Growth Mindset Psychology: The Science of Self-Improvement

Attachment Theory and How to Avoid the Mistakes Everyone Makes When They Learn About It

01 Jul 2025

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Attachment theory and how to avoid the mistakes everyone makes when they learn about it. It’s probably your attachment style. Think of it as the relational software installed in your brain during your first 18 months. This episode is a crash course in understanding your programming and avoiding common mistakes. We break down the four main styles: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Disorganized. We explore the classic Anxious-Avoidant trap, where one person chases and the other retreats, creating a cycle of frustration. More importantly, we debunk the myth that these styles are a life sentence. You'll get a practical, no-fluff guide to understanding your patterns and, crucially, how to start changing them for the better. Spot the Red Flags: Learn to recognize an avoidant partner’s mixed messages so you can bypass the drama. Get Your Crazy Out: Why being direct about your needs (especially if you're anxious) is the best dating strategy. Ditch the Ghost: For avoidants, learn why idolizing a fantasy ex is sabotaging your chance at real happiness. Listen now to finally make your love life make sense. ---- Advertisers BetterHelp The world's largest online therapy provider BetterHelp.com/GrowthMindset - 10% off 1st month Liquid I.V. Sugar-free hydration for any occasion Liquid-IV.com - 20% off with code GROWTH ---- NEW SHOW - How to Change the World Sam's new show can be found on major podcast players: Spotify - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Apple - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Can't find it on your player? RSS feed - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/682b3b86696b5d1232d698a8⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ---- UPGRADE to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Premium⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠GrowthMindset.Supercast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Schedule Link⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube (Growth Mindset)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🛜 Website - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Growth Mindset⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Chapter: 00:00 Attachment styles 04:48 Origin of Attachment Styles 06:17 Secure attachment 07:11 Anxious attachment 08:17 Avoidant attachment 09:00 Disorganized attachment 09:22 Impact on Relationships 12:38 Advert - Magic mind 12:38 Common mistakes with attachment theory 14:57 Overgeneralize attachment styles 15:50 Neglecting the influence of context 17:49 Stigmatizing certain attachment styles 19:13 Oversimplifying the complexity of relationships 19:46 Misapplication of attachment theory 20:24 Ignoring change in attachment style 21:13 Mid-roll ad 21:17 Improving Attachment styles 24:31 Improve Anxious Attachment 27:06 Avoidant attachment traits 29:00 Avoidant style tips 30:23 Deeper areas to explore 31:11 Send off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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