Husband Material

Restoration After Porn Relapse (with Rocky Pisor)

17 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How do you pursue restoration after a relapse, especially in marriage or ministry leadership? Rocky Pisor tells his own story of processing a porn rel...

It's Good To Be Aroused (with Sam Jolman)

10 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

"There is nothing inherently wrong with an aroused man." What is arousal? Why is it good? Sam Jolman helps us reclaim the heart of masculine...

Freedom From Gay Porn (LIVE)

03 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Why do I struggle with gay porn? What does freedom look like? How can I stop using gay porn? In this episode, I answer these questions based on years ...

How Childhood Experiences Shape Sexual Development (with Drew, Doug, Eddie, and Matt)

27 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What's the point of processing childhood experiences? In this special episode recorded live at the Sexual Integrity Leadership Summit, Drew, Doug...

Why We Sexualize Emotions And How To Desexualize Them

20 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Why do we sexualize emotions, and how can we desexualize them? In this episode, I explain what it looks like to "right-size" sexual energy t...

Overcoming Sexual Entitlement (with Noah Filipiak)

13 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when you feel entitled to sex and treat your wife like a replacement for porn? In this episode, Noah Filipiak tells his story of overcomi...

Hope And Healing For Sexless Marriage (with Adam and Karissa King)

06 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What is the definition of sexless marriage? Why do couples experience this? Sexless marriage is often a symptom of deeper psychosomatic issues. Adam a...

Story Work For Men Outgrowing Porn: How To Respond To A Story (Part 4)

29 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How do you respond to someone else's story with curiosity and compassion? In part 4 of this 4 part series, Marcus Spaur shares his story: "I...

Story Work For Men Outgrowing Porn: How To Write A Story (Part 3)

22 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How do you write a story about your trauma and sexual experiences? In part 3 of this 4-part series, Wendell Moss shares his story: "Sex & Sex...

Story Work For Men Outgrowing Porn: Why We Do Story Work (Part 2)

15 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Why is story work absolutely essential for men outgrowing porn? In part 2 of this 4 part series, Chris Inman shares his story: "The Lonely Walk.&...

Story Work For Men Outgrowing Porn: What Is Story Work? (Part 1)

08 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What is story work? Where did it come from? What does it look like? In part 1 of this 4-part series, Drew shares his story: "The Day I Got Braces...

Porn and Inner Healing Prayer

01 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What is inner healing prayer, and how can it help men outgrow porn?This episode is a preview of our new online course, "10 Ways To Heal Your Trau...

Porn and Polyvagal Theory (with John Kilmer)

25 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What is Polyvagal Theory? How can it help men outgrow porn? John Kilmer skillfully describes the autonomic nervous system and how to (re)shape it in o...

What Is God Doing In My Trauma? (with Matt Wenger)

18 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We need a theology of trauma. In this episode, Matt Wenger powerfully invites us to view our trauma through the lens of Jesus's life, death, and ...

How To Create Connection In Any Conversation (LIVE)

11 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you long for connection, but it feels impossible? In this episode, you'll learn extremely simple tools and techniques to create connection in ...

Why Men Don't Talk About Their Sexual Abuse (with Mike Chapman and Dr. Doug Carpenter)

04 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

There are over 40 reasons why men don't talk about their sexual abuse. Let's break the silence. In this episode hosted by Mike Chapman and D...

How To Tell Her About The Porn: Full Disclosure (with Dan Drake and Dr. Janice Caudill)

26 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What is full disclosure? When, why, and how should I reveal sexual secrets to my wife? In this episode, disclosure experts Dan Drake and Janice Caudil...

Healthy Fantasy vs. Unhealthy Fantasy

19 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Your imagination is not bad. Learn the 4 main types of fantasies, how to evaluate the healthiness of a fantasy, and what to do with your healthy/unhea...

A Grace-Based Approach To Sexual Recovery (with Jonathan Daugherty)

12 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What is grace, and how does it apply to sexual recovery? Jonathan Daugherty inspiringly explains how grace is not "soft" but the most powerf...

Singleness & Same-Sex Attraction (with Dr. Greg Coles)

05 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you're single and you experience same-sex attraction, this episode is for you. Dr. Greg Coles offers insight, humor, delight, and hope that de...

Outgrowing Porn vs. Purity Culture

29 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What is the difference between outgrowing porn and purity culture? In this replay from The Porn Free Man Conference, you'll experience dramatic e...

Outgrowing Porn Through Parts Work (with Dr. Gerry Crete)

22 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How can parts work help us outgrow porn? Dr. Gerry Crete combines Christian faith, internal family systems, attachment theory, and EMDR into a powerfu...

What To Do When Your Wife Is Triggered (with Tammy Gustafson)

15 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How can a husband help his wife during a trigger? Tammy Gustafson reveals what triggers are, how they affect your wife's brain, and what she need...

Healing Through Artwork and Storywork (with Philip Leach and John Kilmer)

08 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when you combine storywork, artwork, and Jesus? Witness powerful healing in this live demonstration of HMA Coaching! As Drew shares a sto...

12 Reasons To Stop Shaming Yourself

01 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Learn 12 reasons why shaming yourself doesn't help, what's more powerful than shame, and what you can do instead of shaming yourself.Support...

How To Help Your Partner Heal (with Carol Sheets)

25 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How can I help my partner heal from the impact of my porn and sex addiction? Psychotherapist and author Carol Sheets reveals what sexually betrayed pa...

Blessing vs. Cursing Yourself & The Story Behind Your Porn (with Chris Bruno)

18 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How do you shift from self-condemnation to self-compassion? Chris Bruno reveals how to discover the story behind your struggle with porn. You'll ...

How To Analyze A Sexual Fantasy (with Dr. Doug Carpenter)

11 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What can sexual fantasies teach us? How should we analyze them? In this episode, Drew and Doug vulnerably share and analyze each other's sexual f...

Introduction To Sexual Symbolism

04 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What desires are commonly symbolized by the penis, breasts, kissing, oral sex, nudity, diapers, and feet? Find out in this short and sweet introductio...

Experience Healing Through The Immanuel Approach (with Cathy Little and Melinda Wilson)

27 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What is the Immanuel Approach? How can it help Christian men outgrow porn? Cathy Little and Melinda Wilson unpack this amazing way to change your brai...

Can Medication Help Me Outgrow Porn? (with Adam O'Neill)

20 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What if certain kinds of medication can make it easier to outgrow porn? Adam O'Neill unpacks the benefits and drawbacks of supplementing your sex...

What Is A Pornographic Approach To Recovery?

13 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How has porn impacted your approach to recovery? Learn 7 pornographic styles of recovery and what healthy recovery looks like instead.Pornographic rec...

Helping Men Feel Safe To Open Up And Heal From Trauma (with Dr. James Reeves)

06 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What helps men feel safe to open up and heal from trauma? Dr. James Reeves (the pirate pastor) tells the story of facing his childhood wounds, buildin...

How Porn Recovery Can Transform Your Church (with Sam Black)

30 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What if your church was a safe space to outgrow porn? Sam Black explains how porn recovery ministry leads to less work for pastors, more generous dono...

How To Escape Creepy Conversations Before Sexting

23 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever felt uncomfortable or unsafe while chatting online? In this episode, I’ll share practical tips on how to escape creepy conversations…...

Healing From Rejection, Racism, And Betrayal (with Roy Kim)

16 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever been rejected? Roy Kim explains how rejection and internalized racism drove him to pornography. He also opens up about what it's li...

Porn And Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (with Andrew Loyd)

09 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you know what it's like to struggle with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) in addition to porn? Andrew Loyd does; he has also experienced ye...

David’s Sexual Story (Sermon)

02 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Who was David—the boy, the king, the sex offender? In this episode, you’ll see David’s sexual story from a new angle. You'll also get a tas...

Reintegrative Therapy (with Dr. Joseph Nicolosi Jr.)

25 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What is reintegrative therapy? Dr. Joseph Nicolosi Jr. explains his approach to treating trauma and how it can help men outgrow porn. Joseph also shar...

What To Do When You Feel The Urge To Watch Porn (with Dan Johnson)

18 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How do you handle the intense urge to watch porn? This was Dan Johnson's dilemma. Dan struggled with porn for over 20 years. After re-confessing ...

How To Heal Shame And Self-Contempt

11 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever struggled with shame or self-contempt? In this episode, you'll learn the simple formula for healing shame through vulnerability and...

Appropriate Touch Between Men (LIVE)

04 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Touch is one of our most basic human needs. But many of us have been deprived. How can men outgrowing porn embrace healthy physical touch with each ot...

Healing Your Marriage After Gay Porn (with Tamara Lichfield)

28 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This episode answers unique questions for married men who have sexually acted out with gay porn or other men. You'll learn what partners go throu...

The Inner Child Challenge Workshop (LIVE)

21 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this workshop led by Drew Boa, you'll learn how to connect with your inner child like never before. To complete the exercises, you will need:...

Why You Need A Recovery Action Plan (with Nick Stumbo & Trevor Winsor)

14 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How do you take action after relapse for growth and healing without using shame or punishment? After a porn relapse, what do appropriate consequences ...

From Rock Bottom To Recovery Coach (with George Morning)

07 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, you'll hear the inspiring story of George Morning ("Coach G"). We talk about the challenges faced by black men and men...

How My Sexual Fetish Shifted Over Time

31 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I'll share 7 things that shifted my sexual fetish to become less intense, less frequent, less disruptive, and less arousing. NOT...

A Story Of Healing Through Psychodrama (with Rick Carlson and Dr. Doug Carpenter)

24 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What does psychodrama actually look like? In this episode, Rick Carlson tells the amazing story of his psychodrama process at the Husband Material Lea...

Experience Healing Through Psychodrama (with Dr. Doug Carpenter)

17 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What is psychodrama? How can it help men outgrow porn?  In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter explains why this powerful type of therapy creates profou...

I'm Fine Syndrome (with Stephen Thomas)

10 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever pretended to be fine when you're really not? In this episode, Stephen Thomas explains "I'm Fine Syndrome"—what it ...

Secrets Of Sex And Marriage (with Dr. Michael Sytsma)

03 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

"He said at 74, I am having the best sex of my life. At 74, my penis only occasionally shows up for the party. But I am still having the best sex...

Making Sense Of Masturbation: Case Studies And Spicy Questions (LIVE)

26 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Can masturbation ever be neutral or healthy? In this episode, I'll explore complex moral questions about masturbation. Together with a live audie...

Making Sense Of Masturbation: Science, Scripture, And My Story (LIVE)

19 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What is masturbation? How does it affect the brain? What does the Bible (not) say about it? What will happen to me if I don't masturbate? In this...

Porn And Third Culture Kids (with John Kilmer)

12 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Growing up between worlds, third culture kids face unique challenges in developing their identity and sense of belonging. Can these experiences create...

Porn, Autism, and ADHD: Embracing Neurodiversity (with Candice Christiansen)

05 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How do neurodifferences like ADHD and autism relate to unwanted sexual behavior? How can embracing neurodiversity help us heal and outgrow porn? Candi...

How To Confront Parents With Compassion

29 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever thought about confronting a parent, but you're not sure how? In this episode, you'll learn the right questions to ask yourself...

Healing With My Parents (with Yvonne Boa and Sandy Boa)

22 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, my parents share the good and the bad of how they raised me, and how we are healing. It's a story of vulnerability, repentance, ...

Adult Children Of Sex Addicts (with Dr. Ken Adams)

15 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when you grow up in a family affected by sexual addiction? In this episode, Dr. Ken Adams reveals the burdens carried by adult children o...

Three Keys To Becoming Husband Material

08 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What does it mean to become husband material? In this episode, you'll learn the importance of self-awareness, self-compassion, and self-leadershi...

Introduction To Outgrowing Porn (wth Dr. Robert Masters)

01 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What does it mean to outgrow porn? Dr. Robert Masters unpacks this concept (which he created) with stunning depth and clarity. Robert Augustus Master...

Emotional Abuse (with Dr. Jake Porter)

24 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What is emotional abuse? Dr. Jake Porter explains how to identify emotional abuse, heal from it, and stop emotionally abusing others.Dr. Jake Porter i...

Directing Sexual Energy In Singleness

17 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What do I do with my sexual energy—especially if I'm single? In this episode, you'll learn the two types of sexual energy, why singleness ...

How To Use The Body To Outgrow Porn (with Andrew Bauman)

10 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, you'll learn why healing must happen in your body. Andrew Bauman reveals why talk therapy is not enough, what "the body kee...

Role Playing Betrayal Trauma (with Dr. Eddie Capparucci)

03 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this extended episode, you'll hear 8 dramatized examples of mistakes men make while relating to women they have sexually betrayed and traumati...

How Do You Define Pornography?

27 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, you'll learn 2 ways to define pornography, 6 pornographic styles of relating, and what it means to be sexually healthy and matur...

Healing From Spiritual Abuse (with Chris Inman)

20 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, you'll learn what spiritual abuse is and how to heal from it. Chris Inman tells his story of being spiritual abused as a boy and...

Bullying And Same-Sex Attraction (with Jordan Castille)

13 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How can bullying contribute to same-sex attraction? Jordan Castille tells his story of being bullied, how that impacted his sexual development, and ho...

Unburdening Sexual Arousal (with Dr. Peter Malinoski)

06 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Dr. Peter Malinoski guides Drew Boa through the process of unburdening sexual arousal using the internal family systems model (IFS). ...

Guided IFS Experiential Exercise (with Dr. Peter Malinoski)

27 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, you'll be guided through an exercise using the internal family systems model (IFS). Dr. Peter Malinoski demonstrates how to conn...

Experience Healing Through IFS (with Dr. Peter Malinoski)

20 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, you'll learn why healing experiences are essential for outgrowing porn. Dr. Peter Malinoski explains how the internal family sys...

How Much Does She Need To Know About The Porn? (LIVE)

13 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever wondered how much your crush, girlfriend, fiancée, or wife needs to know about your relationship with porn? In this episode, you'l...

How Porn Affects Children (with Benji Nolot)

06 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

If you were exposed to porn at a young age, this episode is for you. Award-winning filmmaker Benji Nolot explains why children are not voluntary consu...

How Porn Fuels Sex Trafficking (with Benji Nolot)

30 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, you'll learn four ways pornography fuels sex trafficking...and what we can do about it. Award-winning filmmaker Benji Nolot reve...

Sexual Fluidity And Sexual Plasticity

23 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, you'll learn two concepts that can give you less shame and more hope on your journey of outgrowing porn. Resources mentioned in...

What Types Of Change Are Possible? (with Rich Wyler)

16 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Rich Wyler answers tough questions with curiosity, compassion, and courage. You'll learn what it looks like to work through inte...

Habits That Heal (with Shawn Bonneteau)

09 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What habits are most helpful for healing and outgrowing porn? In this episode, Shawn Bonneteau presents a beautiful menu of ideas to transform habits ...

Becoming Porn Free In 2023

02 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I'll recommend 3 resources to help you outgrow porn in 2023. Stay til the end to hear a big announcement about HMA (the doors ar...

How Do I Help My Hurting Spouse? (with Dr. Eddie Capparucci)

26 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How can I help my partner heal? When she is "throwing rocks" at me, what can I do? In this episode, Dr. Eddie Capparucci shares 10 rules for...

Emotional Fitness (with Sathiya Sam)

19 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What's the difference between emotional health and emotional fitness? Why does it matter? In this episode, Sathiya Sam explains what emotional fi...

How To Be A Great Lover (with Dr. Keith Gregoire)

12 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What does it take to unlock a woman's sexual pleasure? Dr. Keith Gregoire explains how sex actually works, why we need to redefine sex, and how m...

Authentic Manhood (with Dr. Joe Martin)

05 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What is a real man? Dr. Joe Martin exposes the lies we believe about our value as men, in contrast to the example of authentic manhood set by Jesus Ch...

What If I'm Sexually Attracted To Myself?

28 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Have you been sexually attracted to yourself, or someone just like you? In this episode, you'll learn three types of self-attraction, my own pers...

Male Survivors Of Sexual Abuse (with Mike Chapman and Dr. Doug Carpenter)

21 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What's it like to be a male survivor of sexual abuse? In our very first community-based episode, Husband Material men tell their stories of sexua...

Find The Boy Within The Man (with Chris Bruno)

14 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Is there really a boy inside every man? What does "healing the boy" practically look like? Chris Bruno delightfully demonstrates how to find...

How To Break Up With Porn

07 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Outgrowing porn is not easy. The process is often messy and prolonged. That's why some men have found value in writing a formal break-up letter t...

Emotional Safety (with Alex Avila)

31 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

"Our most vital relational need is to be emotionally safe...we cannot truly connect with anyone if we don't feel safe in their presence.&quo...

How Can Fathers And Sons Outgrow Porn Together? (with John Fort and Lucas Fort)

24 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

"Your failure in sexuality is what qualifies you to talk to your son about sex in the first place." In this fascinating episode, a father an...

Is Covenant Eyes "Shameware"?

17 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Anti-porn accountability software has come under scrutiny after an article in WIRED Magazine described Covenant Eyes as "shameware" and &quo...

From Pain To Purpose (with Rick Carlson)

10 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Rick Carlson spent years running from pain, hiding from others, and hating God... until everything changed. In this episode, Rick shares his story of ...

Porn, Anxiety, And Depression (with Ben Bennett)

03 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you know what it's like to struggle with depression or anxiety in addition to porn? Ben Bennett does; he has also experienced years of freedom...

The Beauty Of Brotherhood (Psalm 133)

26 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Listen to my sermon about embodied brotherhood from the recent Husband Material Retreat in Santa Barbara. Psalm 133 (NIV 1984)"How good and pleas...

Wisdom After Sexual Betrayal (with Marnie Ferree)

19 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Marnie Ferree understands sex addiction from both sides: from personal experience, and from being a partner. In this episode, Marnie shares her story ...

Healing From Sexual Betrayal (with Dr. Sheri Keffer)

12 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What is intimate deception betrayal trauma? Why is it so hard for partners of porn users to get help? When it comes to healing, what (doesn't) wo...

Attunement: The Key To Connection

06 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Attunement is the ability to be aware of and respond to another person's needs—and our own needs, too.  In this episode, you'll learn the...

Bent On Men, Part 2 (with Harrison Bly)

29 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What does redemption look like for men who experience unwanted same-sex attraction? Harrison Bly grew up "too gay to be Christian, too Christian ...

Bent On Men, Part 1 (with Harrison Bly)

22 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What does it look like to untangle unwanted same-sex attraction toward men? Harrison Bly grew up "too gay to be Christian, too Christian to be ga...

What Does The Bible Say About Purity? (LIVE)

15 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The word "purity" must be defined without the damaging messages of purity culture. In this episode, I'll explain 3 types of purity in t...

How To Track Your Heart (with Josh Glaser)

08 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How do you discover the deeper roots underneath surface-level sexual symptoms? Josh Glaser guides us in "tracking the heart," revealing wher...

How To Teach Children About Sexuality (with Adam + Karissa King)

01 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What should sex education look like in today's world? Adam and Karissa King explain why parents must teach children about sexuality from a young ...

Internal Family Systems And Jesus (with Kim Miller)

25 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you frustrated by internal conflict? Tired of being overwhelmed by thoughts and feelings? Kim Miller explains a Christ-centered approach to intern...