Heal Your Codependency with Marshall Burtcher

#Reinforcement Episodes: The Two Commitments You Must Make With Yourself

31 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

#Reinforcement Episodes: The Two Commitments You Must Make With YourselfCOMMITMENT ONE: Honesty with yourself and safe others. This involves being w...

How To Empathize Without Violating Your Well-being

26 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How To Empathize Without Violating Your Well-beingMany of us struggle with a sense of conflict between caring for ourselves and caring for the other p...

Is Being "Too Much" A Real Thing?

24 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Is Being "Too Much" A Real Thing?Have you been told you're "too much" by someone?Have you questioned your own level of needs,...

Blunt Cake #1: Consequences Are Love In Action, Too

17 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Consequences are key to learning, to growing, and to maturing. When we interfere with a consequence someone chose through their behaviors, we are in...

Are You Being Selfish? Or Is Your Self-Interest Being Weaponized?

12 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are You Being Selfish? Or Is Your Self-Interest Being Weaponized?"You're selfish" or "Stop being so selfish" or "You h...

The One Question That Reveals Compatibility Fast

10 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The One Question That Reveals Compatibility Fast"How would you define compatibility in relationships? What could I look for to determine if he is...

The Essentials - Sanity: Know What Is Real With These 3 Patterns

03 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Self-doubt caused by gaslighting, lying, and betrayal leaves us highly vulnerable to harm and leads us to question if we know what is real and what is...

The Cause and Cure of Codependency with Stacey Steinmiller

28 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Stacey and Marshall discuss the origins of codependency, how needs are factored in, and how to actually heal and be free of your codependency.You can ...

Dating Again? Boring Is The Green Flag You're Looking For

26 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Dating Again? Boring Is The Green Flag You're Looking ForHealing your codependency means you're evolving your nervous system's attune...

Going Beyond Codependency: Navigating the Pain Of Positive Outcomes

21 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you avoid positive outcomes because of pain?This is really, really, really, normal.Healing your codependency involves learning how to receive joy a...

Is Fantasy Sabotaging Your Relationships And Your Life?

12 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The Essentials: Restoring SanityIs Fantasy Sabotaging Your Relationships And Your Life?In codependency, fantasy is a core element of how we cope with ...

You Must Break The Obedience Trance To Heal

07 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel like there are "people" in your head that tell you what you should be doing, must be doing, or else?Do you feel like others are ...

The Essentials - Sanity: Do You Struggle To Believe Yourself?

05 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The Essentials - Sanity: Do You Struggle To Believe Yourself?In abusive, harmful systems, we are taught to doubt ourselves and question our feelings, ...

Get More Loving Relationships & Friendships With This Shift

31 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Get More Loving Relationships & Friendships With This ShiftThe shift is simple: My responsibility is to love and care for myself and choose connec...

What To Do When You Have Big Resistance To Your Pain

29 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What To Do When You Have Big Resistance To Your PainResistance to pain is often vilified. It is seen as a block, a problem, a thing to solve. It bec...

End The Judgment Trap: "I love you anyway" Practice

24 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

End The Judgment Trap: "I love you anyway" PracticeWe fix, pursue, chase and try to create healing. We are stuck in transactional relation...

Bluntcake: Are You Being Transactional In Your Healing?

22 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Real Healing vs Transactional Healing*** Bluntcake Episode ***Watch after checking with your capacity and availability for hearing information that ca...

The Essentials: Warmly Welcome Emotions - A Practice

17 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The Essentials: Warmly Welcome EmotionsToday we will practice welcoming emotions warmly and what to watch out for.***Seeking help in healing codepende...

The Rush To Forgive is A Rush To Fix

16 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The Rush To Forgive is A Rush To FixThe rush to forgive is a rush to fix. This is the fawn impulse driving us to regulate our distress and discomfort ...

Are You Ultra-Independent?

10 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are You Ultra-Independent?Do you say, "I don't need anyone!"You are in a trap. The trap called "counter-dependence".Counter...

Does Approval Equal Permission For You?

09 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Does Approval Equal Permission For You?Codependency has our authority and personal power attached to other people's perspectives, feelings, and u...

Do You Feel Lost Without A Relationship? Here's Why and What To Do About It

08 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do You Feel Lost Without A Relationship? Here's Why and What To Do About ItCodependency has us orienting ourselves around other people, places,...

Bluntcake: People-pleasing sabotages connection and belonging

01 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Bluntcake: People-pleasing sabotages connection and belongingNote: Bluntcake episodes are more direct and firm information that can be confronting, es...

Real Safety Depends On Respecting Your Capacity

28 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Capacity is the most often overlooked, underdiscussed element of safety in healing work. It is mentioned, but its role is not emphasized or prioriti...

Doubt That Your Feelings Matter Or Are Valid? Here's What To Do

24 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Doubt That Your Feelings Matter Or Are Valid? Here's What To DoThe Essentials: How To Feel Emotionally Safe Again - The Necessity Of Believing Yo...

Why You Care About What Other People Think And What To Do About It

22 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

"I'm not supposed to care what people think"Do you try to get yourself to stop caring about what others think about you?Do you feel lik...

Are You Trying To Get People To Choose You?

17 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you hoping someone chooses you? Are you seeking to be chosen?In codependency, these impulses to get someone to choose us is a reflection of how ...

The Essentials: How To Feel Emotionally Safe Again - The 3 Habits That Are Causing you more pain

15 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The Essentials: How To Feel Emotionally Safe Again - The 3 Habits That Are Causing you more painThere are three habits we do with emotions that tend t...

The Essentials: How To Feel Emotionally Safe Again - Part One

10 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The Essentials: How To Feel Emotionally Safe Again - Part OneCreating and nurturing safety is the first and highest priority in the healing of codepen...

Do You Struggle to "Believe In Yourself"?

08 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do You Struggle to "Believe In Yourself"?I did. For most of my life.I would try to talk myself up, build my self-esteem, praise my skills an...

Your Reactions Are Pointing You To What You Need

04 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Indomitable Worth Workshop: https://iww.freetheself.com***Seeking deeper self-worth? Join the I.W. Community: https://community.indomitableworth.com...

Four Gentle Steps For Hearing Your Voice Again

01 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Sign up for the The 8 Factors That Heal Your Codependency Workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing codepende...

Do You Crave Or Chase Approval?

25 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Sign up for the The 8 Factors That Heal Your Codependency Workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing codependen...

Random Bits About Worth, Feeling Stuck, Getting Unstuck

20 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are Approval and Rejection Defining Your Worth?

18 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The 2-day Indomitable Worth Discovery Workshop happening January 25th - 27, 2023: https://iww.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing cod...

Do You Seek Your Worth Through Others?

13 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Your Identity Is Not Who You Are

11 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The 2-day Indomitable Worth Discovery Workshop happening January 25th - 27, 2023: https://iww.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing cod...

Are You Trying To Be Emotionally Perfect?

16 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are You Trying To Be Emotionally Perfect?Emotional perfection is the habit of trying to force ourselves to feel certain ways and NOT feel othe...

Niceness Is Costing You Your Peace

09 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The 8 Factors The Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop: https://workshop.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The...

Your Emotional Walls Are Not The Problem

02 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The 8 Factors The Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop: https://workshop.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The ...

What If Your Worth Was Freely Available To You?

09 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The 2-day Indomitable Worth Discovery Workshop happening January 25th - 27, 2023: https://iww.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing cod...

Are you trying to fix yourself to be worthy?

03 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Indomitable Worth Workshop: https://iww.freetheself.com***Seeking deeper self-worth? Join the I.W. Community: https://community.indomitabl...

Your Sense Of Worth Is Creating Your Misery

01 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Indomitable Worth Workshop: https://iww.freetheself.com***Seeking deeper self-worth? Join the I.W. Community: https://community.indomitabl...

Does Your Pain Create Your Sense Of Worth?

28 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Indomitable Worth Workshop: https://iww.freetheself.com***Seeking deeper self-worth? Join the I.W. Community: https://community.indomitable...

The Quick-Fix Trap And What To Do About It

25 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Indomitable Worth Workshop: https://iww.freetheself.com***Join the I.W. Community: https://community.indomitableworth.com***Connect with m...

Are You Suffering From Transactional Worth?

21 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Indomitable Worth Workshop: https://iww.freetheself.com***Join the I.W. Community: https://community.indomitableworth.com***Connect with m...

I.W. Are you in the self-esteem trap?

19 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Indomitable Worth Workshop: https://iww.freetheself.com***Join the I.W. Community: https://community.indomitableworth.com***Connect with m...

Indomitable Worth Is Coming. Sneak Peak Into 2022-2023!

14 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Indomitable Worth Workshop: https://iww.freetheself.com ***Discover how much codependency is influencing your daily life with my Codependen...

Feeling Like You're Back At Square One? Here's Why

07 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

***Discover how much codependency is influencing your daily life with my Codependency Assessment: https://ayc.freetheself.com***Connect with ...

Others Do Not Exist For Your Needs

27 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

***Discover how much codependency is influencing your daily life with my Codependency Assessment: https://ayc.freetheself.com***Connect with ...

Bluntcake #25: Are You Devaluing The Love Others Give You?

23 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

***Discover how much codependency is influencing your daily life with my Codependency Assessment: https://ayc.freetheself.com***Connect with ...

To cause or prevent: The Two Functions of Codependent Behaviors

21 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

***Discover how much codependency is influencing your daily life with my Codependency Assessment: https://ayc.freetheself.com***Connect with ...

Why You Must Believe Your Emotions Are Valid

14 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

***Discover how much codependency is influencing your daily life with my Codependency Assessment: https://ayc.freetheself.com***Connect with ...

Own What You Create - A Secret To Being Powerful

09 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

***Discover how much codependency is influencing your daily life with my Codependency Assessment: https://ayc.freetheself.com***Connect with ...

The Inherent Legitimacy Of Your Experience

07 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

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The 10 Needs That Are Essential To Your Healing & Happiness

01 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

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Why it is hard to let go of old beliefs

24 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

***Discover how much codependency is influencing your daily life with my Codependency Assessment: https://ayc.freetheself.com***Connect with m...