Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast

157. The Twelfth Hot Topics One

19 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Erica are answering your questions this week! First, a listener worries she’s slipping into a FWB situation. Next, we give advice for lett...

156. The Third Fertility One ft. Jordana Abraham

12 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Erica are continuing our fertility series with a third installment this week, welcoming Jordana Abraham back to the pod. In this deeply vuln...

155. The First Race & Dating One

05 Feb 2024

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Ali & Erica are starting a long-awaited series, race and dating, and we kick things off as Erica interviews Ali about her experiences as a multira...

154. The F The Fairytale One ft. Damona Hoffman

29 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Erica welcome an OG of dating advice to the pod this week - Damona Hoffman, author of the new book “F The Fairytale” and host of the Dat...

153. The Fifth Ask A 30-Something Man One

22 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Erica are joined by Zach, a 30-something man whose friends are managing his Hinge profile. We talk about how (and why) this arrangement came...

152. The Birth Order One

15 Jan 2024

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Should firstborns always date lastborns? Are lastborn-lastborn relationships doomed? Or does it even matter? We’re finding out in this week’s epis...

151. The Eleventh Hot Topics One

08 Jan 2024

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Ali & Erica are answering your questions in a Hot Topics episode this week! First, a listener has a crush on a friend of a friend…does he like h...

150. ‪The Have Him At Hello One

01 Jan 2024

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Ali & Erica are reviewing the first dating book Ali ever read (15 years ago!!) this week - Have Him At Hello by Rachel Greenwald. The author inter...

149. The Masculinity One ft. Rachel Sievers, M.S.

25 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What is masculinity, anyway? How can you identify someone with healthy masculinity? How about someone who wants to equitably divide the mental load of...

148. The Smart Dating One ft. Bela Gandhi

18 Dec 2023

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Bela Gandhi, dating coach and founder of Smart Dating Academy, joins us this week to answer your questions! Tune in to find out why she insists her cl...

147. The 2023 Wrapped One

11 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How did 2023 go for us? We’re breaking it down this week. How many first dates did we go on? What lessons did we learn? And did we succeed at “mor...

146. The Mother Daughter One

04 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In honor of our recently-launched mother/daughter trip to Portugal, Ali & Erica have invited their moms on the show! We’re answering your questi...

145. The Gifts For Men One ft. Sebastian Conelli & Robbie Nunes

27 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It’s that time of year where we all agonize over what to get the men in our lives, whether they’re partners, brothers, sons, or friends. So Ali &a...

144. The Marry Him One

20 Nov 2023

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Are you too picky? Ali & Erica aim to find out this week as we dive into a book that regularly makes the rounds on social media: "Marry Him: T...

143. The Waiting for Marriage One ft. Paul Schissler

13 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you waiting for marriage? Or just curious what dating is like for someone who is? Comedian (and Erica’s former roommate - literally, ROOMmate) P...

142. The Different Cities One

06 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever thought that your city is the worst for dating? Turns out most of our listeners do…so Ali & Erica are putting that to the test thi...

141. The Second Fertility One ft Dr. Peter Klatsky

30 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We’re back with the second installment of our fertility series, interviewing a very special guest - Erica’s doctor at Spring Fertility, Dr. Peter ...

140. The Tenth Hot Topics One

23 Oct 2023

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Ali & Erica are taking listener questions (and bring back Weird or Nah!) in this week’s Hot Topics episode. First, we debate a listener’s scre...

139. The UnF*ck Your Brain One ft. Kara Loewentheil

16 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you supervising your brain? Do you even know how? Kara Loewentheil, J.D., Master Certified Coach, and host of the UnF*ck Your Brain podcast is h...

138. The Life Coach One ft. Rachelle Indra

09 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you skeptical about life coaches? Rachelle Indra, who literally is one herself, was too! Ali & Erica are truly enthralled by her insights this...

137. The r/AskMen One

02 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What do men wish women knew about them?? Well, we asked them for you (and pulled even more insights from around the internet). We hear about things li...

136. The City Confessions One ft. Mariann Yip

25 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you wondered what the transition is like from single and dating to being in a relationship? Author and lifestyle blogger Mariann Yip is telling A...

135. The Tenth Grab Bag One

18 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Erica are taking rapid fire listener questions this week in the latest Grab Bag episode! Topics range from defining “exclusive” vs “of...

134. The 37 & Single One ft. Jared Freid

11 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jared Freid is fresh off his hilarious Netflix special, 37 & Single, and answering your listener questions! What’s the right way to set two peop...

133. The Fiscal Femme One ft. Ashley Feinstein Gertsley

04 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We’re talking finances this week, with Ashley Feinstein Gertsley, CFP and founder of The Fiscal Femme. Are you wondering where/how to start investin...

132. The Hypothetical One

28 Aug 2023

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If you knew you’d meet the person you’re going to marry in 5 years, would you still date? Would you rather win the lottery or find your soulmate? ...

131. The Ninth Hot Topics One

21 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Erica are back with in-depth listener questions, otherwise known as Hot Topics! This week, we discuss: reaching back out to someone you reje...

130.5. The Bonus One

16 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This bonus episode features an exclusive Patreon preview to stay on track with Ali and Erica’s dating updates. Ali recaps an awkward first date that...

130. Listener Storytime: Sexual Assault

14 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

TRIGGER WARNING This episode centers around sexual assault.This week, we welcome on two incredible listeners to tell their stories. They each offer a ...

129. The Men Love Bitches One

07 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do men really love bitches? What IS a bitch, anyway? And can we take anything away from a book that was written over 20 years ago?? Ali & Erica de...

128. The Wedding Etiquette One ft. Roark

31 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

She’sssss backkkkkk!!!!! Ali & Erica welcome former FMH cohost Roark back onto the pod as our guest this week. With Ali fresh off a bachelorette...

127. The Jewish Matchmaking One ft. Pamela Rae Schuller

24 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Pamela Rae Schuller is more than one thing - she’s more than Tourette Syndrome, she’s more than her stint on Jewish Matchmaking, and she’s encou...

126. The Wedding Toast One

17 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

For those of you who don’t know us…we’re sharing do’s and don’ts on wedding speeches, from both our own experiences and yours! How long shou...

125. The Embarrassing One

10 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Things take a lighter turn this week, as Ali & Erica pull back the curtain on past embarrassing dating moments…and share yours! We crack up over...

124. The First Fertility One

03 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you have updated information on your fertility? This week, we share our journeys discovering our own and Ali details her egg freezing process. We d...

123. The Oversharing One ft. Jordana Abraham & Dr. Naomi Bernstein

26 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We’re oversharing this week! Ali & Erica welcome Jordana Abraham & Dr. Naomi Bernstein of the Oversharing podcast to the FMH family this wee...

122. The Marrying For Money One

19 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever thought about marrying for money? Ali & Erica can’t help you with that, but we’re breaking down some financial stats that may su...

121. The Second Herpes One ft. Ella Dawson

12 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Why are STIs so stigmatized despite being so common? Ella Dawson, whose TEDx talk on the subject has been viewed over 800,000 times, is here to talk ...

120. The Ninth Grab Bag One

05 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We’re answering listener questions rapid-fire style in another grab bag episode! We cover everything from feeling clingy in a long-distance relation...

119. The First Kids One

29 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We’re kicking off a multi-episode series on children! We’ll spread these episodes out, and invite guests on, covering how your desire to have kids...

118. The Swipe Fat One ft. Alex Stewart & Nicci Nunez

22 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we’re talking plus-sized dating with Alex Stewart & Nicci Nunez of the Swipe Fat podcast!! We take listener questions about tips for ...

117. The Speaking In Thumbs One ft. Dr. Mimi Winsberg

15 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Let’s talk about text, baby…this week, we welcome Dr. Mimi Winsberg to the pod, a board-certified psychiatrist with over 25 years of clinical expe...

116. The 30s Wisdom One

08 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What have we learned about dating (and life) since our 20s? Where do we even begin?? Ali & Erica go through listener submissions of life lessons s...

115. The Dating App Fatigue One

01 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you tired? Because Ali & Erica are VERY tired. Of dating apps, that is. This week, we hold space for all of your (and our) fatigue with dating...

114. The Diet Starts Tomorrow One ft. Emily Lubin

24 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

TW: This episode addresses disordered eating and intentional weight loss. If you’d like to skip this discussion, we announce in the episode when it ...

113. The Eighth Hot Topics One

17 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Erica are diving into listener questions this week! First, a listener is frustrated at a first date who says they’re going to follow up an...

112. The Dating Intentionally One ft. Talia Koren

10 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you trying to go on more dates this year? How about 200? Talia Koren, otherwise known as @dating.intentionally, joins FMH this week to tell Ali &a...

111. The Cheating Quiz One

03 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you think everyone defines cheating the same way? We’re finding out this week, inspired by a Buzzfeed quiz that one of our listeners sent in! Eri...

110. The Fourth Ask A 30-Something Man One ft. Jourdain Fisher

27 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It’s our fourth Ask A Man interview, featuring Erica’s close friend, the hilarious Jourdain Fisher. This one starts out spicy with some O-related ...

109. Storytime: Plus-Sized Fitness & Dating

20 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

*CW: This episode centers on body image and mentions intentional weight loss & disordered eating. We continue our Storytime series highlighting li...

108. The Profile Prompts One

13 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How’s your dating app prompt game? Ali & Erica are here to help you step it up as they brainstorm their best answers to popular prompts! You’l...

107. The Non-Monogamy One ft. Rachel Wright

06 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Don’t think you can relate to non-monogamy? Psychotherapist Rachel Wright just might change your mind. We talk about how relationship frameworks are...

106. The We Met At Acme One ft. Lindsey Metselaar

27 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We Met At Acme host Lindsey Metselaar joins Finding Mr. Height this week! We debate a slew of Weird or Nah and Mythbusters submissions, then dive into...

105. The Dating Etiquette One

20 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

By popular demand, Erica & Ali are debating etiquette “rules” from New York’s Magazine recent article. We tackle things like “never purpos...

104. The Somatic Coaching One ft. Lauren Zoeller

13 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week is chock-full of practical nuggets as we welcome somatic relationship coach Lauren Zoeller to the pod. Together, we break down her nervous-s...

103. The Second Dating Theories One

06 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Erica and Ali are back with our second installment of debating dating theories! This week, we cover theories like “if it’s not a f*** yes, it’s ...

102. The First Dating Theories One

30 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It’s time for a debate! A TikTok dating theories debate, that is. This week, we’ve found some popular theories to discuss, including red nail theo...

101. The Plastic Surgery One

23 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It’s a longgg awaited topic on FMH - plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures. We dive into the shift in recent statistics in these areas and how the...

100. The Tinder Live One ft. Lane Moore

16 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever swiped on a dating app in a group of friends and felt a sense of community in your shared experiences? Our guest this week, Lane Moore, ...

99. The Seventh Hot Topics One

09 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We’re back with our latest Hot Topics, where we answer listener questions from our submission form! This week, we start out with a motion-sickness-r...

98. The Third Ask A 30-Something Man One

02 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Ask and you shall receive…it’s Ali’s brother on the pod! Drake (no, not *that* Drake) joins us for our third installment of Ask A Thirty-Somethi...

97. The Dating Wrapped One

26 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You’ve seen the videos all over social media…for our last podcast of the year, we are bringing you our own FMH version of Dating Wrapped! We share...

96. The First Storytime One

19 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We’re introducing a new series on Finding Mr. Height…Storytime! Where we’ll hear from listeners as they share their stories and the lessons they...

95. The Second Dating Definitions One

12 Dec 2022

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Dating Definitions is back for round two! We continue last week’s discussion, starting with the wiiiiiild number of ghosting-adjacent terminologies....

94. The First Dating Definitions One

05 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If you were hoping to hear us get fired up over the definitions of made-up words…your wait is over. This week begins our series on dating definition...

93. The Dating After Trauma One ft. Allyson Roberts

28 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

*TRIGGER WARNING* This episode contains accounts of sexual assault. If you’d like to avoid, stop listening around minute 48 (we say trigger warning ...

92. The Dating App Openers One

21 Nov 2022

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Hey, listeners! Big question for you…what’s your favorite dating app opener? We’re sharing ours this week (and Erica has an idea that Ali just m...

91. The Chaotic Singles One ft. Cassidy Davis

14 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Finding Mr. Height is getting chaotic this week…chaotically single, that is. It’s our first in-person guest interview where we sit down (on lawn c...

90. The Introducing Erica One

07 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It’s Erica’s first official episode as Finding Mr. Height’s new cohost! We’re kicking things off with an introduction for the listeners using ...

89. The Farewell One

31 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

And…that’s a wrap for Roark! Ali & Roark sit down for the last time to record her final episode. Emotions were high during this interview-styl...

88. The Judging One ft. Adam & Evan

24 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It’s a podcast collab between Ali & Roark and Adam & Evan of the “I’ll Be the Judge of That” pod. The four debate common dating scenar...

87. The First Cheating One

17 Oct 2022

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Shockingly, Ali & Roark haven’t dedicated a podcast to the topic of cheating yet. Today changes that. They start by discussing a well-known dati...

86. The Eighth Grab Bag One ft. Therapy Jeff

10 Oct 2022

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Ali & Roark can’t resist recording a super-sized episode when Therapy Jeff is the guest! Jeff joins the podcast for a Grab Bag episode that cove...

85. The Sixth Hot Topics One

03 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Roark are doling out advice again on another Hot Topics episode. During Updates, Roark sees a friend on Bumble and shares bad news about The...

84. The Second Finances One ft. Nicole Lapin

26 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ali records with author and financial expert Nicole Lapin this week. They talk about how finances can affect relationships and cover topics ranging fr...

83. The First Finances One

19 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Thoughts and prayers to Ali & Roark this week as they wade into the murky waters of dating and finances. Money can be quite the taboo topic and th...

82. The Fifth Hot Topics One

12 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Roark record another Hot Topics episode this week – which is perfect because Roark’s entire personality is complaining about the LA heat...

81. The Break Up Bestie One ft. Kendra Allen

05 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Ali & Roark chat with Kendra Allen aka Your Break Up Bestie! They talk all about actionable steps to recover from a break up, and they ...

80. The Manifestation One

29 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Did you manifest this episode? Or are you more of a skeptic? Either way, Ali & Roark welcome Haley Hoffman Smith to the podcast to talk all about ...

79. The Second Career One

22 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Roark are back this week with another career podcast. This week they’re talking about skills that make someone a good manager, how to be i...

78. The Seventh Grab Bag One

15 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It’s a perfect week for a grab bag because Ali & Roark are a little all over the place this week. During Updates, Ali debriefs on the Disco Ball...

77. The First Career One

08 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Roark take a detour this week away from dating and into careers. They share their very different career paths and start answering some liste...

76. The Second Ask a 30-Something Man One

01 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It’s a Finding Mr. Height first – someone we have dated is on the pod! Ali & Roark welcome the next “30-something man,” who happens to be ...

75. The Second Bad Date One

25 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Roark return to the topic of bad dates this week. They analyze what a “bad date” even is and how to determine if you're on one, and ...

74. The Matchmaker Maria One ft. Maria Avgitidis

18 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It’s a super-sized episode this week because Ali & Roark have way too much to talk about with Matchmaker Maria! Maria Avgitidis is the CEO of A...

73. The First Bad Date One

11 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Time to talk about bad dates! We have all had them, and this week, Ali & Roark share their absolute worst date stories (Ali’s is a real doozie)....

72. The Fourth Hot Topics One

04 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hot Topics are back as Ali & Roark go in depth with three listener questions. During the Updates section, Ali catches listeners up on the Disco Ba...

71. The Dating After Cancer One ft. Melissa Berry

27 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Roark are joined by the Cancer Fashionista Melissa Berry to start the conversation about two big topics – dating after cancer and dating a...

70. The Third Conflict One

20 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The conflict series comes to a close (for now) as Ali & Roark discuss conflict resolution. They discuss defensiveness, saying “sorry,” when to...

69. The Friendship One ft. Jillian Richardson

13 Jun 2022

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Ali & Roark are joined by Jillian Richardson to talk about a different type of relationship – friendships! They discuss navigating conflict with...

68. The Second Conflict One

06 Jun 2022

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The conflict series has turned into a trilogy – because of course it has. On this episode, Ali & Roark answer questions listeners sent in after ...

67. The Matchmaking One ft. Chi Love

30 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Roark welcome Chi Love to the pod this week! Chi runs her own matchmaking business and is here to answer all our listeners’ questions abou...

66. The First Conflict One

23 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Roark discuss conflict this week. First, they discuss when they think it’s worth bringing up a topic that could cause conflict. Then, they...

65. The First Ask a 30-Something Man One

16 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Roark start a new series this week with their first recurring guest – Roark’s friend Matt! Ask a 30-Something Man will feature different...

64. The FMH Glossary One

09 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Roark have a bit of a reset episode this week. Rather than cover a specific topic, they walk listeners down a dating life memory lane – co...

63. The Dating with Herpes One ft. Erica Spera

02 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Ali & Roark have the pleasure of welcoming comedian and podcaster Erica Spera on the podcast. Erica brings her vulnerability and humor ...

62. The Third Hot Topics One

24 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Ali & Roark cover listener questions in a Hot Topics episode. They start with a question about friends who choose to stay friends with ...

61. The Closure One ft. Abby Medcalf

18 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

She blinded us with science! Ali & Roark are joined by Dr. Abby Medcalf – a psychologist who tells them all about how the brain affects our rela...

60. The Astrological One ft. Aliza Kelly

11 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The stars align this week as Ali & Roark get to talk to astrologer Aliza Kelly. Aliza has a really interesting and nuanced approach to astrology t...

59. The First Long Distance One

04 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It’s just Ali & Roark this week as they start a conversation about how to long-distance date. With Ali back from Colombia, the two have a lot to...