Husband Material

Promised Land Sexuality (Sermon on Deuteronomy 11:10-12)

04 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Discover the differences between "Egypt Sexuality" and "Promised Land Sexuality" based on insights from Deuteronomy 11:10-12. You&...

How To Outgrow Porn Through IFS (with Patrick Cagle)

28 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever felt curious or confused about IFS (Internal Family Systems) and how it can help you outgrow porn? Patrick Cagle offers the perfect intr...

How To Stop Fighting Yourself (with Jenna Riemersma)

20 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Are you tired of fighting a battle against yourself? Jenna Riemersma offers a remarkably powerful path to healing through the "Move Toward" ...

Why Does Freedom From Porn Feel Impossible?

13 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Learn the real reason why freedom from porn feels impossible with insights from one of my favorite movies, The Shawshank Redemption. “Your brain do...

How To Be A Great Husband & Father (with Dr. Joshua Straub)

06 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

How can I revive the soul of my family? Whether you're a father, a husband, or a man preparing for those roles, listen to this. Dr. Joshua Straub...

Healing For Sexually Betrayed Men (with Adam Nisenson)

30 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

How does being sexually betrayed affect men? Adam Nisenson explains the phenomenon of masculine betrayal trauma and what healing looks like.Adam Nisen...

Curiosity, Childlike Wonder, and Awe (with Jason Mellard)

24 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

What if the very traits that got you hooked on porn—curiosity, childlike wonder, and awe—are actually keys to your freedom? As Jason Mellard expla...

Glimmers: The Opposite Of Triggers

16 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

What exactly is a glimmer? Why do glimmers matter for outgrowing porn? Learn 3 ways to get the most out of your glimmers—maximizing moments of joy, ...

Run Toward The Roar (with Davey Blackburn)

09 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Where is God when we suffer? How does grief intensify sexual temptation? Why do we need to "run toward the roar" of triggers and traumas ins...

Why Your Desires Matter And How To Develop Them (with Jay Stringer)

02 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

What if the desires you've been suppressing are not bad, but simply unrefined and underdeveloped? In this episode, Jay Stringer explores five cor...

How To Take A Redemptive Risk (LIVE)

23 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

What is redemptive risk? Why is it essential for healing and outgrowing porn? In this episode, you'll learn why and how to embrace redemptive ris...

Why Men Need Men (with Tom Zuniga)

16 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Men need men. In this episode, Tom Zuniga champions the value of brotherhood and "chosen family"—especially in a culture where romantic ma...

True Freedom From Porn (with Sathiya Sam)

09 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, longtime friend of the podcast and author Sathiya Sam shares why porn recovery can literally save lives, what true freedom looks like...

How To Prevent Relapse When You Flop

03 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Do you know what it's like to feel numb, drained, and disconnected? This is the "flop" reaction: the most common precursor to watching ...

Faithful Fitness (with Alex VanHouten)

26 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

How does physical fitness support sexual and spiritual health? In this episode, Alex VanHouten describes what it looks like to faithfully care for you...

In The Low: Navigating Depression, Darkness, And Difficulty (with Justin McRoberts and Scott Erickson)

19 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you're in a season of depression, darkness, or difficulty, please listen to this episode. Justin McRoberts and Scott Erickson offer deep wisdo...

All About HMA Triads (with Rich Savoy)

14 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

What are HMA Triads? What makes them different from accountability groups? Why is joining a small group essential for outgrowing porn? Rich Savoy expl...

How God Designed Your Brain To Heal Itself

13 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

God designed your brain to heal itself under the right conditions. How can we understand self-healing from a Christian perspective? What are the optim...

Experience Healing Through Brainspotting (with Dr. David Grand)

05 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

What is Brainspotting? How can it help men heal and outgrow porn? Find out from Dr. David Grand himself! In this episode, you'll learn how Brains...

K-Pop Demon Hunters: A Story Of Hiding And Healing

29 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What can the movie "K-Pop Demon Hunters" teach us about shame, hiding, and healing through vulnerability and connection? In this extended ep...

When A Leader Relapses (with Nate Larkin)

22 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this incredibly vulnerable episode, Nate Larkin tells the story of how he returned to lying, hiding, binge drinking, and destructive sexual behavio...

Revealing The Future Of Husband Material Ministries

15 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What’s next for Husband Material? In this episode, you’ll hear the exciting new vision for how we want to help the next generation of young men an...

How Technology Can Help You Connect And Heal (with Chandler Rogers)

08 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How can technology help you connect, heal, and outgrow porn? In this episode, Chandler Rogers tells his story of finding freedom through connection wi...

Arousal, Addiction, And Intimacy (with Chris Chandler and Andrew Engstrom)

01 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What exactly is arousal? Is it more than just sexual? In this episode, you'll learn the four types of arousal (uppers, downers, all-arounders, an...

The Villain, The Victim, and The Hero

01 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How do you see yourself? Do you ever feel like a villain, like everything is your fault? Do you ever feel like a victim, overwhelmed and powerless to ...

D.I.R.E.C.T. Psychodrama (with Dr. Doug Carpenter and Drew Boa)

17 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Doug and Drew explain their powerful, unique approach to psychodrama: DIRECT. You'll learn how this powerful modality can help y...

Sex Education For Adult Men (with Dr. Doug Carpenter)

10 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Why do adult men need sex education? What sexual changes do men's bodies go through as we get older? In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter explains...

Ten Ways To Regulate Without Porn (Grounding Techniques)

03 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When you're triggered or tempted to watch porn, you cannot not regulate. What you can do is choose how you will regulate. In this episode, you&ap...

Healing From Sex Trafficking (with Mike Chapman)

27 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How does sex trafficking affect boys and men (not just girls and women) and what does healing look like? Hear Mike Chapman's incredible story. Th...

How To Reset Your Brain's Dopamine Levels (with Dr. Anna Lembke)

20 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How does living in a drugified world affect our brains, and what can we about it? Renowned psychiatrist Anna Lembke vulnerably shares her own story of...

How To Evaluate Any Sexual Behavior

13 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever wondered if certain sexual behaviors are okay? How do you decide what to believe and how to behave? In this episode, you'll learn 3...

How To Process Sexualized Emotions (with Jonathan Hernandez)

06 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Why do we sexualize our emotions, and how can we process our emotions without sexualizing them? In this episode, Jonathan Hernandez answers these ques...

Como Procesar Tus Emociones Sexualizadas (con Jonathan Hernández)

06 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

¿Por qué sexualizamos nuestras emociones y cómo podemos procesarlas sin sexualizarlas? Jonathan Hernández responde a estas preguntas en el primer ...

The Science Of Connection (with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill)

29 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What is connection? What causes disconnection? How can we reconnect? Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill explain the core components of relational connection—...

You Are Not Too Much (Sermon on Mark 6:30-56)

22 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever felt like you're too much? In Mark 6:30-56, we see that nothing and no one is too much for Jesus. This sermon was originally preach...

Faith, Fitness, And Freedom From Porn (with Frank Rich)

16 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How can physical fitness help you find lasting freedom from porn? Frank Rich explains how rebuilding your body accelerates recovery—especially rebui...

What If I'm The Betrayed And The Betrayer? (with Ben Wilson)

10 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Male sexually betrayed partners are often unseen, overlooked, and underresourced. Hear Ben Wilson's story of being the betrayed and the betrayer ...

Top 10 Books For Men Outgrowing Porn

01 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you want lasting freedom from porn, consider reading one of these 10 books: Altogether You: Experiencing Personal and Spiritual Transformation wit...

Celebrating Outgrow Porn: Drew Boa Gets Interviewed

25 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Eddie Capparucci interviews Drew Boa about his new book, Outgrow Porn: Find Lasting Freedom Without Fighting an Exhausting Battle—A Man's G...

Healing Through Theology Of The Body (with Marco Casanova)

18 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How did Marco Casanova go from addiction to gay porn while studying to be a Catholic priest to a life of chastity, healing, marriage, and fatherhood? ...

Sex Tech, Chatbots, And The Future Of Intimacy (with Dr. Marianne Brandon)

11 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What is sex tech? How is artificial intelligence (AI) changing the way people experience porn? Dr. Marianne Brandon explains how emerging technology i...

Your Story Of Sexual Arousal (with Rick Manabat)

28 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How does your story shape your sexual arousal template? Therapist Rick Manabat shares eye-opening examples of how specific sexual fantasies and porn p...

What's In Your Shadow? (with Roy Wooten)

21 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What parts of yourself do you hide, repress, or deny? Whatever is in your "shadow" can subconsciously drive everything you do. Roy Wooten un...

My Addiction To Screens: HMA Manly Monday Example

14 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this powerful live demo, John Kilmer guides Drew Boa in parts work focused on Drew's addiction to screens. This episode is an example of Manly...

Shame & Sexuality (with Dr. Curt Thompson)

07 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What is shame? How does evil use shame against us, and what does healing look like? Dr. Curt Thompson explores shame through the lens of Scripture, ne...

How to Safely Process Your Sexual Fantasies

30 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are you afraid that processing your sexual fantasies might lead to a relapse? Do you have concerns based on your understanding of the Bible? Does your...

How To Stay Porn-Free During Trips And Vacations (with Jake Kastleman)

23 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you find yourself more susceptible to sexual temptation while traveling? Jake Kastleman helps you prepare to for the challenges of trips, vacations...

Same-Sex Attraction, Porn, Marriage, and Jesus (with Christy and Mark Summers)

16 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When one person has a history of same-sex attraction and another has a history of relying on porn, how is a Christ-centered marriage possible? Christy...

The Sexual Development Model (SDM): A New Perspective on Unwanted Sexual Attraction

09 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel confused or overwhelmed by trying to understand unwanted sexual attraction from a Christian perspective? In this episode, you'll hear...

How Breathwork Can Help You Outgrow Porn (with Burke Atkerson)

02 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What is breathwork and how can it help you outgrow porn? Burke Atkerson masterfully explains the value of breathwork by drawing from Christian spiritu...

Seen, Safe, And Soothed (with Burke Atkerson)

26 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Burke Atkerson tells his story. You'll hear how he sexualized the need to be seen, safe, and soothed—and nearly burned down hi...

Twenty Benefits Of Running Or Walking

19 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Learn twenty ways running or walking can help you outgrow porn. I’m super passionate about this!Join Husband Material on Strava for encouragement an...

What Does It Mean To Objectify Yourself? (with Sam Jolman)

12 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What does it mean to objectify yourself? Sam Jolman explains objectification, why and how we objectify ourselves, and what healing and repentance can ...

The Problematic Sexual Behavior Framework (with Bill Herring)

05 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What is problematic sexual behavior (PSB)? Bill Herring, creator of the PSB Framework, explains the history behind this important concept—and how it...

Sexual Symptoms Of Enmeshment

28 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What is enmeshment? How and why does mother enmeshment set men up to struggle with porn? In this episode, you'll learn ten sexual symptoms of enm...

From Shame to Identity in Christ (with Ken Freire)

21 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hear Ken Freire's story of healing from childhood sexual abuse, achieving lasting freedom from porn, and finding joy and purpose in Christ.Ken Fr...

The Marriage You Want (with Sheila Wray Gregoire)

14 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What determines marital satisfaction more than sex or money? What if "compromise" actually makes things worse? How do you create a marriage ...

The Five Circles Of Freedom From Porn

07 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What's your plan for outgrowing porn? The Five Circles tool will help you define what freedom looks like, why it matters, and how to set yourself...

How To Protect Women (with Dr. Andrew Bauman)

31 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How can men protect women instead of complying with sexism and abuse? Dr. Andrew Bauman shares the results of his research with over 2,800 Christian w...

Am I An Abusive Man? (with Dr. Andrew Bauman)

24 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Am I abusive? How can I acknowledge the truth without beating myself up? What makes a good and safe man? Dr. Andrew Bauman explains two ways to be abu...

How Does God Really Feel About Me? (LIVE)

17 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When I watch porn, when I relapse, when I wander, when I make mistakes... in the middle of my sin, how does God really feel about me?Resources mention...

Building True Intimacy (with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith)

10 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What are the building blocks of a healthy relationship? In this episode, Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith reveal the "Intimacy Pyramid" of what ...

Why Do I Struggle With Emotional Connection? (with Dr. Eddie Capparucci)

03 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Why do I feel so disconnected from other people...and myself? In this episode, Dr. Eddie Capparucci unpacks the reasons why many men struggle to emoti...

The Power Of First Mention In Sex Education

24 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When did you first hear the word "sex" or "porn" or "masturbation"? The first time you ever hear a word has a disproport...

How To Be Vulnerable: Scratches, Scabs, And Scars (with Henry Brown)

17 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Most of us were never taught how to be vulnerable when we’re sexually struggling. In this episode, Henry Brown shares a simple framework called “s...

Three Problems With Bouncing Your Eyes

03 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What if Every Man’s Battle is wrong? In this episode, I share how I recently chose to “bounce my eyes” (as Every Man’s Battle teaches) and why...

How To Guard Against Sextortion (with Chris McKenna)

27 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What is sextortion, and how can we guard against it? Chris McKenna shares the dark reality of sextortion, why men (especially young men) are most vuln...

What Your Wife Needs When You Relapse (with Tammy Gustafson)

20 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What does your wife need when you relapse into porn, unwanted sexual behavior, and breaking her trust? Tammy Gustafson explains what is going on insid...

Compassion For My Face: HMA Psychodrama Example

16 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this live demo, Doug Carpenter guides Rick Carlson in healing childhood trauma through psychodrama. This episode is an example of Work It Out Wedne...

Understanding External & Internal Family Systems To Outgrow Porn

13 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Learn how external & internal family systems have shaped your sexuality—and what's happening inside you when you feel the pull of pornograp...

The Guy In The Locker Room: HMA Fantasy Friday Example

09 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Drew Boa helps Jordan Castille process a sexual fantasy about a guy in a locker room. This is a demonstration of Fantasy Friday, one ...

How To Face Your Sexual Fantasies: Arousal vs. Desire

06 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Learn how to face your sexual fantasies and process the particularity of what sexually arouses you. This episode was recorded at "HMA In A Day&qu...

New Stats On Porn Use Among Christians (with Nick Stumbo)

30 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

75% of Christian men and 40% of Christian women watch porn on a regular basis, but only 21% wish they didn't. Nick Stumbo shares these stats and ...

Make Sense Of Your Sexual Story (with Adam Young)

23 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You have a story. Your sexuality has a story. Adam Young explains why and how to engage your sexual story: desires and disappointments, arousal, emoti...

Recovering From Purity Culture (with Dr. Camden Morgante)

16 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Why is purity culture harmful, and how can we heal from it? Dr. Camden Morgante explains what purity culture is, where it came from, and how to let go...

How To Stop Hiding And Lying

09 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Why do we hide and lie? How can we stop? This episode will help you feel safe enough to tell the truth—or at least a little safer. I'll lead yo...

Sexualized Attachment (with Dr. Floyd Godfrey)

02 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When emotional energy and sexual energy fuse together, sexualized attachment is the result. In this episode, Dr. Floyd Godfrey describes the dynamics ...

The Science Of Attachment (with Michael John Cusick)

25 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What exactly is attachment? How does it relate to addiction? Michael John Cusick explains why we need to feel seen, soothed, safe, and secure, and wha...

Announcing Husband Material Ministries!

18 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Exciting news: this podcast is now part of Husband Material Ministries, a Colorado nonprofit corporation! From now on, we are relying on people like y...

Play, Awe, & Porn Addiction: A Polyvagal Perspective

11 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, you'll learn two powerful antidotes for porn addiction: play and awe. Ready for a deep dive into neuroscience? According to Poly...

Own Your Identity (with Jason Mellard)

04 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Don't let unwanted same-sex attraction hold you back from a life of purpose and possibility. In this episode, Jason Mellard tells his story of fe...

The Fear And Power Of Being Vulnerable (with Trent Dollyhigh)

29 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever felt afraid to be vulnerable? Me too! In this episode, Trent Dollyhigh tells his story of childhood trauma, porn, pastoral ministry, pri...

Inside Out 2 And Porn

21 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What can Inside Out 2 teach us about outgrowing porn? I’ll share my top three takeaways. Spoiler alert: important plot details will be revealed. Re...

How Women Heal From Sexual Betrayal Trauma (with Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket)

14 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What are the 3 phases of healing from sexual betrayal? In part 2 of our series with Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket, you'll get a helpful...

When A Wife Discovers Her Husband's Porn (with Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket)

07 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What happens to the brain and body of a wife who discovers her husband's relationship with porn? This is part 1 of our 2 part series on the traum...

Excluded And Emasculated (Sermon on Acts 8:26-40)

30 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Through the story of Philip and the Ethiopian eunuch, you'll hear how Jesus heals sexual shame, childhood trauma, systemic injustice, and the ago...

Building Community Beyond Same-Sex Attraction And Opposite-Sex Attraction (with Drew, Henry, Jason, and Jordan)

24 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We all experience sexual attraction differently (SSA, OSA, etc). In this episode, we explore the benefits, challenges, and limitations of forming deep...

Same-Sex Attraction Stereotypes (with Jordan Castille)

16 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How do you view men who experience same-sex attraction (SSA)? In this episode, Jordan Castille and Drew Boa deconstruct 10 stereotypes about men who a...

Opposite-Sex Attraction Stereotypes (with Jason Pidcock)

09 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How do you view men who experience opposite-sex attraction (OSA)? In this episode, Jason Pidcock and Drew Boa deconstruct 10 stereotypes about men who...

Why Doesn't God Remove My Sexual Thoughts And Feelings? (LIVE)

02 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you've spent years wishing your sexual thoughts and feelings would go away, this episode is for you. Related resources:Unwanted, by Jay Strin...

How To Develop Empathy For Your Wife (with Nathaniel Gustafson)

26 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever felt unable to enter into your wife's pain? In this episode, Nathaniel Gustafson explains how to come close to your wife in a way s...

How Women Can Help Men Heal (with Britta Eskey)

19 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Many men have been wounded by women. In this episode, Britta Eskey explains how women can help men heal wounds caused by women. Without women, we are ...

Three Unhealed Boys Within Every Man

12 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Did you know that you have more than one inner child? In this episode, you'll get to know three types of unhealed boys within you. Then at the en...

A New Approach To Internet Filtering (with Plucky)

29 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever tried to remove access to porn on your digital devices? What if you could create a filter with no loopholes? In this episode, you'l...

Outgrowing Porn in Marriage (with Rich and Deanna Millentree)

22 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How can a couple devastated by porn heal, grow, and become even stronger? In this episode, Rich and Deanna Millentree tell their incredible story. &qu...

How To Transform Your Triggers: The F.L.O.S.S. Method (Part 2)

18 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I transform one of my triggers using The F.L.O.S.S. Method with help from three Certified Husband Material Coaches: Andrew Loyd, Juan...

How To Transform Your Triggers: The F.L.O.S.S. Method (Part 1)

15 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Triggers don't have to be tyrants. In this episode, you'll learn how to transform your triggers from threats into opportunities for healing ...

How I Stopped Getting Into My Husband's Recovery Work Instead Of Doing Mine (with Tera Brown)

08 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Tera Brown went from trying to fix her husband's sex addiction to finding herself, her emotions, her boundaries, and her sacred ground. In this e...

Sitting In The Dirt Of Sexual Brokenness (with Jeremy Williamson)

01 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How do I sit in the dirt with someone who is experiencing sexual brokenness? What if I don't know what to say? What if I find myself dysregulated...

How To Do Experiential Healing Work

24 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever been disappointed by traditional counseling or talk therapy? In this episode, you'll discover the power of a whole-brain approach t...