From Crisis to Connection - with Geoff & Jody Steurer

The Nuances of Forgiveness and Trust in Relationships - Episode 216

26 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In the aftermath of a betrayal, there is a delicate balance between forgiveness and trust. Oftentimes trust is expected as quickly as forgiveness, but...

Is Anger Necessary for Recovery? - Episode 215

19 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I was recently asked a question by a client that I wanted to discuss with all of you. She has always considered anger as an emotion that was unhealthy...

The Importance of Honesty and Transparency in Recovery - with Sathiya Sam - Episode 214

12 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I am joined by my friend and colleague, Sathiya Sam. Sathiya shares his own journey of addiction and recovery and what he has learned ...

What's Hijacking So Many Beautiful Relationships? - with Dr. Jacob Hess - Episode 213

07 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Jacob Hess wrote an article in Public Square magazine that challenged the belief that we should abandon marriage if we're not feeling romantic or ...

Can You Be in Recovery and Not Sober? - Episode 212

28 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Recently I received a question from a woman whose husband is working to rebuild trust and recover from a pornography addiction. She shared that while ...

What If You Can't Accept an Apology? - Episode 211

21 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Even after a thoughtful and sincere apology, with no strings attached, we often find ourselves stuck in a place of being unable to accept an apology a...

Improving Your Apologies - Episode 210

14 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Apologizing can be as simple as an “I'm sorry” all the way to working through deeply complex injuries that leave both people feeling exposed and v...

Four Phases of Healing After Sexual Betrayal - with Tammy Gustafson - Episode 209

07 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Betrayed partners often have difficulty knowing where they're at in the healing process. After the chaos of discovery and early recovery, the rest can...

A Better Way to Approach Sexual Brokenness in Our Churches - Episode 208

31 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Although church is a place for imperfect people to go to become better, sometimes we find it hard to be accepted there through our own trials and impe...

Relearning Touch After Betrayal (Part 2) - with Wendy Maltz - Episode 207

24 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today we conclude our conversation with internationally recognized sex therapist, Wendy Maltz. She continues to discuss the steps that couples can tak...

Relearning Touch After Betrayal - with Wendy Maltz (Part 1) - Episode 206

17 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Intimacy is a vital part of a relationship, and one that takes time and effort to create. After the betrayal of pornography addiction, the steps to he...

Sitting with Discomfort - Episode 205

10 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In an age of instant gratification and constant activity, we are left with little time to be bored or disconnected from stimulation. It is becoming in...

The Power of No - Episode 204

03 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you have a hard time saying “no” and holding personal boundaries around your time, energy and resources? We often find ourselves socially condi...

In Search of Heroic Masculinity - Ben Pacini - Episode 203

27 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Masculinity has become a taboo topic in recent years, often being associated with sexism and misogyny. In this episode Ben Pacini, author of “The Ca...

4 Ways the Betrayed Can Improve Their Healing - Episode 202

20 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

During my years working with couples dealing with addiction and betrayal, I’ve seen several key trends that have led to the most healing and recover...

4 Ways the Betrayer Can Improve Their Recovery - Episode 201

13 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

During my years working with couples dealing with addiction and betrayal, I’ve seen several key trends that have led to the most successful recoveri...

Is My Partner an Addict or Just Being a Jerk? - Episode 200

06 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Working through betrayal trauma brings up a lot of unknowns in a relationship. One of the most common questions is if the betrayer has the capacity an...

Shame vs. Regret - Episode 199

29 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

There is a fine line between words that empower change and words that drag us down and keep us stuck in a hamster wheel of unhealthy patterns. In this...

Malicious Compliance - Episode 198

22 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever followed a rule or a request with the understanding, and even the intent, that the person setting that rule won’t really get what they...

Decreasing Chaos in Recovery - Episode 197

15 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

With an increase of activities, over-scheduling, and an overall feeling of “busy-ness”, our lives already seem full to the brim. When a betrayal o...

Balancing Positivity and Negativity - Episode 196

08 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We hear a lot of talk about “toxic” positivity versus being real, vulnerable, and open about our struggles and emotions. It can be hard to know ho...

Drama Bonding - Episode 195

01 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Relationship bonds come in all shapes and sizes. Friendships, acquaintances, family members, and intimate partners all have different levels of connec...

Why Formal Disclosure Matters (Part 2) - Episode 194

25 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Moving forward after a betrayal is critical, but when the past has not been fully addressed, it becomes difficult to focus on the future. If the betra...

Why Formal Disclosure Matters (Part 1) - Episode 193

18 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Moving forward after a betrayal is critical, but when the past has not been fully addressed, it becomes difficult to focus on the future. If the betra...

Dealing with the Post-Betrayal Freeze - Episode 192

11 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve all heard the terms “fight, flight, or freeze”. In a physical, adrenaline-filled situation, one could argue that any of these responses wo...

Finding Your True Self After Betrayal - Episode 191

04 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

One of the biggest effects of trauma, especially from betrayal, is the feeling of depersonalization; the feeling of watching your life unfold from the...

Checking Our Blind Spots - Episode 190

27 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We all have our own life experiences that shape our opinions, motives, and actions. While we are able to live our lives how it makes sense to us, inev...

When Is It Objectification? - Episode 189

20 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Betrayed women often find themselves questioning if their partner is still lusting after or objectifying other women, sometimes years after trust was ...

Are You Motivated by Fear or Love? - Episode 188

13 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In the aftermath of betrayal it is very common for the betrayer to act from a place of fear; going through the motions of compliments, acts of service...

Protecting Victims of the Pornography Industry - Dani Pinter, Senior Legal Counsel NCOSE - Episode 187

06 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Grab your FREE ticket to the online Betrayal Healing Conference April 10th-14th! I'll be one of the 25 speakers https://gsteurer--betrayalhealing...

Addressing the Betrayer's Pain - Episode 186

30 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

For your FREE ticket to the online Betrayal Healing Conference April 10th-14th, or to upgrade to an All-Access pass, please visit: https://gsteurer--b...

Should You Confront Your Parents About Your Childhood? - Episode 185

23 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

A crucial developmental step in adulthood is differentiating from your first family; taking the things that worked from your childhood and leaving beh...

Healing Our Relationship with Food - with Emily Fonnesbeck - Episode 184

16 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Is it a Slip? A Relapse? A Setback? - Episode 183

09 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Healing from addictive and compulsive behaviors is a long road that often includes returning to old problematic behaviors. As disappointing and hurtfu...

The Benefits of Family Work - Episode 182

02 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The invention of modern-day conveniences have lowered our workloads and increased our free time to spend doing other important work. One thing they ha...

Emotional Safety in Relationships - Episode 181

23 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Most of us can describe what it means to be physically safe, or to provide physical safety for another person. But are we able to understand and provi...

The Role of Anger in Healing - Episode 180

16 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today we discuss anger from the viewpoint of women, specifically betrayed partners. We dive into societal stereotypes about how women are perceived wh...

Relationship Conflict Patterns with Adam Fisher (Part 3) - Episode 179

09 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Through his extensive research and experience as a clinical psychologist, Dr. Adam Fisher joins us to discuss conflict patterns that couples fall into...

Our Valentine’s Day Guide for Messy Relationships - Episode 178

02 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

As Valentine’s Day quickly approaches, now is a great time to check in on your relationship. On a holiday that can sometimes feel over-produced on T...

Embracing Differences in Your Marriage - Episode 177

26 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The beginning of a relationship can be a time of discovering all of the ways in which you are drawn to your partner because of your similarities. The ...

Building a Marriage-Centered Family - Episode 176

19 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Children undoubtedly require a massive amount of time and energy. Too often parents slowly fall into a child-centered marriage and the marriage relati...

Taking Care of Yourself as You Rebuild Broken Trust - Episode 175

12 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It is understandable that someone who has betrayed their partner often has their own past hurts and issues they need to address and heal. However, how...

Should I Feel Compassion for My Addicted Partner? - Episode 174

05 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We know that those who struggle with addiction suffer in their own way, but how much compassion should the betrayed partner feel for them? One of the ...

Why Marriage Cannot Fix a Pornography Addiction - Episode 173

29 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

A common reaction in hearing about a pornography addiction is wondering if something is “off” in the marriage, and especially in the bedroom. This...

Taking the First Steps After a Sexual Betrayal - Episode 172

22 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In the aftermath of a sexual betrayal discovery, the most common reaction is to freeze and not know how to proceed. Dealing with such an explosive dis...

Healthy Support vs. Parenting Your Partner - Episode 171

15 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we tackle the challenging dynamic of how betrayal can turn a marriage into a parent/child arrangement. A balanced partnership is the ...

The Problem of Acting Needless and Wantless - Episode 170

08 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In a culture where being vulnerable can be seen as weakness, and accepting help can be seen as being a burden, how do we learn to advocate for ourselv...

Patience in Healing - Episode 169

01 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Healing from trauma, rebuilding relationships, and finding inner peace can often be a long, uphill battle. It can be easy to feel burned out or defeat...

The Lure of the Victim Mindset - Episode 168

24 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Life is full of situations that are out of our control. Once we have recovered from the initial shock of what has happened, how do we proceed? Do we c...

Balancing Autonomy and Partnership in a Committed Relationship - Episode 167

17 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Our relationships, especially committed ones like marriage, give us the opportunity to influence and be influenced. We may value and prioritize many o...

How Our Relationships Influence our Internal Motivation - Episode 166

10 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Each of us have areas of our lives where we are naturally motivated, disciplined, and focused. In contrast, we also have areas that are not as importa...

Helping Children be Intrinsically Motivated - Episode 165

03 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever wondered what motivates you to make good decisions, work hard, or put effort into the important areas of your life? Have you wondered th...

A community for relationship recovery - Episode 164

28 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We are thrilled to introduce Connection Plus, a one-of-a-kind community to give you direct support from us. This is our exclusive community for couple...

How we build trust with others - Hank Smith (part 2) - Episode 163

20 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

How we build trust with others - Hank Smith (part 1) - Episode 162

13 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Protecting your marriage in a faith crisis - Tony Overbay (part 2) - Episode 161

06 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Protecting your marriage in a faith crisis - Tony Overbay (part 1) - Episode 160

29 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Why healthy self-talk matters in recovery - Todd Sylvester - Episode 159

22 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

The challenge of enjoyment in the age of addiction - Dr. Mark Chamberlain - Episode 158

15 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Healing a marriage damaged by virtual infidelity - Mark Chamberlain - Episode 157

08 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Protecting children from sexual abuse - Jessica Mockett - Episode 156

01 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Reclaiming your Sexuality - Dr. Finlayson-Fife - Episode 155

25 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Relearning touch after betrayal - Wendy Maltz (part 2) - Episode 154

18 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Relearning touch after betrayal - Wendy Maltz (part 1) - Episode 153

11 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Relationship Conflict Patterns - Dr. Adam Fisher (part 2) - Episode 152

04 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Relationship Conflict Patterns - Dr. Adam Fisher (part 1) - Episode 151

28 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Living after interpersonal loss - Lisa Clark (park 2) - Episode 150

21 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Living after interpersonal loss - Lisa Clark (part 1) - Episode 149

14 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Why porn is bad for marriages - Wendy Maltz (part 2) - Episode 148

07 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Why porn is bad for marriages - Wendy Maltz (part 1) - Episode 147

30 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Finding comedy in tragedy - Lisa Valentine Clark (part 2) - Episode 146

23 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Finding comedy in tragedy - Lisa Valentine Clark (part 1) - Episode 145

16 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

When women abuse men - Lisa Renda (part 2) - Episode 144

09 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

When women abuse men - Lisa Renda (part 1) - Episode 143

02 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Going to the source of the problem - Sam Tielemans (part 2) - Episode 142

26 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Going to the source of the problem - Sam Tielemans (part 1) - Episode 141

19 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Owning your recovery - Tim’s story - Episode 140

12 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Sexual healing from sexual abuse - Wendy Maltz - Episode 139

05 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

A better way to approach sexual brokenness in our churches - Daniel Weiss - Episode 138

28 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Healing shame in recovery - Sathiya Sam - Episode 137

21 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Discovering your couples’ sexual style - Dr. Barry McCarthy - Episode 136

15 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Deeper healing with breath work - Roxanne Granata - Episode 135

07 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

What's hijacking so many beautiful relationships? - Dr. Jacob Hess - Episode 134

31 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Supporting our teens with screens, social media, and mental health - Smith Alley - Episode 133

24 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Moving forward in the aftermath of her worst case scenario - Kim - Episode 132

17 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Practicing sexual mindfulness as a couple - Dr. Chelom Leavitt - Episode 131

10 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Four phases of healing after sexual betrayal - Tammy Gustafson - Episode 130

03 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

The power of community in pornography recovery - Chandler R. - Episode 129

17 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Improve your self-awareness - Genny Rumancik - Episode 128

10 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Launching young adults doesn't have to become a crisis - Dr. Mark McConville - Episode 127

04 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Ladies, your low sex drive doesn't mean you're broken - Jamee Andelin - Episode 126

27 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

A better way to discuss pornography concerns when dating - Dr. Adam Moore and Wendy Morkel - Episode 125

20 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Settling into the journey of healing from betrayal trauma - Jeni Gessel aka "Scabs" - Episode 124

13 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

How families can be a resource in addiction recovery - Danny and Emily Deaton - Episode 123

06 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Refusing the victim mindset even when you've been victimized - Lindsay and Danny Poelman - Episode 122

16 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Creating a sexually safe relationship - Tammy Hill - Episode 121

09 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

How to stay optimistic and motivated after a recovery setback - Geoff Steurer - Episode 120

02 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Setting boundaries with family during the Holidays - Geoff & Jody Steurer - Episode 119

18 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

Building a shame-free marriage in recovery - Hayden and Savannah Paul - Episode 118

11 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...

How burnout can make you stronger - Valerie Hamaker - Episode 117

04 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the righ...