Friend Crush with Amber Akilla
Episodes
68 - SURVIVING NO CONTACT
18 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
they broke your trust? you DO NOT break no contact. STAND UP! subscribe for exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sho...
67 - long distance relationships
11 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
what are my thoughts on long distance relationships? is it worth the mental, emotional and financial investment? i discuss using my personal experienc...
66 - q&a - creating new habits, living at home vs full time work
04 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
this week's episode i attempted to answer multiple questions but only managed to answer two lol first we discuss how to start developing discipline an...
65 - girl boss vs lover girl: wanting romantic connection
28 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
too often we're made to feel like love and career are incompatible but i think that's an illusion. love can come from so many sources not just romance...
64 - what to do when your friend has become radicalized by the internet...
21 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
exploring an actually quite complex topic in today’s episode which i will continue to turn over in my mind. what do you do when your political value...
63 - betrayal trauma, sinophobia, working collaboratively, creative vs corporate
14 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
look, i go on a few tangents in this one but we're discussing betrayal trauma, sinophobia and then answering a question from a listener about how to m...
62 - normalize having no f**king idea
07 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
you know what... its ok to not have the answer sometimes!!! quick thoughts on being patient with yourself, managing anxiety and letting time to pass s...
61 - q&a - finding yourself after a breakup, virtual romance
28 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
sharing my thoughts and reflections on messages i've received about how to navigate the post-break up period and virtual/digital relationships that do...
60 - de-influencing & intentional consumption
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
sharing my thoughts on "de-influencing" which i refer to as "mindful consumption" ~ if you've listened to previous episodes of the podcast on skincare...
59 - how to live with your own clownery
14 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
hello angels!! i'm sharing my thoughts around video titles and subjects where people think they've wasted their life. although i understand the sentim...
58 - how to recover from people pleasing (youtube ep)
01 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
let's talk about how i've changed my understanding of people pleasing and what it means as well as how you building awareness around how you are treat...
57 - do exes always come back and does it matter? (youtube ep)
25 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
let's talk about HEART BREAKKKK and the period between a break up and actually moving on - does your ex come back? does it matter if they do? sharing ...
56 - q&a - dating someone who is friends w their ex, incels, law school
17 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
welcome backkkkk - a lil q&a for y'all ! maybe i do this once a month?? let me know what you think ! ask me a question~receive a written pep t...
55 - how to ask people out (youtube ep)
29 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
ranting about gaps in communication hehehe sometimes i think we overlook how important it is to become aware of the ways we share our reality and how ...
54 - boy confessions - "the game", people pleasing in men, authenticity in dating, ghosting & rejection
29 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
welcome to the second boy confessions episode!!! this episode provides a perspective that is so different to the previous episode, i hope you enjoy! "...
53 - w nadine milad - ghosting, people pleasing, friend break-ups
22 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
i loved this conversation i had with actress, writer and content creator Nadine Milad - grab a snack and get comfy because we cover soo much in this e...
52 - pre 30 panic, quarter life crisis pt.2 listener submissions
15 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
part two of the quarter life crisis discussion ~ i read some submissions from listeners on the topic and provide my perspective and thoughts. i actual...
51 - quarter life crisis, pre-30 panic pt.1 self esteem
08 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
part one in a series of episodes where i discuss the quarter life crisis and pre-30 panic. i’ve thought about this a lot as i get to the tail end of...
50 - expectations, standards & the bare minimum
01 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
keep your expectations low, your standards high.... & don't feel like you need to reward the bare minimum!!! slightly modifying a saying that i've car...
49 - boy confessions: "timothee" on cheating, 5 years single, new commitments & more
25 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
so excited to share the first boy confessions episode!!! anonymously interviewing men so they can share honest reflections, opinions and experiences o...
48 - friends with benefits & bootycalls
18 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
what's the difference between a friend with benefits and a booty call? is it worth risking a friendship? do they even make sense??? lets discuss lol ...
47 - adult friendships
11 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
discussing the ways my understanding of friendship has changed as i've gotten older. what's the difference between an inner and outer circle? how to a...
46 - self-confidence & overcoming cringe
04 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
every now and then i post something random/unhinged and someone asks me 'how do you get over being cringe?' HAHAH anyways here are some of my thoughts...
45 - q&a pt2 - boundaries, friends with your ex, books, pop culture, goals
27 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
thank you for asking questions! this is part two of my answers ~ in this episode we cover: how much of yourself to give in dating, people pleasing ...
44 - q&a pt1 - expectations, future faking, dating after a first love
20 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
bonus episode to celebrate the first week of friend crush season four! answering questions that were submitted to me in the last few weeks. in this ep...
43 - season four!! hi from shanghai!!! update/vibe check
20 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
hello my sweet angels!!! i'm so happy to be back for season four of friend crush!!! the last few months have been such a wild ride and this episode is...
42 - vibe check/ q&a - confrontation, friends & toxic exes, parental approval
12 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
thank you for supporting friend crush so far! i’m eternally grateful!! answering some questions asked on IG in honor of this final episode for the s...
41 - therapy
05 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
sharing my personal experiences with therapy and the approach i’ve taken. not diagnostic by any means but hopefully this can assist you in your own ...
40 - w kicki yang zhang - art and influencing
29 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
kicki is a chinese born artist and influencer based in berlin. we talk about her experience growing up in germany, working as an artist and influencer...
39 - vibe check / q&a - breakups, boundaries, hinge replies, digital restraining orders
22 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
first episode in what i hope can be a lil sub-series! sharing bite-sized thoughts and reflections on breakups, boundaries, i give advice for a questio...
38 - w/ derrick gee - advice for creatives, 10 year marriage & tiktok
15 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
please welcome the first male guest on friend crush! derrick gee is a multi-talented and faceted creative director, artist manager and radio host amon...
37 - skincare
08 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
discussing how my approach to skincare has changed - kind of like a metaphor to how my approach to life and things have changed too! i start with what...
36 - breadcrumbing and orbiting
01 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
breadcrumbing and orbiting are being discussed more and more in the context of modern dating and are likened to behaviors like ghosting. what do these...
35 - you are hot and having fun !!!
22 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
sharing my current life mantra/philosophy that i use to ground myself during chaotic moments for you to see whether its something you want to adopt or...
34 - random thoughts on healing
15 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
healing is not linear healing is not linear healing is not linear healing is not linear healing is not linear healing is not linear healing is not lin...
33 - hookup culture
08 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
an introductory exploration into the history of hookup culture... is it as fun and empowering as we're made to think it is? everyone is different but ...
32 - training for a breakup
01 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
breakups are fucked but i think they create opportunities for us to learn more about ourselves and develop resilience if we choose to see them this wa...
31 - west elm caleb & dating apps
25 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
what do we think about the west elm caleb tiktok drama? i care less about the individuals involved and more about the ‘cultural implications’ and ...
30 - any benefit mindset
18 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
how can we make sure that we are streamlining our approach to social media, friendships, romance and even our wardrobe so that we can prioritise quali...
29 - it's just a little crush!!!
11 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
where is the fun in romance? did it catch covid and pass away??? thinking about crushes, how people’s limits differ and how do the traditional value...
28 - digital distancing
04 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
what’s your relationship with technology like? after noticing my own struggle to stay focused i’ve been trying to find different ways to maintain ...
27 - 2021 thoughts & feelings
28 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
a lil reflection on things i've learned over the last year, building off from the 2020 realizing things episode~ i talk about how ritual and new habit...
26 - if they wanted to they would?
21 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
i keep seeing people talk about this but i feel like there’s something missing from this idea… how can we shift our perspective so that we can mov...
25 - superficial vs spiritual self-care
14 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
what's the difference between your hardware and software and how can you make sure both are being looked after? sharing my thoughts on different self-...
24 - micro-cheating
07 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
where do we place micro-cheating on the spectrum of infidelity? how has technology impacted the different ways that we can betray our partners? is the...
23 - not having standards is bad for society
30 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
what are the ways that we are being told to settle at our own expense? what does it really mean to have personal standards and boundaries and how can ...
22 - being hot is not the same as being respected
23 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
how does our relationship with the pursuit of physical beauty and “hotness” affect how we see ourselves and each other? i’ve always felt we are ...
21 - what’s good vs what’s best for you
16 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
what does it really mean to be a “good” person and why do we struggle so much with being the villain in someone else’s story? what happens when ...
20 - everything is connected 😌✨pt 1: authenticity
28 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
how many topics can i touch on in 20 minutes? hehe one of the most empowering and overwhelming realizations for me in the last few years is understand...
19 - grounding exercises to keep the crazy at bay
20 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
put those late capitalist marketing messages aside and get back to basics! things i do to manage my mental, physical and spiritual health so i can fee...
18 - random thoughts & realizations ~ truth vs opinion, authenticity
15 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
things i've been thinking about after a year of being back in my hometown!! understanding and awareness around self-empowerment, how important awarene...
17 - reading is cool!!!!!!
03 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
hello my sweet angels, in this episode i talk about why i think reading (books) is very nice and very cool and a great way to counter-balance the nega...
16 - how to create awareness of and unlearn internalized racism
19 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
today’s episode is a follow up from the last on racism, here we’re focused on internalized racism and unlearning internalized racism. i share a bu...
15 - are your friends kinda racist?
29 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
sooo i asked a bunch of questions on my instagram @amberakilla regarding race and talking to your friends about race, unlearning racism, internalized ...
14 - the stages of realizing things ~ feminism & identity
25 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
this episode is an overview of my journey with feminism and identity so far. these issues are so complex and unique to everyone but i feel like sharin...
13 - 20 things i learnt in 2020 #realizingthings
01 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
wishing everyone a happy new year! the best is truly yet to come after a year like 2020. i have been lucky enough to spend a lot of time reflecting an...
12 - getting off the gram
29 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
i reflect on taking a month and a bit off of instagram, what prompted me to do it, did i learn anything and should you do it too? follow me ☆ inst...
11 - what can we learn from friend break ups?
21 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
hello my loves! in today's episode i will give some final thoughts on friend break ups and what i've learnt. no doubt i will think about this topic ...
10 - confronting vs ghosting & can you get back together?? (friend breakups pt2 )
03 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
finally i got my sh*t together and am following up the first part of our friend breakup series!! in this episode i'll be exploring whether we confront...
9 - is love a neurochemical con job??? understanding & practicing love
23 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
HELLO FRIENDS sorry for falling off, i was thinking very intensely about how to follow up the previous episode on friend break ups but then i started ...
8 - friend break ups & why we CUT TIES!!!
21 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
this episode is part one of two or three on friendship breakups, why do we break up? what's changed in a friendship that might lead to separation? i'l...
7 - Elle @14strk on balancing her irl and url self
15 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
today's episode features miss Elle from Sydney. she's a fashion influencer, stylist and all round creative. we discuss growing up in australia, her on...
6 - making friends and finding your peoples
13 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
giving a run down on how friendships have changed for me in different stages of my life, how i've developed more clarity in what i'm looking for in fr...
5 - yasmin suteja on identity and working in the australian creative industry
09 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
hi friends! today's guest is Yasmin Suteja! she's a photographer, influencer and founder of Culture Machine a creative agency, modeling agency and stu...
4 - control, crisis, consciousness & character
30 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
hello sweet angels! in this episode i’m just sharing my thoughts on concepts i’ve been aware of and reflecting on in the abstract but have really ...
3 - body image: accepting and loving your skin suit
16 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
wowee this episode is a long one ~ mostly covering my own journey with 'body image' and how i now have a much more holistic approach to mental and phy...
2 - chopsticks in the hair ~do we care?
08 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
hi friends! in today's episode i'm giving you a lil rundown of my mental state, discussing how my views on cultural appropriation and cancel culture h...
1 - texting ur ex but it's me telling u what to say
25 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
hi friends! in this episode i'll be talking about helping my friend reply to her ex and why it's important to simplify the way we communicate when we'...
welcome to friend crush!
24 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
hi hello, welcome to Friend Crush!!! get ready for cute, chaotic and critical thinking from me aka Amber Akilla ~ stay hydrated and speak soon ♡&nbs...