From DEVASTATED to DIVORCED: Your guide through the unwanted end of a marriage.

#243 Last Week I Judged, This Week I Reflected on Effort in Relationships

28 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I revisit last week’s conversation about effort in relationships and share a personal story that made me pause and reflect on my ow...

#242 Weaponized Incompetence… or Just a Cake?

21 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I react to a video I came across on social media where a woman asked her husband to choose her birthday cake so she wouldn’t have t...

#241 The Giving Tree Isn’t a Love Story… It’s a Warning

14 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I revisit the classic children’s book The Giving Tree with a very different perspective than I had growing up. Reading it now, thro...

#240 When You Haven’t Healed, Every Relationship Feels Unstable

07 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about what can happen when you enter a new relationship after divorce without fully doing the emotional work first. Instead of...

#239 REPLAY: Embracing The New You, Post Separation

31 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Let’s talk about that messy, uncomfortable, totally normal stage of post-separation life—the one where you feel like a stranger in your own skin. ...

#238 The One Word That Changes How You See Your Separation

24 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I reflect on a simple but powerful mindset shift I heard from Seth Godin, replacing the word “but” with “and” when talking ab...

#237 The Best Thing I Did as an Ex-Wife? Nothing.

17 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I reflect on something that doesn’t get talked about often in divorce conversations: the quiet role of a healthy ex. Over the past ...

#236 (REPLAY) The Doubtful Heart: Skepticism vs Cynicism after Divorce

10 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, I’m revisiting an earlier conversation about the difference between skepticism and cynicism when it comes to love, dating, and...

#235 Forgiveness After Betrayal Isn’t Words, It’s Behavior

03 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we explore what forgiveness really means after betrayal and why it cannot simply be declared with words. True forgiveness shows up in...

#234 The Real Experiment on Love Is Blind Isn’t Love, It’s Self-Worth

24 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I share my thoughts on the Netflix show Love Is Blind and what it reveals about self-worth in dating. Watching the women on the show,...

#233 Staying Connected While Letting Go: Communicating During Divorce

17 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I reflect on a recent divorce announcement from a public figure who shared that she and her soon-to-be ex are still speaking daily an...

#232 5 Reminders When You’re on the Receiving End of Rage

13 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

When anger escalates into rage, it can leave you feeling unsettled long after the moment has passed. In this episode, I share five steady reminders fo...

#231 Many Moments, Many Lessons: When Rage Entered the Relationship

10 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

*** TRIGGER WARNING****   In this episode of Many Moments, Many Lessons, I reflect on a journal entry that marks a shift from contained conflict to s...

#230 5 Signs an Argument Isn’t Really About the Moment in Front of You

06 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Some arguments grow far beyond the issue that started them, leaving you wondering how things escalated so quickly. In this episode, I walk through fiv...

#229 Many Moments, Many Lessons - When Saying Sorry Was Never Going to be Enough

03 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Many Moments, Many Lessons, I revisit a journal entry that captures what it’s like to apologize in good faith, only to realize th...

#228 5 Ways to Steady Yourself When You Start Noticing Silence as a Pattern

30 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Noticing silence as a pattern in a relationship can be unsettling, especially when it brings more questions than answers. In this episode, I share fiv...

#227 Many Moments, Many Lessons: Silence is NOT Dolden in a Marriage

27 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Many Moments, Many Lessons is a series based on journal entries I wrote while I was still married, long before separation or divorce was even somethin...

#226 5 Ways to Ground Yourself When the Weird Little Moments Hit During Separation

23 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

When you’re going through an unwanted separation or divorce, it’s often the small, ordinary moments that catch you off guard. In this episode, I s...

#225 The Weird Little Moments That Hit You During Separation

20 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Separation doesn’t only hit in the big moments. Often, it shows up quietly in the small, ordinary parts of the day. In this episode, we talk about t...

#224 The Quiet Shock of Separation After the Holidays

13 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

When the holidays end, the noise fades. The distractions disappear. And for many women navigating an unwanted separation or divorce, that is when a di...

#223 5 Things You Don't Need to Figure Out in January

09 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

January can make it feel like you’re already behind, especially after an unwanted separation. This episode is a reminder that there are some things ...

#222 Dealing with Separation? Then Don't Try to Reinvent Yourself This January

06 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

January comes with a lot of pressure to reset, reinvent, and “start fresh.” But when you’re walking through an unwanted separation, that pressur...

#221 New Year, New Plan

02 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

As we step into a new year, I want to share a few changes coming to the podcast, along with what’s staying exactly the same. Growth sometimes means ...

#220 The Year You Survived

30 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about what it really means to survive a year shaped by separation. The quiet strength it takes to keep going. The grief we don...

#219 (Replay) 5 lessons from the Holiday Movie Love Actually

26 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

#218 (REPLAY) Saturday Matinee: Love Actually

23 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

- - - - - - - - - - - - Want that chapter checklist just Click Here! To Join the waitlist for the Separation Survival Scholarship Program HERE For mor...

#217 5 Peace-Stealers to Watch Out For (And How to Shut Them Down)

19 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode things gets more practical. We walk through the most common ways your peace gets chipped away during separation and simple, realistic ...

#216 Your Peace IS the Gift

16 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode we talk about why peace is not something you earn after surviving everything perfectly. It is something you are allowed to choose, ...

#215 – 5 Holiday Moments You’re Allowed to Redefine This Year

12 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This one is all about reclaiming your power. From gift-giving to family traditions, I share five simple but freeing ways to make this holiday season r...

#214 – Stop Romanticizing Holiday Nostalgia

09 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is for anyone who’s ever scrolled through old photos or replayed holiday memories and wondered why they feel sad instead of joyful. I t...

#213 (REPLAY)5 Tips for beating Winter Blues During Separation

05 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

As the days get shorter and the nights feel longer, it’s easy for the emotional weight of separation to feel heavier too. This episode is one of my ...

#212 December's Jounral Prompt

01 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Here is today's journal prompt: Instead of asking what you want next year to bring what kind of piece you want to feel what does peace look like for y...

#211 5 Ways to Make the Holidays Feel Less Lonely (Without Pretending You’re Fine)

28 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If this season feels tender, this one’s for you. I share five ways to bring warmth, connection, and comfort into your days all on your own without f...

#210 Holiday Solitude: Finding Peace in a Season That Expects Joy

25 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is all about what it means to find calm in a season that often feels too loud. I talk about the power of slowing down, creating your own ...

#209 5 Ways to Make Gratitude Feel Real (Not Forced)

21 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’re closing the week with simple, grounded ways to reconnect with gratitude that actually feels good — not performative or pressured. This isn’...

#208 The Gratitude Guilt Trap- When You’re Thankful… but Still Hurting

18 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode dives into the emotional tug-of-war that happens when people tell you to “just be grateful” but your heart still feels heavy. I share...

#207 5 Ways to Handle Emotional Triggers at Holiday Get-Togethers

14 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever left an event feeling drained or questioning your progress, this one’s for you. I share five practical ways to protect your peace, ...

#206 Holiday Invitations, Awkward Conversations, and Other Emotional Triggers

11 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is all about those moments that sneak up on you — the family gathering you don’t want to attend, the well-meaning relative who asks a...

#205 5 Things to Consider Before Choosing Your Next Partner .mp3

07 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This Episode builds on Tuesday’s reflection and turns it into practical wisdom. We’ll talk about what it means to choose differently, not out of f...

#204 29 Years Later: What I’ve Learned About Choosing the Right Person

04 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is close to my heart. I recorded it while reflecting on what would have been my 29th wedding anniversary. It’s not about regret, it’s...

#203 November's journal prompt

01 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Only 2 more journal prompts left for the year. Here is the one to work on today: “What are you still holding on to that doesn’t fit who you’re b...

#202 5 Ways to Stop Waiting for Closure from Your Ex

31 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve been holding your breath for answers that may never come, this one’s for you. I’ll walk you through ways to find peace without needing...

#201 Un-Break My Heart- When You Hand Him the Power to Heal You.

28 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes, heartbreak lingers because we’ve unknowingly outsourced our healing. In this episode, I talk about what it really means to stop waiting f...

#200 5 Signs You’re Fighting for a Relationship That’s Already Over

24 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Reaching our 200th episode feels surreal, and this one couldn’t be more fitting. It’s a heartfelt guide to recognizing when love has run its cours...

#199 "White Flag" When Holding On Feels Noble, But Costs You Everything.

21 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve all been there, holding on because it feels like giving up means failure. But sometimes, waving that white flag is the bravest thing you can d...

#198 5 Signs You’re Romanticizing Emotional Unavailability

17 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode picks up where Tuesday’s leaves off. We’ll explore the subtle ways emotional unavailability can sneak into your relationships — and...

#197 Saving All My Love for Him… But What About ME?

14 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This classic Whitney Houston song may sound beautiful, but when you peel back the lyrics, it’s really about waiting, settling, and building your wor...

#196 5 Ways to Respond When Someone Pressures You to Prove Your Love

10 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I want you to feel it is packed with practical phrases to use when the pressure mounts. If you’ve ever felt that unspoken (or very s...

195 “More Than Words” When Love Starts to Sound Like Pressure

07 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This song might be one you’ve slow danced to or belted out in the car, but when you listen closely, the lyrics reveal a not-so-great message: love h...

#194 5 Signs You’ve Been Romanticizing the Wrong Things

03 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This one hits close to home. Whether it’s a relationship, a version of the past, or even a story we’ve told ourselves about love, it’s easy to r...

#193 October's Journal Prompt

01 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This months prompt and how best to use it: “When you think about love, what stories have you carried with you — and where did they come from? A so...

192: 5 Things to Say When Someone Doesn’t Like the New You

26 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When you start showing up as the version of yourself that’s finally honest, it can rattle a few cages. In this episode, I’m giving you five things...

#191: “I’m Not for Everyone” and That’s the Point

23 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is a little fire, a little heart. We’re exploring what it really means to stop shrinking yourself for the comfort of others, and how th...

#190: 5 Things to Stop Measuring Your Progress Against

19 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Let’s be honest. Most of us have a silent scoreboard in our heads when it comes to healing. This episode unpacks five sneaky ways you might be judgi...

#189 Why You Still Don’t Feel Self Worth (Even Though You’re ‘Doing the Work’)

16 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is a deeper look at why you might still be feeling stuck or low, even when you’ve been actively journaling, reflecting, and going to th...

188: 5 Ways to Anchor Self-Worth After Separation

12 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I’ll be sharing five practices that can help you root back into your own value, especially when everything around you feels uncertai...

187: Your Worth Isn’t Up for Debate (Not Even After Separation)

09 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I’m talking about something that can get deeply shaken during separation: your self-worth. When someone you loved decides to walk a...

186: 5 Self-Worth Reminders When You’re Feeling Unsure

05 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is for the days when the doubt creeps in. When you feel wobbly about who you are or where you're headed, these five reminders can help yo...

#185 September's Jounral Prompt

01 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This month, we’re turning our attention toward something that impacts every decision, every relationship, and every part of your healing: self-worth...

#184 5 Ways to Hand Back What Isn’t Yours During Separation

29 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is all about practical ways to release what you’ve been holding onto for too long. These tools can help you set down that unnecessary w...

#183 When Caring Turns Into Carrying - The Weight That’s Not Yours to Hold.

26 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode we dig into what happens when good intentions turn into emotional overload. I’ll share why it’s so easy to blur the line between c...

#182 5 Ways to Clear the Emotional Clutter After Separation

22 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I share five simple (and a little silly) ways you can start clearing the mental mess so you can breathe again. Think of it as making ...

#181 Emotional Clutter- The Mental Mess You Need to Clear during Separation

19 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the hidden emotional clutter that builds up after separation. It’s the stories we replay, the outdated beliefs we clin...

#180: 5 Ways to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Like the Bad Guy

15 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are getting practical. I share five simple ways to set boundaries that protect your peace without turning every conversation into a conflict....

#179 The Separation Game-Changer, Setting Emotional Boundaries

12 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Boundaries can make or break your healing. In this episode, we talk about why they are so important, how they work, and what happens when you do not h...

#178 5 Defense Mechanisms You Might Be Calling Survival Post Separation

08 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes what feels like “getting through the day” is actually a defense mechanism we have picked up along the way. In this episode, I’ll help ...

#177 Coping or Crashing? The Habits We Pretend Are Healing during Separation

05 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is all about those things we do in the name of “self-care” that might not actually be helping us heal. Are they giving you real relie...

#176 August's Journal Prompt

01 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Journal Prompt: “What boundaries do you feel are essential to set with your ex or others around you? How do you feel when you enforce those boundari...

#175 Let's Get You from Devastated to Divorced!

29 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today I’m breaking down my 5 Chapter Methodology in full detail, and I’ve included the newest layer I’ve added to it: Emotional Mapping.  If yo...

#174 5 Things to Say to Yourself When the Silence of Separation Feels Too Loud

25 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If the quiet moments have been feeling more like pressure than peace, this episode is for you. I’m sharing five gentle, practical ways to meet that ...

# 173 The Loneliness Is Loud—But So Is Your post Separation Growth

22 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode we talk about how "loneliness" isn’t just about being alone, it’s about how loud and confronting that alone-ness can feel. So let'...

#172 5 Ways to Ditch the Glow-Up and Embrace Real Healing

18 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’re done with the pressure to look like you’ve got it all together, this episode is for you. I’m sharing five powerful ways to slow down, ...

#171 Why the Separation Glow-Up Isn’t Healing

15 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve all seen it—the makeover, the gym obsession, the flood of “thriving” posts after a breakup. But sometimes what looks like empowerment on...

#170 5 Ways to Step Into Self Worth (Even If You're Scared)

11 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode gives you five grounded ways to start reconnecting with your sense of worth—even if you’re shaky, scared, or still unsure of who you ...

#169 Self Worth is Calling, Are You Brave Enough to Answer?

08 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is a gentle but honest look at why self-worth feels so hard to reach after separation. If you've ever thought “I don’t even know who ...

#168 5 Ways to Pause When You’re Emotions Have You Spiraling

04 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This one’s for the moments when your mind is racing, your emotions are loud, and you feel like you’re losing your grip. These five strategies aren...

#167 July's Journal Prompt

01 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to July, See this months Prompt here: "Where do you go when you feel lost—into action, into silence, into someone else’s story? This month...

#166 5 Signs You Are Moving Forward after Separation

27 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today I’m sharing five subtle but powerful signs that you’re already making progress—even if it doesn’t feel like it yet. This episode is a re...

#165 You Are Not Starting Over after Separation, You Are Starting From HERE!

24 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this Episode I’m re-framing what it really means to begin again after separation. Because you’re not starting from zero—you’re starting fro...

#164 5 Ways to Stop Rushing Your Healing (And Actually Feel Better)

20 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This 5 tip Friday episode is full of practical, heart-centered strategies to help you ground yourself in where you are, rather than where you think yo...

#163 Stop Skipping Chapters, Why Jumping Ahead in Your Healing Backfires

17 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

It might feel tempting to fast-forward through the pain, the reflection, or even the rebuilding... but when we try to leap ahead, we miss the pieces t...

#162 5 Tips on How to Move Past the Bitterness

13 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This follow-up to Tuesday's episode gives you five gentle, doable ways to help shift out of the resentment and reclaim some emotional peace. This isn'...

#161 Divorced But Still Bitter? You Might Be Emotionally Stuck

10 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This Episode is an honest, compassionate look at something many women feel but are afraid to admit. If you're still replaying old fights in your mind,...

#160 The 5 Overarching Emotions of Your Separation Journey

06 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Grief doesn’t just show up as sadness. In this follow-up to Tuesday's episode, I’m breaking down the 5 core emotions that show up in separation—...

#159 The Power of Emotional Mapping: Understanding Where You Are in Your Separation Journey

03 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is personal—and foundational. I’m introducing you to Emotional Mapping, the tool I have incorporated into my methodology to help wome...

#158 June's Journal Prompt

01 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to June! Here is this months prompts: “What have I been feeling the most lately—and do I actually understand why? If my emotions were tryi...

#157 5 Tips for Building a Support Network as a Working Single Mom

30 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Because trying to do it all alone isn’t a badge of honor—it’s a fast track to burnout. This episode is full of simple, doable ways to create the...

#156 Coming to Terms with the Emotions When you have to Shift to Becoming a Working Mom

27 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Maybe being a stay-at-home mom was the dream—or at least the plan. But now, you’re carrying it all: the job hunt, the paychecks, the child care pu...

#155 5 Strategies for Protecting Your Self-Worth When Your Stepchildren ADD to your Pain post Separation

23 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

 When you’re already trying to hold yourself together, it can be devastating to feel judged or dismissed by your ex’s kids. This episode shares p...

#154 Betrayed by the Kids: Dealing with Your Step-Children After Separation

20 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

On today's episode we’re diving into the grief, anger, and deep sense of betrayal that can hit when the kids you helped raise suddenly treat you lik...

#153 5 Ways to Protect Your Peace from Your STBX's Narrative

16 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we’re talking practical steps to stop letting his version of the story take up space in your mind or your life. You don’t have to control wh...

#152 Let Him Talk: Why it Doesn’t Matter if You’re the Villain in Your Ex’s Story

13 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This Episode is all about letting go of the urge to “clear your name.” Because the people who truly matter? They’re paying attention. You don’...

#151 5 Tips for Saying no to Your STBX

09 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This Episodes tips are a reminder that “no” is a complete sentence, and there are ways to stand your ground without getting sucked into drama or g...

#150 Why You Don’t Owe Anyone the ‘Meet the New Girlfriend’ Moment

06 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Let’s talk about a situation that way too many women are pressured into after separation: “Come on, just meet the new girlfriend—it’ll be good...

#149 May's Jounral Prompt

01 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This Month's Jounral Prompt “Think about your recent interactions with your ex. What communication strategies worked well, and where could you have ...

#148 Let’s Talk “The Substance” and the Importance of Self Worth

29 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What does The Substance have to do with separation, self-worth, and the desperate need to feel seen? A lot more than you’d think. In this episode, I...

#147 5 Steps to Define Your Non-Negotiables in Divorce

25 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When everything feels uncertain, your non-negotiables become your anchor. They help you draw the line between compromise and self-betrayal. Knowing wh...

#146 When Divorce Negotiations Hit a Wall: Dealing with a Difficult Ex

22 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever sat across from your ex during divorce talks and thought, “How did I ever share a life with this person?”—you’re not alone. N...

#145 5 Ways to Stay Flexible While Creating a New Routine

18 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

On this episode, I’m sharing 5 ways to stay flexible while creating that routine. Because let’s be honest: healing doesn’t always stick to a cal...

#144 Building Your New Routine post Separation

15 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

On today's episode, we’re diving into what it really means to build a new routine after separation—not one based on survival, but one that actuall...