with Luke Adler)
04 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I'm joined by Dr. Luke Adler to explore how shadow work can transform your sex life. We dig into why so many men use ejaculation a...
What Season is Your Relationship In?
07 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode my wife Violet and I break down why your relationship can’t always be sunny and perfect—and why that’s actually a good thing. We...
Shadow Work for Anxiety & Worry
05 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Luke and I dive into the shadow of worry and rumination that keeps so many men trapped in their heads. We break down why living from t...
The Five Scariest Moments in Our Relationship (with Violet Lange)
31 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode my wife Violet and I share the five scariest moments in our relationship. These weren't just hard conversations or minor disagreem...
Why So Many Good Men Feel Empty
29 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I explore why so many good men still feel a quiet emptiness even when life looks full. We get into what’s really underneath the lone...
Navigating High-Conflict Divorce for Men
17 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I sit down with Karen McMahon, a high-conflict divorce strategist who's been guiding men and women through one of the most painful...
Shock Absorbers for Your Life
14 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I break down one of the most powerful investments you can make in yourself as a man: your social capital. Most men grind through life ...
Shadow Work for Depression (with Luke Adler)
12 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Luke and I dive into what's really behind male depression. We explore why the things men typically do to feel better often make t...
Shadow Work for Nice Guys (with Luke Adler)
06 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I dive into the hidden roots of nice guy syndrome along with my Heart of Shadow co-facilitator Dr. Luke Adler. We explore how being a ...
3 Ways Men Disconnect (and the Fix)
21 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I break down the three types of disconnection that are crushing men right now and leading to depression, stuckness, and a sense that s...
Inherited Wounds: Tend the Land, Heal Men (with Roy Arthur Blodgett)
11 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I chat with naturalist and poet Roy Arthur Blodgett to face what men inherit: numbness, isolation, and a grim overculture of masculini...
My Top 16 Men's Group/Work Moments
07 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I get personal and share about my top 16 moments that I've gotten to experience that's to men's work, all stemming from m...
The Seduction of Victim Masculinity (with Luke Adler)
31 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Luke and I explore the complex narratives surrounding masculinity, particularly the idea of victimhood among men. We dig into the cul...
The New Standard for Powerful Men
25 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I dive into what I believe is the new standard for powerful men: taking responsibility for our pain. Whether it’s personal, ancestr...
Held by Men, Forged by the Fire (with Ted Riter)
18 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I sit down with my longtime brother and mentor Ted Riter for a conversation that goes straight into the heart of sacred masculinity, ...
Polarity is the Easy Part
11 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I unpack why mastering sexy hacks like alpha-drops and breath orgasms is just the tip of the iceberg. I explore how childhood attachme...
How to AI-Proof Yourself as a Man
07 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore four core capacities every man needs to start cultivating to stay vital and grounded in an AI-powered world. This isn’t s...
The Gift of Shame (with Dr. Keith Witt)
27 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Shame isn’t something to get rid of—it’s something to work with. And when we do, it can become one of the most powerful tools for growth, integr...
Savage & Saint (with Michael Holt)
31 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I drop in with Michael Holt, founder of the Savage and Saint Collective. We explore what it really means to live as a whole man—one...
What Therapy and Coaching Can’t Give Men
27 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I unpack the concept of men’s groups as the essential “third way”—a relational container that fills the gaps left by coaching...
Awakening the Masculine Spirit (with Amir Khalighi)
23 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm joined by my friend and brother in the men's work space Amir Khalighi. He shares his journey into men's work, discuss...
Men's Group Experience
20 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I share the deeper “why” behind launching my new program, Men’s Group Experience—and what I’ve learned after decades in the...
How to Become a Dangerous Man (with Tripp Lanier)
16 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I reconnect with one of the most important men in my journey—my first men’s coach, Tripp Lanier. We dive into a rich conversation...
The Marlboro Trap (with Luke Adler)
12 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I sit down with my friend and collaborator Luke to unpack the enduring myth of the Marlboro Man—and how it’s still shaping men’...
No More Mr. Lone Wolf (with Dr. Robert Glover)
08 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, to explore the root causes of why so many men feel stuck, frustrat...
Why Success Alone Won’t Save You (with Luke Adler)
28 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m joined once again by my brother-in-arms Dr. Luke Adler to dive into something a little different: a reaction and commenting on ...
Building a Men’s Group That Lasts for Life
18 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I break down one of the biggest keys to creating a men’s group that actually lasts: decentralization.I get into why most top-down, ...
Purpose, Love, and Wounding (with Luke Adler)
11 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I’m once again joined by my co-facilitator and brother in the work, Dr. Luke Adler. We go deep into the energetic anatomy of woundin...
What Are You Grounding Into?
04 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What does it really mean for us men to get grounded? In this episode, I explore the crucial distinction between momentary grounding as a state experie...
Brotherhood: The Missing Nutrient (with Luke Adler)
26 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I'm joined by Dr. Luke Adler to explore what we call "the masculine vortex" - that transformative space where men find hea...
Turbocharge Your Growth with Masculine Feedback
14 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I reveal how honest feedback from trusted brothers turbocharges male growth. "Carefrontation" breaks through limiting patterns...
Two Things Every Man Craves & Needs
06 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I explore two fundamental needs that every man craves: purpose and belonging, and how joining a men's group can fulfill these esse...
How to Become an Anti-Fragile Man
18 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Dr. Luke Adler and I discuss the concept of anti-fragility as it relates to men's shadow work and personal development. We explor...
The Weakness of Macho Men
07 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore the fundamental weakness of macho men and the "tough guy" culture that promotes isolation and emotional suppression...
Pick a Lens for Your Year
08 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I share a powerful practice of choosing an annual "lens" - a perspective through which to view and experience your life throu...
Three Things Stealing Your Energy
18 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I dive deep into the three major energy drains affecting men today and share how to reclaim your vitality. Drawing from both personal ...
From Toxic to Tonic Masculinity
19 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I explore the concept of tonic masculinity - a positive, generative force that brings vitality and growth to our world. Unlike its pat...
Shadow Work for the Chronically Driven
01 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I am joined by Dr. Luke Adler to expose the hidden price of success that's crushing high-achieving men. We reveal why driven prof...
Own Your Needs Without Being Needy
25 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I dive into the crucial distinction between having needs and being needy. Understanding this difference is vital for fostering health...
Can Sex Keep Getting Better in Long-term Relationship?
09 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Discover the secrets to a sizzling sex life that keeps getting better and better year after year! In this episode, Violet and I reveal our sexual jou...
Our Three Biggest Fights as a Couple
03 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, my wife Violet and I dive deep into the raw, real, and often messy side of relationships by sharing our three biggest fights and less...
Evolutionary Couples & 12 Epic Dates
19 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you only had about 2 hours a week to spend on your relationship, how could you use that time most wisely?The truth is relationships can be incredib...
It's Better to Be a Nice Guy Than to Be a Dick
17 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I challenge the negative perception of "nice guys" in the men's work world. The truth is, being a nice guy is an evolutio...
Master Fluidity to Master Your Life
12 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I explore reveals three game-changing types of fluidity - nervous system, emotional, and polarity - that can skyrocket your personal g...
Stories From Men in the Heart of Shadow (Panel Discussion)
03 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Join Dr. Luke Adler and me in this powerful episode in the Heart of Shadow podcast series as we sit down with three courageous men—Michael, Sean, ...
Shadow Work Helps Digest Life (with Luke Adler)
16 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm again joined by my co-facilitator Dr. Luke Adler, a Chinese medicine doctor who's led over 50,000 healing sessions. We di...
The Retreat, Workshop, or Ceremony is the Easy Part
09 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore the difference between temporary state experiences and permanent stage transformations, emphasizing that while retreats, wo...
The Unique Pain of Debt
22 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I delve into the unique pain of debt - be it financial, health, or emotional. I share my personal experiences with credit card debt, ...
Shadows, Sex, and Showing Up
13 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I am joined by Luke Adler as we discuss the raw, unfiltered reality of personal growth and shadow work. We pull back the curtain on o...
How to Achieve More and Increase Your Impact
05 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I tackle a critical mistake in personal development: setting ambitious goals without addressing our nervous system's state. I cha...
How to Stop Ruminating
26 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Almost every man I work with struggles with either mental or emotional rumination throughout their life. In this episode, I explore 3 strategies to he...
Why Men Fear Being Vulnerable in Relationship (with Luke Adler)
24 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Heart of Shadow series, Luke Adler and I delve into the nuanced discussion of why men often fear coming forward emotionally, es...
The Difference Between Waiting and Resting
17 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I break down the subtle but important difference between waiting for permission from the outside to take action, and the much deeper c...
Leadership & Creating Shared Reality
11 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This episode explores the concept of masculine leadership via creating shared reality. Shared reality involves mutual understanding and connection, mi...
Why Evolutionary Men?
03 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I further bust the lone wolf myth, highlighting how the "pick yourself up by your bootstraps" mentality isn't all we thin...
Checking In VS Jerking Off (with Luke Adler!)
26 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Heart of Shadow podcast series, Luke Adler and I talk about the habit of men using ejaculation for self-regulation, and how a p...
Integrity, Congruence, and Nice Guys
19 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore the important difference between integrity and congruence, and how crucially important it is to understand the distinction ...
Better, not Easier
12 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is short and sweet and about the important reframe of focusing on a better, not easier life, and how connection and community are the mos...
Why Men Think So Much (with Luke Adler)
08 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I chat with my Heart of Shadow co-facilitator Luke Adler about the common experience of men wanting to understand everything and how ...
Do the Evolution
28 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Inspired by one of my favorite Pearl Jam songs, in this episode I talk about what it means to "Do the Evolution", and its significance in pers...
The Moment that Kills Many Intimate Relationships
22 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Every intimate relationship will cross a critical, often make-or-break threshold moment in which the two foundational components of polarity and intim...
The Pitfalls and Potentials of Psychedelic Medicines with David Romero
14 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm excited to welcome friend and healer David Romero to delve into the healing potentials of psychedelic medicines. David shares...
The Power of Moving Toward
02 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I delve into the transformative power of shifting our mindset from 'moving away' to 'moving toward', a crucial pivot ...
If It Doesn't Challenge You It Doesn't Change You
19 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I explore a lesser-known aspect of the saying "If it doesn't challenge you, it doesn't change you" that can be particu...
Moving Beyond Shame
09 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore the significance of having a safe place to return to after facing setbacks or feelings of shame in life, and how the power ...
The Courage to Feel (with Luke Adler)
02 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm once again joined by Luke Adler to explore the sense of hurt and disconnection that many men are experiencing today, and how ...
Purpose, Passion, and Meaningful Work
26 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I delve into the topics of purpose and passion, two crucial aspects of a man's life. Contrary to a lot of the talk in the world o...
Shadow Work & Intimate Relationships (with Luke Adler)
18 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of the Heart of Shadow series, Luke Adler and I discuss the impact of shadow work on long-term relationships. We share our own experie...
The World Needs MORE Angry Men
12 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Anger and aggression are NOT the same thing, and the most dangerous men are aggressive men who aren't aware of their anger. In this episode I b...
Why Men Are So Hard on Themselves (with Luke Adler)
05 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, my co-host Luke Adler and I talk about why us men can be so hard on themselves. We delve into the roots of this harshness and scrutin...
What Creates Nice Guys
29 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore 'Nice Guy Syndrome', its origins, and how to overcome it. Using Dr. Gabor Mate's idea of two primary human nee...
Breaking Free from Stagnation (with Luke Adler)
23 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Luke Adler joins me once more to explore an issue many men experience - stagnation, or feeling stuck. Men in particular often suffer ...
How to Attract Better Intimate Partners
18 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Discover the key to shifting your patterns and attracting better intimate partners and deeper connections through the power of inner work.Join The Hea...
Precarious Manhood and the Manbox
08 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I discuss two important concepts related to men and masculinity: precarious manhood and the man box. The first refers to the sociocul...
Men, Loneliness, and Social Isolation
01 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I once again explore loneliness among men and highlight the detrimental health risks associated with lacking meaningful connections. ...
One Way Men Keep Themselves Stuck
22 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore one of the main ways men often keep themselves stuck. Many of us will default to soothing ourselves when in distress instea...
The Importance of Doing Your Emotional Work
16 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, discover the importance of doing your 'emotional work' as a man in order to thrive in life. Our emotions can greatly impact o...
Three Reasons Men Join Men's Groups
10 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I break down three of the big reasons I see men show up in men's group and step onto the path of men's work.
One of the Awesome Powers of Men's Group
05 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Long time listeners know that I believe every man should be in a men's group, and in this episode I dive into one of the many reasons why: they ca...
Attention, Tension, and the Masculine
26 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Attention and Tension are two terms that are deeply related when it comes to what makes the masculine inside all of us tick. The ability to consciousl...
"I had a pretty good childhood"
04 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I unpack a common phrase: "Well, I had a pretty good childhood" to explore what lies beneath this common phrase, why it's ...
From Enlightenment to Intimacy
09 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
An all too easy trap on the path of growth is to get hyper-focused on enlightenment, which if we're not careful can become just another way to get...
Cracking Open to Your Deepest Self (with Luke Adler)
10 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
One of the many gifts of shadow work is how it can help us crack open to the deepest parts of ourselves, bringing us into more intimate contact with a...
The Purpose of Dating
08 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Dating can be an exhausting enterprise for many men and can feel like a neverending battle that can get very disheartening, especially if we lose sigh...
Be a Lover Not a Lawyer
21 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Want to take your relationship to the next level as a man? One of the more important changes you make has to do with how you receive feedback or hurt ...
Take Charge of Your Sexual Charge (with Luke Adler)
13 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Sexuality is one of the most powerful energies on the planet and one that can easily cause great harm if not matched with consciousness. We're liv...
Train at the Edges, Live in the Middle
05 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When it comes to any kind of meaningful practice, the aim is to train at the edges of our capacity and stretch ourselves so that we can live with more...
Three Keys to Regain Your Center
27 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ever had one of those moments or days, when you just FEEL OFF, be it stressed, depressed, anxious, or unmotivated? Listen to this episode as I explore...
Leading with Vulnerability
10 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Leading with vulnerability is one of the most potent things I coach men on and it creates some unique challenges for us as men. Tune in to learn what ...
Core Level Healing with Luke Adler
02 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I'm again thrilled to be joined by Luke Adler, my friend and co-facilitator of The Heart of Shadow program. In this discussion, we share about our...
The Herky-Jerky Lizard
28 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I recently got to spend some time watching a very herky-jerky lizard while on retreat, and in today's episode explore how its movement can be so r...
Co-Ed Work Matters Too (with Violet Lange)
16 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I chat with my lovely wife Violet Lange about the importance of doing co-ed work and how it can amplify and refine the work we do tog...
The Purpose of Men's Work
06 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Men's work is having a moment in our culture right now, entering more and more into the mainstream each and every day. In this episode, I explore ...
The Male Loneliness Epidemic with Luke Adler
28 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
There is a crisis of male loneliness, and it started long before COVID. In this episode, I chat with friend and co-facilitator Luke Adler about how de...
Being a Yes to What Is
17 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I share one of my favorite stories about musician Prince and dive into how it exemplifies the superpower of being a yes to what is, w...
Father & Son Rites of Passage with Luke Entrup
10 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I talk with Luke Entrup, a leadership coach and teacher that leads rites of passage programs for fathers and their sons.We talk abou...
Name What You Notice
03 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
One key to meaningful masculine leadership comes from being able to name what you notice. This simple concept can improve your relationships, work lif...
Testosterone is Not the Problem
20 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Men and the masculine are getting a lot of heat these days, including from director James Cameron who recently said that testosterone is "a toxin ...