Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell
Episodes
282: Pressure vs. Passion: How to Pursue Your Spouse That Invites Connection
09 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
What's the difference between pursuing your spouse and pressuring them, and why does it matter so much for desire, attraction, and connection? In this...
281: More Sex Didn't Fix Intimacy, But This Did Instead (Roberth & Laticia's Story)
02 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you're having sex regularly—but it still feels empty? In this episode, Roberth and Laticia share their honest journey through desi...
280: 2025's Best Black Belt Sex & Intimacy Tips
26 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What separates good intimacy from exceptional intimacy? In this special year-end compilation, we round up the most powerful "Black Belt" sex and intim...
279: Attachment Styles, Emotional Healing, and Being a Secure Lover in Marriage
19 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you've ever felt not good enough, feared rejection, or found yourself reacting in ways you don't even understand, this episode is for you. Marriage...
278: Intimate Exposure: Boudoir & the Journey to Self-Acceptance with Lindsey Burns
12 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if one photo session could shift the way you see your body and the way you show up in your marriage? Today's guest, Lindsey of Beloved by Lindse...
277: When 'Good' Gets In The way of Good Sex: 3 Mindset Shifts
05 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Can "being good" actually get in the way of good sex? If you have spent your life "trying to be good," but still struggle to create a deep intimate co...
276: Lingerie and Self-Confidence, with Melina Weekes of Dainty Lace
28 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Purchasing and wearing lingerie can often be surrounded by comparison, insecurity, and pressure, but it doesn't have to be! In this episode, Melina We...
275: Two Types of Intimacy You've Never Heard About
21 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Most couples think intimacy is about communication or affection, but there are actually two different types of intimacy operating beneath the surface ...
274: The Challenge to Grow Up with Dr. Corey Allan
14 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, Dr. Corey Allen joins us for a deep dive into fictional, but incredibly common, marriage scenarios that reveal surprising truths a...
273: Financial Foreplay: The Unexpected Way to Build Trust and Turn On Intimacy, featuring Dan Ockey
07 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Money and intimacy have more in common than most couples realize. In this episode, we sit down with financial coach Dan Ockey to talk about financial...
272: Firm Erections and Keeping Mr. Happy Happy, Part 2
31 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to Part 2 of this special series on keeping your penis — and your marriage — healthy and happy. In this follow-up episode, we the practica...
271: Firm Erections and Keeping Mr. Happy Happy, Part 1
31 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Let's talk about one of God's most incredible and misunderstood designs — the penis. In this episode (part one of two) we dive into the fascinating ...
270: Mixed-orientation and Impossible Marriages with Laurie Krieg
24 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when your marriage feels impossible to sustain—but you believe God still has a plan? In this powerful episode, we sit down with author ...
269: Q&A: Porn Alternative, Oral Sex, Sex & Spirituality, Low Desire & Discrepancies
17 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this special Q&A episode, we answer five anonymous listener questions about the most common struggles couples face in their intimate lives. Topics ...
268: How to Love Through Your Sexuality, with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
10 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
For so many Christian couples, sexuality and spirituality can feel like they're at odds. We've been taught that to be holy means to suppress desire—...
267: Bad Marriage & Sex Advice, with Monica Tanner
03 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you every received bad marriage advice? We sure have! In today's episode, I'm joined by my friend and returning guest, Monica Tanner. She recent...
266: When Your Spouse's Fantasy Pushes You Too Far (and When Yours Gets Rejected)
26 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Get Your Marriage On!, we're diving into gridlock—the moments in marriage where no matter what you choose, it feels like you lose...
265: Planning a Bedroom Party Worth Going To, with Tammy Camp
19 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever said yes to a party you didn't feel up for—then drove home glowing because it was totally worth it? In this episode, we've invited fellow Get Y...
264: Sexual Arousal and Sexual Confidence
12 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you know what arouses you? Knowing that could completely change the way you show up in the bedroom. In this episode, we dive into the difference be...
263: Mindset Shifts for Better Than Happy Intimacy, with Jody Moore
05 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if the biggest blocker to a thriving sex life isn't desire, kids, or schedules—but your mindset? In this episode, master coach Jody Moore joins...
262: Masturbation: Connection or Division? A Perspective You Haven't Heard
29 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Masturbation is one of the most controversial topics in marriage—especially in conservative or religious circles. In this episode, we're not going t...
261: Bonus: 30 Days to a New You and a More Intimate Marriage
28 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if you and your spouse chose one area of your relationship to focus on—and committed to it for 30 days straight? That's the heart behind our tr...
260: When the Higher Desire Spouse Stops Initiating - What to Do in Four Steps
22 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when the spouse who usually initiates sex suddenly stops—and weeks turn into months of silence? This painful "sexual standoff" can leav...
259: Squirting, Female Ejaculation, and The Foundation for Sexual Adventure & Novelty
19 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'll walk you through a complete how-to guide for female ejaculation: What it is and how it works Why it can be such an incredibl...
258: 10 Game-changing Ways to Make Intercourse Awesome
15 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Want to make intercourse in your marriage more exciting, connected, and deeply satisfying? In this episode, we share 10 game-changing tips—from buil...
257: Bonus - Blowjobs Aren't Just for Husbands
12 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Hey friends, let me be honest with you - as a man speaking for many men, oral sex is a big deal to us. We love it. It's incredibly pleasurable. But he...
256: Eyes Open or Closed During Sex? What It Says About Intimacy
08 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What's the difference between having sex and truly making love? In this episode, we're talking about how to bring your whole self—your body, mind, ...
255: Still Waiting for Orgasm? A Loving Guide for Women Who've Tried Everything
01 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you're a woman who's never had an orgasm, struggles to orgasm consistently, or wonders if what you've experienced really counts—this episode is f...
254: Pornography and White Rice: Nourishing Your Marriage with Real Erotic Connection
25 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What does white rice have to do with pornography? I know that sounds like a strange question, but stick with me here because this analogy completely c...
253: Quickie - The New Lube Evree-one Is Talking About
22 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know that two-thirds of heterosexual couples in the United States use lubricant during sex? That number might not surprise you when you consid...
252: Cunnilingus Mastery: 12 Tips Every Husband Should Know Before Going Down On His Wife
18 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Oral sex is one of the most powerful ways to bring your wife pleasure—and deepen your intimacy. In this episode, we share 12 practical, respectful, ...
251: Quickie - Frenulum Orgasms: The Clitoral Orgasm for Men?
15 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're diving into a topic that's often overlooked—but full of potential for deeper connection and pleasure: the frenulum orgasm. In this episode, we...
250: 10 Steps to Have the Hard Conversations You've Been Avoiding in Your Marriage
11 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Let's face it—if you're married, disagreements are inevitable. And sometimes, those disagreements feel like gridlock. That's when it seems like ther...
249: Quickie - Why Your Spouse Avoids Affection and What to Do About It
04 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wondered why your spouse dodges your attempts at affection or how quickly he or she shuts down any of your affection attempts? Or how...
247: What Men Wish Women Understood about Male Sexuality, Part 1
27 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Male sexuality is just as complex and rich as female sexuality. I was recently invited to talk about what I wish women knew and understood about male ...
248: What Men Wish Women Understood about Male Sexuality, Part 2
27 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to Part 2 of my conversation with Tanya Hale! We talk about the pressure men feel around performance, why their penis can be such a vulnerab...
246: Love Worth Making Part 2, with Dr. Stephen Snyder, MD
20 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to part two of my conversation with Dr. Steven Snyder! In part one, we explored why sex is more than just physical--it's deeply emotional, eve...
245: Love Worth Making Part 1, with Dr. Stephen Snyder, MD
20 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When it comes to sexual arousal, many of us reach for that excited, giddy, sometimes silly, sometimes serious, joyful, fulfilling feelings in the comp...
244: Q&A Sexual Fantasies
13 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Let's be honest. Sexual fantasy is a weird part of being human. In this episode with my guest and fellow Get Your Marriage On coach, Amy Langford, we ...
243: Seven Sizzling Sexy Summer Date Ideas with Macey Walters from The Dating Divas
04 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
One pattern I've noticed about couples with great sex lives over the years is that they make time to be emotionally connected and make room for rom...
242: Affair-proofing Your Marriage, with Andrea Giles
30 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are there lessons we can learn from those that have gone through marital infidelity and use those lessons to improve our marriages today? I personally...
241: Higher Desire Wives Aren't Alone, with J. Parker
23 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
One thing I've noticed about higher desire wives: they feel so lonely. They think they're the only wife on the plane that has the higher desire for se...
240: Faking Orgasms, Toys, Role of Porn, and Exploring More Intimacy In Marriage
16 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm getting specific with actionable tactics while answering questions about the following: how to grow closer together emotional...
239: Sharing the Mental Load for Great Sex, with Dr. Morgan Cutlip
09 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is all about priming your mind and relationship for great sex. Years ago, Dr. Morgan Cutlip, who is my guest on this episode today, m...
238: 7 Candid Answers To Prepare You For A Thriving Sex Life
02 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I read an excellent book a few years ago. It's for parents talking to their kids about sex. There was a chapter towards the end of the book titled ...
237: Menopause Shouldn't Suck, with Alisa DiLorenzo
25 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Women's bodies and brains undergo large changes during puberty, childbirth and menopause. Just like how sexuality hasn't been talked about much in pre...
236: Your Adult Playground: Transforming Your Sex Life From Obligation to Desire
18 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today I want to talk to those who are in a marriage where sex pretty good but maybe a little monotonous at times. Maybe it feels like it's the same ol...
235: Two Truths and a Lie: Marriage Edition, with Sheila and Keith Gregoire
11 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever play the game "Two Truths and a Lie"? (A person makes three statements, and you guess which two are factual and which one is false.) Well, we...
234: Three Cringe-worthy Marriage & Intimacy Advice, According To A Therapist
04 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever received really bad marriage advice? Today I have the privilege of interviewing Kendra Nielson, a fellow marriage coach and therapi...
233: It's Never Too Late to Reinvent Your Marriage: A Sextimony
28 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I love helping couples through Get Your Marriage On to help them through challenges, to overcome issues in intimacy, and to walk away with feeling lik...
232: Why So Many Marriages Struggle with Sex (And What to Do About It)
21 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Just about every couple deals with libido differences from time to time. It seems though, as couples approach middle age and begin to face the seco...
231: Learning to Love Your Body: A Story of Hope from a Boudoir Photographer
14 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Everyone struggles with feelings of self-worth and self-acceptance from time to time. Our bodies are sacred; as the Bible says, we're created in God's...
230: Upping Your Oral Sex Skills & Adding Adventure to Your Intimacy
07 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
A recurring theme I've noticed in over 200 episodes of the Get Your Marriage On podcast is that those who are willing to push themselves a little outs...
229: Optimal Sexual Experiences: 8 Factors Backed By Research with Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz
28 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you were to pause and think about your very best sexual experiences that you've ever had, can you identify what made them so great? For many y...
228: Why Perfect Sex is Ruining Your Love Life (And What to Do Instead)
20 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever feel like a failure at sex? In this episode, I'll be breaking down why perfectionism is the enemy of good sex and how you can build a v...
227: How to Cool Down Your Nervous System to Heat Up Your Sex Life
14 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The number one libido killer is stress. And experiencing stress from time to time is just a part of life; however, there are skills out there that...
226: How To Infuse Creativity into Your Sex Life with Role-Play
07 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today's episode is about flirting and having fun by trying on a different persona on a date night. It's about using the power of role play to infuse ...
225: The Secret to a Scintillating Sex Life
31 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Our childhood and families of origin have a profound impact on our worldviews, including our attitudes towards sex and intimacy. Not knowing anythi...
224: The 5 Phases of a Sexual Relationship
24 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Take a moment to think about the evolution of your own sexual journey as a couple. How far have you come in the last year? Or the last two years, or t...
223: An Honest Conversation About BDSM (Hint: It's Not What I Expected) - Part 2
17 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is part two of the BDSM episodes. Last week we talked about how a BDSM is a exchange of erotic energy and how it's built upon the principles o...
222: An Honest Conversation About BDSM (Hint: It's Not What I Expected) - Part 1
10 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Like many of you, I've had questions about BDSM for a long time. I've had preconceived ideas of what it was and wondered how it fits into my faith and...
221: Q&A - "Help! My Wife is Vanilla When it Comes to Sex"
03 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel like you wish your wife was a little less vanilla? Every wish your spouse would be more enthusiastic about trying new things in the bedroom ...
220: Black Belt Sex Tips 4.0
27 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I studied martial arts for 13 years when I was younger and I became proficient in three different styles of Karate and Kenpo. As you progress towar...
219: How Playing With Your 5 Senses Opens the Door to More Erotic Connection
20 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I am a big believer in play in the bedroom, and I'm excited that you'll get to join me in this conversation with Adam and Karissa King today. Adam...
218: The Well-Sexed Wife
13 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It's hard to believe that my wife and I started this work eight years ago! At that time we were 13 years into a happy marriage, but something was mis...
217: Eroticism: What Does Your Sexuality Want? with Jessa Zimmerman
06 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I used to think the word erotic was associated with unsavory things like X-rated films, Las Vegas billboards, or sites are not supposed to visit onlin...
216: Is Wanting Sex Selfish, Dissatisfied by Erectile Dysfunction, Wife's Secret Erotica, and Dildos - Q&A Part 2
29 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today is a continuation of last week's question and answer episode, and I am so thankful for all the courageous couples who reached out with their que...
215: Sex After Porn, Premature Ejaculation, Discomfort Beyond Missionary Position, Wanting To Be Desired - Q&A Part 1
22 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It's time to answer some more questions from our listeners! Today I'm joined by my colleague, Caroline, to discuss some of the questions that you have...
214: When Wives Have The Higher Sexual Desire
15 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Broadly speaking, men are generally more interested in sex than women. However, there are exceptions. Some estimate that 20 to 30% of married couples...
213: Does Sex Therapy Actually Work for Libido Differences? The Shocking Research Results!
08 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Sexual desire differences are, unfortunately, very common. In fact, it's one of the top reasons why couples seek sex therapy or any kind of help in t...
212: Create A Party Your Libido Wants To Come To with Sofia Ashley
01 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
There's a lot of stress in parenthood (and regular life) that presses on the couple's relationship, which Emily and I know firsthand as parents to 6 ...
211: Sexual Dry Spells: When Safety Kills Passion
25 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The holidays are coming up, and this is often a stressful time for a lot of couples. The stress and busyness can often lead couples to fall into d...
210: The G-Spot Guide: How to Stimulate, Explore, and Enjoy Together!
18 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, you'll learn how to stimulate the "g-spot" and how to have more fun in your bedroom by learning how to work with this beautiful aspec...
209: Stop Trying to Change Your Marriage. Let Your Marriage Change You Instead.
11 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
There's definitely a spiritual element to developing an intimate marriage. For example, in order to have really good sex or really deep emotional conn...
208: How This Couple Is Rewriting Their Scripts About Sex & Intimacy For Good
04 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
There are many reasons why a lot of us get off on the wrong foot when it comes to building an intimate marriage for the lifetime; there's shame, purit...
207: Top 10 Sex Positions from the Intimately Us App (Sextember Series #4)
27 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We've come to our fourth and final Sextember podcast episode! It's been a great month culminating in this week's spicy topic. And the whole reason beh...
206: What Are Your Yeses, Nos, and Maybes in the Bedroom? (Sextember Series #3)
20 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This is our third Sextember Episode! So this is also going to be a really fun and spicy podcast to give you inspiration and ideas to make the most out...
205: ForePLAY that Wins The Day (Sextember Series #2)
13 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to our second Sextember episode! For this month, every episode will be filled with ideas to add more spice and excitement to your bedroom as p...
204: Flirting and Initiating in Marriage (Sextember Series #1)
06 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I am so excited for what's coming up in September! For the next four episodes in the month of September, we will focus on the theme of spicing things ...
203: Why Honesty, Risk, and some Fair Play Lead To Great Connection with Alyson Bullock
31 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
**SEXTEMBER STARTS ON SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 1. DOWNLOAD THE INTIMATELY US APP TO PARTICIPATE** My hope for you after listening to today's episode is you'l...
202: Fatherhood and Fidelity: Men on Keeping Marriage Alive
23 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In the thick of raising children or building a career or juggling the many demands that life imposes on us, it's easy for couples to feel like relati...
201: The Art of Cherishing Your Spouse, Part 2
19 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This is part two of the podcast we released last Friday (#200). And if you haven't listened to that one, I highly recommend you pause this episode an...
200: The Art of Cherishing Your Spouse, Part 1
16 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We recently experienced the loss of a family member very suddenly, a young mom with three children, and it has made me want to love and appreciate an...
199: How to Banish Fear, Anxiety, and Boredom for a Thriving Sex Life
09 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It's interesting that we live in a day and age where it's not the popular thing to want a family and a strong, committed marriage with complete fideli...
198: Q&A - Erotic literature, overweight husband, discussing trying new things, and wooing your spouse
02 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I get so many questions through the anonymous question form on my website, so it's time to answer some more. We address these topics today: A husband...
197: How We Revitalized Sex and Intimacy as Busy Parents: A Sextimony
26 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Building a long-term, intimate marriage is the most exciting demanding and soul expanding work that many of us will ever do in this life. All of the s...
196: Handjobs, Pegging, Mismatched Libidos, Husband Won't Let Me Initiate: Q&A
19 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I'm very excited about today's episode today! We get to address a lot of juicy topics, such as the following: a reluctant wife feeling pressure to...
195: Are You a "Sexual Over-functioner?" with Dr. Kathleen Smith
12 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In many marriages, there are people that feel like they do far more than their share of the relationship work, but why do they tend to take on the res...
194: "Is this ok for us to do?" Seeking God's Direction In Your Sex Life
05 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
"I just have a hard time with some of the things you said on your podcast. How can you be okay with things like toys, lingerie, and even talk about s...
193: The Fast and Furious: Over-Coming Premature Ejaculation, featuring Mark Goldberg
28 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I get asked frequently about what to do when you (or your husband) comes too quickly during sex, or has premature ejaculation. I wanted to do an in-...
192: Why is it Hard to Keep Sex Passionate When You've Been Married for a Long Time? with Jenn Pinkerton & Dan Purcell
21 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
For most couples, there's a lot of hot passion and excitement during the early dating and engagement time and for a while after the wedding. But over ...
191: What the Heck is 'Relational Self-awareness,' and How Does it Help You Be a Better Lover? with Dr. Alexandra Solomon
14 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It's so easy to notice how our spouse is making choices that get in the way of them getting what they really want. Our brains expend tremendous amou...
190: Cultivating Healthy Eroticism in Long-term Marriages, with Dan Purcell
07 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
For a lot of us, we associate the word "eroticism" with something that's distasteful or something that we probably shouldn't want as a Christ-loving p...
189: The Secret to Saving Our Sabotaged Sex Lives (and how they got so messed up in the first place!), with Rhonda Farr
31 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know that most couples that visit traditional sex therapy have very poor outcomes? They're still just as dissatisfied two years later as they...
188: Awesome Intercourse and Pleasurable Penetration, with Susan Bratton
24 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we're going to be talking about making penetration pleasurable, a how to make intercourse amazing, and how to close the orgasm chasm ...
187: How Often Are Couples Actually Having Sex & Your Other Intimate Questions Answered, with Hailey Reidhead
17 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As you know, I love answering your questions all about sex, marriage, intimacy, and more. I recently had the opportunity to answer anonymous questio...
186: The Art of Dirty Talk (SPOILER ALERT: it's not actually dirty), with Melanie Studley
10 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Let's get one thing out of the way right up front: dirty talk isn't dirty. It's actually an intimate form of communication to let your spouse into you...
185: What Happens When Women Explore Their Own Sexuality and Other Questions Answered
03 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode will get a talk about how to make from behind sex positions, such as Doggy style, better. We'll talk about sex toys. We'll talk about ...
184: The Anatomy Of A Sex Date, with Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill
26 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
After recording last week's episode, but Dr. Glenn and Phyllis hill, we stayed on and chat a little longer. We got started talking about sex dates and...
183: The Anatomy of Emotional Intimacy & Connection Codes, with Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill
19 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Understanding and making sense of our emotions is absolutely essential to living well. We have parts of our brain that are responsible for making sens...